Podcasts by Java with Juli - Marriage, Singleness and Sexuality from a Christian Perspective
Join Christian and clinical psychologist Dr. Juli Slattery as she hosts weekly conversations with therapists, pastors, experts, and theologians. Every Monday, Juli leads discussions that help people heal, make sense of their personal stories, and unpack what the Bible says about sex, singleness, marriage and intimacy.
Further podcasts by Dr. Juli Slattery, author and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy™
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#478 How to Love and Lead Your Adult Kids with Jim Burns from 2023-08-14T07:00
How do you parent your adult children well after they've left the nest? What does it look like to hold steadfast to your beliefs while loving an adult child who has chosen to live diff...
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#410: Sexual Abuse in Marriage and How To Help a Hurting Wife from 2022-04-04T07:00
Sexual abuse in marriage... wait. What? Doesn't the Bible say that a spouse "has authority" over the other's body? Let's talk practically about what sexual abuse in marriage looks like ...
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#403: How Do I Reconcile God's Goodness with Sexual Pain & Injustice? from 2022-02-21T08:00
Join Juli for a conversation about the important roles that sexuality and justice have in shaping this generation's thoughts on God, and how to reconcile the pain of sexual abuse with faith in a...
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#402: If God Made My Body "Good," Why Does It Cause So Much Pain? from 2022-02-17T08:00
Author and apologist Sam Allberry shares how we can reconcile the goodness of our bodies (which are created by God) with the shame and pain we often feel about the ways we’ve misused th...
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#401: Why "Love is Love" Doesn't Mean What You Think It Means from 2022-02-14T08:00
Black Lives Matter. Love is love. Women’s rights are human rights. A thread of truth—truth deeply rooted in Christianity—runs through these claims. How do you champion biblical truth wh...
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#400: If God Is Good, Why Doesn't He Take Away My Sexual Addiction? from 2022-02-10T08:00
At the root of every struggle with ongoing, unwanted sexual sin is a lie about God—and it keeps you from the very things that bring transformation: connection with God and others. Hear how God m...
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#399: Why Questions About Sex Cause You to Question God from 2022-02-07T08:00
Juli and Hannah kick off the "Making Sense of God & Sex" series with a conversation about how questions around sex always lead us to bigger, more important questions about God. Why did He cr...
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#398: How Trauma-Informed Care Helps Your Brain, Body & Relationships from 2022-01-31T08:00
“Trauma-informed care” is more than just a pop psychology buzzword. Join Juli to learn about the experiences that we don’t just “get over” or forget about—and the first steps toward healing.
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#397: How To Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity from 2022-01-24T08:00
Juli continues her conversation with Dr. Mark Yarhouse about how parents can stay close to a child who is questioning his or her gender, how you can come alongside those parents, and how church...
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#396: Diverse Gender Identities: How To See the People Behind the Issue from 2022-01-17T08:00
Why are so many teens suddenly coming out as trans or non binary? Juli welcomes Dr. Mark Yarhouse to help you understand the difference between gender dysphoria and the emerging gender identitie...
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#395: How to Be Intentional to Care For Your Mental Health & Wellness from 2022-01-10T08:00
Dr. Juli Slattery and Dr. Jennifer Degler help you check in on your mental health. They describe the physical and emotional symptoms of depression and anxiety, and how to know when to get profes...
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#394: Debt-free in the Bedroom: How To Heal From Sexual Pain from 2022-01-03T08:00
Have you experienced sexual trauma? Betrayal in marriage? Do you regret your sexual choices from the past? These experiences create a sense of shame that follows you right into the bedroom. Join...
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#393: Practical Wisdom for Dating & Friendship from 2021-12-27T08:00
Can we get practical about dating? Juli and author Eric Demeter put aside the Christian dating subculture and get super practical about being direct, being honest, and being wise. Grab your Java...
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#65: "Redeeming Love" & Why Healing Takes Time, with Francine Rivers from 2021-12-20T08:00
There’s one novel that Juli often hands a woman after hearing her story of sexual brokenness: Redeeming Love—and it’s coming to theaters next month. Juli sits down with Francine Rivers ...
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#392: Want To Know Juli and Mike Better? This Is Your Episode! from 2021-12-13T08:00
Hannah Nitz turns the tables on Juli and Mike to hear how they met, how they navigated the early years of marriage, and what it was like for Mike to watch Juli leave her dream job to start a min...
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#391: Make Your Relationship Better With a Few Intentional Habits from 2021-12-06T08:00
Relationships naturally find ruts. Couples who build intentional habits of speaking life to each other, quickly giving the benefit of the doubt, and seeking adventure together can make it throug...
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#390: Have You Given Up On Sexual Enjoyment and Pleasure? from 2021-11-29T08:00
Juli and her guest, Dr. Debra Taylor, have a conversation about the complexity of female sexuality, lies women believe, and how you can experience the pleasure that God created for you, too.
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#389: Thinking About Becoming a Blended Family? from 2021-11-22T08:00
Even the strongest couples will face challenges when blending their families. Juli talks with Ron Deal about what every blended couple needs to consider during the dating and engagement season.<...
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#388: Single & Sexually Whole from 2021-11-15T08:00
Juli welcomes Dr. Doug Rosenau for a conversation to help singles understand the difference between their social sexuality and their erotic sexuality, how to express them in healthy ways, and bu...
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#387: Life, Intimacy and Loving Your Body After Breast Cancer & Reconstruction from 2021-11-08T08:00
Kim Harms was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after her fortieth birthday. In this episode, Juli grabs coffee with Kim to hear how she learned to grieve, love her new body and rebuild inti...
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#386: What's the Secret To Getting the Marriage & Intimacy You Want? Go Vertical from 2021-11-01T07:00
He never saw it coming. It was the night of Dave and Ann's tenth wedding anniversary and if asked how their marriage was doing, Dave would have given them a 9.8 /10. But instead of a celebratory...
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#385: How To Wrestle With God Over Questions of Sex & Sexuality from 2021-10-25T07:00
Juli and Hannah discuss the pain caused by misapplied Christian teaching and when we don't allow others to wrestle with sexual pain and brokenness.
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#384: Bonus! Do You Empower Your Husband or Enable Him? (The Difference is BIG) from 2021-10-21T07:00
Nobody said marriage would be easy. It takes great courage, strength and self-control to be the woman God has called you to be in your marriage. While some of us are tempted to use our power to ...
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#383: What Do I Do With Disappointment in Marriage? from 2021-10-18T07:00
Have you tried to "fix" problems in your marriage, only to end up feeling distant? Disappointment is common to every marriage, but it doesn't have to mean the end of intimacy. You have ...
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#382: Why We're Not Afraid To Ask Tough Questions About Sex&Christianity from 2021-10-11T07:00
If you feel the pressure to believe that Christians are close-minded and a growing minority, you’re in for an encouraging surprise. Join Juli and Rebecca McLaughlin, author of Confronting Ch...
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#382: Why We're Not Afraid To Ask Tough Questions About Sex & Christianity from 2021-10-11T07:00
If you feel the pressure to believe that Christians are close-minded and a growing minority, you’re in for an encouraging surprise. Join Juli and Rebecca McLaughlin, author of Confronting Ch...
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#381: "Show It Off" or "Cover It Up": Messages That Shape Our Body Image from 2021-10-04T07:00
What messages have you been told about your body and your sexuality?
At the coffee shop with Juli are two friends; join these women from different cultures for a candid conversation abo...
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#380: How To Have Honest Conversations With Your Kids About Sex from 2021-09-27T07:00
How do you create an environment in your home where your kids feel OK talking about sex? When they struggle, how do you protect their privacy and still get support from other parents? And how do...
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#379: Is Your Love Life All That You Want It To Be? from 2021-09-20T07:00
If you’ve ever felt this way about your sex life, you’re not alone. Many married couples settle for unsatisfying sex – or none at all. In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas grab jav...
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#378: How One Church Learned To Embrace the Beauty of Broken from 2021-09-13T07:00
Imagine there is a sign on the door of your church that says, “Please leave your sexual brokenness on the steps outside.” Its ridiculous! Sadly, its how many people feel.
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#377: How to Care For a Friend (Or Yourself) When the Marriage Doesn’t Survive from 2021-09-06T07:00
Marriages don’t always survive the tough stuff. Wounds heal. Addicts find sobriety. Forgiveness is extended. Life comes back — sometimes without reconciliation.
In this episode, Juli is j...
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#376: What Does God’s Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage? from 2021-08-30T07:00
Friends, please note that we don't go into detail about how to recognize abuse in marriage. We have other conversations about abusive marriages that we encourage you to listen to! (See the l...
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#375: Juli & Jackie on How To Pursue Unity While Standing on Truth from 2021-08-23T07:00
The mics stayed on for more with Jackie Hill Perry. In this unique, after-the-show episode, Juli and Jackie share how they’ve experienced the current events around social justice and the disunit...
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#374: Jackie Hill Perry on the Trustworthiness of God from 2021-08-16T07:00
Your marriage, your sexuality, wounds from your past, or things you can't see yet ... what do you struggle to trust God with? This week, Juli sits down with Jackie Hill Perry for a conversation ...
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#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage from 2021-08-09T07:00
When Clinton and Charity Muñoz sought help to overcome a porn addiction, Clinton was told to memorize more scripture and Charity was told to wear him out sexually ...and things got worse.
#36: What Kind of Love Are You Making? from 2021-08-02T07:00
If there is one place in the Bible that gives women permission to have fun, to explore and to enjoy sexual pleasure, it’s the poetic Song of Solomon. In this episode, Juli Slattery and Linda Dil...
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#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse from 2021-07-26T07:00
Wearing sunglasses on rainy days. Using turtlenecks to hide choke marks. Running. Hiding.
Ramona Probasco never thought she would do any of these things.
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#371: Schedule Sex and Dry Cleaning In the Same Conversation? It Works from 2021-07-19T07:00
Being intentional about the business of marriage builds intimacy. When couples make decisions together, their emotions and buy-in follow. In this episode, Juli talks with Bill & Pam Farrel about...
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#370: Why the Single Life Is Uniquely Meaningful and Totally Ordinary from 2021-07-12T07:00:18
Do you feel stuck somewhere between "not married" and "not called to singleness"? Truth be told, few single Christians feel called to full-time ministry. Yet this time that we often treat as a "...
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#369: Changing the Way We Talk About Porn (Because Women Struggle Too) from 2021-07-05T07:00
“I had one woman say, ‘I struggle with masturbation.’ And she just started crying. And then she said, ‘I’ve never said that word out loud.’”
In thi...
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#368: Aging Bodies Can Still Enjoy Sexuality. Are You Giving Up Too Soon? from 2021-06-28T07:00
There's ED (erectile dysfunction), PE (premature ejaculation), and PS — premature surrender. According to our guest, many Boomer couples are giving up on sex way too soon.
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#367: Exchange Online Distractions for Real-Life Intimacy from 2021-06-21T14:02:59
“To be completely honest, the first two or three days, I was shocked by classic symptoms of withdrawal. I found myself so desperate for a hit of dopamine – that good feeling you get when you get...
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#95: The Dating Manifesto from 2021-06-14T07:00
Are you tired of being single? Maybe you've been rethinking that 21-point list of "non-negotiable" qualities you need in a spouse? Pull up a chair, grab your Java, and share some laughs with a f...
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#366: No More Pushing Past the Pain! God Cares About Your Sexual Pleasure from 2021-06-07T07:00
What do you do when sex hurts? Do you white-knuckle your way through it, because it’s your “duty”? In this episode, you’ll hear why trying to push through the pain doesn’t work — nor is it what...
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#365: How To Create a Language That Brings Meaning to Your Lovemaking from 2021-05-31T07:00
How long would you like foreplay to last? How important is it to have an orgasm every time we have sex? Complete this sentence: “During lovemaking, I wish that you would…”
When was the la...
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#364: How To Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity from 2021-05-24T07:00
After infidelity, how do you know when to start having sex again? Recovery is layered, complex, and different for every couple. In this Java with Juli, learn what a healthy recovery process look...
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#363: Why Are Christians Afraid Of the LGBT+ Conversation? from 2021-05-17T07:00
In your conversations about sexuality, can you explain WHY you believe what you believe? Does God’s "one man and one woman" design for marriage feel like a barrier to sharing your faith with oth...
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#362: How To Be a Better "Better Half" with Jamie Ivey from 2021-05-10T13:54:32
A complement, according to Webster, is “something that fills up, completes, or makes better or perfect.” Romantic as that is, it’s a tall order in a relationship between two imperfect people! So...
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#361: Hey Momma! Learn How To Share the "Birds & Bees" with Your "Littles" from 2021-05-03T07:00
We know. It’s hard to imagine talking to your sweet three or four-year-old about sex. And here’s the thing: you don’t have to. What you can, nay, shoul...
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#360: Feeling Fearful? The Right Kind of Fear Leads to Bravery from 2021-04-26T07:00
When you’re feeling fearful, the last thing you need is a social media meme telling you to “tighten your ponytail and carry on.” A rocky marriage, a wayward child, deeply dividing issues in our...
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Should You Attend Equip? from 2021-04-24T15:00:03
Join Juli & Hannah to learn about our digital summit EQUIP, and how you will Listen
Bonus! #166: We Are All Sexually Broken from 2021-04-22T07:00
Do you believe that only people who watch pornography, use sex to feel loved, or cheat on their spouses are sexually broken? Church culture has long approached sexuality by dividing us into two ...
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#359: How To Help Women Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment from 2021-04-19T07:00
Tiffany Bluhm wishes this wasn’t her story to tell. Like most victims or bystanders of sexual harassment, she had everything to lose by telling the truth. (Spoiler alert: She did it anyway!) Jo...
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#358: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Why We Settle For Counterfeit Intimacy from 2021-04-12T07:00
Have you ever turned to Netflix instead of pursuing sex with your spouse? Have you turned to Instagram instead ending your day by talking with God and learning His voice? Your sex life and your ...
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#357: Emotional Safety: What It Is and Why You Need It from 2021-04-05T07:00
What is emotional safety? Look at it this way: an emotionally unsafe relationship is a place where you can’t be yourself. You’re walking on eggshells. You can’t share your emotions beca...
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#356: Sex & the City of God (What Life Looks Like When We Love God First) from 2021-03-29T07:00
That longing you have to be fully known? God put it there. It’s meant to draw you into intimacy with Him. Yet, we try to fill it with people (or things) who can never know us completel...
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#355: How Apologetics Helps Kids Engage the Culture & Keep Their Faith from 2021-03-22T07:00
#354: How To Keep Rhythm & Romance in Your New COVID Normal from 2021-03-15T07:00
You learned to navigate close quarters, perfected family game night, and homeschooled your kids. As your community reopens, how do you disconnect from tech and re-engage with life in person<...
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#353: Why Telling Your Abuse Story is Complex, Courageous & Healing from 2021-03-08T08:00
Every abuse story has unique layers of complexity and pain. The decision whether or not to tell someone else is often a difficult one. Grab your coffee, a comfy chair, and join this conversation...
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#352: How Purity Culture & Ravi Zacharias' Abuse of Power Challenge Our Faith from 2021-03-01T08:00
Juli Slattery and Asheritah Ciuciu sit down for a conversation about the shortcomings of purity culture, the recent revelation of Ravi Zacharias’ abuse of power and trust, and how the two conver...
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#351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women from 2021-02-22T08:00
The women of the Bible have a lot to teach us. Their voices often give us the story behind the story—take Ruth for example, or the birth of Christ from the perspective of Mary and Elizabeth. Wha...
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#350: Making Time To Make Love (Especially When You Don't Feel Like It) from 2021-02-15T08:00
It's hard to prioritize sexual intimacy when you don't understand why God created sex in the first place. Instead, you put up walls when things get hard. When you get busy, sex goes on the back ...
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#349: Bonus! You CAN Find Love Online. We'll Help You Look from 2021-02-11T08:00
“I love online dating,” said no one ever. But if 1 in 5 committed relationships today began online, is it worth a try? In this BONUS episode, Juli sits down with Margot Starbuck to learn everyt...
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#348: What You Need to Know About the T in LGBT, Pt 2 from 2021-02-08T08:00
In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Preston Sprinkle as they dive into biblical questions around transitioning, the pronoun debate, rapid onset gender dysphoria, and offer enco...
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#347: What You Need To Know About the "T" in LGBT, Pt 1 from 2021-02-01T08:00
What was recently a rare psychological diagnosis is rapidly morphing into an accepted cultural movement. While it's critical to know what the Bible says about gender, Christians also need to und...
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#346: How to Cope When Your Spouse Struggles With Depression from 2021-01-25T08:00
When you’re married, depression is a shared experience. There is no way to escape the impact of sharing a home with someone who is overcome with deep sadness and struggling to get well. In this ...
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#345: What You Need to Know About Progressive Christianity from 2021-01-18T08:00
Compassionate. Inclusive. Nonjudgmental. Who wouldn’t want to be part of a church like this? It’s why Progressive churches are so appealing—especially to young people looking for something diffe...
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#344: Standing Strong: Tackling Fear, Self-Doubt & Insecurity from 2021-01-11T08:00
Alli Worthington says the popular message that “you are enough” is leaving women feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. As a business coach to future writers, speakers and ...
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#343: Forgiving What You Can't Forget from 2021-01-04T08:00
Lysa TerKeurst tells Juli about the brokenness and restoration of her marriage and how forgiveness is both a decision and a process. She speaks candidly about what biblical forgiveness reall...
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#147: How to Find Fulfillment at the Feet of Jesus from 2020-12-28T08:00
Does 2020 have you feeling exhausted? Dissatisfied? Here’s a crazy thought: Put down your to-do list. What if you start the first 30 days of 2021 by surrendering your to-do list to Jesus and li...
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#342: The Good Gift of Courage (And Why You Need It) from 2020-12-21T08:00
We talk often on Java with Juli about our culture’s confusing messages around sexuality. But today’s guest, Russell Moore, contends that we’re not so much confused about what is true or right as...
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#341: When Staying Married Feels Impossible from 2020-12-14T09:00
Circumstances in Laurie’s life started triggering her memories of childhood sexual abuse. Her lifelong struggle with same-sex attraction flared. Alone on a silent retreat, she recommitted herse...
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#340: We Were Wrong About Modesty from 2020-12-07T11:05:36
The word “modesty” makes us cringe these days, and it’s easy to understand why: For years it’s been associated with a prudish culture of shame and blame. We hear the word and immediately think i...
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#339: How to Have Hard Conversations with (Facebook) Friends from 2020-11-30T09:00
If you were standing in front of a crowd of 300 to speak, how carefully would you craft your words? Okay, so you’re actually at home alone with your smartphone, but on social media, you may as w...
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#338: Single & Sexual from 2020-11-23T09:00
As a single person, your sexuality isn’t defined by a list of “do's and don’ts” or captured by simplistic questions like, “What does the Bible say about masturbation?” Your sexuality—single or m...
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#337: Questions You're Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex from 2020-11-16T09:00
Dr. Doug Rosenau, a pioneer in Christian sex therapy, has been answering questions about sex for decades—long before most of us had the courage to even ask them! Juli sits down with Dr. Rosenau ...
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#336: Disappointed With God? Tell Him from 2020-11-09T09:00
Are you discouraged by what is happening in our world today? Have you recently found yourself asking, “Lord, why have you allowed this?” If so, this episode is just for you. Juli sits down with ...
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#335: Teaching Our Kids a Biblical Worldview of Sexuality from 2020-11-02T09:00
We used to say, "If you don’t talk to your kids about sex, someone else will." These days, there is no more “if” about it! Whether it’s a movie, social media, or a friend at school, you can coun...
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#334: What Your Pastor Needs to Know About Porn from 2020-10-26T08:00
Some of the worst advice you’ve received about porn may have come from ... your pastor? Yikes! Most pastors—understandably—aren't trained in sexual addiction or the impact of sexual trauma in ma...
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#333: Is God Good ...Even if You're LGBT? from 2020-10-12T09:00
“We are being shaped by a culture that idolizes romantic and sexual fulfillment. And I just think—Jesus was fully human and he didn’t get married, have sex, or date anyone. So those things can’t...
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#332: Parenting Your Kids Without Shame from 2020-10-05T09:00
In parenting, shame is unavoidable. As a mom or dad, at times you'll likely feel ashamed of how you’re doing as a parent or of how your child is behaving … or both! But when you use that shame t...
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#331: Say Goodbye to Labels from 2020-09-28T09:00
Life is tends to put labels on us. We even pin labels on ourselves. More often than not, these labels are hurtful, superficial, and false. But God has a new name He longs for you to hear - a nam...
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