Podcasts by Living Sober Sucks, But Living Drunk Sucks More.

Someday I’m going to… blah, blah, blah. from 2023-12-13T17:56:57.058038

I believe that most people have the best of intentions on doing “something” someday, and many even believe their own bullshit, but they never do it. I don’t think that people are liars or lazy; ...

It still sucks! from 2016-09-26T22:21:33

Logically, after almost 11 years of complete sobriety this shouldn't still suck. But many thoughts and emotions aren't founded on logic. The title may sound a little dark, but I wanted to share ...

Recovery isn't just for the alcoholic from 2016-09-18T21:29:28

Most of the attention is usually placed on the person doing the recovering. But the unsung hero is the person or people doing the supporting. The supporter plays an extremely important role in t...

Good Busy-VS-Bad Busy. from 2016-08-15T21:45:52

We all lead busy lives, but have you ever thought about the difference between Good Busy and Bad Busy? Many of us invest too much of our valuable time into the act of being Bad Busy. Have a list...

How bad is bad? from 2016-07-21T21:23:24

Do you need to take a test, fill out a questionnaire or consult a therapist to determine if your drinking behavior is problematic? I don’t think it's necessary. You may not have a "genuine" heav...

Is it ever good to lie? from 2016-06-28T17:12:35

Is it a good idea to lie to someone when they first sober up? Should you tell them that this will be the best thing they ever do or should you tell them, "I don't know how this will turn out?" Y...

There's always a reason to drink. from 2016-06-16T22:57:19

Your mind is quite capable of finding a reason to drink or do drugs. Temptations exist every day. Temptations aren’t bad, taking action on those temptations is bad. You can’t always control life...

The ultimate power trip! from 2016-05-04T16:27:25

What is the ultimate power trip for you? Is it driving fast? Being in control of other people? Running a business? I personally feel that the ultimate power trip is self-control, and it's someth...

Do you REALLY want what you want? from 2016-04-25T22:28:44

This is often a curious question to ask yourself. We all want something, but does getting what we want bring about the happiness we so desire? I believe that there are better questions to ask su...

What will you do TODAY? from 2016-04-06T22:59:05

The best way to get you feeling better about yourself is to help someone else. Every day you have opportunities to help other people and doing so will help YOU feel better with your sobriety. A ...

Are memories real? from 2016-03-03T14:17:57

Two people can witness the exact same thing but remember it in different ways. Memories change over time. Good memories are what we live for. Bad memories are meant to be avoided. But bad memori...

Say what you mean. from 2016-03-03T13:58:13

I believe that people don't always communicate their message as well as they think they do. Have you ever heard yourself saying, "This idiot just doesn't get it." There are a few simple ways to ...

What does an alcoholic look like? from 2016-02-13T11:21:53

When people think about what an “alcoholic” looks like, most will visualize the stereotypical bar floozy or unshaven guy sleeping on a park bench or dozing next to a dumpster. But alcoholics com...

How much is your time worth? from 2016-02-13T11:15:55

How much would you pay yourself if you worked for you? Well you are working for YOU when you punch out, log off or leave your workplace for the day. If you were a boss, would you want to pay som...

I just want to quit drinking. from 2016-02-13T11:14:20

I believe that people don’t really want to quit drinking. What they REALLY WANT are the results of living sober. That’s okay. We all want results without having to do a lot of work. Again, that’...

The changing perspective of a non-drinker. from 2014-10-23T23:24:16

I was emailed a question from someone and they were wondering if my perspective on drinking has changed through my latest years of sobriety. As I was answering this question, I not only realized...

What will you do with all the money? from 2014-09-19T13:43

When you stop drinking and doing drugs you’ll suddenly have unspent money in your pocket. What are you going to do with that money? How will you reward yourself? Will you be tempted to go spend ...

The BEST advice ever. from 2014-09-19T13:42:19

Truly the best words of advice I have ever heard were, "Don't make the same mistake twice." This is applicable in business, investing, sports, relationships, life and with sobriety. But all too ...

I can’t lose weight for you. from 2014-09-19T13:33:59

Imagine that you and I go to the gym and your goal is to lose weight, but all you do is sit there and watch ME exercise. Do you honestly believe that you’ll lose weight by just watching me and t...

Is anonymity good, bad or irrelevant? from 2014-03-05T13:30:13

In this podcast I present more questions than answers. The idea behind being "anonymous" is to allow a person to be open and honest without embarrassment or public exposure. However, anonymity c...

What's it worth? from 2014-03-05T13:28:27

It is often said that you can't put a value on love, friendship, happiness or sobriety. Why not? If you have no way of establishing or referencing "what it's worth" you may not value something a...

The difference between Mental Health and mental illness. from 2014-02-25T18:07:53

How are you helped when you talk about all the bad and wrong things you've done as a drunk? There is value in acknowledging your errors, working at restitution where required and stopping bad be...

Our mental reward system from 2014-02-17T16:06:38

Biologically our brains are designed to seek rewards and avoid pleasure. I don't believe you need a degree in neurology or psychology to figure that out. Why do we do anything? To get a reward (...

Every system works 100% from 2014-02-17T16:06:30

Every recovery system works 100%, until your next drink or use. "Success" statistics can be misleading. The only statistic that really matters is whether it works for YOU.

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Mac-VS-Windows. from 2014-02-17T15:50:30

This podcast isn't about computers; it's about human operating systems, but there's an interesting parallel. Mac and Windows computers perform many of the same functions. Either will give us the...

Familiarity breeds complacency from 2014-02-12T15:41:42

Familiarity can be dangerous. When you become "too comfortable" with a situation you can become lazy towards it. It happens in relationships, with money, jobs, cars, homes and sobriety. Complace...

I can quit anytime I want to, I just don't want to. from 2014-02-12T15:40:18

People will always find a way to do something if they really "want to." When I was a drunk I always found a way to get my hands on beer, booze or dope. I've taken that same concentrated tenacity...

We're not the same people we once were. from 2014-02-04T16:52

Drunk, stoned or sober, we are not the same person TODAY that we were 5 years ago. Changes take place ever so slowly that we may not notice them. But count on it, you will change. The question i...

Every excuse in the world! from 2014-02-04T16:50

Making excuses is not exclusive to drunks and drug addicts. Sober people use excuses all the time. There's a big difference between a reason and an excuse. Learn to think and speak in terms of r...

What image do you project? from 2014-02-04T16:48:29

What you pretend to be makes a big difference not only in how others see you and treat you, but how you feel about YOURSELF. Is it ever wise to adapt an image just to please others? You don't ha...

What you think is sometimes more important than what you do from 2014-02-04T16:48:26

Actions are supposed to speak louder than words right? But what you think and what goes on in your mind precedes your actions. Thoughts and actions work in collaboration. Sometimes action comes ...

Brain plasticity from 2014-01-22T15:46:33

As former drunks/addicts we do have the ability to rebuild our brain. Brain Plasticity is when regions rebuild and other specific regions begin performing tasks outside of their intended purpose...

This really sucks. What should I do? from 2014-01-16T15:22:57

Quite possibly the hardest part of staying sober isn't simply staying sober, the hardest part is accepting some of the harsh realizations about how your own life, relationships and behaviors wil...

You can't save everyone from 2014-01-16T15:18:05

As much as we would like to and as hard as we try, the reality is that we can't save everyone from themselves. The only way to save some people from themselves is to lock them in a cage or keep ...

Discovering Life's Lies (Part 1) from 2014-01-16T15:16:59

Life is filled with lies but they're not all bad lies. This is Part 1 of a 2-Part podcast. We'll take an honest look at what are the most common lies: Self-deception, mutually agreed upon lies a...

What is happiness? from 2014-01-16T15:16:51

What is "happiness' to you? Do you think you can ever find it? I present some quotes and thoughts on happiness, then ask you to do some thinking on your own. Maybe you don't have any valid reaso...

Discovering Life's Lies (Part 2) from 2014-01-16T15:07:44

How do handle the lies you're told? How do you handle the lies you tell to yourself? We do have a choice as to how we deal with lies. I present some ideas and ask you to decide for yourself how ...

Watch out for advice from "normies." from 2013-12-17T16:46:36

People want to offer us advice, but some of it, if not a lot of it can be harmful, counterproductive and misguided. They mean well, but norms often think that "all you have to do is quit drinkin...

The mirror that doesn't reflect from 2013-12-11T15:23:02

It's not easy to see our own true reflection when we're mired in the midst of problems or a dependency. Here's a podcast that may help you see a better and more accurate reflection of yourself. ...

We with the best intentions from 2013-12-11T15:21:22

It's wonderful to talk about all of our grand intentions but do we do anything about them? You're not weak, flawed, defective, lazy or stupid. It's not easy to follow through on our intentions. ...

Where will you be in 5 years? from 2013-11-26T18:01:16

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? How will your life be? What will you be doing? Do you think it's farfetched to look that far into your own future? If you don't you very well may end up in ...

The "Won't it be great when." delusion. from 2013-11-16T13:31:23

This is a healthy delusion. Without it an individual has no hope or internal drive. But we need to be realistic about "how great it will be when."so we are not let down and thus disenchanted wit...

Simple-VS-Easy. from 2013-11-10T17:11:57

Simple does not mean easy. A lot of problems and dilemmas in life appear tough, but often the answers are simple. The tough part is executing the simple answers. Self-control is simple to unders...

Getting past a relapse from 2013-10-29T10:33:16

Having a relapse at drinking (or any other self-destructive habit), rips at the mind and the soul. Once weakened it's easy to continue relapsing. Relapses CAN be avoided, and if you do happen to...

There is NO replacement from 2013-10-25T11:46:41

There is no EXACT REPLACEMENT for the sensation of getting drunk or high. Trying to find one can lead to disappointment and even greater problems. We often seek exact replacements for things we ...

8 Year Reflection from 2013-10-25T11:45:24

In this podcast I reflect on my 8 years of living as a non-drinker. It has been a curious journey with plenty of twists which I never expected---many good, some not so good. I review the good an...

You CAN make the best out of sobriety. But will you? from 2013-09-03T11:17:03

Everything doesn't always work out for the best, but you can make the best of how things work out. Will you adapt and evolve to make the best out of your sobriety, or will you sit back and wait ...

Going Public from 2013-08-30T11:55:42

Should you go public about your drinking issue or your intentions to not drink? This podcast doesn't give you the answer, it asks you to consider the pros and cons. Going public may help you sti...

Reframing the phrase: "One day at a time." from 2013-08-25T10:32:10

Does the catchphrase, "One day at a time" limit your forward thinking? Consider reframing the definition and use it as a way to map out your plan. Establish a goal and determine how you will ach...

Have a glass of extroversion! from 2013-05-03T11:52:59

Do societal pressures cause some of us to drink? While we CAN'T blame society for why we drink, our personality may have a lot to do with it. It doesn't really matter why you are a certain perso...

America's history of booze and bars. from 2013-04-21T23:19:31

America has a long (and often dark) history with alcohol and bars. This podcast is a brief summary of that history. I also present ideas and pose questions about new ways we can congregate and s...

Accepting the irrational and illogical. from 2013-04-06T19:25:37

This article isn't strictly about substance misuse; it's about trying to have a calmer, more enjoyable experience of living-learning to create happy feelings naturally. So much has changed and e...

My right to drink. from 2013-03-19T23:08:27

"My right" is an interesting view on sobriety along with my interpretation of a curious psychological phenomenon how "not having" something can obsess our thinking and behavior.

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A strange point in sobriety. from 2013-03-19T23:06:45

Sometimes we need to reflect on how our life has changed as a result of being a non-drinker. We often get so busy living a sober life that we neglect to remember what we have done for ourselves....

How do you know if you have a problem? from 2013-03-08T15:35:42

Do you need to fill out a questionnaire or see a therapist to determine if you have a substance problem? Do you need confirmation or a title? This podcast will get you thinking and give you some...

You are not awful. from 2013-03-05T18:33:22

Every drinker or former drinker is not an awful person. Alcohol can bring out the worst in some people and this is not an excuse to let someone get away with bad behavior. But too many people fe...

Compromising your own behavior. from 2013-02-21T12:14:59

It's not always easy being human. It's even easier to let your unconscious emotions direct your behavior. In this podcast I talk about: Doing what you say you will do, avoiding unintended reveng...

Self-fulfilling prophecies. from 2013-02-12T22:42:15

Before you go buy a copy of "The Secret" listen to this podcast. Your outlook and the words you use to describe yourself and your world around you are setting the stage for self-fulfilling proph...

I like what I like. from 2013-02-11T14:49:38

Don't spend your valuable time trying to figure out why you like what you like. Don't apologize for liking the kind of music, clothes or food that you like. If you happen to like something that ...

Practicing being normal. from 2013-02-11T14:46:35

You are under NO OBLIGATION to ever tell anyone that you don't drink or why you don't drink. When offered a drink, just say, "No thanks. I'm good." Most people will never even notice that you're...

Polishing Turds. from 2013-02-07T11:15:58

Psychologists call this mental accounting, but I call it "Polishing Turds." It's a mental trick that we play on ourselves to validate and justify all sorts of poor decisions. From financial deci...

How I learned to make the best out of my sobriety. from 2013-02-04T11:21:19

I have learned more about making the best out of my sobriety by studying behavioral economics and financial markets than I have learned from recovery books or even the Big Book. Listen to this p...

Putting myself in-check. from 2013-01-23T22:31:34

If you don't like being around drinkers or find yourself getting mad at them or tempted to preach to them or feeling superior over them, step back and get yourself in-check. Listen to ways to ke...

When does this get easier? from 2013-01-20T22:58:32

When does staying sober get easier? Understanding that it may not necessarily get easier can be beneficial for sustained sobriety. Accepting that it will always be changing will help you make th...

Why do I make such a big deal out of goals? from 2013-01-18T23:01:29

When you have specific goals written out, followed by detailed action plans, you create purpose for living a sober life. Find out why goals are so important to making the best out of your sobrie...

Okay, it's a disease. from 2013-01-10T09:41:44

If we agree to call alcoholism a "disease" what does that change? The drinker still needs to make the choice to do something about it if they want to put their disease into remission.

We're all equal. from 2013-01-04T22:29:05

We are all equal when it comes to alcoholism, and we can all equally make the best out of sobriety. Listen to find out how.

What sobriety WON'T do for you. from 2013-01-03T22:57:50

Sobriety in and of itself WON'T solve all of your problems. Find out what sobriety WILL do for you.

I Would Do Anything from 2012-12-26T16:45:06

People say they will do ANYTHING for their kids, spouse, family or friends. How about quit drinking? Oh… you mean you'll do anything BUT quit drinking. Got it.

How Long Do You Want To Live? from 2012-12-26T16:44:59

None of us know exactly how long we'll live for. But if you want to stack the odds of longevity in your favor and be active in your senior years, you'll want to listen to this.

What Is An Alcohlic Beverage? from 2012-12-26T16:44:52

Are you average? Do you think you're average? Do you even like being called "an average person?" We all have different conditions surrounding when and why we drink. There is no “average” way to mai...

Technology And The Drunk from 2012-12-26T16:44:46

Getting drunk hasn't changed much in the past 4,000+ years, but technology sure has. Technology can influence us to drink if we react to it. Listen about how this happens and what you want to keep ...

Self-justification from 2012-12-26T16:44:40

Self-justification can work for you or against you. We can easily talk ourselves into drinking "just this once." Self-justifying is a normal, natural part of our thinking process. There are ways to...

How Do You See Yourself? from 2012-12-18T16:21:37

How do you see yourself living as a sober person? How will you behave? Who will you hang out with? What will you be doing? If you can “see yourself” in your own mind you will be in a better positio...

The same old lip service. from 2000-12-31T09:00

How many times have you said, "I'm an alcoholic," yet still didn't do anything about it or relapsed? You don't need to make open admissions that you're an alcoholic to change your behavior and y...