Forgiveness: Let's land the planes! - a podcast by Sala Sihombing

In this week's episode I share his ideas on the 'how-to'  of forgiveness.

Some key ideas for Forgiveness

• Know exactly how you feel about what happened – be able to articulate it – tell a couple of trusted people your experience


• Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better. No one even needs to know your decision


• Understand your goal. Forgiveness does not mean reconciling with the person who hurt you – you are after peace and well-being for yourself.


• Give up expecting things from other people or life that they do not choose to give you. Recognise the unenforceable rules. Remind yourself you can Hope for love, health, friendship and success, however you will suffer if you demand them and do not have the power to make them happen


• Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met.


• Remember that a life well-lived is your best revenge. Don’t give power to the person who hurt you.


• Amend your grievance story and be the hero. Make the choice to forgive.

Please note that nothing in this podcast is intended to be legal, financial or mental health advice.  You should always consult a professional to assist with your own specific circumstances.

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