Summer Book Club: Should I stay or should I go? - a podcast by Sala Sihombing

In marriage mediation I work with couples whose relationships have hit a crisis point. They have decided to try and reconcile and want to ensure there is space to allow this to happen.  In this book, Lee Raffel guides readers through thoughts and processes to enable parties to decide if they should stay and work on reconciliation or not.  If they do decide to stay, Raffel has ideas about what that controlled separation should look like practically.  

This may seem like an unusual choice for a family mediator. However, I have worked with people who are trying to create the space and time to enable their reconciliation to work. We look at the practical arrangements:

• physical separation


• financial arrangements - how will the bills get paid?


• children's arrangements - how will the children spend time with each parent?


• what do we tell children?


• how long do we give ourselves?


• what commitment will we each make to counselling?


• and more

If this seems like the situation you are in then I would recommend reading this book to get some ideas about how to move forward.

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