#247: How to Create a Lasting, Healthy Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin - a podcast by Mark Groves

Themes: Relationships, Attachment Theory, Conflict, Interdependency
Summary: Today I’m honoured to be joined by Stan Tatkin: PsyD, MFT, clinician, author, researcher, co-founder of the PACT Institute and all-around relational ninja. Stan’s ability to help couples navigate the often tricky waters of relationships is truly unparalleled, and in this episode, you’ll understand why. Join us as we discuss attachment theory, the leading causes of breakups and, ultimately, how to co-create a thriving, lasting relationship. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the upcoming, In Each Other’s Care.
Discover:Why we choose the partners we do, and why we default to certain behaviors while in a relationship

Two main reasons relationships don’t lastThe non-negotiable habits of couples in strong, healthy relationships

The mindset shift couples need to make for their relationship to survive and thrive00:00 Intro
01:10 Stan’s background02:57 Why we choose who we choose
10:30 Two main reasons relationships don’t last18:02 Attachment theory&why we stay
23:24 Interdependency26:29 Purpose-centered love
34:42 Creating a relationship that survives and thrives41:32 Relationships are a team sport
48:16 Prioritizing repair54:10 Avoid working on each other; only the problem
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