An Addicts an Addict Until They Get Help. - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2021-04-29T13:29:43
Rob and Tami share their thoughts on what to do when a trusted friend or family member is threatening to ‘out’ your addict. This is cruel behavior, but not everyone understands that addicts can recover. Unfortunately, you can not control what others do, only how you can react to it. Rob and Tami also share why it takes so long for addicts to develop intimacy, and how to overcome compulsive lying when in recovery.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:30] I told my sister that my husband is an addict. Big Mistake. She’s threatening to tell the rest of the family. What do I do?
[7:00] Tell your sister what the cost of this would be. She is going to damage the relationship beyond repair.
[8:25] Intimacy and connection are uncomfortable for my SA husband. What do I do?
[10:55] Addicts need to be trained on how to develop intimacy. This might be the first time they’ve ever had to undergo this process.
[11:40] If a husband cheated on his wife, is he not responsible for feeling angry at him?
[17:00] I struggle with trusting others, even my sponsor. How can I overcome this and stop lying to people?
[23:35] My husband has been acting out. When will he stop?
[27:25] There are different forms of therapy. Rob explains the different methods and why it’s important to seek out the right one for your needs.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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