Did I Marry an Illusion of a Man or Did the Addiction Just Take Over? - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2021-07-22T20:26:44
Rob and Tami first want to clear the air on how addicts are not bad people, they are broken people, but inherently they are not evil. This is a common misconception because of all the harm and destruction they’ve caused in people’s lives. It’s just a way for them to cope with their own insecurities and demons. Rob also answers the question on ‘who’ your addict truly is. A betrayed spouse doesn’t know which version to believe anymore and Rob offers some insight on what to expect next.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:25] My partner is an addict, but I’m frustrated by the lack of progress. What do I do?
[6:25] You have every right to be frustrated by his lack of progress! Protect yourself.
[8:45] The less progress you see from him, the less engaged you should be.
[9:05] Is porn and sex addiction always a progressive illness?
[12:15] Did I marry a mask of a man or was he always the person I loved just the addiction finally took over?
[16:55] Dr. Rob can you talk about the Atlanta spa shooter who claims he is a sex addict?
[21:00] Can I change my sexual arousal template?
[23:30] I’ve been clean for 3 months, but my partner doesn’t think I’m doing enough. How can I convince her I’m on the straight and narrow?
[29:45] Find a therapist that specifically deals with sex addiction.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss
Further episodes of Overcoming Betrayal
Further podcasts by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
Website of Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst