Grief is a Process and so is Forgiveness. - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2021-02-18T05:00
Rob and Tami discuss what it means to grief and forgive when we’re going through this recovery process. The same is true for betrayed spouses who feel so hurt by the actions of their addict. They also answer questions on how to best handle when they’re addict is dodging the question or avoiding accountability, and what to do when an addict blames the spouse for their addiction.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:30] Should I go on a sex fast?
[1:55] What does ‘regain intimacy’ look like? Dr. Rob explains.
[3:35] My husband is in therapy. He is furious that I ‘withheld’ sex from him, but this is untrue. Can someone recovery from sex addiction without help?
[5:40] My SA husband feels trapped by all these ‘marriage rules’, which prepratiates his addiction further. Why does he keep using?
[8:15] I saw my spouse’s trauma therapy workbook and it was alarming. What do I do? Q
[10:40] Are they a porn addict or just a borderline addict?
[15:10] Tell someone you’re close to about all of your behavior and see if they’re concerned about it or not.
[18:25] What makes an addict choose their addiction over their loved ones?
[23:20] Grief is a process for the betrayed spouse and forgiveness is too.
[27:40] In early recovery, we have to get used to having to stop lying to ourselves for the very first time.
[32:15] You got to live in reality.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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