He’s Still Going to Brothels, Is He Still Clean? - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2021-04-15T04:00
Rob and Tami share their thoughts on some of this week's questions. Why does a man fall in love with a sex worker? And if he keeps going back to the brothel, but swears he hasn’t acted out, does that still count as him acting out his addiction? Rob and Tami explain why it’s important to set boundaries as the betrayed spouse, and stick to them when an addict starts to relapse.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:30] I was sexually abused by my cousins and my brother, I’ve done work on myself, am I still a sex addict?
[5:00] Are you a sex addict? Does the label really matter if your recovery is working?
[5:20] I’m a betrayed spouse, together with him for 31 years, when will this all be over and we can be normal again?
[13:45] Sex workers know how to play on the ‘hero syndrome’ of men. This is one of the many reasons why men keep coming back for more.
[16:00] What filtering and blocking software should you use?
[20:00] My addict keeps relapsing, what do I do?
[24:55] Addicts often ask for forgiveness first (and not permission) after they’ve acted out.
[27:15] How do I keep up with being sober?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss
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