I Make the Money, so I Make the Decisions - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2022-12-09T16:46:28
Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed partner who is trying to find the help and support she needs, but her SA husband will not fund her therapist because he “makes the money.” What can you do when your partner is not supportive of your recovery and healing journey? He says he’ll find himself a therapist, but his actions have not demonstrated that. Dr. Rob and Tami offer some guidance and advice.
TAKEAWAYS:
[:30] My husband had an emotional affair and only regrets that he lied about it and not that he did the deed.
[3:25] It seems this person is still living in denial.
[5:15] Our children found out about the sex addiction because they saw some resources in our bedroom. How do we approach the topic?
[8:15] Should I do an online or an in-person SA meeting?
[13:30] Not ready to be a sponsor? Yes, you are!
[15:35] How can I get my spouse to just leave me alone?
[22:00] Tami is frustrated for this woman who has been married to this man for 42 years and he won’t pay for her healing.
[23:40] My wife wants to leave. I am willing to do whatever it takes, but is it too late? Should I fight or let her go?
[29:10] You have to do your recovery for yourself, not for her.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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