In Recovery for 2 Years From Sex Addiction, but I Still Want Connection - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2021-06-17T15:23:04
Rob and Tami talk about the tricky balance recovering sex addicts experience when they want to be in an intimate and caring relationship, without falling back into their addiction. Being in recovery and not having sex deprives us of our most basic desire, and that’s connection. As humans, we yearn for intimacy and closeness. We are meant to have a partner by our side, and here’s how you can do it in a healthy way without relapsing!
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:35] My SA husband doesn’t want to talk about his addiction. ‘What's in the past is in the past.’ What should I do?
[1:55] Who has the power here? It’s you!
[3:15] Why can’t some SAs perform within the marriage but yet have no problem doing it with people outside of the marriage?
[8:20] Do addicts turn their partners into their mothers?
[10:45] I don’t have any childhood trauma, yet I ended up with a sex addict. What happened?
[13:30] I’ve been clean for 2 years, but I don’t want to connect with anyone sexually because I don’t want to relapse. Please help.
[16:25] My mother is schizophrenic. How can I have a healthy relationship with her without relapsing?
[21:55] I lost my marriage due to my addiction. How can I process this without acting out?
[26:30] My partner found out about my addiction. How do I show my partner I am working on it?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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