Is He a Chronic Cheater or Is He Just an Addict? - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2022-10-20T14:12:05
Dr. Rob and Tami talk about the difference between being a cheater vs. an addict. If your partner is just out and they’re unable to think about you or have you in mind, they’re immature. The same goes for cheating. The immaturity of cheating is by not having your partner in mind at all when you’re out committing the act. However, with sex addiction, it has nothing to do with immaturity and everything to do with being psychologically broken.
TAKEAWAYS:
[:30] Are SAs able to compartmentalize or are they just in denial?
[5:55] I found out my partner has an addiction. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to trust him again. Is intimacy again even possible?
[11:30] Tami explains how you don’t need to have sex in order to be intimate.
[14:10] Don’t give up hope!
[15:15] Dr. Rob realized that his screen time in his household made it difficult to connect with his partner. Sometimes it takes conscious effort to build connection during the day when there are so many distractions.
[17:10] What’s the difference between a chronic cheater and a sex addict?
[19:30] Sex addicts have some deep internal intimacy scars where they separate emotions from the sex.
[21:15] There are virtual courses you can take to help you keep on your recovery journey. Tami shares what’s on the upcoming curriculum.
[24:00] Can you develop a sex addiction later in life or did you always have it in you?
[26:10] Easy access to addiction materials doesn’t make you an automatic addict.
[30:35] Your sponsor should be where you want to be in the future. He/She should be a role model to you.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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