My Addict Husband Resents Me, but I still Love Him. - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2021-01-22T16:15:03
Rob and Tami answer questions on how betrayed spouses can best navigate their feelings of insecurity when they’ve found out their husband has an addiction. They also discuss the best ways to navigate a relapse from your husband and the resentment he might feel towards you. Rob and Tami also answer a question from a female sex addict on how to build intmiacy without the sex.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:30] What do addicts need to do to better empathize with their partners?
[3:15] I’m a female sex addict and recently met someone. How do I respect my boundaries? I’m starting to unravel.
[5:55] My wife wants to know about any of the ‘new memories’ I have. I have done a disclosure and my CSAT and sponsor tell me not to do it, but she keeps wanting to know more.
[10:20] My husband has had multiple relasapes. I feel so much resentment from him. Is he resentful because he’s in a relapse or because he’s uncovering childhood trauma?
[14:45] It’s critical to join a partner group!
[15:50] What is recovery fatigue? And how do you keep going when you're mentally exhausted?
[19:20] If you don’t make recovery fun. You’re not going to make it.
[20:25] I’m a porn addict, but have been sober for 18 months. When will things get better with my wife?
[22:20] My wife and therapist want a 3-day disclosure workshop. What should I do?
[23:50] “We’re just friends.” But we’re acting like we’re in a relationship. It feels strange and I don’t know how to navigate.
[26:55] You might have to date 16-20 people in a year to figure out the right person for you. Don’t give up too soon!
[28:10] I have a trauma bond with my husband. He has a mother enmeshment. Is he trauma bonded with her and not with me?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss
Further episodes of Overcoming Betrayal
Further podcasts by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
Website of Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst