My Addict Wants to Leave! How Can I Help Him? - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst

from 2021-08-02T15:27:17

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Rob and Tami dive into sexual orientation and whether it's a byproduct of childhood abuse or not. Why do ‘straight’ married men cheat on their wives with gay men? What’s going on there? Rob and Tami also offer advice on what to do as the betrayed spouse when your addict is finally calling it quits and they want to leave the relationship.

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:30] How do you distinguish between sex addiction and sexual orientation childhood truama issues?

[1:25] Sexual orientation is defined before birth.

[3:45] The problem is not being gay or homosexual. The problem is how you live with it.

[6:20] What kinds of tools can we use to avoid being triggered?

[7:15] Your desire to have sex with strangers is not about sex. It's about escape.

[9:05] My addict wants to leave me, but I still want to help him. What do I do?

[12:25] Unfortunately, the moment you try to ‘help’ and bring up difficult problems that the addict doesn’t want to deal with, they’re running into the arms of another person.

[14:55] Does mother/son enmeshment impact the recovery of the addict?

[16:10] Demands from a demanding parent can betray your romantic relationship.

[17:45] Why am I so cranky when trying to get sober?

[20:50] I’m an addict. How do I learn empathy?

[24:05] Dr. Rob, can you clarify on what you said about the Atlanta shooter?

[26:55] My husband is in recovery and he is finding himself ‘burnt out’ from all the work he’s doing. What can I do to keep him motivated?

[30:45] You deserve someone who is proving they’ve changed through their actions.

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com