My Betrayed Spouse Thinks I’m Disgusting. Can We Reconcile? - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2023-02-16T17:41:48
Dr. Rob and Tami get a question from a SA who is experiencing a lot of shame and distress in his current relationship. After disclosing to his wife all the betrayals and hurts he has caused her, she is having a hard time adjusting to this new-found information. She has expressed that she thinks he’s disgusting for having certain sexual preferences. Is there any hope for him to reconcile and have a loving relationship again with his wife? Dr. Rob and Tami offer some insight into what’s really going on.
TAKEAWAYS:
[:25] How do I not put my entire identity into a job?
[3:15] Although you may have lost your job, there are a lot of opportunities open for you right now.
[7:40] My wife can’t imagine being with someone who’s done such disgusting things. Is there any hope to repair?
[14:10] What turns you on, turns you on.
[17:00] It’s normal for your spouse to be distant at first, but it’s important to have a conversation, also. Don’t let it “slide.”
[21:50] Every spouse wants more answers, but that doesn’t provide them with the healing that they really need.
[25:00] Why do addicts find it so hard to be consistently honest?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss
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