My Husband Is in Recovery, but He’s Still a Jerk! - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2021-06-25T11:16:25
Rob and Tami discuss everything from conversion therapy, turning into a workaholic while in recovery, and so much more. Rob and Tami also talk about how to build an emotional connection again with your addict when he’s in recovery. If you feel like he’s emotionless, not empathetic, and uncaring, realize that it takes time for an addict to reconnect with themselves. They’ve been so closed off and have adopted unhealthy ways of coping for so long, that they don’t even know how to love you the way you need to be loved. Recovery is a process.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:35] Is same-sex attraction a form of addiction?
[2:50] If you’re in recovery, you shouldn’t be hanging out with men who are cheating on their wives.
[3:45] Does conversion therapy work?
[4:50] My SA husband seems to have become a workaholic. What do I do?
[6:25] It’s a rule for Dr. Rob that his patients do not work more than 45 hours a week. And they have demanding jobs!
[7:50] Addiction is like a game of whack-a-mole.
[10:15] I think I’m a love addict. I’m so desperate for the affection of other people. How do I manage this?
[12:45] Dr. Rob was single for 9 years while he worked on his recovery. Now, he’s been married for over 20+ years.
[15:10] When you’re in such desperation to fill a gap in your life, you find the wrong people.
[16:25] I feel bad when I have sex. I don’t get it. Is it my partner or is it me?
[21:30] How can I ask for more care and empathy while he’s in recovery?
[23:15] Becoming a more empathic person takes a long time!
[26:25] What do you mean the relationship I know and love is gone after D-Day?
[28:30] Going back to the way things were is just not going to happen.
[30:45] Your partner needs to feel safe.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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