My Wife Got a Breast Reduction and I’m No Longer Attracted to Her. Porn is My Escape. - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2021-12-22T15:15:15
Dr. Rob and Tami talk about how to find intimacy again after being married to your partner for more than 30 years. They also share their thoughts on impatient programs and why an addict might come back worse than they were before. As a betrayed partner, there’s nothing wrong with loving someone who’s broken.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:35] I got an STI from my cheating husband. There’s been very little change in his behavior. Should I stay or should I go?
[6:05] You love someone that’s broken. There’s nothing wrong with you.
[7:10] Is having a sex or love addict sponsor necessary for recovery or can any sponsor be good for me?
[10:40] My partner has returned from an impatient program and has broken several of my boundaries already. I feel like he’s gotten worse. What should I do?
[12:50] Recovery is not about stopping your addiction, it’s about relearning a whole new way of living.
[16:25] People’s lives can change if they want it! You get what you put into it.
[19:45] I have been married for 33 years and have replaced my wife with porn. How do I reconnect again?
[26:00] Sexual sobriety means rediscovering your partner again, instead of trying to change them to fit your desires.
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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