She Cheated on Me! And Yet, I’m the One in Recovery? - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2023-10-26T04:00
Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from an addict who has also been betrayed by his spouse. They have both hurt each other with their addictions/infidelities, however, it seems unfair that he’s in treatment for his demons and she is running around scot-free. Dr. Rob and Tami explain how you can move forward and focus on your own recovery despite experiencing a betrayal from your partner.
TAKEAWAYS:
[:45] I’m absolutely DONE with my addict. I can’t move out yet, so what can I do for my own safety?
[5:00] I feel like I’m repressing my sexuality when I’m sober. Because of this, I can’t seem to be sober for long periods. How do I become healthy?
[8:50] Recovery is all about doing things; positive and good things for you.
[9:45] How can I communicate to my separated spouse that I’m on a good recovery path now?
[12:25] My SA is just not taking recovery seriously. How long does it take to stop messing up and get serious about this?
[18:20] My wife has had a sexual affair. I'm not innocent either, but I feel like I’m the punching bag in this whole situation. Why am I the bad guy here?
[21:50] My addict is just a mess. How can I safely disengage from all this pain?
[25:15] When does it make sense for me to go back to dating as an addict?
[27:20] Is it common for terrible people to try and get “honorable” jobs to look good/better on the outside?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
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Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss
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