What is Recovery Supposed to Look Like? - a podcast by Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW and Tami VerHelst
from 2020-06-16T05:04:34
Rob and Tami answer questions about narcissism and its connection to addiction. They also talk about how an addict can love you 100% and then go off and cheat on you at the same time. How do they live with the contradiction? Rob also breaks down what recovery is supposed to look like and how an addict can find healing through therapy.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:35] Can you catch sex addiction early and if so, would it increase chances of recovery?
[3:10] Any collaboration between narcissism and addiction?
[8:10] How do lies and love live in the same world? My addict says he loves me 100%, but then sends love messages to other women. How can these co-exist?
[12:05] What is recovery supposed to look like?
[18:30] Are zoom meetings safe?
[21:15] It takes about 6 weeks to fully draft a disclosure agreement with your therapist so that you can safely share it to your spouse.
[23:20] Why does Rob recommend 90 days of no sex when the addict is in recovery?
RESOURCES:
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss
QUOTES:
- “Men do compartmentalize and men who are troubled compartmentalize deeply. They can have a full relationship over here and another over there.”
- “I lie to you because I love you.”
- “You need a structured, proven method that helps and you can't do therapy alone.”
- “If you have the resources to get help live, do it. What’s best is what’s best for you. I don’t know what’s right for you [without talking to you].”
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