A Glimpse Into Jess&Brandon’s Relationship–Part II - a podcast by Dr. Jessica OReilly

Jess and Brandon continue the “partner interview” and share details about their greatest fears, fondest memories, where they hope to be in ten years and what they’re working on in terms of self-development.

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Participant #1:Hello. Hello. This is Jess O'Reilly, your friendly neighborhood sexologist here with Brandon again today. Back for a little more. Back for more? Yes. Gotten for punishment. I wouldn't describe these podcasts is that there are worst things I could do to you? Definitely. So before we get started, I want to say a big thank you to Desire Resorts for your support of this episode. Desire Resorts. They have multiple locations on the Mayan Riviera clothing optional couples only paradises where lots of fun happens. And Brandon can attest to that. Yeah, sometimes too much fun. Okay, we won't go there. Make sure you check out Desire Resorts and Desire Cruises. Now, last week, Brandon and I started this partnered interview that is designed to increase intimacy, promote understanding, deepen your commitment to the relationship by opening up new conversations that you don't normally have. And if you missed last week's podcast, go back and listen to it. And I'll just remind you that I often talk about how communication and relationships gets reduced to conversations related to work and money, kids and family and your agendas, your schedules. And although you have to talk about all of those important aspects of your life, they are not the foundation for an intimate relationship. And every couple I meet tells me they're really good at communicating. And the reality is we all struggle with communicating. So Brandon and I, for example, might have all the tools at our disposal, but we don't always use them. So, for example, even this interview is not something we've done before and forcing yourself to have these conversations once you're in the groove. Actually quite interesting. When I listened to your answers last week, I almost feel like I didn't know them. I knew them, but I didn't know them. And then it was really interesting. It's interesting. You say that because I think it's a bit of a braggadocious thing that, oh, I know everything about my partner. And the reality is I don't even want you to know everything about me. I also think that people whose attitudes are that they know everything. I hear it all the time. I assume that when somebody says that to me, it's an unwillingness to learn or hear somebody else's perspective. And more importantly, to learn something new, I actually feel like I always have something to learn. I feel the same way. Right. We were at the Everything to Do With Sex show this weekend, and I was talking about different sexual techniques, communication strategies, and people would come up and say, I think I have that covered. I'm an expert in that already, and I think it's so interesting because what I think is I wouldn't want to have sex with those people. I'm your partner, and I've heard you deliver these speeches hundreds of times, and I still feel like I could learn something new every time I listen to you speak. It's funny, because I've written multiple books, mostly on sex on sexual technique and positions, and I do not remember all of them, and I wrote them, so I have to go back. And certainly I am not the ultimate expert in any of these things. If I read any of my colleagues books, I always learn something new. So you've probably heard of the growth mindset versus the fixed mindset. And I do think that you, the listener,

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