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4 Types of Couples—Which One Are You? from 2023-12-08T03:50:49
Do opposites attract? Are you really attracted to funny people or do you find attractive people funnier?And which type of dating couple are you? Researchers suggest that there are four types of ...
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Sex, Gender&Intimacy: People Collide with Isle McElroy from 2023-11-23T15:00:14
Isle McElroy joins Jess and Brandon to talk about intimacy, vulnerability and sex -- on paper and in the flesh. An award-winning non-binary author based in New York, McElroy's latest novel People C...
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Managing Burnout In Relationships: Conservation of Resources Theory from 2023-11-17T02:20:02
What are the signs of burnout, and how do they - show up in relationships? How might the Conservation of Resources theory apply to personal relationships?And how can we use the Conservation of Re...
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Eroticize Daily Interactions: 20 Actionable Tips For Busy Couple from 2023-11-10T01:45:28
How do you keep things exciting amid a repetitive routine? How can adults be more playful (because playfulness is associated with happier relationships&hotter sex)? What simple changes can you ...
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How To Stop Bickering: 12 Strategies from 2023-11-03T01:08:32
Do you want to... Bicker less and catch yourself before you start?Stay calm and empathetic during conflict? Feel more at ease and connected so - that you're less inclined to fight? Tune in fo...
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Candid Conversations: Managing the‘Work Spouse’and Therapy Avoidance from 2023-10-27T04:00:28
In this Q&A, Jess and Brandon weigh in on listener queries related to"work spouses", dealing with a partner who refuses to go to therapy and"love tattoos":"My husband has a coworker who introduced ...
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Sex&Relationship Q&A: Cheating, Trust&Sexual Pressure from 2023-10-19T16:00:45
How do you define cheating? And how do you recover once trust has been broken?How do you deal with sexual pressure from a partner? Womanizer Premium EcoJess and Brandon weigh in on personal ques...
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How To Plan A Successful Threesome from 2023-10-06T00:30:30
In Part II of our threesome discussion, we share questions and prompts to consider before you have a threesome — for individuals and couples. We also share some of our listeners’ insights on threes...
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All About Threesomes from 2023-09-28T22:00:18
Most people fantasize about threesomes, but not many people - actually dive in. In part I of our Threesomes podcast, we dive into the data and get some practical advice from Justin Lehmiller - who ...
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Pleasure, Spanking&Masculinity with King Noire from 2023-09-22T01:30:27
Curious about kink, spanking, ethical porn and how to have better sex? The inimitable King Noire shares his perspective of pleasure, pansexuality, performance and much more in this candid conversa...
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A Guide to Compassionate Communication from 2023-09-14T19:30:54
How do you cultivate deeper connections through communication?How can you summon compassion in the heat of conflict? How do you define non-violent communication?What is polyvagal theory? Sa...
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3 Sex&Relationship Lessons From“Lifestyle”Couples from 2023-09-08T00:40:18
Couples in The Lifestyle (AKA Swingers) practice a form of ethical non-monogamy that usually involves sex play with other singles and/or couples. In this quickie episode, Jess and Brandon discuss ...
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Top Relationship Tips From Happier Couples: 8 Secrets To Success from 2023-08-31T16:00:56
Happy couples from across the globe share their best advice for richer relationships. From the relational to the emotional to the sexual, the happiest couples - of all ages weigh in on what makes t...
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Financial Infidelity&How To Talk About Money from 2023-08-24T12:00:07
Has your partner lied to you about their finances? Have you ever hid spending (or debt) from a partner?Do you and your partner disagree about money - saving, spending, sharing, etc? Do you stru...
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Sex Q&A, Alvinophilia&Sex vs. Social Media from 2023-08-17T10:00:29
Would you rather give up sex or social media? The results from a new Canadian study may surprise you! Jess and Brandon explore new research findings and answer a listener question about bellybutto...
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Jess&Brandon’s Latest Argument. And A 7-Minute Solution from 2023-08-11T01:00:16
Looking for a quick exercise to offset the potentially harmful effects of conflict? Jess&Brandon explore a 7-minute solution to support"cognitive reappraisal"as they share the details of their lat...
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12 Strategies To Deal With Rejection from 2023-08-03T23:00:02
Do you struggle with rejection? How does your response vary from the boardroom to the bedroom?Do layers of your identity affect how you deal with rejection? We surveyed our community regarding t...
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How to Manage Rejection Part 1 from 2023-07-27T21:05:01
Rejection is a life skill. This week, Jess and Brandon revisit a previous conversation about how to deal with someone who pulls away without explanation. They share their own experiences, and weigh...
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Attraction&Body Image: Communication for Couples from 2023-07-20T21:00:59
A pregnant listener wants to know how to deal with hurt feelings; after her partner; interrupted a conversation to check out another woman. Jess and Brandon share their thoughts on how to deal with...
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Romance Scams&How To Date Safely from 2023-07-13T23:00:26
Have you encountered scammers while dating online or in person? We received this query from a loyal listener:"I started dating after divorce (I was married way too young at 19 years old, I’m 28 now...
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Q&A Quickie: Sexual Desire&Painful Sex from 2023-07-06T21:00:55
How does your relationship affect desire and libido? How do you rekindle connection and desire after breaking up and then reuniting?How do you rebuild trust when you get back together? In this e...
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How to Be An Ally&Accomplice from 2023-06-30T00:00:57
https://www.sexwithdrjess.com/wp-content/uploads/Dr.-Antony-Chum-Website-Promo-1.mp4 What's the difference between an ally&an accomplice? How do health risks intersect with sexual orienta...
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How to Explore Kinks&Fetishes from 2023-06-22T19:00:55
Why do we develop fetishes and kinks like heirophilia and small penis humiliation? How do you tell a partner about a specific desire, fantasy or kink?What are the costs of not opening up about a ...
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Q&A Quickie: Passing Gas, Snooping&Ex-Lovers from 2023-06-15T22:00:03
When is it okay to pass gas in front of a new partner? Is it ever okay to snoop in their messages?Should you ask about their past? When should you introduce kids to a new partner?We don't have ...
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Swallowing, Gag Reflexes&SLPs from 2023-06-09T01:30:30
What are swallowing disorders? Who can benefit from the support of a Swallowologist?Can you learn to control your gag reflex? What do therapists need to learn from SLPs?Scientist and professor;...
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Backdoor Pleasure with Luna Matatas from 2023-06-02T00:00:16
Curious about anal pleasure and rimming? Luna Matatas has you covered. She shares tips for oral, seduction, confidence and more. Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of e...
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How To Get Over Performance Anxiety from 2023-05-25T18:00:48
Performance pressure can affect pleasure and sexual response from the desire to erections to orgasms and more. In this episode, Jess and Brandon discuss: The most common sources of performance p...
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Improve Sexual Self-Esteem&Communication from 2023-05-19T04:06:55
Curious about how to overcome sexual repression and boost sexual self-esteem? Dr. Tara has you covered. She joins Jess to share her personal story of sexual empowerment -- from shame to She also sh...
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Real-Life Sex Confessions: AURORE from 2023-05-12T01:45:16
Curious about what other people get up to behind closed doors and online? Carly from AURORE is here to share. She collects confessional sex stories submitted by people from all over the world. Tune...
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How to improve sleep for better relationships (and better sex) from 2023-05-04T21:00:15
Are your sleep habits adversely affecting your relationships? Is a lack of sleep affecting your sex life?Do you want to sleep better and wake up rested? Board-certified sleep expert Ellen Wermte...
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Marriage Advice From A Divorce Lawyer from 2023-04-27T22:00:13
Family lawyer Justin Lee sees relationships and marriages from both sides: couples come to him before they get married (or move in together) and when the relationship has come to an end. His perspe...
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3 Conversations To Save A Relationship: Why? How? What? from 2023-04-21T02:00:07
In this quickie episode, Jess and Brandon reflect upon a recent argument and share three conversations to address relationship issues. They share their personal perspectives and delve into the impo...
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Secrets of A Happy Couple (After 35+ Years!) from 2023-04-14T01:00:06
Mike and Denise are one of the happiest couples ever. They've been together since they were teenagers, raised two kids, run a family business, and they're still loving, happy and playfu...
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Scheduling Sex, Erectile Issues&Sexual Avoidance from 2023-04-07T00:00:06
Is scheduling sex a good idea? And how do you deal with a partner - who is struggling with erection issues?Is avoidance of sex but engagement with porn an indication of a Madonna-whore complex? ...
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Pelvic Floor Essentials: The Key To Sexual Health From Puberty to Menopause from 2023-03-31T01:00:58
Pelvic floor function is essential to sexual health a pleasure, but how much do you know about this key region? Do you know… At what age should you start thinking about the pelvic floor?What dai...
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Open Relationships&Polyamory from 2023-03-24T02:00:39
What questions should you consider if you’re thinking of opening up your relationship? What issues do couples commonly face when considering polyamory?What is brainspotting? What should solo po...
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Help! We’re not sexually compatible from 2023-03-17T02:00:24
Sex therapist Dr. Donna Oriowo joins us to answer your questions about sex and relationships. How do you manage sexual incompatibility?What do you do when one of you wants sex all the time and t...
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Can Gender-Bending Improve Sex? from 2023-03-10T04:50:38
Do you have trouble expressing your desires in bed? Are you nervous - to open up about your fantasies?Do you have difficulty tapping into sexual turn-ons? Perhaps the constraints of gender (and ...
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Quickie Q&A: Should you change for a partner&how do you know if non-monogamy is right for you? from 2023-02-24T01:00:08
How much can you ask a partner to change? And how do you know if non-monogamy is the right choice for you?Jess and Brandon discuss these listener questions and share their (imperfect) perspectives ...
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Chore Wars: How To Stop Fighting About Housework from 2023-02-17T04:50:49
We are riding a high after appearing on The TODAY Show this morning! Hoda and Jenna were the warmest hosts and in this week's episode we dig a little deeper into one of their viewer questions about...
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Why We Don’t Celebrate Valentine’s Day from 2023-02-10T01:00:41
Jess&Brandon weigh in on why they don't love V-Day and answer questions from listeners; who wants to have a happier Valentine's -- free from pressure. They weigh in on what to do if your partner re...
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How To Build Emotional Intimacy from 2023-02-03T03:00:52
Intimacy is about so much more than sex. It can be emotional, relational, practical, physical, spiritual and so much more. This week, Jess and Brandon share prompts to help cultivate emotional conn...
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Reset Your Relationship In 2 Minutes from 2023-01-27T03:00
Take a few minutes to slow down and reconnect with this simple exercise designed for emotional connection, physical intimacy and mindfulness. It's not a magic pill, but just two minutes may be wort...
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7 Minutes of Sex: Desensitization? from 2023-01-20T01:00:48
It's time to debunk the myth of the"dead vagina syndrome"and overcome hangups about vibrators - so that; we can all enjoy more pleasure! If you're looking for Jess'product picks from the Lovehon...
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Kinks, Fetishes&Pervertibles from 2023-01-13T03:00:18
What’s the difference between a fetish and a kink? How common are kinks and fetishes?What are the most common fetishes? How do I move when thrusting during sex?What are some household objects t...
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Help! I’m only attracted to the“wrong type”&what to do when I’m no longer“in love” from 2023-01-05T22:00:21
Why am I only attracted to"toxic"partners? How can I heal&move on from old wounds? What do I do when I love my partner, but I'm no longer"in love"? How do you define love?How do I deal with a...
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Revolutionize Relationships In 2023 from 2022-12-30T03:00:48
Let's start 2023 on the right foot with some easy strategies for happier, more fulfilling relationships of - all kinds. Jess and Brandon share; 7 simple resolutions ranging from the sexual to the p...
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How To Let Go of Judgment&Shame from 2022-12-23T01:00:34
Naked News host&producer Laura Desiree joins us to talk about her career in journalism and her journey to living a life free of shame and full of pleasure. She discusses the stigma associated with ...
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Full Body Orgasms from 2022-12-16T04:00:46
Want to experiment with orgasms? Explore pleasure across every square inch of your body with this head-to-toe pleasure guide that will help you get out of your head and into your body.And if you ha...
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Nipple Orgasms&What To Do When Your Partner Can’t Orgasm from 2022-12-09T01:00:28
Jess&Brandon share techniques for mind-blowing nipple orgasms and uncover some of the hottest pleasure-zones, including the F-Spot, the 3-Spot&the R-Spot. They also share strategies for supporting ...
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How To Have Different Types Of Orgasms Part I from 2022-12-02T04:30:35
From clitoral orgasms to prostate orgasms to G-Spot orgasms and everything in-between, Jess and Brandon share tips&personal insights&experiences on orgasm. They also discuss how height affects sexu...
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Have More Fun With Orgasms! from 2022-11-25T03:00:31
What makes an orgasm bigger or better?How do you know if you or a partner has had an orgasm? Can some bodies orgasm more easily than others?Tune in for an orgasm Q&A on everything from fakin...
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Q&A: Help! My partner picks porn over me from 2022-11-18T12:00:53
How do you talk about porn in relationships? What if you disagree about porn?Why would a partner opt for porn and masturbation over partnered sex? Jess&Brandon weigh in on a listener question re...
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Lessons From A Porn Star: Orgies, Love&More! from 2022-11-11T12:00:55
Journalist, hip-hop artist, and porn performer, Malcolm Lovejoy, joins Jess and Brandon to share his insights on music, sexual rights, the adult industry, orgies, sex clubs, and more. What mak...
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Sexual Communication from 2022-11-04T00:00:38
Do you sometimes feel like you talk a lot, but your partner doesn't really hear you? Have you told them what you like, but they don't seem to get it? This week, we weigh in on how to overcome block...
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The Sex Spreadsheet from 2022-10-28T02:00:07
This week, Jess&Brandon are sharing tips and tools from some of the happy couples they've met over the past month. Tune in to find out about sex spreadsheets&boobs-around-the-world. Thank you to A...
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Best Blow Job Tips Pt II from 2022-10-21T01:00:04
From"The Tunnel"and the"Claudia"to"The Twist N Shout"and"The Cheater", tune in for advanced oral sex techniques designed to take pleasure to new heights. You'll learn to stimulate the inner penis, ...
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Better Blow Jobs Pt I from 2022-10-14T00:00:30
Boost your confidence and skills when it comes to giving (and receiving) oral sex. There are no sure-fire tips or techniques for better blow jobs, but Jess&Brandon have some insights to help you di...
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Hot-Husbanding Threesome Q from 2022-10-07T02:00:14
What is hot husbanding, and how can you pursue a threesome safely? Jess weighs in on a question from a hot-husband wife in this quickie episode. Save 50% off almost any item + FREE shipping + FR...
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Better in Bed: 15 Oral Sex Tips from 2022-09-30T02:00:06
Boost your sexual confidence and pleasure with some very specific tips and techniques for hotter oral (clitoral edition). From the"cross-my-fingers"to the"pussy pocket,"Jess shares 15+ approaches t...
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Non-Monogamy: One Couples’Story from 2022-09-23T00:00:49
Emma and Fin met in middle school, started dating in college, and have been practising non-monogamy for 15 years. They share their story of falling in love, navigating double dates with other coupl...
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How to be more understanding&supportive (and get more of what you need) from 2022-09-16T00:00:04
Do you know how to offer support when a loved one is stressed out? Do you feel supported when you're distressed? This week, we share an exercise to help you talk about; your specific needs to deep...
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The Most Common Sexual Fantasies (And How To Talk About Them) from 2022-09-09T00:00:15
Jess and Brandon discuss research - related to the most common sexual fantasies — from threesomes and group sex to sex with older partners and more. They also share a bit about their own fantasies,...
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How To Talk To Youth About Sex, Porn&Sexting from 2022-09-02T01:00:56
When should you start talking about porn (literacy)? How can you support a teen who has been sexting?How do you explain where babies come from to a 4-year-old? What is the first thing parents s...
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How to meet at a sex club from 2022-08-26T02:00:41
This week, we share advice for shy couples at a sex club -- how to meet new people, language to open conversations, and how to prep for awkward conversations. Shout out to AdamAndEve.com, out wond...
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Sex Q&A Quickie from 2022-08-19T01:00:48
Should I use Kegel balls? What's a good prostate toy that's not too big? Can I isolate my vaginal and anal muscles in pelvic floor contractions?Do I have a wedding ring fetish? Jess answers yo...
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Hooking Up Safely from 2022-08-12T00:00:25
How can you prepare for a hookup if you'll be partying with drugs&alcohol? What protection should you use for different types of sex?How do I talk to my teens about hookups? Jess discuss hookups...
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When the clitoris doesn’t work from 2022-08-05T00:00:42
Not everyone loves having their clitoris touched. In this episode, we hear from a listener who has a specific list of dos&don'ts - when it comes to sexual pleasure. We explore different types of or...
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Sex playlists! from 2022-07-29T02:00:10
What do sex and music have in common, and what's the best music to enhance your sexual experience? Jess and Brandon explore the erotic-musical connection and share their ideal sex playlists. Check ...
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How to get your libido back from 2022-07-22T01:00:54
Why does sexual desire plummet and how can you get it back? This week - Jess shares specific tools, tips, and strategies to reignite sexual desire. She also explores the concept of responsive vs. s...
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How To Stop Sexual Harassment from 2022-07-15T02:00:36
How can you recognize sexual harassment&what can you do to stop it? What language can you use to interrupt a harasser?How can you start a conversation with a stranger in a respectful way? We share...
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Fighting on vacation? How to have a happy (&hotter) trip from 2022-07-08T01:00:48
Want to have hotter sex on your summer vacation? It starts with a harmonious relationship. This week, we share tips and strategies to help you enjoy a smooth ride -- whether you're traveling by pla...
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Hookup Culture, Sugar-Dating&College Sex from 2022-07-01T02:00:41
What’s sex like on college campuses? Who is having more sex/hookups?What role does religion play in college sex? Have college students bridged the orgasm gap?Dr. Aditi Paul, author, researcher,...
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Discordant Couples: When One Partner Wants An Open Relationship from 2022-06-24T11:00:52
What do you do when one partner wants to open up the relationship; and the other wants to stay monogamous? How do you broach the topic?What issues tend to arise among discordant couples? Dr. Liz...
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Erotic Embodiments&Polymorphously Perverse Playgrounds of Pleasure from 2022-06-17T03:00:07
What are erotic embodiments? Why should we all consider erotic role models?How do we embrace and expand pleasure in our bodies? What are the benefits of learning about gender beyond the binary ...
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Trauma&Therapy&Writing As A form of Healing from 2022-06-10T03:00:53
How do you begin to process trauma? How do you know if you need to process past trauma?Is it ever too late to process trauma? What are some ways to process trauma beyond psychotherapy? Why do...
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How do I give my partner an orgasm? from 2022-06-03T04:00:34
From physical techniques to setting the scene and riling them up, Dr. Jess shares tips, strategies, and approaches to pleasure and orgasm. Be sure to shop WeVibe.com with code DRJESS to save on all...
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Masochism and The Pleasure of Pain from 2022-05-27T03:00:21
What is masochism and why can pain feel so good? How do you differentiate between safe indulgences and pain versus self-harm?How can you begin to explore masochism for your own pleasure? How do...
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Narcissism&Toxic TV with Tasha Bailey from 2022-05-20T03:00:09
What are some signs that you’re dealing with a narcissist? Does narcissism exist along a spectrum?How can you manage narcissistic behaviours — with a partner, parent, or other loved one? What d...
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Open Relationships: Psychology, Attachment Styles&Communication from 2022-05-13T12:00:08
How do you build compassionate open relationships? How do attachment styles show up in non-monogamous relationships?What is a non-hierarchical arrangement? How can you heal from previous trauma...
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Couples’ Therapy: Issues, Trends&Advice from 2022-05-06T03:00:59
What are the most common issues in therapy today? Should new couples go to therapy?How do you know if you’re a good fit or if you’re forcing it? How do you invest in the relationship without ov...
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Sexual Health Qs Answered: Erections, Orgasms, Hormones&More! from 2022-04-29T13:00:53
Board - certified urologist; Dr. Joshua Gonzalez joins us to answer your sexual health questions. What can I do about ED? Are there natural treatment options for someone on blood pressure meds?H...
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How To Intensify Sex: Elevated Erotic Feelings from 2022-04-22T03:00:25
Take your pleasure to the next level by exploring the emotions that intensify the experience. Your elevated erotic feelings (EEFs), can heighten physical pleasure, psychological thrill, emotional f...
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Emotional Seduction: The Core Erotic Feeling from 2022-04-15T04:00:57
How do you need to feel in order to get in the mood for sex? Relaxed? Loved? Safe? Desired? Your core erotic feeling (CEF) is the feeling you require in order to get in the mood for sex, and it ca...
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Sissification, Fetishes&Chastity Play from 2022-04-09T12:00:43
What is the appeal of sissification? How do you introduce kinky play to a partner?What are the 7 types of sissification? How can consensual humiliation become erotic?Sexologist&psychotherapist ...
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Safer Sex&STIs: What You Need To Know from 2022-04-01T22:00:25
How often should you get tested? What are the risks of oral sex?What are the risks of giving oral when you have a cold sore? How can you reduce the risk of STI transmission?What do STI tests en...
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How To Have Multiple Orgasms: Part II (For Clitorises) from 2022-03-25T14:00:04
How can I use my breath to explore multiple orgasms? Are there different types of multiple orgasms?How many orgasms can you have in one session? How do I have full-body orgasms?We explore these...
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Kinky Tapas: Psychological Kink, Dominance&More from 2022-03-20T03:00:23
Luna Matatas&Marla Renee Stewart join us to offer a sneak peek into their Kinky Tapas retreat. They answer all of our questions including: How do I begin to explore my dominant side?What’s the d...
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12 Strategies To Manage Rejection from 2022-03-11T04:00:42
Do you struggle with rejection? How does your response vary from the boardroom to the bedroom?Do layers of your identity affect how you deal with rejection? We surveyed our community regarding t...
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Rejection: What To Do When Someone Pulls Away from 2022-03-05T04:00:58
What should you do when a love interest pulls back out of nowhere? Perhaps you’re hitting it off and then all of a sudden things change — texts messages become sparser, response times are longer or...
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Healthy Relationships&Human Trafficking from 2022-02-25T04:00:29
Can you recognize the signs of human trafficking? Would you know what to do to support someone who is being victimized by a trafficker? February 22 is National Human Trafficking Awareness Day, so t...
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Quick Connection Exercise for Couples from 2022-02-18T04:00:08
Want to boost connection&appreciation in a matter of minutes? In this episode, we work our way through this short activity, One Thing I Love About You. You can try it with a partner or anyone else ...
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The Hottest Phone Sex Tips from 2022-02-12T02:30:32
Phone sex can be smokin’ hot — for auditory lovers, long-distance play partners, and anyone who wants to spice things up with dirty talk and fantasy exploration. Jess and Brandon share their though...
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How To Have Multiple Orgasms (Part I) from 2022-02-05T01:00:22
Want to explore dry orgasms, multiple orgasms, edging, and more? We’ve got specific strategies and techniques you can experiment with tonight — all in the name of multiplying pleasure. If you're ...
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How To Have Bigger, Better Orgasms from 2022-01-29T01:00:49
You don’t have to intensify your orgasms, but if you want to explore techniques to do so, we’ve got you covered. We share easy strategies you can try tonight! We also discuss the Foot Locker ejacul...
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Ghost-facing Q&A from 2022-01-21T04:00:05
Today’s quickie answers a few viewer questions about why ghost-facing is all the rage and how to spice things up when mobility is limited. Just a reminder, our wonderful sponsor Adam and Eve is of...
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(Quality) Time Management In Relationships from 2022-01-14T04:00:32
How much time should you spend together? What constitutes quality time?How do you talk about your need for alone time, and time apart? How do you divide your time when you’re busy and there never s...
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Relationship Resolutions for 2022 from 2022-01-07T04:00:46
Want more pleasure and passion? How about more mindful connections and a boost in self-esteem? We don’t have all the answers, but we’re sharing a few resolutions and intentions for the new year — f...
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Year-End Reflection Questions for Fulfilling Relationships from 2021-12-30T22:00:48
This week, we share (and try out!) a simple 3-step exercise to reflect upon 2021 and plan for a happy 2022. Coach Sonia Zarbatany also joins us to talk about our new coaching program and share her ...
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The Best Gift Ever 2021! It’s Free&Last-Minute Friendly from 2021-12-23T05:00:30
We’re doing it again! There is almost nothing better than sharing how you feel about your partner, and this “dating profile” gift is a simple, powerful gift that keeps on giving. Jess’ cousin Annab...
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Ethical Non-Monogamy&Open Relationships from 2021-12-17T04:00:15
How do you know if opening up is right for you? How do you tell your partner that you’re interested in ethical/consensual non-monogamy?What’s the difference between swinging and polyamory? What...
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Fetishes, Pleasure In Pain&Masturbation from 2021-12-10T04:00:53
We’re answering your questions this week including: Can you please talk about fart fetishes?Should I be worried that my new boyfriend finds pleasure in pain? Can you share some embarrassing wa...
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Emotional Expression: How To Open Up from 2021-12-03T04:00:28
This week we discuss therapy and emotional expression with the mental health practitioner and author of Man, Just Express Yourself, James Harris. He shares advice for those who are resistant to the...
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Hand Job Tips&One Hotwife’s Story from 2021-11-26T04:00:58
Want to give a hotter hand job? Check out our quick tips, and then join us as we switch gears and have a candid discussion with a Hotwife couple, John&Tiffany. They talk about their story -- from h...
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Finding Pleasure in Liberation: Gender, Body Image&Communication from 2021-11-19T04:00:12
What does it mean to be non-binary? How about gender fluid? And queer?Why does language matter? How can we reconnect with our bodies?How can we liberate ourselves from gender roles in the name ...
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Pegging, Fetishes&Sex Toys from 2021-11-12T04:00:01
What is pegging, and how do you get started? How do you choose the right harness and strap-on? What are the best positions for pegging? Why do you lose your erection during butt play? What are the ...
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Camming, Mental Health&Motherhood from 2021-11-05T03:00:46
Harper The Fox joins Jess&Brandon to share her story — 2 weeks postpartum. She talks about her work in camming, cartoon cam models, working on OnlyFans and Chaturbate while pregnant&the importance ...
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How To Seduce&Make Sex More Pleasurable from 2021-10-29T03:00:08
We love hearing from you, and this week, we answer your sex and relationship questions including: How do I help my partner relax and enjoy hotter sex?Should we open our relationship up to swingi...
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Porn Literacy, Communication&Setting Boundaries With Loved Ones from 2021-10-22T03:00:29
Sex educator Justine Ang Fonte joins us to talk about porn literacy, how parents can talk to kids about pleasure, and how we can set boundaries with friends, loved ones, and partners. She shares th...
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Date Night Special&Sex In South Beach from 2021-10-15T03:00:17
Dr. Sonjia, the author of the best-selling book Sex in South Beach, joins us to talk about the intersection of sexuality and medicine, how to have better sex, and the ultimate date night indulgence...
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Trauma Triggers In Relationships from 2021-10-08T03:00:47
What is a trauma trigger? How does it show up in the body?How can you recognize your triggers and communicate your needs to your partner? As the partner of someone who has experienced trauma, h...
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Tantra with Tyomi from 2021-10-01T03:00:38
Superstar Tyomi Morgan shares her advice and insights on Authentic Tantra and how you can integrate the practice into your life for more pleasure and connection — in and out of the bedroom. To lea...
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Sexuality: Activism, Anarchism&Academia from 2021-09-24T03:00:42
Maggie (our student intern), interviews Dr. Ryan Conrad, an activist, artist, and scholar. They discuss activism within academia, issues within queer politics, radical openness, sex work, and more....
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How To Manage Rejection from 2021-09-17T03:00
Can you handle rejection? Have you practised this essential life skill? What can you learn from rejection? And how can you check your avoidance behaviours? Couples and Intimacy Therapist, Brittann...
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The Body Scan from 2021-09-10T03:00:50
Feeling tense or distracted? Looking to feel more connected to your body and/or more present in the current moment? Carve out a few minutes to reset with our guided body scan from our Mindful Sex c...
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Happy Vaginas, Fibroids&Discharge from 2021-09-03T03:00:27
Board-certified gynecologic surgeon and author of This Is How You Vagina, Dr. Nicole Williams joins us to share her knowledge and wisdom on the following questions and more. What makes discharge...
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How To Let Go Of Resentment from 2021-08-27T03:00:03
Are you holding onto resentments? Is resentment holding you back from being present and full of joy? Do you have difficulty expressing how you feel or do you feel confined to specific roles? Tune ...
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The Business of Sex: How To Become A Sexologist from 2021-08-20T03:00:41
This week, we flip the scripts and our intern, Maggie Lee, interviews Jess about her journey into the field of sexuality. They talk education, equity, the business of sex and Jess shares her insigh...
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The Relationship Check-In from 2021-08-13T03:00:45
This week we share our relationship check-in -- short(ish), sweet and unscripted. Most couples invest in the start-up phase of their relationships (e.g. the wedding and honeymoon) and then they se...
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Q&A: Ruined Orgasms, Sleep Orgasms&More from 2021-08-06T03:00:58
We respond to your questions about sleep orgasms, ruined orgasms, forced orgasms, vaginal taste and more. Checkout our sponsor Adam&Eve. They have restarted the discount code DRJESS for 50% off al...
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Does Size Matter? from 2021-07-30T03:00:01
What’s really average when it comes to penis size and does it really matter? How do we get over our hang ups around size so that we can all feel confident in our bodies? Should you use certain posi...
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Better Boners: Erection Facts, Fiction&Advice from 2021-07-23T03:00:42
Urologist, Dr. Denise Asafu-Ajei, joins us to answer your questions about erections: How can you prevent erectile dysfunction?How do you treat erectile issues? How do you know if erectile issu...
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Sexual Communication Tips: Erection Loss, Libido Issues,&Pressure from 2021-07-16T03:00:52
This podcast is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app for couples and singles where they're a pioneer in allowing couples to explore dating together as a pair. Feeld is for everyone from the experi...
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How To Prep For A Threesome from 2021-07-09T03:00:43
In Part II of our threesome discussion, we share questions and prompts to consider before you have a threesome — for individuals and couples. We also share some of our listeners’ insights on threes...
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Threesomes: Who, What, Why&How? from 2021-07-02T03:00:16
Most people fantasize about threesomes, but not many people actually dive in. In part I of our Threesomes podcast, we dive into the data and get some practical advice from Justin Lehmiller who answ...
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Polyamory, Coming Out&Emotional Consent from 2021-06-25T03:00:33
Sydney Rae Chin joins us to share her personal experience as a closeted queer woman who grew up Chinese-American-Catholic. She shares some really valuable advice on how to navigate emotional consen...
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The Ultimate Guide To Dirty Talk: 60+ Tips&Examples from 2021-06-18T03:00:32
Are you comfortable talking dirty? Do you feel silly trying new lines, approaches and scenarios? You’re not alone. Jess and Brandon share their struggles (while sharing a few laughs) and offer guid...
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Signs Of Enmeshment In Relationships (And what you can do about it) from 2021-06-11T03:00:51
Dr. Lexx is a phenomenal sex therapist, educator, and media consultant. The #CouplesClinician runs The Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy, LLC and is an Amazon best-selling author! She’s the cool...
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How Much Does Sexual Compatibility Matter? from 2021-06-04T03:00:15
On this week's podcast, Jess&Brandon discuss sexual compatibility and share their personal experiences while addressing these Qs: How do know know if you’re sexually compatible?What can you do i...
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Anal Play: Positions, Prep&Pleasure! from 2021-05-28T03:00:22
Backdoor play can be highly erotic, but it can also be uncomfortable if you don’t know how to prep and play. Surgeon and sexual health expert, Dr. Evan Goldstein, joins us to share his expertise so...
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Kinky Sex, Race&Social Justice from 2021-05-21T03:00:53
Dr. Ali Mushtaq joins us to share his journey from a conservative upbringing to leather title holder and discusses how BDSM education can be more inclusive and justice-oriented. Some of the questio...
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Solo Sex, Dating, Edging&More from 2021-05-14T03:00:14
To celebrate Masturbation May we’re joined by Dr. Megan Stubbs, author of Playing without a partner, a single’s guide to sex, dating, and happiness, who weighs in on these questions and more! ...
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Exes, Erogenous Zones&Erotic Massage from 2021-05-07T03:20:45
This week we explore surprising hot spots on the body including the Million Dollar Mark as well as a variety of erotic touch techniques from the Liquid Trace to the Breath Kiss. We also answer a li...
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Episode 211: Sexual communication&research with Dr. Shemeka from 2021-04-30T00:19:44
Dr. Shemeka Thorpe is a brilliant sex researcher, post-doctoral fellow and the founder of the Minority Sex Report. She joins us to talk about her latest research and we answer some of your burning ...
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Sexual communication&research with Dr. Shemeka from 2021-04-30T00:19:44
Dr. Shemeka Thorpe is a brilliant sex researcher, post-doctoral fellow and the founder of the Minority Sex Report. She joins us to talk about her latest research and we answer some of your burning ...
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Erections, Orgasms&More! Advice from a Pelvic Floor Specialist from 2021-04-22T23:57:20
Got sexual and pelvic health questions? We’ve got answers! Dr. Rachel Gelman, Doctor of Physical Therapy and pelvic floor specialist returns to answer your questions related to sex, pleasure and pe...
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Eroticize Daily Interactions: 20 Actionable Tips For Busy Couples from 2021-04-16T08:00:44
How do you keep things exciting in the midst of a repetitive routine? How can adults be more playful (because playfulness is associated with happier relationships&hotter sex)? What simple changes c...
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Sex After Childbirth: Techniques&Strategies From a Perinatal Therapist from 2021-04-09T09:00:38
What are the causes of pain postpartum? How can you soothe your own pain and what exercises and massage techniques can help? What does self massage entail — both directly and indirectly? And how do...
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How to Forgive Yourself After You’ve Cheated from 2021-04-02T09:00:20
A listener shares their story and feelings after having had cheated on their long-term partner. They ask for help managing the guilt and shame and Jess&Brandon weigh in on the topic with a discussi...
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Fetishes as Healing&How to Build Attraction from 2021-03-25T09:00:26
Adam Maurer joins us to crush on Brandon, sass Jess (with love) and answer your sex questions including: How do I pick between partners — a safe partner versus one with whom the sex is hotter?Ho...
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Fetishes, Butt Play&Does Size Matter? from 2021-03-19T09:00:59
The brilliant Luna Matatas joins us to answer your sex and pleasure questions including: How do you stimulate the prostate?What are the best anal toys for beginners? What are lactation fetishe...
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How to Break Up With A Friend from 2021-03-12T10:00:11
Dr. Shari Nicole, Psychologist and Key Consultant of Everyday Psychology, joins us to talk about the importance and challenge of adult friendships. We discuss cutoff culture, attachments styles, bo...
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What You Don’t Know About HIV from 2021-03-05T10:00:44
Thanks to medical research and breakthroughs, we now have the tools to end the HIV epidemic. Unfortunately, we’re still a long way off on account of stigma, misinformation and a lack of awareness w...
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Trauma Responses in Sex&Relationships from 2021-02-26T10:00:26
How are trauma and liberation linked? How does trauma show up in the body? And how can you begin to heal?How does trauma play out in sex and relationships? How can you support a partner who has...
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Reproductive Justice: Power, Positions&Pleasure from 2021-02-19T10:00:42
The unapologetic sexologist, Michelle Hope, joins us to chat about HIV stigma, forced sterilization, COMMUNITYx, reproductive justice and more. We also address listener questions about anal sex, po...
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The Apology Languages, Sexual Initiation Techniques&Communication Tips from 2021-02-12T10:00:15
This week Jess and Brandon discuss a new project with Walgreens related to PrEP, medication that reduces the sexual transmission of HIV by over 99%. They discuss Jess’ early work in sex education a...
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Polyamory, Toxic Monogamy,&Ethical Non-Monogamy: What Therapists&Practitioners Need to Know from 2021-02-05T10:00:17
Kevin Patterson&Dr. Liz Powell join us to talk about their new course, Unf*ck Your Polyamory Pro — for both individuals, couples, groups and professionals. They discuss shame, stigma, stereotypes, ...
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Dating with Herpes: Disclosure, Stigma&Healing from 2021-01-29T10:00:36
Courtney Brame founded Something Positive for Positive People after his own herpes diagnosis and through his non-profit and podcast, he shares real stories and resources for people with positive ST...
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Somatic Therapy, Sexual Healing&FGM/C from 2021-01-22T10:00:36
Psychotherapist, Farzana Doctor, joins us to discuss her latest novel, Seven. She shares her own story as a survivor and an activist and discusses the role the body can play in healing. She also sh...
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Yoga Nidra, Rest&Sleep Habits: How They Affect Sex&Relationships from 2021-01-15T10:00:09
This week we explore the research that connects sleep and rest with sex and relationships. Dionne Roberts joins us as we discuss: How your sleep affects your connection and conflictHow Yoga Nidr...
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Overcome Shame&Oppression in the Name of Self-Love&Pleasure from 2021-01-08T10:00:18
How does a survival mindset affect sexuality? How does history and oppression shape sexuality for Black women? How do you learn to love your body and give yourself permission to embrace pleasure? H...
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G-Spots, G-Zones&Squirting from 2020-12-31T10:00:05
This is your ultimate guide to the G-Spot, G-Zone, ejaculation, squirting and more! We answer all of your questions including: Can everyone have a squirter orgasm?How do you learn to squirt? W...
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The Best Gift Ever! It’s Free&Last-Minute Friendly from 2020-12-24T14:02:34
There is almost nothing better than sharing how you feel about your partner, and this “dating profile” gift is a simple, but powerful gift that keeps on giving. This week, Jess’ cousins Annabella&D...
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Former Playboy Advisor Weighs in on Full-Body Pleasure from 2020-12-18T14:00:32
After 46 years of writing about sexuality and the more than 12,000 sex questions answered, Michael Castleman is well positioned to weigh in on all things sex. He joins us to discuss his experience ...
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Food Fights, Orgasms&Mindful Masturbation from 2020-12-11T14:02:57
In this episode, we chat about our own issues with food as a couple — fights from our past, lessons we’ve learned, and the ways in which individual and cultural differences influence our expectatio...
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Technoference: How to Talk About Tech&Ditch Bad Habits from 2020-12-04T14:02
Do you talk about the role technology plays in your relationships — for better or worse? This week, we discuss some of the ways in which technology interferes with connection and explore an importa...
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Attachment Styles, Overcoming Anxiety&How to Feel More Secure from 2020-11-27T14:07:34
Psychologist Dr. Gina Di Giulio joins us to discuss Covid anxiety, CBT, and the ways in which attachment styles affect our relationships. She walks us through the three dimensions of attachment the...
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Bisexuality, Religious Shame&Might-As-Well Relationships from 2020-11-20T14:04:52
Sexologist Ashely Cobb joins us to talk about her new program Hoe and Tell as well as to answer a ton of sex&relationship questions including: What is pegging?What sexual secrets are your friend...
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Sex Clubs, Open Relationships&Setting Boundaries with Taylor Nolan from 2020-11-13T14:02:42
We talk labia, penis size, public relationships, consensual non-monogamy and more with Taylor Nolan. Taylor is a psychotherapist who appeared on ABC's The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise. She hos...
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All About Your Penis: Pleasure, Curves, Diet, Erection&More! from 2020-11-06T14:02:36
How’s your penis doing? How’s your diet and how does it relate to the pleasure you experience? And how can you have better anal sex? Sexual Medicine fellow&LGBTQ advocate, Dr. Josh Gonzalez, MD, jo...
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Lingerie Humiliation, Sex Sans Erection&Sexual Worthiness from 2020-10-30T13:02:31
The brilliant Dr. Lexx Brown-James joins us to share their insights and answers your sex&relationship questions including: How to deal with feelings of rejection.What’s the real difference betwe...
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Astrology of Sex&Relationships from 2020-10-23T13:02:38
Author and Astrologist Mecca Woods joins Jess and Brandon to weigh-in on whether or not you should consider your Zodiac sign in dating, and shares her insights on: The relational and sexual stre...
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Pleasure Mapping, Clitoral Response&Redefining Healthcare from 2020-10-16T12:00:21
Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist and sexuality educator. She joins Jess&Brandon to discuss all things sex, pleasure, wellness and bourbon! How can pleasu...
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Vaginismus, Delayed Ejaculation, Penis Health&Posture: Change Your (Sex) Life Via Your Pelvic Floor from 2020-10-09T13:02:05
We’re joined by pelvic health physiotherapist, Michiko Caringal, who answers all of our questions about how the pelvic floor affects sexual health including: Why might ejaculation be painful?How...
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Intensify Pleasure&Orgasms! from 2020-10-02T13:02:07
OBGYN Dr. Nicole E. Williams joins us to answer listener questions, discuss sexual wellness and weigh in on how to: Have sex on your period (if you want to)Manage heavy bleeding due to fibroids ...
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“I Love You, Man.” Tantra, Emotional Expression&Opening Up from 2020-09-25T13:02:15
Emeka Menakaya joins Jess&Brandon to talk about how his studies in tantra have opened him up to improved relationships all around. He shares his insights on how cis men can be more vulnerable and o...
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Starting Over After A Breakup from 2020-09-18T13:02:24
Amira de Vera joins Jess on the podcast this week to share her experience after a breakup with a long term partner at the age of 34. They discuss how she went from lying on the floor crying to feel...
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Stripping, Strap-Ons, Porn&Digital Intimacy from 2020-09-11T13:02:18
Andre Shakti joins Jess and Brandon to share their journey and story as a stripper, sex worker, educator and activist. They discuss: What Andre loves about stripping and what drew her into the s...
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Jeannie Mai On Forgiveness&Living Happily Ever After from 2020-09-04T13:20:06
Emmy-award winning, Jeannie Mai, host of The Real, joins us to talk about love, relationships, and moving on via forgiveness. She is newly-engaged (to Jeezy), full of energy, good vibes and insight...
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Sex Talk With My Mom: Cougars, Confidence&Grieving The Loss of a Spouse from 2020-08-28T13:02:08
Mother-son duo Karen Lee and Cam join Jess and Brandon to share their story of loss, love and podcasting. They chat about: Grieving the loss of Karen Lee’s husband and Cam’s dadHow to have more ...
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Top Tips for Oral Sex, Riding&Sliding Into DMs With Grace from 2020-08-21T13:02:22
Samia Burton, founder of Sexual Essentials, joins us to share her unique experience and insights as an unconventional sex educator. We discuss: Deep throat yoga-yawningOral sex techniques Bui...
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WAP: Wet AP&How To Be Your Best Sexual Self from 2020-08-14T13:02:11
Sexologist Shamyra is back and she’s here to share her knowledge and thoughts on Cardi B’s WAP and so much more including: MysogynoirPick Me culture What “Big D” really meansWhat we can learn ...
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Brandon Answers Your Sex&Relationship Questions from 2020-08-07T11:40:51
We’ve compiled some of your questions for Brandon and he weighs in sharing his personal experiences in response to the following: You’ve opened up about some heavy feelings on the podcast and ta...
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Navigating Interracial Relationships: One Couple’s Experience from 2020-07-31T12:00:20
Jess is Chinese-Jamaican-Irish-Canadian. Brandon is Canadian of British descent. Race and culture have always been central topics in our relationship and this week, we’re sharing our perspective as...
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Dealing with Trauma, Learning to Love Your Body&Flirtation Techniques from 2020-07-24T13:01
This week, Jess teams up with April Lampert and Amy Baldwin from the Shameless Sex Podcast to tackle listener questions including: 1. How can I deal with sensitive genitals (e.g. labia)?2. How can...
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Painful Sex Is NOT In Your Head: Holistic Solutions From a Pelvic Pain Doc from 2020-07-17T13:00:32
Sexual pain is not in your head. Dr. Sonia Bahlani, founder of PelvicPainDoc.com and author of The Holistic Guide to Navigating Pelvic Pain joins us to answer so many questions including: How do...
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Testosterone, Muscle Memory&Lasting Longer in Bed from 2020-07-10T12:04:55
Urologist and sexual wellness expert Dr. Jed Kaminetsky joins us to talk about all things sex including: Multiple approaches to lasting longer in bedThe role or testosterone in sexual desire and...
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The 11 Sex Personality Types from 2020-07-03T13:02:28
Sex therapist Vanessa Marin helps Jess and Brandon to explore their sex personality types and how we can use them to better understand our own needs and our partners’. The 11 sex personality types...
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Cannabis, Endometriosis&Sex from 2020-06-26T13:02:48
Antuanette Gomez, CEO of Pleasure Peaks joins Jess&Brandon to talk about sex and cannabis. Pleasure Peaks is a sexual health company that develops products for women to have an optimal and healthy ...
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The Ultimate Guide to Seduction&Foreplay: An Exercise for Singles and Couples from 2020-06-19T14:01:43
Marla&Jess wrote a book, The Ultimate Guide to Foreplay&Seduction! They’re having a virtual launch party to celebrate: Wednesday, June 24th at 7pm EST. Register to attend for free! In this week’s...
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Empathy Is A Superpower: How to Cultivate Trust, Have More Fulfilling Relationships&Work Through Trauma from 2020-06-12T13:00:01
Marriage and family therapist Shadeen Francis joins us to talk about X-Men, therapy, vulnerability and emptying the jug. She helps us to explore the following questions: How can the “emptying th...
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Modern Whore: One Sex Worker’s Story&Insights from 2020-05-29T13:02:06
Andrea Werhun, author of Modern Whore, joins Jess and Brandon to share her personal story as a sex worker, performer and author. She discusses her beautiful journey into sex work and how her work h...
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Sex Ed The Musical&Sexual Golden Tickets from 2020-05-22T13:02:18
Wendy Miller, host of Sex Ed The Musical Podcast, joins us to discuss her experience as the former Head of Production with PlayboyTV. She shares stories from the Playboy set shoots as well as insig...
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Your Diagnonsense: How to Break the Avoidance Cycle&Set Your Own Relationship Goals from 2020-05-15T13:02:17
Therapist Todd Baratz joins Jess to discuss the costs and potential benefits of avoidance behaviours. He shares his thoughts on: The ways in which avoidance can be functionalThe stress and anxie...
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How to Overcome Sexual Shame from 2020-05-08T13:00:49
Messages related to sexual shame are ingrained from a young age and they affect how we feel about our bodies, how we interact with sexual partners and how we experience sexual pleasure. This week, ...
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Pelvic Floor Health: Perineal Massage, Postpartum, Peeing&De-Stressing Your Vagina from 2020-05-01T13:05:22
Pelvic floor physiotherapist, Kate Roddy, joins Jess to answer questions and share advice for keeping your pelvic floor as healthy as possible. They discuss: How to destress your vaginaHow to pr...
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A Conversation for Lovers from 2020-04-24T13:05:12
Jess&Brandon try one of the “Lovers Inquiries” from her new book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewart. They discuss ways to eroticize daily interactions ...
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The Good Sex Diet from 2020-04-21T13:00:40
Let’s talk about food and sex and dismantle diet culture. Food and sex have so much in common and so many of us (Jess included) consider food an important component of our core love languages. Lisa...
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Can Conflict Save Your Relationship? from 2020-04-17T13:00:18
Do you avoid or lean into conflict? Do you fight to win or fight to understand? Do you speak up when you’re unhappy? This week, CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke of Thrive! Inc. join Jess and Bra...
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How to Get in the Mood for Sex from 2020-04-14T13:02:54
In this quickie episode, we chat about the fact that our interest in sex has declined since the onset of social isolation. We discuss strategies for creating “responsive” sexual desire and managing...
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Top Tips for Digital Dating from 2020-04-10T13:00:16
Dating coach and matchmaker, Carmelia Ray joins Jess and Brandon to discuss: What holds most people back from finding a great matchHow dating has changed since we’ve been instructed to shelter i...
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Do You Get a Say in Your Partner’s Porn Habits? from 2020-04-06T16:13:08
Since we’re trapped at home in isolation, we decided to record an extra episode this week. We talk about a fight we had yesterday and how stress levels are affecting the way we interact. We also sp...
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How We Manage Our Relationship in Isolation from 2020-04-03T13:10:55
We’ve been isolating at home in Toronto for 19 days now and we thought we’d share how we’re doing as a couple — what’s working and what isn’t. We talk about some of the conflicting feelings we’re e...
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Getting Naked With Tova Leigh: Monogamy, Motherhood&More from 2020-03-27T13:01
Tova Leigh joins Jess to share her journey as a mother, woman and author of Effed at 40. They discuss: How she got over her body image issues after birthHow to care less about what other people ...
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Your Quaran-Team: How to Manage the Stress of COVID-19 from 2020-03-18T20:12:29
Therapist and writer, Jake Ernst, joins Jess and Brandon to discuss: Strategies for assembling your support team (AKA quaran-team) during this stressful timeApps that can help you to manage stre...
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What We Can Learn from Equine Horse Therapy from 2020-03-13T13:54:11
How can equine therapy with horses help couples improve communication? How can horses support survivors of trauma? What is vaginismus and what are some approaches to managing painful sex? Dr. Maha ...
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Core Erotic Feeling, Gang-Bangs&Spankings from 2020-03-06T14:01:45
Award winning sex educator, Tristan Taormino, joins Jess to talk about spanking, gang bangs, eye candy, social justice and mind-effing. Why you might want to attend Sex Down South this year...How ...
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Why We Love Dirty Underwear! from 2020-02-28T14:30:37
On this week's podcast, panty-peddler, Lacey Bloom, joins Jess to talk about her experience selling used underwear online. What makes it so exciting and how can used underwear help to destigmatize ...
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How to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship from 2020-02-21T14:30:38
The toll of intimate partner violence struck close to home this week and with this weighing on her mind, Jess discusses nine strategies for supporting a loved one who is dealing with an abusive par...
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Orgasmic Meditation: A First-Hand Report from 2020-02-14T16:47:43
Sex writer, Suzannah Weiss, joins Jess to share her personal experience with orgasmic meditation. She discusses: An alternative view of orgasmThe very specific technique for “orgasmic meditation...
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A Rant About Micro-Cheating from 2020-02-07T21:05:22
This is a six minute quickie! And it’s a bit of a rant about micro-cheating. From deep-liking to chatting with an ex, what behaviours are considered cheating? And how do you deal with a partner who...
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How to Manage Infidelity As A Couple from 2020-01-31T14:13:38
George’s wife cheated on him — twice. He still remembers the smell of the room they were in when she told him 13+ years ago. George joins us to share his story of how worked through the infidelity...
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Kink, Energy Orgasms&Multi-Dimensional Body Scans from 2020-01-24T14:05:45
Evguenia joins Jess&Brandon to share her personal experience with kink play, polyamory, and energy orgasms. She shares a short erotic story (The Decadent Play Party) from her book, Alice in Polylan...
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Amazing Anal&Prostate Play from 2020-01-17T17:50:01
Author&Sex Educator Carlyle Jansen joins us to discuss anal sex, prostate pleasure and sex toys. Carlyle shares her insights and tips regarding: How to stimulate the perineal spongeThe best toys...
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Specific Strategies for Talking to Teens About Sex, Sexting&More from 2020-01-10T14:10:35
Author and sex education expert, Dr. Karen Rayne is a wealth of information and has developed specific and actionable strategies to help you talk to your kids and teens about sex and other difficul...
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Sexual Values Questionnaire Part II from 2020-01-03T17:34:21
Jess&Brandon complete the Sexual Values Questionnaire and continue learning about themselves and one another. They discuss how they feel about the physical, practical, emotional and spiritual compo...
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How to Better Understand Your Sexual Values (And Your Partner’s) from 2019-12-27T14:00:46
Happy holidays! In this episode, Jess and Brandon use the Sexual Values Questionnaire to explore their own sexual values. Brandon shares his experiences learning about sex and gender through sport,...
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The Most Common Couple Fights&How to Manage Conflict This Holiday Season from 2019-12-20T14:11:11
What are the most common issues couples fight about? How can you argue less and effectively manage conflict? How do you find middle ground when it comes to tough topics like money, sex and time? Ho...
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Full-Body Orgasms&How to Be Grounded in Your Body from 2019-12-13T14:00:49
M'kali-Hashiki has a complex sexual history including personal experience with polyamory, non-monogamy, BDSM, and achieving mystical states during sex. She considers herself a “sexual outlaw”, as w...
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Fat Sex, Topping&Bottoming and How To Be a Dominant in Bed from 2019-12-06T14:00:17
Nikki DaVaughn joins Jess to share insights on Domination, dirty talk, fat sex and body confidence. We cover: Scripts you can use if you want to try being more Dominant with your lover.The diffe...
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Learning to Love Yourself — Especially When Dealing With Loss, Grief&Shame from 2019-11-29T14:00:16
Dr. Ava Cadell shares her journey from growing up in an orphanage and surviving assault to working as a nude model and becoming one of the most well-known sexologists in the world. Ava shares a wea...
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Holiday Kink, Rewiring the Brain, ABDL&Setting Boundaries from 2019-11-22T14:10:09
Licensed therapist Carlos Cavazos is a firecracker and an incredible source of insights and easy-to-use advice for more fulfilling relationships and hotter sex. In this episode we discuss: How t...
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How the “Passion Interview” Can Improve Your Relationship from 2019-11-15T14:00:57
The Passion Interview is a tool used for couples to spark passion, improve understanding, and deepen intimacy. It’s designed to shift the conversation away from the mundane to the exploratory. Jess...
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In(Compatibility): When You Want an Open Relationship&Your Partner Doesn’t from 2019-11-08T15:21:04
How do you approach your partner about an open relationship? What do you do if one partner wants monogamy and the other wants consensual non-monogamy? How do you get your partner to talk about sex ...
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Sex&Disability–A Personal Journey from 2019-11-01T13:05:14
How do we define disability inclusively? How does disability affect sex and relationships? And why should we consider incontinence a public health issue? Mari Ramsawakh joins Jess and Brandon to re...
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How Does ADHD Affect Sex&Relationships? from 2019-10-25T13:00:59
How does ADHD affect sex, communication and intimate relationships? How do you break break the “parent-child” dynamic in relationships so you can focus on being partners and lovers? Psychologist an...
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Expand Pleasure, Navigate Trauma, Manage Anxiety&Have More Fulfilling Relationships from 2019-10-18T13:00:41
Interdisciplinary sex therapist, Jamila M. Dawson, joins Jess and Brandon in to discuss how sexual pleasure can be part of healing from trauma, the elements of happy relationships, how to be emotio...
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Porn as Activism, Fetishes&Parenthood As a Porn Star from 2019-10-11T13:00:32
Porn performer and Master Fetish Trainer, King Noire, joins Jess and Brandon to share his story as a community activist, porn star, hip hop artist and father. He discusses fetishes, sexual oppressi...
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Touchless Orgasms from 2019-10-04T13:10:15
Nikki Morgan shares insights to help you consider new ways to approach orgasm using your breath, movements, thoughts and more. She discusses ways to step outside your comfort zone and be more posit...
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PechaKucha: Kink&BDSM with Honestly Nae from 2019-09-27T13:00:28
How do you practice safe, sane, consensual kink “in color”? What is fire-play? How do you navigate master-slave relationships? And how do you understand a submissive’s needs? Shanae Adams aka Hones...
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Jet Setting Jasmine: Mother, Porn Performer, Director&Licensed Therapist from 2019-09-20T13:10:19
Jet Setting Jasmine is a licensed clinical therapist, co-owner of Royal Fetish Films (an adult film production company), and an adult entertainer. She combines her love of the arts, film and sex ed...
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How to Deal With Insecurities, Neediness and Apologies from 2019-09-13T13:00:06
Sex therapist Shamyra Howard joins Jess to talk about how to have happier relationships — with yourself, family, friends and partner(s). She talks about how to apologize effectively and why your pa...
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How to Have Happier Relationships: JODO, Boundaries,&5 Questions to Keep You On Track from 2019-09-06T13:00:36
Austin-based sex therapist, Adam Maurer, joins Jess to share straightforward insights for happier relationships. They discuss JODO, setting boundaries, managing let-down, dealing with personality d...
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Overcome Sexual Fear, Open Up and Share Deeper Intimacy from 2019-08-30T13:00:57
Jess discusses emotional vulnerability, sexual shame, strategies for discussing sexual needs, why some people cheat and the Madonna/whore dichotomy with Toronto-based sex therapist, Kat Kova. Kat a...
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Technoference&Cheating from 2019-08-23T13:00:36
How can you reduce the negative effects of technology on your relationship? And how can you move on and rebuild after you’ve cheated on your partner? Jess and Brandon share their thoughts in respon...
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Sex&Intimacy After a Baby–Insights From A New Dad from 2019-08-16T13:00:01
Our old friend Mikey Singer joins us to talk about how to prioritize intimacy and sex after you’ve had a baby. Parenthood changes the household dynamic, but it can be for the better. To learn more...
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Overcome Sexual Repression from 2019-08-09T13:00:06
How do know if you’re sexually repressed or if your partner is holding you back? What is sexual empowerment and how can you overcome repression to feel more empowered? Jess and Brandon discuss thei...
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Bringing Fantasy to Reality: Public Sex from 2019-08-02T13:00:03
Jess&Brandon address a listener who wants to “convince” his wife to fulfill his fantasy. They discuss the appeal of public sex and how you can build upon your fantasies in a safe way and incorporat...
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Emotional Literacy&How to Handle Rejection from 2019-07-26T14:02:33
Karen B.K. Chan, joins Jess and Brandon on the podcast to discuss rejection. How can we manage rejection? And when we feel rejected, how can we embrace it? How do we develop resilience and emotiona...
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Sex&Pleasure After Sexual Assault from 2019-07-19T13:00:08
Julie Peters, author of Want: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault, shares her insights regarding recovery and the return to desire, sexuality, trust, and pleasu...
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Dr. Donaghue on Toxic Monogamy, Body Neutrality&Erectile Disappointment from 2019-07-12T13:00:13
Loveline's host, Dr. Chris Donaghue joins Jess and Brandon to share insights from his latest book, Rebel Love: Break The Rules, Destroy Toxic Habits and Have the Best Sex of Your Life. They discuss...
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What We Fight About&3 Ways We Resolve Arguments from 2019-07-05T13:01:33
In this episode, we talk about a fight we had the other day and our top three strategies for resolving conflict in our marriage. We also discuss Airpod sex, Canadian open relationships&millennial m...
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How to Prepare For Marriage, Get Over an Ex and Repair a “Broken Relationship” from 2019-06-28T13:00:05
Jess and Brandon weigh in on listener questions related to breakups, rough patches, managing jealousy in the age of social media and wedding planning anxieties. **Please find a rough transcript be...
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Dating, Confidence,&Sex Appeal–A Burlesque Dancer’s Perspective from 2019-06-21T13:00:41
Burlesque sensation, Pastel Supernova, joins Jess and Brandon to talk about her experiences with dating, love and relationships. She shares insights on building self confidence, loving your body, a...
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Foot Fetishes, Sex Smells, Dating Profiles&Creating Relationship “Distance” from 2019-06-18T18:36:38
Why do we develop fetishes and how can you talk to your partner about a fetish? How can you discuss spending time apart with a new partner after you’ve moved in together? Jess and Brandon discuss t...
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Emotional (Un)availability: How to Get Your Partner to Open Up from 2019-06-07T13:00:24
Jess and Brandon discuss what emotional unavailability might look like and they challenge the “fix-it” mentality. They share specific strategies for overcoming emotional unavailability including la...
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Help! I Can’t Orgasm With My Partner from 2019-05-31T14:00:01
Jess and Brandon respond to a listener who can orgasm on her own, but not with her partner. They share tips, insights, personal stories as well as practical mindfulness strategies you can try tonig...
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Vaginismus: Painful Sex from 2019-05-24T14:00:18
What are the causes, symptoms and treatment options for Vaginismus? Jess shares resources and chats with her friend Meredith who shares her story of successfully overcoming Vaginismus. As mentione...
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How To Talk To Your Kids About Porn from 2019-05-17T14:00:05
Jess and Brandon talk about celebrity relationships (again!). Then Nadine Thornhill joins them to share practical advice on how to talk to your kids about sex, porn and body image. Follow Nadine o...
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Why We All Seek Attention&Feel Insecure: The Ayesha&Steph Curry Case from 2019-05-10T14:00:37
Do you have a partner who craves attention? Do you love getting attention? How do you feel when your partner gets attention from outside sources? Jess and Brandon discuss the Ayesha and Steph Curry...
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Ambiamory, Polyamory, Open Relationships from 2019-05-03T14:00:28
Are you monogamous? Consensually non-monogamous? Ambiamorous? Polyamorous? Have you explored all of your options? And what can you learn from relationship types that are different than your own? Ke...
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Here’s How Diet, Sleep, Superfoods and Lifestyle Choices Affect Your Libido from 2019-04-26T14:00:43
Naturopathic doctor, Dr. Olivia Rose, shares insights on how diet, supplements, herbs, acupuncture and sleep affect your sex drive and overall health. She reveals what foods you should eat in the m...
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Defensive Partners, Toxic Relationships, Shrinkage and Porn Habits from 2019-04-18T21:12:52
How do you deal with a defensive partner? How do you manage a partner who lashes out in arguments? Is shrinkage real? What are some signs of a toxic relationship? Do I get a say in my partner’s por...
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Body Language in Dating&Mating from 2019-04-12T13:00:59
How should you adjust your body language during an argument with your partner? What strategies can we use to become active listeners? What role does body language play with single daters? Tune in n...
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Sex Q&A: Anal, Hot-Wifing, Sexless Marriages&Much More from 2019-04-05T18:46:58
Jess and Brandon answer your questions: Is it normal to want your wife to be a hot-wife? Should I use an enema before anal? What should I do if I can’t get it in? Can a sexless marriage work? Can a...
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38 Sex Questions Answered from 2019-03-29T14:06:11
It’s our 100th episode! We’re answering rapid-fire questions on everything from jealousy, uneven breasts, and birth control to penis flavours, positions and sex toys. Tune in and keep the questions...
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Sex Dolls, Semen, Squirting and Nervousness from 2019-03-22T13:00:52
Jess and Brandon answer listener questions about swallowing, squirting, nervousness, physical affection and sex dolls. Please find a rough summary of the podcast. We’re working on a transcript whi...
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Dating Advice with Dr. Donna from 2019-03-15T13:45
How much should appearance matter in dating? How do you overcome fears of rejection and develop high self-worth? How do we address racism, colorism and discrimination in dating? Dr. Donna and Jess ...
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Blow Jobs, Crushes, Sex Education&Cheating Clauses from 2019-03-08T14:27:22
How important is oral sex? Is it okay to have a crush on a co-worker if I’m married? Are ‘cheating clauses’ healthy for relationships? How do I get over a crush? Why does sex education matter? Jess...
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Sex-Positive Parenting&How To Talk To Your Kids About Porn from 2019-03-01T14:00:21
How do you talk to your kids about porn? How do you teach consent from a young age? How do you have awkward conversations about sex? What does it mean to be a sex-positive parent? Melissa Pintor Ca...
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Sex&Dating With Herpes from 2019-02-22T15:34:46
Courtney Brame joins Jess and Brandon to talk about sex, relationships and dating after an STI diagnosis. He shares insights on how to disclose, provides advice on sexual communication and talks ab...
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Dating Dilemma from 2019-02-08T14:43:20
What should you do if your partner says one thing, but does another? How do you talk about the fact that they're avoiding sex? How do you address social media behaviour that makes you uncomfortable...
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Celebrity Relationship Advice–Good, Bad&Ugly from 2019-02-01T14:00:06
Steve Harvey says you should act like a lady&think like a man. Taylor Swift suggests playing games. Jada Pinkett-Smith says she’s nobody’s watcher. Adam Levine claims you should always let a woman ...
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Getting Naked For Love! from 2019-01-18T14:17:37
Do you love your body? Loving your body is a radical statement in a culture and economy that feeds on body insecurity. Jess and Brandon want you to love your body, so they're sharing stories, insig...
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How To Use Gratitude To Improve Relationships from 2019-01-14T20:55:22
Jess and Brandon discuss how they’re feeling in light of their dog’s cancer diagnosis and talk about the role gratitude plays in their lives and relationships. They share five specific strategies f...
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Listener Questions on Hygiene, Sexual Compatibility&How to Be the *Best* He’s Ever Had from 2019-01-04T17:02:13
How can I ensure I’m the BEST he’s ever had? How do we know if we’re sexually compatible? How do I bring up hygiene before oral sex? How can I make sure our sex life is “fair”? Jess and Brandon tac...
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The Best Gift Ever (For Your Lover) from 2018-12-21T18:23:39
Jess and Brandon talk about love languages, the holidays and their reaction to “You May Want To Marry My Husband”. They also share the dating profiles they wrote for one another and why they love t...
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Holiday Harmony Tips from 2018-12-14T14:00:37
Jess and Brandon answer listener questions about how to have a happier relationship this holiday season. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts.Rough Transcript: This is a computer-gene...
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Touch-Workshops, Couples “Cruising” and an Alternative View of Swinging from 2018-12-07T05:00:54
They sold everything and moved to Mexico. They’ve touched over 6000 people. And they’ve been swingers from the start. Lauren and Richard, from the Room 77 Podcast, chat with Jess and Brandon about ...
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Q&A with the Relationship Nurse from 2018-11-30T05:00:17
LaDonna Wright, creator of the adult game, Secret VII, joins Jess to address relationships and sexual health questions. Secret VII can be purchased here or on Amazon.Follow LaDonna on Facebook, In...
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Adult Film Star Kendra Lust on Confidence&Modern Relationships from 2018-11-23T18:31:24
Former Registered Nurse and Award-Winning Adult Film Star Kendra Lust shares insights and lessons on sexual confidence, working in porn, and how to have a lasting, happy marriage. Follow Kendra on...
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Sex&Cannabis from 2018-11-16T05:00:28
Are you curious about sex and cannabis? Do you understand between the difference between THC and CBD? And did you know that you can experience cannabis pleasure without getting “high”? Cannasexual,...
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A Glimpse Into Jess&Brandon’s Relationship–Part II from 2018-11-09T17:44:14
Jess and Brandon continue the “partner interview” and share details about their greatest fears, fondest memories, where they hope to be in ten years and what they’re working on in terms of self-dev...
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A Glimpse Into Jess and Brandon’s Relationship–Part I from 2018-11-02T04:00:02
Jess and Brandon interview one another in an attempt to better understand their own relationship. They talk about their initial attraction and what they want to work on in their relationship. This ...
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All About Polyamory from 2018-10-26T04:00:59
Is polyamory on the rise? Are throuples the new norm? And what’s the difference between polyfidelity, non-hierarchical polyamory, and relationship anarchy? Jenny Yuen, author of Polyamorous, joins...
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Face-Sitting 101 from 2018-10-19T04:00:57
Dee H. Black&Ladyee Vee join Jess in Atlanta to talk about their interactive Face-Sitting workshops. They share tips and techniques for this powerful sex act as well as insights into why it is gain...
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Secrets of a Phone Sex Operator from 2018-10-12T04:00:53
Sex educator Domina Franco, a former semi-pro wrestler and phone sex operator, joins Jess and Brandon at The Sex Expo in Brooklyn. They discuss phone sex, Dominance, submission, dirty talk and how ...
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Killing Kittens Sex Party from 2018-10-05T04:00:35
Are you curious about sex parties? What can you expect from a woman-focused sex party experience? Do you have to get naked and/or have sex? And what’s up with the name, Killing Kittens, anyway? Fou...
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Getting Kinky With Bex from 2018-09-28T04:00:45
What is kinky sex? What goes down at kink camp? And how can you kink up your sex life? Bex Caputo joins Jess and Brandon to share his experience, insight, and expertise. Bex has been a proud and un...
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A Bisexual Couple’s Story from 2018-09-21T04:00:42
What is the bisexual double-standard? How does erasure affect bisexuals? And how does bisexuality work in the Swing Lifestyle? Angelique and John join Jess to discuss their experiences as a bisexua...
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All About Tantra (Bringing Dr. Jess to Tears) from 2018-09-14T13:00:16
Amina Peterson joins Jess to discuss the practice and philosophy of tantra. What is tantric breathing and meditation? How can a body scan improve your sex life an overall well-being? It’s not all a...
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Sexuality&Gender Terms Defined from 2018-09-07T04:00:08
Pansexual. Cisgender. Sapiosexual. Gender Queer. Gender Fluid. Agender. Aromantic. Demisexual. Gender Non-confirming. Transgender. Award-winning activist, Aida Manduley, joins Jess on the podcast t...
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What Can We Learn From Celebrity Relationships? from 2018-08-31T13:22:21
Are on-again-off-again relationships healthy? How can we break bad relationship habits? How do you recover after cheating? And how do you know if your work crush is crossing the line? Therapists Eb...
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All About Anal from 2018-08-24T16:17:34
If you’re curious about the butt and its potential for pleasure, tune in for lessons in anatomy, pleasure, technique and more! For more anal sex tips, check this out!This podcast is brought to you...
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How to be Happy After 51 Years of Marriage from 2018-08-17T19:03:41
Uncle Mike (Captain Lyn - @lyn.mike) joins Jess and Brandon to share his insights on marriage after 51+ years. Have a listen! With age comes wisdom and even if his experience is different than your...
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How to Talk About Sex, Sex Webcams&More! from 2018-08-10T04:00:50
Jess&Brandon model a “how-to-talk-about-sex” conversation in response to a listener’s question — they share their unprepared responses on the spot. They also weigh in on spicing up date night, watc...
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Single Girl Problems from 2018-08-03T04:00:07
Single? Dating? Coupled? Whatever your relationship status, it’s time to take responsibility for your own happiness. Andrea Bain, host of the “Single Girl Problems” podcast joins Jess to share insi...
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Online Infidelity from 2018-07-27T18:03:29
Jess and Brandon share their insights on what constitutes online cheating and how to handle disagreements about chatting with exes and others online. In another podcast episode, Jess discuss why i...
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Sex Q&A: How to Get Your Partner to Open Up, How to Manage Mismatched Libidos, Anal Sex&More! from 2018-07-20T14:31:32
Jess and Brandon team up to answer listener questions about anal sex, discrepancies in desire, how to get your partner to talk about fantasies and more. They share personal insights and open up abo...
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Why We Misread Our Partners&What We Can Do About It from 2018-07-13T13:00:56
Dr. Liz Powell joins Jess and Brandon to discuss how “hot thoughts” sabotage relationships. They also discuss friendships, gender roles and share personal stories of relationship struggles. Follow...
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What Do Your Neighbors Fantasize About? from 2018-07-06T13:00:25
Are you curious about your friends, co-workers and neighbors’ fantasies? Of course you are! Dr. Justin Lehmiller was curious too, so he asked over 4000 Americans to share their deepest, darkest and...
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Stop Looking For A Soulmate! from 2018-06-29T15:41:56
Jess&Brandon talk about how the soulmate myth is bad for dating and relationships. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts.
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Digisexuals, Teledildonics, Relationship Anarchy and More from 2018-06-22T13:00:13
Dr. Markie Twist (sex therapist)&Professor Neil McArthur (ethicist) join Jess to discuss various relationship arrangements including relationship anarchy, affectional-only relationships, and non-se...
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How Do I *Convince* My Partner to Swing? from 2018-06-15T13:00:19
Dr. Jess and Dr. Nancy join forces to answer the question, “how do I convince my partner to swing?”. The short answer is that you don’t convince them to do anything, but you can introduce swinging ...
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Q&A: Affair Sex. Sexual Fantasies. Healing After Cheating from 2018-06-10T21:17:29
Should I have sex with a married woman? How do I get my partner to open up about fantasies? Once a cheater, always a cheater? Jess (and Brandon) answer these listener questions and more! This podc...
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How To Dirty Talk Like A Pro from 2018-05-25T11:00:40
This week, Jess invites professional sex educator (and professional pervert), Carly S., to the podcast. The pair discuss why dirty talk is such an important form of communication in relationships a...
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Sexual Dry Spells&Male Sex Myths from 2018-05-18T18:43:02
Jess and Brandon chat about their current sexual dry spell and male sex myths. Brandon opens up about some personal concerns and Jess comments on recent research on male sexual desire. This podcas...
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“In-Between”Relationships&Why You Should Talk About Cheating from 2018-05-11T13:00:58
What can we learn from Tristan Thompson&Khloe Kardashian’s cheating challenges? Why do we stay with partners who cheat? And what conversations are ESSENTIAL to a happy, lasting relationship? Jess s...
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Clothing Optional Cruising! from 2018-05-04T18:23:12
Jess&Brandon are in Italy aboard the @DesireResorts Cruise - a clothing optional experience for open-minded couples. Tune in to learn more about this exciting erotic experience. This podcast is br...
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Advice from a Dominatrix from 2018-04-27T04:00:06
Goddess Lola Jean joins Jess on the podcast this week. Lola shares her perspective on life as a pro and lifestyle dom, and fetish wrestler. She also gives insights on why domming can be therapeutic...
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How Professional Success Affects Relationships from 2018-04-20T10:00:55
Winning an Oscar triples your chances of getting divorced. And though you may not be in the running for an Academy Award, your personal and professional successes can adversely affect your relation...
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How to Seduce Your Lover from 2018-04-13T04:00:55
Do you want to seduce your lover with confidence and finesse? Marla Stewart can help. She joins Jess to talk about the “Seduction Learning Approach". She uses real-life examples to help you underst...
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Let’s Talk Threesomes! from 2018-04-06T13:00:35
Luna Matatas joins Jess to talk about threesomes. From how to snag a unicorn to how to navigate those awkward moments, we’ve got you covered. Follow Luna on...Instagram TwitterFacebook This podc...
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How A Pelvic Floor Therapist Can Change Your Life! from 2018-03-30T12:00:36
Do you pee when you laugh? Is sex sometimes painful or uncomfortable? Is orgasm rather elusive? A pelvic floor therapist might be able to help with these concerns&more! Marcy Crouch, joins Jess on ...
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How to Manage Insecurity in Relationships from 2018-03-23T12:00:50
Do you feel insecure with your partner at times? We all do. Brandon and Jess team up once again to share personal experiences and anecdotes about how they’ve encountered and tackled insecurity in t...
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Jess&Brandon Answer Sex&Relationship Questions from 2018-03-16T11:00:45
How do you prioritize sex? How do I stop myself from starting fights when I’m on my period? How can I get my partner to be more romantic? And would you leave if he cheated? Jess and Brandon (Jess’ ...
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How to Feel More Confident in the Bedroom from 2018-03-09T12:00:48
The Princess of Porn, Tasha Reign, joins Jess this week to discuss sexual confidence and reflect on her experience as an adult actress. She shares her unique insights and both Jess and Tasha share ...
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Sex, Dating&Relationship Questions&Answers from 2018-03-02T22:49:56
How do you get over your partner’s sexual past? What is'Ski-Poling’? How can you ensure that your family likes your new partner? And what should I do with my hands during ‘the sex’? Jess tackles th...
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Sex&Depression from 2018-02-23T16:31:07
Jess is joined by licensed psychotherapist Miyume McKinley who answers listener questions about sex and depression. Tune in for insights on how to talk to your partner, show support and prioritize ...
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Amateur Porn Star, Harper The Fox, Talks Camming, Porn&Real Sex from 2018-02-16T14:30:17
Jess is joined by the brilliant and funny amateur porn star, Harper The Fox. Harper is a digital entrepreneur whose unedited sex tapes feature her having real, loving sex with her partner of 7 year...
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Monogam-ish Questions Answered from 2018-02-09T14:44:59
What does it mean if I think about someone else during sex? Is fantasizing about a celebrity during sex a form of cheating? Who's more likely to fantasize about someone other than their partner - w...
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Swinging Questions Answered! from 2018-02-02T16:17:25
Jess answers your questions about gender roles and rules in the Swinging Lifestyle. She also shares a bit about her own personal experience and unpacks data about consensual non-monogamy. Whether y...
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Get to Know Your Vagina from 2018-01-26T14:00:11
This week, OB/GYN and founder of Her Viewpoint, Dr. Jessica Shepherd, is back on the podcast to talk about sex, the vagina, orgasms and more! The pair take listener questions and address the ‘what-...
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Answering YOUR Penis Questions from 2018-01-19T14:00:03
This week, Jess invites Dr. Laurence Levine on the podcast to discuss all things penis’! She opened the floor up to her social following and received many questions about the topic. For some great ...
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How Often *Should* You Have Sex? from 2018-01-12T14:00:50
Jess and her partner, Brandon, chat about sexual frequency and discuss where they’re at in their relationship today. Jess also shares data on how often the “average” couple has sex and strategies f...
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Why You Should Treat Your Relationship Like A Business from 2017-12-29T14:00:43
In this episode, Jess sucks the romance out of relationships and offers a practical, business-based approach to happier relationships. It may seem unromantic to treat your relationship like a busin...
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Cuckolding and Cuckqueening from 2017-12-22T14:00:56
Dr. Justin Lehmiller joins Jess to address listener questions about cuckolding and cuckqueening. Why might you be turned on by seeing your partner having sex with someone else? Is it cultural, pers...
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Let’s Talk About Orgasms from 2017-12-15T14:36:03
This week, Jess is joined by Sex Coach and Owner of Good for Her, Carlyle Jansen. The pair discuss the must-knows about orgasms and answer some listener Qs. Don’t miss this one! Follow Carlyle on....
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Sex For Survivors of Sexual Assault from 2017-12-08T14:00:38
Dr. Ruthie Neustifter joins Jess to answer listener questions about sex and relationships after a sexual assault. This episode was recorded in support of The National Sexual Assault Hotline. Call 8...
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Jess Answers Your Travel Questions! from 2017-12-01T14:00:30
Jess travels every week for speaking engagements across the globe and since she posts *too many* Insta-stories, she receives many questions about her travels. In this week’s episode, she attempts t...
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How We Make Our Relationship Work — Long Distance Love from 2017-11-24T21:56:14
Jess’ much-better-half Brandon joins her to discuss how they make their relationship work while Jess is on the road. This is an unscripted discussion and we hope you like it!
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How to Deal with the Online Hate! from 2017-11-17T14:00:04
This week on the @SexWithDrJess Podcast, social media influencer, Jacqui Childs, joins Jess to talk about what it’s like to be a woman in the digital world - the good, the bad, and the ugly. There ...
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The Formula for Intimacy from 2017-11-10T14:00:49
In this week's episode, Jess explores the power of vulnerability as part of the formula for intimacy. Intimacy = Expression of vulnerability + Loving responseShe shares one couple's story and offe...
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Are Funny People Better in Bed? from 2017-11-03T20:07:24
Comedian Debra DiGiovanni joins Jess to talk about the landscape of stand-up comedy for women in 2017. She responds to research suggesting that funny people are better in bed and shares sex insight...
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Sex&Menopause from 2017-10-27T13:00:56
Jess is joined by women’s health expert, Chia Chia Sun, who shares her research and insights into the world of menopause. Why do we need to talk about it? What can you do to have a hot sex life at ...
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Episode 30: Confessions of a Funny Poly Lady from 2017-10-20T14:00:31
Jess speaks with comedian, Christina Walkinshaw, on what it’s like to be polyamorous. Jess and Christina draw from Christina’s blog, ‘Becoming Poly’, which discusses how Christina met her current p...
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Don’t Let Kids Ruin Your Marriage! from 2017-10-16T16:52:22
Three decades of research suggests that having kids is associated with an unhappy marriage, but it doesn’t have to be this way! Parenting Expert, Alyson Schafer joins Jess to share practical tips t...
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All About Sex Clubs! from 2017-09-15T13:00:03
Sex clubs are becoming more mainstream. Jess shares her observations about sex clubs and chats with Fatima Mechtab who shares her stories (including one about a blowup doll!), tips and insights. Cl...
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Sex Terms You’ve Never Heard: CBT, AMDL&More! from 2017-09-08T13:00:30
Jess is joined by sex educator extraordinaire Sunny Megatron who shares her knowledge of kinky sex terms. From CEI to SPH, you’re sure to learn something new in this episode! Follow Sunny on...Fac...
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Why Do We Always Aim to Please? from 2017-09-01T16:06:56
Stop trying to be a people-pleaser. You probably question its worth sometimes. This week, Jess sits down with Marriage and Family Therapist and author of The New Sex Bible for Women, Dr. Amie Harwi...
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Sexual Health Questions Answered from 2017-08-24T17:05:26
The brilliant Dr. Jessica Shepherd (@JShepherd_MD) joins Jess to talk about vaginal health and answer a few sexual health questions from listeners. If you have questions you’d like us to answer, se...
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Jess&Brandon on What We Fight About from 2017-08-11T15:46:44
Jess’ husband Brandon joins her to talk about their fights -- the good, the bad and the ugly. Fighting with your partner is not a sign that your relationship is doomed. In fact, the happiest coupl...
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A Sexologist’s Guide to Kissing from 2017-08-04T13:00:07
Kissing is more than a means to an end! If you want to take your kissing game to the next level, listen to this quickie episode and try out some of Jess’ favourite techniques tonight. This podcast...
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The Science of Passionate Relationships from 2017-08-01T13:00:13
Do you want more PASSION in your relationship? How about in the bedroom? Who doesn't? Jess has some very specific tips for you. First, she breaks down the science (it’s simple&essential to understa...
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The Secret to a Happy Relationship from 2017-06-28T19:36:55
I’m excited about this one! Last week I caught up with my friend, former co-worker, super mom, loving wife and Real Housewives of Toronto cast member, Grego Minot. We discuss the secret to a happy ...
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STOP! Don’t Do Kegels! from 2017-06-21T13:00:38
This week, Jess is joined by Rachel Gelman, a pelvic floor physical therapist from San Francisco. Rachel shares her unique insight on pelvic floor health, sexual pain and the fact that Kegels are o...
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Sex Robots: Technology, Ethics&What The Future Holds from 2017-06-14T17:29:13
Sex-bots are coming and the future is rather exciting! This week, Neil McArthur, The Director of the Centre for Applied Ethics from the University of Manitoba, joins us to discuss his research with...
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One “Trick” To Revolutionize Your Sex Life from 2017-06-07T16:40:49
In this week’s quickie episode, Jess describes how understanding your “Core Erotic Feeling” can improve your sex life. Whether you’re turned on by love, tenderness, humiliation or compliments, trai...
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Former PlayboyTV Exec Tells All: Group Sex, Sex-On-Camera&Overcoming Body Image Issues from 2017-05-31T13:00:03
This week, Jess speaks to her friend and former head of programming for Playboy TV, Wendy Miller. Listen to the pair reminisce about their days on set with Playboy TV, and many other shenanigans! T...
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Your Guide to G-Spots&Squirting from 2017-05-25T17:07:15
This week’s episode is a wet one! Jess shares the science of G-Spots&squirting along with techniques you can try tonight. She answers common questions including: Can all women squirt? Is the G-Spot...
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Hotter Vacation Sex–Tips for the Long Weekend from 2017-05-17T19:17:15
In this week’s quickie episode, Jess shares practical strategies for having hotter sex this weekend and as your summer vacation approaches. From the 50/50 rule to packed surprises, these specific s...
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Jess&Megan Talk Masturbation from 2017-05-10T13:00:04
In this week's podcast, Jess is joined by her friend and fellow sexologist, Megan Stubbs. Megan speaks candidly about her masturbation habits and laughs about getting"caught"by her friend before a ...
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What Goes On At A Sex House? from 2017-05-03T13:00:49
This week, Jess welcomes Kenneth Play. Kenneth Play is a former fitness professional, sex educator and one of the founders of Hacienda Villa - a sex house in NYC. You’re probably thinking ‘what goe...
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Everything You Need to Know About Pee Play from 2017-04-26T13:00:26
Stellar sex educator Luna Matatas joins Jess to talk about the taboo topic of pee play. Even if pee isn’t your cup of tea, you’ll learn some important lessons that you can apply to your sex life to...
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A Sexologist’s Husband Tells (Almost) All from 2017-04-19T13:00:46
This week Jess hosts her husband, Brandon Ware, for a tell-all on being married to a sexologist. He shares his thoughts on nude beaches, sex toys, public sex and more. Sit back and listen as Jess a...
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All About Full Body Orgasms from 2017-04-12T13:00:06
Dr. Jess hosts Sheri and Yvonne from Welcomed Consensus to discuss a few tools and techniques to achieve the perfect full body orgasm! Sheri is a founding member of the Welcomed Consensus. Through...
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How To Fight Less (Over The Holidays) from 2016-12-14T14:00:29
It’s supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, but for many, the holidays mean more responsibility, more stress and more friction. In this week’s podcast, Dr. Oren Amitay joins host Jessi...
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What To Do When The Sex Sucks from 2016-12-07T14:00:48
Are you and your S.O. on the same page when it comes to sexual needs? Tune in to this episode of"Sex With Dr. Jess"with Sexologist and Relationship Expert Jessica O'Reilly for tips and tricks on ho...
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How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage from 2016-11-30T14:00:38
In this episode of"Sex With Dr. Jess,"Sexologist and Relationship Expert Jessica O'Reilly talks about divorce: what are the signs, how do couples fight for their marriage, and what happens when a m...
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The Key To a Happy Relationship from 2016-11-23T14:00:20
For many couples, the biggest buzzkill involves spending too much time together! In this episode of Sex With Dr. Jess, Sexologist and Relationship Expert Jessica O'Reilly recounts what it was like ...
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Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater from 2016-11-16T14:00:15
Let's talk about cheaters. Whether motivated by narcissism, commitment issues, or insecurity, Sexologist and Relationship Expert Jessica O'Reilly discusses the reasons why people cheat. Can you sti...
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Sugar Baby Bares All from 2016-11-09T14:00:56
Are you curious about the life and experiences of a sugar baby? In this episode of Sex With Dr. Jess, Sexologist and Relationship Expert Jessica O'Reilly interviews Brooke. Brooke speaks candidly a...
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Sexism Has No Place in Sex from 2016-11-02T15:53:30
Sexism contributes to fewer, poorer orgasms! If you want bigger, better, more frequent orgasms, you need to let go of your sexist beliefs and take matters into your own hands first. In this episode...
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Decency Trumps Hate from 2016-10-26T14:00:42
In this episode of Sex With Dr. Jess, Sexologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Jessica O'Reilly discusses the recently unearthed recording of Donald Trump in which he brags about"[grabbing] them by t...
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Sexual Compatibility: How to Fulfill Each Other’s Needs from 2016-10-17T14:50:40
In this episode of Sex With Dr. Jess, Sexologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Jessica O'Reilly speaks about sexual compatibility and its importance to developing a healthy, happy relationship both i...
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Your Ride Might Hold The Key to Love from 2016-02-11T05:07:20
Breaking the bank on an exotic car won’t increase your chances of being lucky in love, according to the findings of a recent autoTRADER.ca survey that explores the connection between romantic desir...
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