How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage - a podcast by Dr. Jessica OReilly

In this episode of"Sex With Dr. Jess,"Sexologist and Relationship Expert Jessica O'Reilly talks about divorce: what are the signs, how do couples fight for their marriage, and what happens when a marriage fails. Are you and your spouse sexually compatible? Tune in to hear some tips on how to be compatible in the long run!

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Participant #1:Hello there. This is Jessica O'Reilly. I'm a sex and relationship expert, and my focus is sexual compatibility because sexual compatibility is essential to a lasting, happy relationship. And I am here to help you become sexually compatible so that you can live happily ever after, because compatibility is something that you cultivate. It's something you make and work for. It's not something you find. You really have to work for it. Today, I was reading that Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson are celebrating 28 years of marriage 28 years. And this is a rarity in Hollywood and in North America altogether. Here the divorce rate is estimated to be around 42% right now. For first marriages. For second marriages, it's considerably higher at 60%. And I actually believe Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson. This is a second marriage for both of them, but they are thriving after 28 years, and the rate of divorce seems much higher for celebrities. One study found that half of celebrities married between 2000 and 2010 were divorced by 2014, and a slew of celebrities tied the knot. Staying married for less than a year or two. Divorce is all around us in America. I was reading that there is one divorce every 36 seconds, and on average, couples are getting divorced eight years after marriage and the average age. This is rather interesting to me. The age of an average divorcee is 30 years old. Interesting, but of course, there are factors that mitigate the risk of divorce. So for instance, if your parents are married still and they've stayed married happily married, your risk of divorce decreases by 14%. And if you wait until you're over the age of 25 to get married, your risk decreases approximately 24%. If you've attended postsecondary, College or University, your risk of divorce decreases by 13%. So these are just numbers. You are not a statistic. Look, Tom and Rita have a 60% chance of getting divorced based on the fact that it's their second marriage, but they're still together 28 years later. This one is interesting to me. Data suggests that living together before marriage reduces your risk of divorce. And this is where it gets really sticky. For me. This is where I'm reminded that not getting divorced isn't a universal sign of a happy relationship. So what I mean by this is some people stay together, they don't get a divorce, but they stay together because they believe they have to. They stay together because they say it's for the kids. They stay together to keep up appearances. Ultimately, they stay together miserable because they don't have the drive to break up. And when I see couples who refuse to break up, even though they bring out the worst in each other, I'm even more appalled. I mean, how can an unhappy marriage be better than a divorce in these cases? I think divorce is a good thing. And wow, I have to say, I've been divorced when I was 19, I ran off and get married. Got married in Mexico. I eloped didn't tell anyone. Sorry, mom. And a few months later, we split up. I left, and not long after that, I ended up moving in with the man who is now my husband. And this is over 15, almost 16 years ago now. And in my marriage, after 15 years, my current marriage,

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