How to Get in the Mood for Sex - a podcast by Dr. Jessica OReilly

In this quickie episode, we chat about the fact that our interest in sex has declined since the onset of social isolation. We discuss strategies for creating “responsive” sexual desire and managing distractions that detract from pleasure.





If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible.And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music& Stitcher!

Rough Transcript:This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns.

How to Get in the Mood for Sex00:00:05 - 00:05:04
You're listening to the Sex with Dr Jess podcast. Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight!

Welcome to the sex with Dr Jess quickey podcast I'm your co host Brandon. Here with my lovely other half Dr Jess.

Hey. I can hear that you're smiling in your voice. I mean I can see it but I'm glad that you can see me across the desk here.

I like the sound of it.I'm glad that you like me smiling.

Yeah well I wanted to share some big news. We had sex yesterday.Boom! Big News!

With each otherThat was a key point. I had sex by myself.

That's okay too. That's cool too and you know it's not big news but I have found that I'm not in the mood for sex lately because

Of my hair.No nothing to do with you. I actually love being home with you. Getting to admire you. You have your sleeves rolled up right.

Now it's nineteen ninety-four my sleeves rolled up.

I it's not about you. It's really just about my routine changing so significantly and I think I'm one of those like I. You know a nice lifestyle. That's high adrenaline very tiring. overworked usually and I love it. Like I love waking up after almost no sleep and catching a flight and being excited to meet New People. I love the risk of my job. Every time you get on stage you don't know if you're GONNA kill it or mess it up and so everything's changed because we're working from home and yeah. I don't find myself in the mood for sex so I wanted to talk about how to get in the mood for sex. When you're not in the mood for sex but you want to be in the mood for sex so to clarify. I'm not suggesting you should have sex when you're not in the mood unless you want to get yourself in the mood and you've probably heard me talk before about sexual desire falling into two experiences. One being spontaneous and the other being responsive so spontaneous sexual desire occurs when you worked at home all day. You've gone through the same routine you've been wearing the same jogging pants and the same shirt and your been hanging out with that same one person relevant to right then you watch some NetFlix and then spontaneously at the end of the day. You're like yeah I want the sex I can't wait to do the sex I'm GONNA get on Top. You know so that spontaneous sexual desire in for many people. That's not particularly realistic. However, we can always experience what we call not always but we have more opportunity to experience responsive sexual desire meaning that it doesn't occur spontaneously. But if you do something to get yourself physically aroused the mental or subjective part of it follows. So if you use a toy or if you fantasize or if you touch each other if you start kissing or if you think about the last time you had sex or you watch porn or you read a story. Whatever it is that turns you on you get turned on physically and then the mind remembers. Oh yeah man sex. I remember that thing that feels really good and so I've noticed that over the last few weeks since ...

Further episodes of Sex With Dr. Jess

Further podcasts by Dr. Jessica O'Reilly

Website of Dr. Jessica O'Reilly