I don't depend on a man but I'm learning to let him support me part 1: my mom taught me independence - a podcast by Katharine Chan

As a feminist, I grew up defying gender stereotypes. I never want to depend on a man. However, since becoming a mom, I've realized letting him help me is just as important as helping him.

I am a feminist, a modern woman. Hear me roar. Nothing can stop me and no one will. I can do anything and everything. My mom’s words stuck with me like an invisible leech; I believed in defying gender stereotypes, breaking down barriers that would make my female ancestors proud.

I do not need a man to open a tight jar. I lift heavy weights and do pull-ups at the gym so I have the strong forearms to do that.

I do not need a man to pay for me. I studied and worked hard to have a well-paying job that will do that.

I don’t need a man to figure out my finances. I am English proficient, good with numbers, excelled at math and have the money management skills to do that.

I do not need a man to fix my toilet. I’m proactive, self-sufficient and resourceful. I can look it up on YouTube, buy the necessary tools with my hard-earned cash and fix it myself.

I don’t need a man to negotiate my phone contract, Internet bill, car purchase, home repair costs etc. I have the communication and language skills after years of working in a corporate environment to do that myself. 

I do not need a man. I do not depend on him because I can take care of myself. 

These were my 20’s and I was living the dream, making my own money, climbing the corporate ladder.

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