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Katharine Chan has over a decade of experience working in healthcare. She’s worked in emergency health services, mental health, women’s health, facilitating, coaching, and promoting honest conversations among healthcare leaders to enable organizational change. She’s passionate about putting words to her feelings despite growing up in a culture that hides them. She empowers others by teaching them how to love themselves, embracing their culture and improving relationships
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5 Things I Did When My Clients Suddenly Reduced Their Work For Me from 2022-12-31T00:45:27
Do you know how when you get some bad news, you kinda want to deny it and move on?
One of my biggest clients cut back on their work for me. Then shortly after, another client had budget c...
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Why It’s Difficult For Me To Share Good News from 2022-12-23T22:00:47
When we accomplish a goal, reach a dream, or win a fortune…how do our past and conditions affect the way we share that type of information?
Recently, I’ve been pondering about ho...
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I Quit My 9–5 Job To Pursue My Side Hustle 6 Months Ago from 2022-12-16T17:54:14
It’s been almost six months since I left my 9–5 job to become a freelance writer. Here are a few things I’ve experienced so far:
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I’m Struggling To Balance Writing for Pay Versus Writing for Pleasure from 2022-12-09T17:59:31
The most common and basic rule about being a successful writer is to keep writing. But since starting my freelance writing journey, my desire to write for pay has slowly taken over my desire to ...
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8 Dreams I’m Holding Onto For Now from 2022-12-02T16:59:26
Lately, I’ve been thinking about my old dreams so I wrote Listen
10 Dreams I Stopped Pursuing Even Though I Thought They Would Make Me Happy from 2022-11-25T18:21:40
Everyone talks about how we need to keep dreaming, set goals, aim high and work hard. Because if you work hard enough, any dream is possible.
Bleh…I don’t think that provides the full pic...
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8 Dreams I Had as a Kid That I’ve Given Up On from 2022-11-18T16:52:08
When I was on maternity with my first child, the monotony of routine allowed me to rediscover my passion for writing. As a kid, I wrote stories upon stories, from true, and untrue, to never bein...
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I Was Jealous of the Attention My Parents’ Gave My Eldest Sister Until I Became a Mom from 2022-11-11T16:59:35
There are three of us: my eldest sister, my middle sister and me. The relationship I have with my eldest sister is like a snow globe; it stays dormant for most of the year but gets shaken up dur...
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Business advice, working mom guilt and leading with passion...an inspirational conversation with Becky Choi of Tummy Warriors from 2022-07-01T21:17:28
Becky Choi (Tummy Warrior™️)
“Follow your heart and have a big vision.”
Becky Choi is a Certified Postpartum Corrective Exercise Specialist, and the founde...
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The Negative Effects of East Asian Culture on Female Body Image with Authentic Energy's Jing Fang from 2022-06-24T21:23:46
In this episode, Authentic Energy founder and Body Confidence Coach Jing Fang and I have an open and honest conversation about how our culture affected how we view our bodies. We dive deep ...
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How The Pandemic Made Me Stop Wearing My Wedding Ring from 2022-06-17T16:21:27
After our wedding, I started wearing both my wedding band and the engagement ring. It felt very official like I’m a married woman now. Every morning, like clockwork, I would pop them on my finge...
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How I Stopped Using Sex as a Weapon When We Started Trying For A Baby from 2022-06-10T16:19:36
As I entered relationships and became sexually active, I would keep a tally of my partner’s good and bad behaviours. For instance, if my partner did something that made me happy, I would be more...
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As an Asian Woman, Self-Work Means Creating Balance Between Collectivistic Instincts and Individualistic Urges from 2022-06-03T16:01:28
As I finished school and became a young adult, I noticed many non-Asian peers go on self-discovery journeys.
From travelling the world, exposing themselves to different cultures, jumping ...
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5 Things I Started Spending More Money on When I Hit My 30’s from 2022-05-27T15:58:05
I turned 36 earlier this year. It was a simple celebration with my husband, our kids and a very decadent chocolate cake from Whole Foods. It was perfect.
As I made my wish and blew out th...
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How I Landed My First Freelance Writing Clients as an Introvert from 2022-05-20T22:00
One of the toughest and daunting parts of being a freelance writer is finding work. As an introvert with a touch of social awkwardness, asking people to hire me isn’t exactly my forte.
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5 Things I Stopped Spending A lot of Money on When I Hit My 30’s from 2022-05-13T22:00
I turned 35 this year and as I reflect on all those years of adulthood, I realized how much money I frivolously spent on things I didn’t care about. Maybe if I didn’t spend that, I would be a mi...
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Why I Decided To Pursue A Freelance Writing Career from 2022-05-06T22:00
I value getting paid for my work, not for the time I spend at work
I have a plan to leave my 9–5
I made a decision earlier this year to star...
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5 Reasons I Exercise and Eat Well That Aren’t Related To Weight Loss from 2022-04-29T22:00
In my late 20’s, I ended an 8-year long relationship. As part of my healing and recovery, I started digging deep into myself about my toxic habits and behaviours. With less time focused on tryin...
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How I Realistically Figured Out My Freelance Writing Rate from 2022-04-22T22:00
Although I’ve been blogging since 2017, I only officially started my freelance writing journey a little over 2 months ago. I’ve dibbled and dabbled with selling books and courses but the amount ...
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How I Made $3525.71 In My First Two Months As A Freelance Writer from 2022-04-15T22:00
Two months have flown by
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3 Toxic Myths About Body Positivity That I Used To Believe In from 2022-04-08T23:00
Growing up, I struggled to love myself. From social pressures, the media to overly critical family members who constantly compared me to my skinnier peers, I never felt like my body was good eno...
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3 Misconceptions That Discouraged Me From Becoming A Freelance Writer from 2022-04-01T23:00
I never thought I would be a freelance writer
When I first started blogging in 2017, I had no idea where it was going to lead me. I was a new mom who was working her 9–...
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My Daughter Called Me Out for Fighting With My Husband from 2022-03-25T23:00
After having a fight with my husband in front of our kids, I wasn’t able to do what my daughter wanted me to. I felt like I was repeating my parents’ behaviour but this incident inspires me to k...
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Why I Wouldn’t Want To Live The Digital Nomad Lifestyle from 2022-03-18T21:00
Experiencing new cultures and immersing myself in the day-to-day life of people who grew up in a different environment than me is one of my favourite ways to learn and grow. Travelling helps boo...
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How I Made $3.590.11 By Trading Stocks In 2 Years With No Investing Experience from 2022-03-11T22:00
Disclaimer:
This article is not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual or on any specific security or investment product. I’m onl...
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Why I Don’t Expect My Friends And Family To Read What I Write from 2022-03-04T22:00
When I first started blogging, I had no idea who was going to read my stuff. It was a space for me to express myself, put feelings into words and make sense of what was going on for me as a mom....
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9 Asian Female Stereotypes That Need To Die from 2022-02-25T23:00
Why not both?
I wish this meant I could have both soft and hard tacos but instead it’s experiencing both sexism and racism as an Asian woman. It’s like if I’m not ...
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5 Valuable Life Lessons I Learned From My Exes from 2022-02-18T23:00
I used to believe I needed to scrub clean of my past and start fresh every time I stepped into a new relationship. So when I first started dating my husband, I told him I didn’t want to talk abo...
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9 Examples of Microaggression I’ve Experienced as an Asian Canadian from 2022-02-11T22:00
I knew I had experienced racism, from being made fun of how I look ...
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Why I Started Using Screens At Mealtime from 2022-02-04T21:00
I was really against using screens at mealtime because of everything I know about distracted eating. It Listen
5 Stereotypes About The Youngest Child That Aren’t True from 2022-01-28T20:00
Growing up with two older sisters wasn’t easy. From always getting hand-me-down clothes, toys and shoes, playing catch up because I was “never old enough”, having a fraction of the baby pictures...
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24 Reasons A Mom Is On Her Phone When She’s Watching Her Kids from 2022-01-21T20:00
From books, calendars, watches, radios, CD players, pedometers, cameras to GPS, the phone has replaced so many things in our lives. It’s incredibly difficult to avoid using our phones. I even us...
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The Time I Listened To My Child Instead Of Jumping To Conclusions from 2022-01-14T20:00
This was my first taste of my kid keeping something from me because they were scared of my reaction. There will be many more to come as they grow up. I don’t expect the conversations to happen l...
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How I Use My Fears To Stop Procrastinating On My Goals from 2022-01-07T20:00
I’ve discovered something about myself when I procrastinate. I delay things because I’m not scared of the consequences. The immediate gratification of looking at one more cat meme seems like a h...
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Why I Changed My Mind About Taking My Husband’s Name from 2021-12-31T20:00
To take or not to take…
“Do or do not. There is no try.”
-Yoda
Actually, nowadays, a couple has options when they get married. They can do the hyphen thing...
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Should You Focus On Writing Quality Or Quantity? from 2021-12-24T19:00
A writer’s dilemma
The quality versus quantity debate is what tears a writer apart. You want to write a ton but you’re afraid the more you write and faster you get...
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4 Underrated Habits That Helped Me Lose The Baby Weight Not Once But Twice from 2021-12-17T19:00
After giving birth, a mother's body doesn't just magically go back to the way it was. How did I manage to lose the baby weight after 2 kids? Here are 4 habits I adopted.
4 Lessons Learned When I Self-Published 3 Books from 2021-12-10T19:00
Can you make money with self-published books?
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What No One Tells You About Being Married To A Realtor from 2021-12-03T22:00
My husband made a career change about 3 years ago. He’s a Chartered Accountant by trade but real estate has been his passion for years. IListen
How I Stopped People-Pleasing And Started Living Life On My Own Terms from 2021-11-26T22:00
People-pleasing = low self-esteem
From always saying yes, breaking promises with ourselves, sacrificing our values to help someone out, enabling toxic behaviours, keepi...
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3 Things I Did To Increase My Medium Partner Earnings From $17.08 to $354.79 Per Month from 2021-11-19T22:00
I've written on Medium for years and I never thought my partner earnings would increase to the 3 digits. Here are the 3 things I did to reach this.
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Why I Was Furious When My Husband Surprised Me With A Break From The Kids from 2021-11-12T22:00
I've heard the stories of wives praising their husbands for surprising them with a break from their kids. However, a break wasn't what I wanted.
I thought I wanted the surpr... Listen
How To Move On After Your Story Has Been Rejected from 2021-11-05T21:00
As a writer, it sucks when you get that email saying your article, proposal, or idea wasn't accepted. How do I deal with the rejection so that I can quickly move on and keep writing?
You’...
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How My Husband And I Stopped Fighting About Cleaning from 2021-10-29T21:00
Leaving dishes in the sink, socks on the floor, hairs in the shower. How can a couple stop fighting about cleaning and household chores without hiring a cleaner? 6 years and 2 kids later, our sy...
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How I Find Motivation To Write When I Don’t Feel Like It from 2021-10-22T21:00
What motivates us to want to write? It's about asking ourselves tough questions. What does motivation mean to me? Why do I want to write?
A writer’s block, burnout, and a lack of creativi...
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How Submitting To Publications Made Me A Better Writer from 2021-10-15T21:00
It can seem daunting to submit to publications. Will they accept or reject? Either way, it's a valuable lesson that's made me a better writer.
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Why I Don’t Think I Wasted My Time Going To School from 2021-10-08T21:00
From kindergarten to university, I spent over half my life in school. Do I regret my decision? Was it a waste of time or time well wasted? It's about seeing the life skills I acquired from years...
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How One Missed Call Reminded Me To Appreciate My Family More from 2021-10-01T21:00
As a working mom, the days are long and hard. Here's my story of how one missed call reminded me that it's all worth it. Sometimes thinking about the scary stuff makes the hard days easier....
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What Happened When I Published 25 Articles In One Month from 2021-09-24T21:00
I took the challenge of writing 25 articles and getting them accepted by publications on Medium. Here's what happened. Increased traffic? Yes but so much more than that.
I was em... Listen
How To Study When You Can’t Remember Anything You Read from 2021-09-17T22:00
I did well in school. From finals, mid-terms to quizzes, I managed to get straight A's and I don't learn from reading. However, studying is much more than memorization.
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I Thought Yoga Was A New Age Fad For “Spiritual” People from 2021-09-10T18:00
Doing yoga seems like you're joining a trendy cult but it's not. Here's how all that downward dog was worth it for someone who was a skeptic in the beginning.
I am in no way ... Listen
How To Cook So You’ll Actually Eat At Home from 2021-09-03T18:00
Does cooking at home mean using only healthy ingredients? How to cook delicious meals you'll actually eat and look forward to leftovers. Because why make something you won't want to eat?
What To Do When You Feel Like An Inadequate Mother from 2021-08-27T18:00
Mothers are often hard on themselves and feel like they're not good enough. Here's what to do when you feel like an inadequate parent. Dropping the ball and picking it back up.
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Why We Need To Stop Viewing Our Parents As Either Good Or Evil from 2021-08-20T18:00
Parents are not good or evil, heroes or villains. Seeing them as humans let us practice empathy and compassion for others and ourselves.
“Respect your parents! They did so mu... Listen
4 Ways I Personally Grew From Creating Over 200 Videos Of Myself from 2021-08-13T18:00
After publishing over 200 videos, I realized it's not the number of views, likes, subscribers, or comments that matter; it's what I learned about myself during that process that could never be m...
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How To Generate Writing Ideas About Personal Growth from 2021-08-06T18:00
I write about personal growth and in the process of coming up with ideas to write about, it's allowed me to personally grow. Let's get meta!
Past, Present and future... Listen
How I Published Over 100 Articles, 200 Podcasts, 200 Videos Working 6 Hours A Week from 2021-07-30T18:00
After a year of trial and error, I was able to come up with a content creation system that is proven to be efficient and effective.
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Why It Doesn’t Matter If You Can’t Convince Someone You’ve Changed from 2021-07-23T18:00
When someone doesn't believe you've changed, how does it make you feel? Do you want to prove to them that you have? What if it doesn't matter? Your past is held in their emotional memories.
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Why Saying “My Wife Won’t Let Me” Stunts Your Growth from 2021-07-16T22:00
Disclaimer: Even though I focused this post on married heterosexual men, it doesn’t mean that other genders don’t use their partners as an excuse. This behaviour tr...
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What To Do When You Keep Thinking He Will Leave You from 2021-07-09T22:00
Whether it’s he who left or me who initiated it, I’ve had my fair share of heartbreak. Feelings were hurt; expectations unmet. Disappointment ensues. Sometimes it seems like no matter how much I...
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You need your emotions validated whether you’re from Mars or Venus from 2021-07-02T22:00
We are emotional creatures. It's not just a woman thing to need to talk about feelings and have emotions validated. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. How did this book affect a generation...
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The first thing I did to start talking about my feelings from 2021-06-25T22:00
Talking about our feelings can be a daunting task for many, especially for someone who grew up in an emotionally illiterate environment. Is not knowing what I'm feeling a feeling? How did I star...
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Was he being racist or sexist or am I just being sensitive? from 2021-06-18T22:00
Was he racist or sexist? As a woman of colour, I'm often in a tough position. We are vulnerable. How do I stand up for myself enough?
As an Asian, I am vulnerable to a slew of belittlemen...
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How I’m Staying Sane(ish) At Home from 2021-06-11T22:00
Social distancing. Physical distancing. Stay positive. Test negative. Stop the spread. Stay at home. Keeping sane during the COVID-19 pandemic.
10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1…Happy New Yea...
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How to write a candid story from 2021-06-04T21:00
Why keep it real?
Authenticity, candour, real talk 100%…this is what readers value when they consume a story.
They don’t want fluff. They don’t wan...
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Getting pregnant wasn’t easy but it taught me compassion for those who are still trying from 2021-05-28T21:00
Getting pregnant wasn't easy for me the second time. But that experience made me more compassionate for those who struggle with infertility.
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7 Millennial stereotypes that aren’t true for those with immigrant parents part 3: validation from 2021-05-21T21:00
Millennials are often stereotyped as lazy and entitled. How does growing up with immigrant parents prove those aren't true? Although, I do love my avocados…
Perhaps it’s because I’m m...
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7 Millennial stereotypes that aren’t true for those with immigrant parents part 2: special treatment from 2021-05-14T20:00
Millennials are often stereotyped as lazy and entitled. How does growing up with immigrant parents prove those aren't true? Although, I do love my avocados…
Perhaps it’s because I’m m...
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7 Millennial stereotypes that aren’t true for those with immigrant parents part 1: Rewards and money from 2021-05-07T20:00
Millennials are often stereotyped as lazy and entitled. How does growing up with immigrant parents prove those aren't true? Although, I do love my avocados…
“It’s because they’re Mill...
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I don’t depend on a man but I’m learning to let him support me part 3: becoming parents from 2021-04-30T20:00
As a feminist, I grew up defying gender stereotypes. I never want to depend on a man. However, since becoming a mom, I've realized letting him help me is just as important as helping him.
I don’t depend on a man but I’m learning to let him support me part 2: marriage changed some things from 2021-04-23T20:00
As a feminist, I grew up defying gender stereotypes. I never want to depend on a man. However, since becoming a mom, I've realized letting him help me is just as important as helping him.
I don't depend on a man but I'm learning to let him support me part 1: my mom taught me independence from 2021-04-16T20:00
As a feminist, I grew up defying gender stereotypes. I never want to depend on a man. However, since becoming a mom, I've realized letting him help me is just as important as helping him.
How I've accepted my kids are delaying my dreams and goals part 2: why faster does not mean better from 2021-04-09T20:00
Working moms often feel like they haven't accomplished enough. I've learned to accept that my kids are delaying my goals for good reason. It’s okay I can’t achieve enough every day…
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How I've accepted my kids are delaying my dreams and goals part 1: A barrier to my success from 2021-04-02T20:00
Working moms often feel like they haven't accomplished enough. I've learned to accept that my kids are delaying my goals for good reason. It’s okay I can’t achieve enough every day…
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The loneliness of motherhood part 3: social media, texting and online communities from 2021-03-26T20:00
Working moms have it tough. Our social life is often at the bottom of our priorities. How can one minimize the loneliness of motherhood?
Some may say since the advent of the Internet, it ...
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The loneliness of motherhood Part 2: Mom groups, introvert problems, work-life balance from 2021-03-19T20:00
Working moms have it tough. Our social life is often at the bottom of our priorities. How can one minimize the loneliness of motherhood?
Working moms have no time to stop
I go back...
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The loneliness of motherhood part 1: reflecting on when my mom was raising me from 2021-03-12T21:00
Working moms have it tough. Our social life is often at the bottom of our priorities. How can one minimize the loneliness of motherhood?
At that moment, I remember feeling sorry for my mo...
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Reducing Food Waste Part 4: Start a garden and eat mindfully to reduce wasted food in your home from 2021-03-05T18:00
Don’t throw it, re-grow in the garden or compost it
My husband and I started gardening about 4 years ago. I first started regrowing green onions and this piqued my interest.
All I ...
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Reducing Food Waste Part 3: Tips on how to minimize the wasted food in your household from 2021-02-26T18:00
Immigrant parents often told their kids to finish their food; however, in this generation, it goes beyond the plate to reduce food waste.
I’m eternally grateful for the time and place tha...
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Reducing Food Waste Part 2: why we should care about this and our planet's future from 2021-02-19T18:00
Immigrant parents often told their kids to finish their food; however, in this generation, it goes beyond the plate to reduce food waste.
Canadian statistics on wasted food
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Reducing Food Waste Part 1: Asian immigrant parents taught me to finish my plate from 2021-02-12T18:00
Immigrant parents often told their kids to finish their food; however, in this generation, it goes beyond the plate to reduce food waste.
My “waste not, want not” upbringing
Growin...
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How my Asian Canadian upbringing shaped my views on elder respect - Part 2: Age hierarchy East vs West from 2021-02-05T18:00
Asian culture and the age hierarchy
Growing up as a Chinese Canadian, I often felt like I was a living and breathing war, caught in an eternal conflict between the Western and Eastern cul...
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How my Asian Canadian upbringing affects my views on elder respect - Part 1: I offend an elderly man from 2021-01-29T18:00
Asian cultures value age in a hierarchical manner. I was taught to respect my elders. How has growing up in Canada affected my views?
The East and West battle inside of me
The othe...
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Why I no longer work out to look good - Part 2: My recovery from overexercising from 2021-01-22T18:00
How that made me look even better
I’ve written about my past eating disorder, ongoing recovery and how it’s affected me as a mom. So this is about how I’ve changed my mindset around exerc...
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Why I no longer work-out to look good - Part 1: Getting injured and 15 pounds overweight from 2021-01-08T18:00
I’ve written about my past eating disorder, ongoing recovery and how it’s affected me as a mom. So this is about how I’ve changed my mindset around exercise, instead of abusing it, using it to h...
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What kind of mother-in-law will I be? PART 2: How to not deserve a punch in the face from 2021-01-08T18:00
As the mother of a girl and a boy, I will get a son-in-law and a daughter-in-law. What kind of mother-in-law do I want to be? Hopefully, one that doesn't deserve to be punched in the face.
What kind of mother-in-law will I be? Part 1: The science behind the strained relationship from 2021-01-01T18:00
As the mother of a girl and a boy, I will get a son-in-law and a daughter-in-law. What kind of mother-in-law do I want to be? Hopefully, one that doesn't deserve to be punched in the face.
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My Asian Mom Didn't Let Me Take Tylenol For Period Cramps from 2020-12-25T19:00
Growing up, my mom discouraged my sisters and me from taking any medication unless prescribed and required by our family doctor. Anything else was unnatural and unnecessary for our bodies. Pain ...
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How I Avoided The Asian Family Drama At My Wedding PART 2: Things I Had Control Over from 2020-12-18T19:00
What are some things you can do to avoid the Asian family drama that can happen during the planning and at the wedding?
From the guest list, traditions, venue...here's what I did that I h...
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How I Avoided The Asian Family Drama At My Wedding PART 1: Things I Had No Control Over from 2020-12-11T19:00
It's me and my husband's day, not anyone else's.
So before I rant about the Asian family drama that happens whenever someone gets engaged and the things you can do to prevent that, let me...
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Have you ever been told you're intimidating? 10 reasons it's a good thing from 2020-12-04T19:00
Recently, my husband and I were talking about whether someone who made a comment about me to him could come to me directly with that comment.
He tells me,
“I do...
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How to deal with Asian parents when they take care of your kids PART 8 Learn More About Yourself from 2020-11-27T19:00
Take time to reminisce and learn more about yourself
When those annoying instances happen, I take the time to dig deep into myself, reflecting on my childhood, values, beliefs and priorit...
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How to deal with Asian parents when they take care of your kids PART 7 Comparing caregivers from 2020-11-20T19:00
Don’t compare them to others
Oh, how the tables have turned. Growing up, my parents loved comparing us, apples to oranges to mangoes to kiwis. That history has made me prone to thei...
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How to deal with Asian parents when they take care of your kids PART 6 Be Grateful from 2020-11-13T19:00
Be grateful
Before getting pregnant, I already knew that I wanted to raise my kids in the city where I grew up. They have great public schools (I am proud to be a product of that sy...
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How to deal with Asian parents when they take care of your kids PART 5 Out of Sight, Out of Mind from 2020-11-06T19:00
Out of sight, out of mind
Ignorance is bliss. I don’t know what I don’t know and sometimes I don’t want to know what I don’t know, you know?
Would I want to put cameras up at my pa...
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How To Deal With Asian Parents When They Take Care of Your Kids PART 4: Picking Your Battles from 2020-10-30T18:00
Have a tough conversation (But choose wisely)
Picking my battles with my parents about how to care for my daughter is both an art and a science. If I nag them every time they do something...
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How to deal with Asian parents when they take care of your kids PART 3 Focus on Their Strengths from 2020-10-23T18:00
Focus on the positive and their strengths
In the end, my loose reins worked in my favour because my parents naturally did the “right” things. I shifted my focus on their positive traits a...
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How To Deal With Asian Parents When They Take Care of Your Kids PART 2: Lower Expectations from 2020-10-16T18:00
Lower your expectations (more like throw them out the door)
As a recovering perfectionist, I’ve learned (still learning) to curb my need to be a supermom.
FYI: My son is play...
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How to deal with Asian parents when they take care of your kids PART 1 INTRO from 2020-10-09T18:00
Asian grandparents often take care of their grandchildren. As a mom, how did I make this work peacefully without blowing a fit at my parents?
A year from now, my daughter will start K...
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How Blogging, Podcasting and Filming Makes Me Fear Death Less from 2020-10-02T16:00
YOLO, life is short, carpe diem...
Have you ever thought about your death? What would happen if you were to leave earth at this moment? Or at a time when you weren't r...
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The toughest and unexpected part of becoming a mom of 2 from 2020-09-25T21:00
When you have a second baby, how does the first kid react to their newborn sibling?
When you go from being a mom of 1 to a mom of 2…
Does the chaos also double?
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4 Questions I got when I called my book “How To Deal With Asian Parents” from 2020-09-18T21:00
So earlier this year, I published a book on some strategies that helped my relationship with my parents.
The tit...
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5 food and cooking hacks that I didn’t realize my mom taught me from 2020-09-11T21:00
Asian moms are like magicians in the kitchen, cooking up a storm without the thunder and lightning
As a mother of 2 with a husband who has the stomach the size of a basketball player’...
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I hated sales until I started selling my books from 2020-09-04T22:00
When you have a product that you believe in, it makes it easier.
I'm an author of 3 books. I needed to sell my books, promote them, tell people about them, get them to resonate with my me...
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Staying Authentic with Jane Fang from 2020-08-28T18:00
In this PODCAST, Jane and I have a frank conversation from body confidence, married life in quarantine and our thoughts on the racism that has recently surfaced during this unprecedented time. W...
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How My Past Eating Disorder Has Affected Me As A Mom from 2020-08-21T17:00
How do you feel about your body? How do you feel about food?
As someone who has struggled with body confidence her whole life, I've had a love-hate relationship with these 2.<...
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How my past self-obsession and social media affects me as a mom blogger from 2020-08-14T16:00
First of all, I don’t judge a parent for sharing pictures of their kids on social media. It’s a personal choice and ultimately, it’s what works for their family.
I was...
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Dating, relationships, resentment, and ego with Angie Wong: Show Face to Face Live recording from 2020-08-07T22:00
This was originally a live session hat aired on July 10th, 8 pm PST
In this podcast, Angie Wong and I sat down and had a real and raw conversation about relationships.
We chatted a...
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Empowering new moms series: Losing and regaining your independence as a new mom from 2020-07-31T18:00
You will get your independence back
I remember the moment I felt like I “lost my independence.”
I was driving back home from a mom group when I saw that Garden Works was having a s...
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Empowering new moms series: How to ask for the right help from 2020-07-24T18:00
Ask for helpful help (including support for your partner) and refuse unhelpful help
People love to help. It’s an inherent characteristic of our species. We see someone struggling and we w...
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Empowering new moms series: How to find your emotional support circle from 2020-07-17T18:00
Vent, rant, do verbal diarrhea with your trusted emotional support circle (they won’t judge)
Whether it’s your sister, your mom, your besties, your aunt, your cousin, or an online support...
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Empowering new moms series: Breastfeeding can be an internal battle from 2020-07-10T18:00
Breastfeeding may or may not work out and that’s totally okay
Some women have that magical first moment with their newborns, eyes meet, skin-to-skin, tears of joy, a well-fitted latch, no...
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Empowering new moms series: Having visitors at the hospital and at home from 2020-07-03T17:00
You have a right to request and refuse visitors
From friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances, everyone wants to see the baby. And this can either augment or diminish your experience dep...
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Empowering new moms series: How to connect with your newborn from 2020-06-26T17:00
It’s okay if you don’t feel an instant, magical connection with your baby
What you see on TV and movies don’t actually happen. First, those babies look way too big to be newborns. Second,...
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Empowering new moms series: How to love your postpartum body from 2020-06-19T17:00
Treat your body with kindness
Your body just performed a miracle. It grew an entire human, eyeballs, earlobes, brains, fingernails and everything. It needs to heal, replenish and recover....
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Before marriage series: How to talk about secrets, exes and dirty laundry with your partner from 2020-06-12T17:00
Your past
Why it didn’t work out with your exes
Talking about your exes may be considered taboo on a first date.
However, once a couple has reached a point in their relation...
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Before marriage series: figure out where to live your life together from 2020-06-05T17:00
Where and how to live
It’s hard to maintain a marriage if you’re physically apart. The stress of long-distance relationships, commutes, time-zone differences would drive any couple to the...
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Before marriage series: How to talk about money with your partner from 2020-05-29T17:00
Money is often quoted as one of the top reasons marriages end in divorce. It’s a point of contention even during casual conversations because of its association with power, status, security, fre...
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Before marriage series: Why you should talk about kids from 2020-05-29T17:00
Kids or no kids? That is the question. Without a doubt, both of you have to see eye to eye on this question because it’s not like you can turn back time or get a refund. If you are o...
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It's been 7 years since I met my husband through online dating from 2020-05-22T17:00
What solidified that they were "The One"
Brian: You just knew. This one is a secret.
Katharine: He met everything that I needed, wanted and deserved in a life p...
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Is it just me or are Asians bad with compliments? from 2020-05-15T17:00
When someone tells me I'm doing a good job or that I look great, I get uncomfortable. My first instinct is to downplay, then deny and then think of a compliment about the other person, deflectin...
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How to rediscover your life's purpose and what you should be doing from 2020-05-08T17:00
What do you want to do with your life? Isn't that a loaded question?
Self-discovery Exercise: What you’re good at doing versus what you love doing
What are you ...
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How to deeply appreciate the simple things in life from 2020-05-01T17:00
Ever feel like life is going by and you're just sitting there watching it?
You do things to get through the day, check the boxes and complete the tasks. And then one day, it h...
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A Quick Review of Netflix's Tigertail from 2020-04-24T16:00
Tigertail is a 2020 American drama film written and directed by Alan Yang Here are my two cents about the film.
What were your initial thoughts of the film and first reaction(...
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I don't ever want to completely know myself from 2020-04-17T19:00
As we age, we tend to know ourselves better, what gives us pain, what gives us pleasure. But when we know ourselves more, it can also make us narrow-minded, preventing us from trying new things....
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What are your insecurities? Let's dive into them from 2020-04-15T19:00
Have insecurities? Scared to be yourself? Worried about what others think of you? Or may think of you if you were to be real with them?
You're not alone which means most peopl...
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Help me prove my Asian mom wrong from 2020-04-13T19:00
The other day, I was picking up my daughter from my parents when I get an email from Medium saying that I made a bit of money last month from writing.
Holy shit! The Medium Writers ...
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People need to hear the right voice to get through to them from 2020-04-10T19:00
You tell your friend about the KETO diet you're on, the workout you're doing, the meditation app you're using...they still haven't lost the weight, they're still anxious and stressed.
How often do Asian Millennials use chopsticks to eat? from 2020-04-08T19:00
Growing up, I used chopsticks for pretty much every meal I ate. It's because all I ate was Chinese food.
Fast forward...
having moved out, got married, had the...
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Lower the expectations you have for your kids from 2020-04-06T19:00
It's normal to tell our kids what to do. It's part of being a parent. We start off as dictators, then as teachers and instructors, then as guides, mentors and peers. If we stay in one role forev...
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Saying sorry when you shouldn't and not saying it when you should from 2020-04-03T19:00
Sorry for talking about my successes
Sorry for almost bumping into you
Sorry for gossiping about you
Sorry for being a toxic friend
Why do we ...
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6 signs you're a secure person from 2020-04-01T18:00
What does security mean to me?
When someone is secure with themselves, they'll exhibit these 6 signs. These are behaviours that I am currently striving for and I hope th...
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Can you do better than me? from 2020-03-30T18:00
When you see someone who is "uglier", "fatter", "dumber" and/or "less talented" than you, doing what you want to do...do you think, "I can do better."
Go do it! Only those who...
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Sensory seeking versus sensory sensitive: Creating an optimal working environment from 2020-03-27T18:00
I just learned about sensory seeking versus sensory sensitive. I have a bit of both but more on the sensory seeking side. I hate wearing shoes, don't notice when I my clothes are disheveled, are...
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Are you more comfortable confiding with strangers than people you trust? from 2020-03-25T18:00
I cringe at the thought of telling my parents about my mental health issues...but I can easily tweet to the world about my history of depression and disordered eating.
Strangers allow us...
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What happens when you make a big life decision from 2020-03-23T18:00
Whether you're deciding to switch jobs, start your life with someone, move across the country...You will only experience one choice. Think of the decisions you've made in the past and how each o...
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Is there a right amount of time to spend with your kids? from 2020-03-20T18:00
I don't want to see my kids struggle bc every negative feeling they feel, I feel it 10x more.
But letting them face the big, ugly world will allow me to also feel their sense of accomp...
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Getting To Know Our Vaginas By Doing A 28-Day Kegel Challenge from 2020-03-18T20:00
Let’s get comfortable talking about our vaginas, breaking through taboos and redefining how we think about women’s health
Vagina. Kegels. Vulva. Clitoris. Labia. Female genitalia.<...
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7 Empowering Tips Every New Mom Needs To Hear from 2020-03-16T19:00
What do new moms really need to hear during those first months with their newborns?
When a baby is born, a mother is also born. Some people may not realize this ...
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When my mom knew me more than I knew myself from 2020-03-13T19:00
Some decisions are hard to make and some are easy.
Making a decision like, “Where do you want to go for dinner?” may be easy for someone and hard for someone else.
When I was in my...
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3 Self-Care Practices That Are Keeping Me Grounded (And How You Can Create Yours) from 2020-03-11T19:00
I have a full-time day job. I’m a mom. I’m a blogger. I have a lot of things going on.
It can be overwhelming and almost every month, I reach a breaking point. But somehow, I manage...
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I'm An Asian Mom Who Does Therapy: 3 Lessons Learned in My First Session from 2020-03-09T17:00
Does the word therapy still relate to"crazy people"? Like, "Wow, there must be something seriously wrong with you!"
When I was growing up, the idea of getting help for your mental ...
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How To Be Authentic Without Oversharing from 2020-03-07T01:00
Have you ever seen someone on Facebook or Twitter or whatever social media channel detail their entire divorce or break-up for the world to see? He said/She said.
Or d...
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Create this instead of a to-do list from 2020-03-05T01:00
It's easy to go through the motions of life. The sun rises. The sun sets. Another day. Another night. Rinse and repeat.
I'm guilty of this. There's just so much to do every day....
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How to manage interpersonal conflict from 2020-03-03T01:00
What do you do when you have an issue with someone?
Sometimes, it's hard to decide what to do. In this video, I share with you the 4 options you can take when you experience i...
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My two "secrets" to creating content as a busy working mom from 2020-02-29T01:00
We all have the same 24 hours in a day.
What you do with those hours and how you prioritize your time make the difference between someone who gets sh*t done and someone who does...
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Why you need to let your kids struggle from 2020-02-27T01:00
Growing up, I was the nerdy, Asian kid who studied on Friday nights, went to Chinese school on Saturday mornings, practiced piano every day after school.
I was on a mission. Listen
What to do when someone refuses your help from 2020-02-25T01:00
When you see someone you perceive is struggling...how do you feel?
It's a natural instinct to offer help. We don't want to watch others suffer.
From offering u...
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Why are we uncomfortable with silence? from 2020-02-25T01:00
As an introvert, I enjoy silence (or some light jazz), being by myself with my thoughts, working alone and one on one conversations.
But when I'm in a group, I've noticed that w...
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Why it's okay if you don't like spending time with your Asian parents from 2020-02-22T01:00
Do you ever feel like a warm body at your parents whenever you go see them?
Relationship building with our Asian parents is tough
When you have high expecta...
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How to deal with someone who disagrees with you from 2020-02-20T01:00
You like pizza more than pasta?
I hate you and I'm never going to understand you.
OK so there are obviously bigger issues people disagree on. But if we all trea...
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Why people are overly critical and how to deal with them from 2020-02-18T00:00
Here is a truth about humans: those who are hard on others are harder on themselves.
Ever met someone who is never impressed, constantly disappointed in others and sets unatta...
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Why looking good and feeling good go hand in hand from 2020-02-15T00:00
When I'm not in a good mood, my appearance reflects that. Making myself look presentable isn't actually for other people. It's for myself.
The other day, my daughter was watchin...
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Why we need to stop being so closed-minded from 2020-02-13T00:00
If all fleeps are flops and all flops are flips...are all fleeps flips?
Oh god I always hated those IQ test questions
Dichotomy, yes or no, good or bad, black o...
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How can we bridge the generation gap? from 2020-02-11T00:00
From baby boomers to Generations x, y, z.
The older generations think millennials need to stop getting so offended so easily. Millennials think the older generations need to o...
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2 Life Lessons I Learned From Having Coffee With My Dad from 2020-02-07T20:00
Two important life lessons I learned from spending an hour at the local Starbucks with my dad.
A Chinese Canadian story that crosses 4 generations, spanning from Hong Kong to Canada.
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6 Things You Should Not Say To A Pregnant Woman from 2020-02-05T23:00
During my pregnancies, people said the weirdest things to me.
I came up with a list.
I get it! Pregnant women get attention. They’re signs of hope and the future, restoring faith i...
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FOR WHEN YOU NEED A GOOD CRY from 2020-02-03T22:00
Have you ever felt the urge to cry but stopped yourself? I have. But then I take a breath and just let the tears roll. It’s healthy and cathartic to cry. Don’t ever let anyone judge for doing so...
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GROWING UP CHINESE CANADIAN AND APPRECIATING THE FOOD from 2020-01-31T20:00
My husband and I love food. We cook 90% of our meals at home. Cooking is such a cathartic experience for me.
From searching for deals in the flyers (ooh kabocha is on sa...
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HOW DO YOU LIKE TO BE COMFORTED WHEN YOU'RE UPSET? from 2020-01-29T22:00
When a friend shares a vulnerable story with you, how do you react?
When you share a vulnerable story with a friend, how would you want your friend to react?
T...
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HOW MATERIALISM IS HURTING US from 2020-01-27T22:00
Do you care about brands and accumulating stuff?
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HOW TO APOLOGIZE THE RIGHT WAY from 2020-01-24T15:00
Learning the art of the apology can go a long way with someone, deepening the connection you have with them.
Some folks want just the words, "I'm sorry."
Some f...
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How to overcome perfectionism from 2020-01-22T22:00
Overcoming perfectionism is an ongoing recovery. For those like myself who suffer from this tendency, it’s about constantly reminding yourself that doing things perfectly won’t make you valued.<...
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How to talk to your kids about money from 2020-01-20T22:00
Why shouldn't our kids know how much things cost and how much money we make?
They're going to need to know these things eventually. Why not teach them now?
HOW TO BECOME A BETTER PARENT from 2020-01-17T22:00
Superhero parents aren’t good parents. I want to let you know that you shouldn’t aim to be a #supermom as the definition of a good parent.
Don’t try to do everything because you can...
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HOW TO DEAL WITH DISAPPOINTMENT IN RELATIONSHIPS from 2020-01-15T17:00
"Why can't you be more attentive?"
More patient?
More ambitious?
Have more passion?
More risk-averse?
Better with money?
Better listener?
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I’M GETTING TOO OLD FOR THIS... from 2020-01-13T22:00
Age is just a number.
"This sh*t" can mean going back to school, starting a business, a new relationship, learning how to garden, attending a music festival, playing video game...
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MOST IMPORTANT THING ABOUT SELF IMPROVEMENT from 2020-01-10T17:00
Everyday we are exposed to constant streams of content and information, telling us the magical ways to live healthier, wealthier and happier. But what is the most important thing about self impr...
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Superstitions don't really work from 2020-01-08T22:00
Wearing your lucky red underwear? Avoiding all the cracks of the sidewalks?
You should spend your time thinking about how you’re going to reach your goals instead.
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MOTIVATIONAL PODCAST TO GET YOU THROUGH THE DAY from 2020-01-06T19:00
Today you are enough and here is why. I remember there were days when my day was ruined because I didn't know the answer to a question that someone was asking me.
There have bee...
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THE IMPORTANCE OF THE PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP (AS PARENTS AND AS THE CHILD) from 2020-01-03T22:00
THE IMPORTANCE OF THE PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP (AS PARENTS AND AS THE CHILD)
When I get frustrated with my parents, I really try to understand their perspective.
WHEN SOMEONE TELLS YOU TO ENJOY THESE MOMENTS AS A PARENT from 2020-01-01T19:00
Cherish these moments...more like enjoy the good moments and just survive the bad ones when you’re a parent
Have you ever sat down beside a toddler and pretended to be them fo...
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WHY WE NEED TO KNOW OUR CORE VALUES from 2019-12-30T17:00
Your values are sacred. It sets the direction in which your life will go.
When someone asks you to go against them, don't give in or your relationship with them will suf...
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Best Marriage Tip from 2019-12-27T22:00
A good marriage is not based on the number of anniversaries
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FINDING BALANCE AS A 'WORKING MOM' from 2019-12-25T21:00
It’s being at work and feeling guilty about not being at home. Then it’s being at home and feeling guilty about not being at work. The goal of a ‘working mom’ is to balance both the working part...
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EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO THEIR OPINION from 2019-12-23T21:00
“It’s called freedom of speech and I’m entitled to my opinion.”
What it means when people say they're "entitled to their opinion
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DO YOU ACTUALLY KNOW SOMEONE? from 2019-12-20T18:00
"I know so and so for over 20 years."
"I'm their mom/dad and I raised them so I know them."
"I'm their child and they raised me so I know them."
I'm like, "so what?" Listen
Empathy versus sympathy from 2019-12-18T18:00
How can we understand the difference between empathy and sympathy? This goes beyond walking a mile in someone’s shoes.
Did you find this helpful?
Let me know in the comments below ...
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4 Things Couples Should Absolutely Talk About Before Getting Married from 2019-12-16T18:00
While getting ideas from friends, family and other blogs for this post, I heard tons of things that felt important to talk about. This could blog post could have easily been called “40 Things Co...
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6 Signs You’re Functioning More Like Your Husband’s Mother Than His Wife from 2019-12-13T17:00
We all want what’s best for our husbands. But when do we become over-responsible for their well-being?
The other day, I came across the term ‘over-functioning’ while browsing through some...
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Why I Stopped Caring About Grammar as an Asian Canadian Writer from 2019-12-11T16:00
Growing up as an Asian Canadian, I often felt I needed to prove my English skills worthy to the white folks.
“Your English is pretty good for a Chinese person.”
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4 Ways To Yell Less At Your Kids from 2019-12-09T16:00
We’ve all yelled at our kids. It’s inevitable. I call your bluff if you say you haven’t.
“I can’t help it. It just happens, especially when I’m exhausted at the end ...
Why It’s Okay To Swear In Front of Your Kids from 2019-12-06T17:00
“Science says cursing, cussing, using profanity to express emotions can be a good thing…but what about the children?”
“Their innocent ears and naive brains cannot possibly process the hor...
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How To Practice Gratitude With This Simple Daily Habit from 2019-12-04T16:00
"Why is it so hard to practice gratitude on a daily basis?”
“I know I need to be grateful but some days I just don’t think there is anything to be grateful about”
“When lif...
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? WHAT A FULFILLING LIFE REALLY MEANS from 2019-12-02T19:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? WHAT A FULFILLING LIFE REALLY MEANS
You’re always a parent but the journey is never the same
There’s no sugarcoating that being a parent is hard work but it’s...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? ROUTINES AND BOREDOM from 2019-11-29T17:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? ROUTINES AND BOREDOM
How do you deal with the monotonous routine? Isn’t it boring having to do the same thing, every single day?
Yes, the routine can be borin...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? WHEN THEY GET SICK AND SCARY HEALTH STUFF from 2019-11-27T17:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? WHEN THEY GET SICK AND SCARY HEALTH STUFF
What about if they get sick or have an allergic reaction or fall from a tree and break their arm or get diagnosed a medical...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? TANTRUMS, EMOTIONAL LABOUR, TOUGH TOPICS from 2019-11-25T18:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? TANTRUMS, EMOTIONAL LABOUR, TOUGH TOPICS
What do you do when they whine and have tantrums, especially in the public? It seems so emotionally exhausting!
To be...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? TIME, SPACE AND PRIVACY FOR YOURSELF from 2019-11-22T21:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? TIME, SPACE AND PRIVACY FOR YOURSELF
How do you make time for yourself? Aren’t they always in your space? Does it seem like you can’t even have an adult conversation...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? COSTS, EXPENSES, AFFORDABILITY from 2019-11-22T19:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? COSTS, EXPENSES, AFFORDABILITY
Kids are so expensive. How are you able to afford them?
Yes, it costs money to raise children. I’m definitely not denying that....
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? KID STUFF, CLUTTER, CLEANING from 2019-11-20T19:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? KID STUFF, CLUTTER, CLEANING
How do you deal with all that kid stuff shit in your house? You must be constantly cleaning!
It’s called managing expectations, l...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? FOOD, EATING, COOKING, GOING OUT TO RESTAURANTS from 2019-11-18T18:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? FOOD, EATING, COOKING, GOING OUT TO RESTAURANTS
Do you get to go out to eat? What do they eat? Do you have to cook all the time and buy everything organic?
Ye...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? DO YOU GET TO SLEEP? from 2019-11-15T20:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? DO YOU GET TO SLEEP?
Here’s the part where I can give some insight into being a parent, the good, the bad and the ugly.
When I talk to women who are on the fe...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? UNFINISHED BUSINESS AND LIVING YOUR DREAMS from 2019-11-13T17:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? UNFINISHED BUSINESS AND LIVING YOUR DREAMS
Don’t have kids because you want to live your dreams through them
From taking over the family’s business to pressur...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? SOCIAL PRESSURE from 2019-11-11T17:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? SOCIAL PRESSURE
Don’t have kids just because someone is pressuring you to.
“You’re 35 and still don’t have kids?”
“I can’t be with you unless we have a...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? FITTING IN AND FEELING LEFT OUT from 2019-11-08T18:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? FITTING IN AND FEELING LEFT OUT
Reasons why you should and shouldn’t have kids
Don’t have kids just because you want to fit in.
Is everyone you know ha...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? HAVING KIDS AND HAPPINESS from 2019-11-06T17:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? HAVING KIDS AND HAPPINESS
Reasons why you should and shouldn’t have kids
Don’t have kids because you want to fill a void, hoping they will make you happy.
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? A GUIDED SELF REFLECTION EXERCISE from 2019-11-04T17:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? A GUIDED SELF REFLECTION EXERCISE
How to know yourself and your ‘Why’
Here are some questions to help guide you in figuring out whether having kids is somethi...
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SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? MORE MILLENNIAL WOMEN AREN'T from 2019-11-01T15:00
SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? MORE MILLENNIAL WOMEN AREN'T
“Should I have kids? Maybe if I meet a guy who wants them but for now, nope.”
“I don’t want my life to change right now but that ...
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6 LAST Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.” from 2019-10-30T18:00
Let’s not sugarcoat it…dating sucks.
To help you change your mindset, here are MY LAST 6 Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.”
Dating is like t...
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9 MORE Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.” from 2019-10-28T16:00
Let’s not sugarcoat it…dating sucks.
To help you change your mindset, here are 9 MORE Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.”
Dating is like the ep...
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9 Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.” from 2019-10-25T17:00
Let’s not sugarcoat it…dating sucks.
To help you change your mindset, here are 9 Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.”
Dating is like the epitome...
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Dating Self-Reflection Exercise: Figuring out your wants from 2019-10-23T16:00
The more you know yourself, the more you know who you want as a life partner.
What are the wants when trying to find a life partner? This is the spice that makes you and the other p...
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Dating Self-Reflection Exercise: Figuring out your needs from 2019-10-21T17:00
What are the needs when trying to find a life partner?
These are your values, reflecting on your moral compass, ethics and spiritual/religious beliefs.
I go through som...
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WHEN MY CHILD SAYS THANK YOU, IT’S FOR THEM, NOT YOU from 2019-10-18T17:00
How can we make sure our children understand and practice gratitude?
It’s about going beyond getting them to recite the words, ‘Thank you.’
A stranger holds the door for you…...
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3 SIGNS TO LOOK FOR WHEN MAKING NEW FRIENDS TO AVOID MAKING TOXIC ONES from 2019-10-16T17:00
How do you make sure you make great friends instead of toxic ones?
Here are 3 signs to look for when making new friends.
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HOW TO AVOID BECOMING A TOXIC FRIEND SO YOU DON’T LOSE THEM from 2019-10-14T16:00
So in part 1, I shared the 3 signs that I watch for in myself when I think I’m becoming a toxic friend.
In part 2 of my toxic friendship series, I’ll share with you how I manage these beh...
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HOW TO RECOGNIZE A TOXIC FRIEND: THE FIRST THING YOU NEED TO DO from 2019-10-11T18:00
Here is part 1 of my 3 part series on Toxic Friendships:
Ah, toxic friends. From Clueless to Mean Girls to Gossip Girl (is it Pretty Little Liars now?)…
Do they only appear in the ...
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3 THINGS ASIAN PARENTS WITH GROWN KIDS NEED TO STOP DOING from 2019-10-09T17:00
You can’t seem to get through to your 20 something or 30 something-year-old “kid”.
They don’t want to talk to you.
At family dinner, they’re on their phones, not muc...
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HOW TO GET YOUR BOYFRIEND TO PROPOSE TO YOU from 2019-10-07T17:00
First of all, I have to confess but this title is misleading because this is the harsh truth…
YOU CAN’T!
Let me break it down.
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THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO GETTING OVER ANY RELATIONSHIP from 2019-10-04T17:00
Did you fired or did you quit?
Did he break with you? Or did you break up with him?
Did she unfriend/unfollow you first? Or did you?
How much you care about the answers to t...
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HOW TO GET ALONG WITH YOUR IN-LAWS from 2019-10-02T16:00
Oh the in laws.
We’ve all heard the jokes.
Monster -in-laws.
“Oh better brace yourselves, get the whiskey, my dreaded in-laws are coming over tonigh...
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WHEN YOU WANT TO GIVE UP ON DATING BECAUSE THERE'S NO ONE RIGHT FOR YOU from 2019-09-30T16:00
What are the excuses that you give yourself when you think no one likes you?
Do you want to give up on finding someone to share your life with?
Do you think y...
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HOW TO THINK STRAIGHT WHEN YOU’RE DATING AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE GOING CRAZY from 2019-09-27T16:00
Life isn’t complicated.
Humans and their human stuff make it complicated.
And that’s what we do with everything.
Like dating. We get all messed up and can’t...
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A SIMPLE SELF-REFLECTION EXERCISE TO INCREASE SELF-AWARENESS from 2019-09-25T16:00
Here’s an easy self-reflection exercise you can do to know yourself better and increase self-awareness.
Pick a simple decision and ask yourself WHY 5 times.
When I...
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HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVE COMMENTS (MANAGE YOUR FEAR OF WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU) from 2019-09-23T17:00
When I started telling people about my blog, one of the first questions was,
“Have you gotten negative comments?
Have there been mean comments? Met any trolls? Listen
WHEN YOU’RE TRYING FOR A BABY AND YOU GET YOUR PERIOD (HOW TO MANAGE GETTING BAD NEWS) from 2019-09-20T16:00
You don’t always have to be positive and happy. It’s okay not to be okay all the time.
Ever feel down? Like giving up? Shitty?
My husband and I have been trying for a secon...
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LET’S GET REAL AND RAW ABOUT DATING from 2019-09-18T15:00
“How did an INTROVERTED, ASIAN CANADIAN MILLENNIAL who grew up with traditional, immigrant parents find her husband online with ZERO dating experience?”
WHY ONLINE DATING DOESN’T HAVE TO SUCK from 2019-09-16T15:00
I met my husband online back in 2013 and lately, I’ve noticed a lot of people complaining about the online dating scene. WHAT’S GOING ON?
What has this technology...
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WHY YOU SHOULD COMPETE WITH YOURSELF from 2019-09-13T15:00
I share how an embarrassing and devastating moment as a kid taught me my life lesson about competition.
Let’s change the definition of competition.
Growing up, I was a very competi...
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HOW TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE from 2019-09-11T15:00
Let’s talk about control.
As a recovering perfectionist, the moment I hit my first rock bottom at the age of 16, I realized it was my fear of losing control that made me ...
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WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE NOT ENOUGH from 2019-09-09T15:00
Growing up as an Asian Canadian, comparing one kid to another was the norm.
Who’s doing better in school? Who got fatter? Who is better at xyz?
And when you grow up with this menta...
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How To Achieve Your Goals By Facing Your Fears from 2019-09-06T16:00
“I’m not scared; I’m just not motivated to start my goals right now.”
“I’ll start my diet on Monday.”
“Watching Netflix on a Friday night is way more fun than going out and meeting...
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Why Practicing Cultural Sensitivity Isn’t Just For White People from 2019-09-04T16:00
“You can’t use those words to describe that culture unless you belong to that culture…because then you can use whatever words you want right?”
“Oh you can’t say that word; it’s politicall...
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What It Means When People Say They’re “Entitled To Their Opinion” from 2019-09-02T15:00
“It’s called freedom of speech and I’m entitled to my opinion.”
“I say what I want when I want.”
“I don’t care what you think. That’s just how I feel.”
Our parents, teac...
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3 TIPS ON FINANCIAL LITERACY WITH BRIAN C CHUNG - MANAGING MONEY, SAVING AND INVESTING (PART 2 OF 2) from 2019-08-30T16:00
Money, money, money...MONEY
This is at the top of almost everyone's minds.
How can we get more of it? How can we save it? How can we use it to our advantage?&nbs...
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3 TIPS ON FINANCIAL LITERACY WITH BRIAN C CHUNG - MANAGING MONEY, SAVING AND INVESTING (PART 1 OF 2) from 2019-08-28T16:00
Money, money, money...MONEY
This is at the top of almost everyone's minds.
How can get more of it? How can get save it? How can we use it to our advantage?
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3 SIGNS TO WATCH FOR WHEN IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP (WITH JANE FANG) from 2019-08-26T15:00
3 SIGNS TO WATCH FOR WHEN IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP
Many people question how long-distance relationships work and whether they’re worth it.
If you are dealing with a long-dis...
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Why Showing Physical Affection Between Asian Parents Should Change from 2019-08-23T15:00
Imagine your Asian parents holding hands, hugging, kissing, making out on the couch.
Cringe, shudder, gross.
I grew up with the kind of parents that barely touched. How has that af...
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3 Reactions To Crazy Rich Asians – An Asian Mom Blogger’s Perspective from 2019-08-21T16:00
I can't believe it's been a year since Crazy Rich Asians came out in theaters
During that time, my husband and I were able to get away and have a date night.
Oh ju...
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Why You Don’t Always Have To Be In The Moment With Your New Baby (Time Doesn’t Fly THAT Fast) from 2019-08-19T16:00
So parents or parents-to-be, do you ever hear that piece of advice, “Cherish these moments while your children are still young because, in a blink of an eye, they’ll be all grown up”
I’ll...
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How To Have Courage When You Are Bullied from 2019-08-16T16:00
Although I’ve met bullies at all ages, it’s when you’re a kid that you’re the most vulnerable, where the hate hurts the most, and horrible, unnecessary crap happens.
Here are 2 true stori...
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How Those Annoying Mandatory Chinese Family Dinners Have Changed from 2019-08-14T15:00
It’s my time to reflect on those sometimes annoying, mandatory Chinese family dinners growing up and how they’ve changed as I got older.
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5 Natural Ways To Fall Asleep When You Have Momsomnia from 2019-08-12T16:00
Momsomnia, restless nights, insomnia, broken sleep. Why can’t we just go to sleep and wake up all refreshed?
At this time, I’d say 80% of the time, my daughter sleeps through the night. H...
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What Introverts Want To Talk About Instead of The Weather from 2019-08-09T16:00
I’m an introvert and I don’t like small talk.
I don’t take pleasure in chatting about the weather, news, sports, the condos they’re building down the street and other miscellaneous topics...
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When You Want To Give Up Breastfeeding But Feel Guilty from 2019-08-07T15:00
Breastfeeding stressed me out. It was tiring and lonely. It was a mental game that I played with myself every day.
So I exclusively breastfed my daughter 2 weeks shy of 6 months. I comple...
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How To Manage Your Anger When You’re Fighting With Your Partner from 2019-08-05T16:00
Oh, God, I hate fighting with my husband.
The thought of fighting makes me want to crawl into a cave and wait for everything to settle down.
I don’t want to talk about the ...
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4 Reasons Why I Married An Asian Man from 2019-08-02T15:00
I was browsing my Twitter and I saw a post from novelist, Celeste Ng sharing her essay in The Cut about being harassed for marrying a non-Asian man.
I am a Chinese-Canadian woman married ...
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How I Preserve My Culture As An Asian Canadian Mom from 2019-07-31T15:00
In my life, I’ve been called many things.
Growing up in the 90s in a predominantly Caucasian community, I got the usual questions and comments.
We’ve come a long way since then and...
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How To Avoid Making Toxic Friends (3 Signs You Are One) from 2019-07-29T14:00
Ah, toxic girlfriends. From Clueless to Mean Girls to Gossip Girl (is it Pretty Little Liars now?), do these only appear in the teenage years?
No.
These appear through to adulthood...
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How To Teach Your Kid Grit Without Becoming A Tiger Parent from 2019-07-26T14:00
When you want your kid to grow up tough enough to face the world but you don’t want to become your parents…What do you do?
Growing up with Asian parents, we were often taught that perseve...
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How Growing Up As An Asian Kid Translator Helped My Empathy Skills from 2019-07-24T22:00
How translating for your immigrant parents actually makes you more emotionally intelligent
Have you ever seen an Asian mom and her kid at a restaurant and the kid is ordering for the both...
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How I Started Sharing The Mental Load of Motherhood With My Husband from 2019-07-22T19:00
For me, the first year of motherhood was all about survival, keeping my head above water and recovering from a lost sense of identity:
Is being a mom the only role I’ll have from no...
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How I Stopped Resenting My Husband After Having Our Daughter from 2019-07-19T17:03:16
After she was born, I started hating my husband like he was this evil asshole who only cared about himself and his needs.
I was annoyed he needed help with things I had been doing all...
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How and Why I’m Raising My Daughter To Break The Materialistic Asian Stereotype from 2019-07-17T21:00
Have you ever been to a Coach outlet? Or an Aritzia sale? Who do you see? What are stereotypical Asians obsessed about?
Gucci, Prada, Louis Vuitton…Purses, sunglasses, clothes, shoes, car...
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How To Speak Up As An Asian Woman (And Why You Should) from 2019-07-15T21:00
The quiet, submissive Japanese businesswoman; the self-sacrificing, man-pleasing Chinese wife; the docile, needy Korean female international student.
Whenever I hear these stereotypes, I ...
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Why I Don’t Put Photos Of My Child’s Face On Social Media from 2019-07-12T17:03:25
First of all, I don’t judge a parent for sharing pictures of their kids on social media.
It’s a personal choice and ultimately, it’s what works for their family.
I don’t know how m...
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Why You’re Not Ignorant If You Don’t Pay Attention To The News from 2019-07-10T19:00
Did you hear about the shooting in that town?
What about that woman who was murdered on her way home from work?
Or that country that keeps massacring its own people?
No – mo...
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3 Reasons Why Working Mom Guilt Will Cease To Exist from 2019-07-08T19:00
It’s being at work and feeling guilty about not being at home. Then it’s being at home and feeling guilty about not being at work.
The goal of a ‘working mom’ is to balance both ...
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3 Signs You're A Pretty Cool Grandparent from 2019-07-05T16:57:24
I’m going to preface this by saying this list is based on the assumptions that my daughter decides to have a kid and that I will be alive when this happens.
I know this may not happen but...
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3 More Brutally Honest Dating Secrets for Finding The One from 2019-07-03T20:00
Dating sucks. There is no sugar coating it. So I’m going to be brutally honest and let you in on some dating secrets for finding the one.
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Why Following Asian Superstitions Won’t Help You Reach Your Goals from 2019-07-01T20:00
I’m sure you’ve heard of Asian people celebrating Lunar New Year.
And I can probably write about how I celebrate it with my family (the red pockets, food, family traditions, stories etc.)...
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How My Mom’s Early Loss Inspired Me To Take Care Of My Health (Why I Love My Mom Part 3 of 3) from 2019-06-28T16:50:07
A touching story of how my grandma’s death inspired my mom to take control of her health
Here is the final part of my collaboration series with Tiny Eyes Comics.
Hope you enjoy!
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What To Say To Your Immigrant Parents When It’s Hard To Say ‘I Love You’ (Why I Love My Mom Part 2 of 3) from 2019-06-26T20:00
It’s hard to say ‘I Love You’ to my parents but my mom and I have figured out a way to make it work.
Here is part 2 of Why I Love My Mom series
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How Immigrant Parents Show Their Love Through Food (Why I Love My Mom Part 1 of 3) from 2019-06-24T20:00
Tiny Eyes is a comic series that shares slices of everyday life from a Chinese perspective. The series aims to create a fun, intimate and authentic space for those who are curious about China. Listen
Why I’m OK If My Child Skips Breakfast from 2019-06-21T20:00
So I don’t eat breakfast. I never ate breakfast when I was a kid.
I do brunches with girlfriends and my husband makes a mean breakfast on the weekends (breakfast is his life; he can’t fun...
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What Happens When Maternity Leave Ends from 2019-06-19T19:00
I knew my maternity leave was going to end. I just didn’t know how I would feel in that moment I had to go back to work.
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Having Coffee with Honourable Mary Ng, Chinese Canadian Cabinet Minister from 2019-06-17T19:00
Mary Ng is the Member of Parliament (MP) for Markham-Thornhill & Minister of Small Business and Export Promotion.
She is a trailblazer as one of the first Chinese Canadian female cabi...
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Why I Didn't Let Strangers Touch My Baby from 2019-06-14T19:00
I don’t touch other people’s kids without asking their parents or the kid themselves first.
First of all, kids are gross. I know kids touch everything and anything.
Aside from bein...
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How Being Raised By Immigrant Parents Affects Your Relationships With Others (Part 5 of 5) from 2019-06-12T19:00
Growing up with Asian immigrant parents, we always had a disconnect. However, the way they raised me affected me significantly and shaped how I am in other relationships.
Although the...
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Why You Don’t Have To Like Your Immigrant Parents But You Can Still Love Them (Part 4 of 5) from 2019-06-10T19:00
Ever heard the phrase, “You choose your friends but not your family?” Here’s why you don’t have to like your Asian immigrant parents but you can still love them. You can learn to accept them for...
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How To Talk To Your Immigrant Parents When They Don’t Understand Your Mindset (Part 3 of 5) from 2019-06-07T19:00
Asian immigrant parents don’t share our mindset. They grew up differently than us. How can we talk to them when they don’t understand you?
Now that you’ve taken some time to think abo...
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What To Talk To Your Asian Immigrant Parents About When You Can’t Talk About Anything (Part 2 of 5) from 2019-06-05T16:26:19
Talking to my Asian parents wasn’t easy. For a long time, I didn’t know what to talk to them about because it seemed like we couldn’t talk about anything. Here’s what you need to know to figure ...
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How To Deal With Your Immigrant Parents: The First Thing You Should Do (Part 1 of 5) from 2019-06-03T18:00:53
How can we deal with Asian immigrant parents when we barely understand one another?
Here is the first thing you should do.
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What is Sum On Sleeve? Hidden Meaning Behind My Name from 2019-05-31T19:00
Why is Sum spelled that way?
Why am I here?
Where am I?
Who am I?
Maybe not that question unless you’re having an existential crisis…but perhaps listening to my podca...
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Why You Should Stop Your Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) from 2019-05-29T17:08:32
FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) is an actual reason why millennials overspend.
Are you freaking kidding me?
People my age spend money because they have a “fear of missing out on”
How Teaching Your Husband or Boyfriend About Your Period Can Make Your Relationship Better (Feminist Series) from 2019-05-27T19:00
How Teaching Your Husband or Boyfriend About Your Period Can Make Your Relationship Better (Feminist Series)
The men in our lives, our boyfriends, friends, husbands, brothers, fathers...
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How I Stopped Giving Into People Who Pressure Me To Drink from 2019-05-24T16:30:33
drink, drink, drink! From the workplace to hanging out with friends, it’s so easy to succumb to the pressure to drink.
So I don’t enjoy drinking alcohol.
Some people might be like,...
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I’m a Recovering Perfectionist (Part 2 of 2: Self-harm, disordered eating and depression) from 2019-05-22T16:14:23
This is the second part of my recovering perfectionism journey. Please check out my first part to get a better sense of my story
Hitting my first rock bottom at the age of 16 made me grow...
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13 Reasons Why I Watched 13 Reasons Why (Part 1 of 2: Self-Harm, Disordered Eating, Depression) from 2019-05-20T19:00
I have a history of self-harm, disordered eating, and depression.
The journey began during my pre-teens and I recovered before my 17th birthday.
It started in Grade 6
I thou...
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3 Asian Stereotype Parenting Practices You Should Never Follow from 2019-05-17T19:00
I’ve always been one of those kids who takes pleasure in defying stereotypes. I hate being put in a box.
Don’t assume I’m submissive because of some show you saw about Asian women.
3 Asian Stereotype Parenting Practices You Should Follow from 2019-05-10T19:00
Although I hate being put in a box, stereotypes can sometimes be true for an individual. It’s this observed behaviour that is generalized about a group of people who share a cultural/ethnic...
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WHY WE NEED TO STOP LABELLING AND ASSUMING THINGS ABOUT WOMEN AND WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT IT (FEMINIST SERIES) from 2019-05-03T18:00
Ladies, have you ever been in a public location (like waiting for the bus, buying groceries or getting your fix at Starbucks) and a man comes up to you and tells you to smile?
Like he...
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HOW TO KNOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS HEALTHY OR IS IT TIME TO MOVE ON (RELATIONSHIP SERIES PART 4 OF 4) from 2019-04-26T18:00
How To Continually Know If Your Marriage Is Healthy
If marriage is about Trust, Honesty, Communication, and Respect, it really doesn’t seem that scary.
The best indicator o...
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HOW TO EARN AND SHOW RESPECT WITH YOUR ROMANTIC PARTNER (RELATIONSHIP SERIES PART 3 OF 4) from 2019-04-19T18:00
How To Show And Earn Respect To Make Your Marriage Better
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Find out what it means to me
Cue Aretha, please.
So I talked about Trust, Hone...
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HOW TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH YOUR ROMANTIC PARTNER (RELATIONSHIP SERIES PART 2 OF 4) from 2019-04-12T18:00
So being Honest and building Trust with our partner is important. But how can you do those things without working on your Communication?
There are so many ways communication can break...
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HOW TO SHOW EMOTIONAL HONESTY WITH YOUR ROMANTIC PARTNER (RELATIONSHIP SERIES PART 1 OF 4) from 2019-04-05T18:00
How To Show Emotional Honesty To Make Your Marriage Better
Relationships aren’t easy.
They are a lot of work. They have a start and a finish but they’re dy...
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