Life is Happening FOR us, not to us - a podcast by Siri Lindley

Good morning, everyone. Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I've obviously been doing a lot of thinking about life and how interesting it can be. We often go through our lives feeling like we are controlling everything we need to in order to get the result that we are hoping for. For example, with me, I've got this great diet and I eat healthily, I exercise, I take care of my mind, body, and spirit -- everything I do with my athletes I do with myself. But there are no guarantees with anything.

I would say that what's even more important than trying to control everything is having faith. Having faith when unexpected things happen means knowing that they are happening for a reason.

I've been reading this amazing book, The Four Sacred Agreements, and there is such amazing stuff in there. There was one part where they were talking about how trees shed all their beautiful leaves in the winter -- I've looked at this and even spoken about this in the past in the Bed Head Chronicles about how beautiful it is to let go because it makes room for us to come back more beautiful than ever. In this respect, when it comes to what I'm dealing with my diagnosis, I feel that sometimes in life in order to reach that next place -- you get to a point where you have learned everything you need to learn. You feel like you've got it. Life is great. My life was absolutely everything I dreamed it to be. And it still is, aside from this, as far as having the love and the job I've always dreamed of, a love for myself that I worked so hard for my entire life, living in a place where not a day goes by and I look out the window thinking about how blessed and how grateful I am, a strong and beautiful group of core friends that bring me so much joy.

But, still, I believe that even if we've got it -- even if we've got our system figured out, there's more for us. My faith leads me to believe, with all my heart, that I need to shed all my leaves as the tree does in the winter. Even though that leaves me standing exposed and raw and scared, this is what will allow me to acquire everything else I need to truly go to the next place in my life that's waiting for me. When I look at it this way and have faith, everything that happens in our lives is part of the journey we were meant to have. When you focus on this being life happening for you, not to you, it gives us extra strength to take on anything that is ahead.

For me, I go to the hospital on Monday and the journey begins. It's going to be the biggest challenge of my life, by far. But, again, I always talk about focusing on what you have, not what you don't have. What you want, not on what you don't want. I am focusing on the beautiful love from my wife, my mom, my dear friends and from all of you. Your love, support, and prayers mean everything to me. I'm focusing on that. I'm focusing on my love for myself and the fact that I know that I've been through very hard and tough situations before and found a way to break through and make it to the other side. I know I have that strength in me. I know I was so stifled at the time by my fear. But I know that I made it through that.

I speak this, not just about me, but for any of you that are faced with something that is terrifying you or bringing you to your knees. This is for you, too. What will help get us through this, heal and be our very best for the task at hand is to focus and appreciate what you have.

I am appreciating the health that I have now -- the health that maybe for a little bit in my future. I wake up and I say I'm thankful for my health on this day and the water that I drink (may it heal me). I'm thankful for these two hands that have allowed me to do so much in my life. Focus on what you have, not what you don't have. I am going to focus on the fact that I'm facing this huge challenge that's going to take me away from my home that is my sacred space for a long time. But home is where the heart is. I get to bring my heart and my wife and my mom. I get to have access because of social media, which is a beautiful thing because it allows us all to be there for one another. I get to bring that with me. I'm going to focus on healing, strengthening and growing and expanding my understanding of life and everything that comes onto our path when we don't expect them. I'm going to focus on all the beautiful things that come from this. I'm also going to focus on sharing this with you no matter what I end up looking or feeling like as the weeks go by. I will be here for you because I will have you learn and grow on this journey through me. We're in this together.

I'm not being weak right now. I am going to share this with you the entire way. Because we're going to get through this together. I hope that in getting myself through this, I'm also going to help others get through their own challenges as well.

Be strong. Focus on what you want. Life is happening for us, not to us. When we look at it that way, we will see that there are so many gifts, there's so much magic, there's so much grace when we're going through something like this. But you have to know that it's there and open your eyes to it. That's what will give you strength and faith.

To all of you, thank you for being a part of this journey with me. Thank you for your love and support. To those of you facing challenges, I'm with you. We've got this. We're going to get through this. We're going to come out of this better, stronger, happier and with a more expanded spirituality and understanding that will allow us to be even greater beacons of light in this world -- for ourselves and everyone around us. And thanks to our creator.

Thank you, everyone, I love you. Have a wonderful day.

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