Podcasts by Stuck Not Broken

Panic Attacks: How to Reduce Their Intensity&Frequency from 2023-11-14T05:00

If you’ve been through a panic attack, you know they are no joke. You may actually go through panic attacks repeatedly. You may even have a panic attack the same time each day, like at nighttime...

Ventral Vagal Safety Spectrum: Dysregulation to Connection from 2023-11-07T05:00

The ventral vagal safety state of the Polyvagal Theory may not be easily accessible, especially if you exist in a traumatized state. And it’s maybe even more difficult to deeply settle into and ...

Can AI Replace Your Therapist? (No, not yet!) from 2023-10-31T05:00

With the incredible emergence and rapid upgrading of artificial intelligence models, one has to wonder if it can act as your therapist in late October 2023. As of right now, the answer is a clea...

Why You are Still Stuck in Shutdown (and what to do) from 2023-10-24T05:00

You're depressed. You're learning about and applying the Polyvagal Theory with little change to your shutdown state. In this episode, I will share a few things you are doing to keep yourself stu...

Ultimate Guide to Healing Dorsal Vagal Shutdown of the Polyvagal Theory from 2023-10-17T05:00

It's possible to live with more connection, energy, and hope in life. Yes, living without being in a dominant Polyvagal shutdown is possible. Life without depression is possible. I pull from my ...

the Stimulus Response Behavior Model is Missing Something: a Polyvagal Solution? from 2023-10-10T05:00

The traditional model of behavior as a result of a stimulus is missing a middle component. There is some algorithm that takes place in between the stimulus and the response. The Polyvagal Theory...

Would you take a ventral vagal magic pill? from 2023-10-06T05:00

If there was a ventral vagal magic pill, would you take it? In this episode, I explore the ideas of objective measures and shortcuts and what they might mean for you in your trauma recovery jour...

What is Vagal Efficiency? (and how to get more of it) from 2023-10-03T05:00

If you've never heard of "vagal efficiency" in your Polyvagal Theory readings, you're not alone. In this episode, I'll discuss vagal efficiency and how it relates to the safety state and the vag...

Intimacy: Another Polyvagal Mixed State? from 2023-09-26T05:00

Intimacy, fawn, and appeasement were added to the Polyvagal Theory as mixed states. But are they? Should we take the context more into account before calling intimacy a mixed state? What happens...

Is"Our Polyvagal World"Worth Buying? - a Book Review from 2023-09-21T05:00

Our Polyvagal World is overall worth owning, especially at $14 from Amazon.

Buy the book here (portion of sale goes to me at no extra cost to you) - https://amzn.to/3rr9YBa

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Fawn and Appeasement: Actual Mixed States or Something Else? from 2023-09-19T05:00

Are the new Polyvagal Theory mixed states of fawn and appeasement better understood as mixed states or behavioral adaptations?

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Comply to Survive: Fawn and the Polyvagal Theory from 2023-09-11T05:00

Fawn has officially been added to the growing list of Polyvagal Theory mixed states. I’ll explain fawning and how the theory interprets it to deepen your understanding of the Polyvagal Theory. Listen

Connect to Survive: Appeasement Replaces Stockholm Syndrome via Polyvagal Theory from 2023-09-05T05:00

Appeasement has replaced the outdated understanding of "Stockholm Syndrome," as described by the Polyvagal Theory. Learn what appeasement is and how it acts as a survival mechanism when one is u...

Dr Stephen Porges: Polyvagal Theory Updates&Critiques (2023) from 2023-08-22T05:00

Dr. Stephen Porges addresses critiques of the Polyvagal Theory, new mixed states (fawn, appease, intimacy), and "stimulating the vagus nerve." He also discusses his new book, Our Polyvagal World...

Time: the Uncomfortable Truth from 2023-08-17T05:00

Today will end. In this episode, I cover a heavy topic - time. I want to add a bit of urgency to your self-improvement or trauma recovery process. Don't listen if this is too heavy a topic for y...

BANGING on our window at night!? a Polyvagal Neuroception Story. from 2023-08-11T05:00

Someone BANGED on our window in the middle of the night with their fists! I'll teach you how this connects to the Polyvagal concept of neuroception.

Trauma recovery System of courses and c...

Silence: an Essential Mindfulness Ingredient from 2023-08-08T05:00

Learn how incorporating small moments of silence into your daily routine can enhance essential mindfulness, reduce stress, and help you feel more connected to your surroundings.

Trauma rec...

Are They Really a"Friend"? Healthy Boundaries&Levels of Friendship from 2023-08-04T05:00

Do you have "friends" in your life that drain you? In this episode, I discuss the different levels of friendship to help you prioritize where you're putting your energy.

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Can't Sleep? The Stress and Insomnia Connection from 2023-08-01T05:00

Are you tossing and turning at night, plagued by worries and anxieties? You're not alone. Stress-induced insomnia is a common sleep disorder that affects many people. But what's the connection b...

How Feeling Stuck Trauma May Actually Help... from 2023-07-28T08:30

Our bodies are naturally compelled to self-regulate and release trauma. But are you worried about what might happen if you touch upon it? In this episode, I discuss how touching upon your stuck ...

Navigating 3 Stages of Trauma Healing: a Polyvagal Perspective from 2023-07-25T07:30

Explore the transformative journey of trauma healing through the lens of the Polyvagal Theory. This episode guides you through the three key stages: learning accurate information, building the s...

Personal Growth: Allowed, Necessary and No Permission Needed! from 2023-07-11T07:30

Discover the keys to personal growth and enhance your mental health with these practical steps. Learn how to take responsibility for your own development, set clear goals, and embark on a contin...

Losing Access to Personal Boundaries and How to Strengthen Them from 2023-07-04T07:30

Ever regret how you reacted to situations that felt unsafe? Learn what happened and how to strengthen personal boundaries.

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What is a Polyvagal Therapist and how can they help you? from 2023-06-27T07:30

Learn about Polyvagal therapy, how to find a Polyvagal-informed licensed therapist, explore coaching options, or delve into Polyvagal-informed courses for self-guided growth. Get unstuck, enhanc...

Understanding Dorsal Vagal Shutdown: Numbness and Trauma from 2023-06-13T07:45

Learn about dorsal vagal shutdown and how it affects your daily life. Learn how to recognize, manage, and begin to overcome this common physiological response to stress and trauma. Dive deep int...

Mastering Panic Attacks: Coping vs Safety Grounding from 2023-06-06T07:00

Discover practical techniques to improve your mental health and overcome panic attacks. Explore the Polyvagal Theory, learn self-regulation strategies, and find ways to access your body's safety...

Trauma Recovery: Trusting in Your Power to Self-Regulate from 2023-05-30T08:30

Discover the secrets of trauma recovery and unleash your body's natural healing power. But the question is, do you trust your body's natural ability and need to self-regulate? Learn what you can...

5 Emotional Impacts of Trauma from 2023-05-23T07:00

Join me as I delve into the emotional impacts of trauma. I'll explore the neuroscience of trauma, its profound effects on emotions like anxiety, depression, anger, fear, guilt, and shame, and th...

7 Easy Anxiety Management Skills to Use Today from 2023-05-19T00:00

I have seven simple yet effective anxiety management skills that you can use TODAY. Yes, for free too! From deep breathing exercises and mindful movement breaks to calming music and journaling, ...

Easy Beginning Meditation Tips for Busy People from 2023-05-09T08:00

Discover the benefits of meditation and how it can improve your mental health, even if you're busy with little time to spare. Learn simple beginner techniques and practical tips for incorporatin...

How to Feel Your Feelings to Improve Emotional Processing from 2023-05-02T08:00

Learn how to feel your feelings and improve emotional processing through mindfulness. Discover the relationship between mindfulness and emotional processing, the benefits of practicing mindfulne...

How to Give Yourself Permission to Feel Your Feelings from 2023-04-25T07:00

The third step in my Top-Down Self-Regulation Openers is giving yourself permission to feel your feelings. Learn to build on validation, normalization, and how to allow yourself to experience yo...

Emotional Normalization and How it Helps in Trauma Recovery from 2023-04-19T07:30

Emotional normalization is the process of making sense of your emotions based on your life context, which can help alleviate emotional dysregulation. I also discuss the importance of validation ...

What Validation is and How it Connects to Trauma Recovery from 2023-04-12T08:15

I teach you what validation is, how to validate yourself and how it connects to trauma in this video. I also discuss why validation might be difficult for many people. This is a segment from a b...

5 Practical Tips for Managing Anxiety in Your Daily Life from 2023-04-04T00:30

Struggling with anxiety? You're not alone! Join me as I reveal the 5 best FREE tips to combat anxiety and enjoy a stress-free life. From understanding what anxiety is to practical tips to manage...

How Positive Affirmations Might be Making Things WORSE from 2023-03-28T00:15

You might be using positive affirmations in your self-development, and that's great. Buuuut it also might be making this worse! I talk about this with my course students in this clip from one of...

AI answered my questions about trauma recovery and shocked me. from 2023-03-21T00:15

This is a full-on AI episode! I chat with Chat GPT, an AI program, about the polyvagal theory and trauma recovery. Surprisingly, the AI accurately described the theory and its implications for m...

How your thoughts are preventing your trauma recovery from 2023-03-14T00:15

What is under your thoughts? Your Polyvagal state, emotions, sensations and impulses are more significant than your thoughts. I make the case in this snippet from a meetup for course students. Listen

I was desperate&agreed to spend $9k from 2023-02-28T00:15

My family was in a financial upheaval and I got so desperate I agreed to spend $9,000, which I soon after deeply regretted. Desperation can bring us to some scary places.

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Reduce your shame, blame and judgment with the Polyvagal Theory from 2023-02-22T00:00

If you're struggling with shame, blame or judgment, this is a good place to start. It might be too early to feel your feelings or to "sit with it". Instead, use the Polyvagal Theory to build a t...

How Polyvagal Safety is different than coping with dysregulation from 2023-02-14T08:00

There is a difference between activating and anchoring in your Polyvagal safety state and coping with dysregulation. Both have their uses and they can be built on each other. I share a clip from...

I'm a Therapist and I was Wrong About Trauma Recovery from 2023-02-07T00:00

I’m a therapist and I was wrong about trauma recovery! When I first learned the PVT and began understanding the somatic pieces of trauma work, I got something very wrong. I thought recovering fr...

What to do AFTER learning the Polyvagal Theory and Why from 2023-01-31T00:00

You know the Polyvagal Theory. NOW WHAT? (And why?)

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Happiness&the Polyvagal Theory: Sorry, there is NO magic key from 2023-01-24T00:00

What is happiness and is there a key to unlocking it? I answer this question from the lens of the Polyvagal Theory. I actually think we have things backwards...

Nifty Gifty - Polyvagal Che...

How to Relieve Your Polyvagal Fight State from 2023-01-17T00:00

What is the best way to relieve a stuck Polyvagal fight state? I address what the fight state is, how it got stuck and ways to get unstuck.

Unstucking Defensive States - Listen

Release Trauma to Relax OR Relax to Release Trauma? (edit) from 2023-01-10T00:00

Are you supposed to release trauma to relax or do you relax to release trauma? I delve in depth into this question from a Fellow Stucknaut.

SSIEC Nifty Gifty - https://www.justinlmft.com/s...

Why You Have Resistance to Polyvagal Ladder Climbing from 2022-12-27T00:00

Why do you have resistance to climbing your Polyvagal ladder and accessing your safety state? Why is it that being in a defensive state seems like it’s what your body wants? I answer a message I...

Polyvagal Freeze, Self-Harm, Panic&Rage from 2022-12-20T00:00

How does crying fit with the Polyvagal mixed state of freeze? What about rage, panic and self-harm?

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Acting on Impulses and Trauma Releasing from 2022-12-13T00:00

What is unstucking? What do pendulation and titration have to do with self-regulation? And what about acting on impulses and relieving trauma? I answer a listener's question and discuss each of ...

Acting on Impulses and Trauma Releasing from 2022-12-13T00:00

What is unstucking? What do pendulation and titration have to do with self-regulation? And what about acting on impulses and relieving trauma? I answer a listener's question and discuss each of ...

Grief and the Polyvagal Theory from 2022-12-06T08:00

How does grief fit into the Polyvagal Theory? I explain that it's kind of all over the Polyvagal ladder!

3 Day Polyvagal States Challenge - Listen

How to Deal With Anger&the Polyvagal Theory from 2022-11-22T22:00

How to reduce angry thoughts and angry emotions from the lens of the Polyvagal Theory. It's not easy, but it's possible. Reducing aggression requires a bit of mindfulness and allowance of your f...

How to Self Regulate Through Triggering Events? from 2022-11-15T08:00

How do you self-regulate through situations that you know will be triggering? Self-regulation is built on practicing, just like anything else. Best not to wait until the moment of the circumstan...

Polyvagal Safety and How to Use It from 2022-11-08T20:00

What is the Polyvagal safety state? Find out in this episode! And once you find out, what do you do with that information? Also find that out in this episode!

Polyvagal Checklist - Listen

Polyvagal Theory for Total Beginners from 2022-11-02T06:22

I believe these are three essential starting points for the person that is brand new to the Polyvagal Theory. At least, it's what I found to be the most beneficial in understanding this paradigm...

Is It Possible to Come Out of Polyvagal Shutdown from 2022-10-18T07:00

A brief summary of this episode

Pendulation in Grieving and Imagination as a Safety Anchor from 2022-09-27T07:00:57

A brief summary of this episode

Gently Allowing Emotion and Sensation from 2022-08-23T15:21:58

My thoughts on a listener's question about gently allowing sensations to exist without being sent back into shutdown.

Polyvagal 101 - https://...

Coming Out of Flight/Fight from 2022-08-16T07:00:49

I answer a listener's question about coming out of shutdown into fight and then flight.

This podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing i...

My Current Therapist is Not as Good from 2022-08-09T07:00:06

A brief summary of this episode

Bad Therapy - Non-Kink&Minimizing Suicidal Ideation from 2022-08-02T07:00:07

Mercedes joins me for another Bad Therapy episode!

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Polyvagal 101 Class  - Listen

How does trauma connect to the Polyvagal Theory? / PVT101 from 2022-07-19T07:00:27

A clip from a live Polyvagal 101 Webinar Experience. Register your spot for my next live webinar experience!

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Fawning and Distress Tolerance PVT101 Q&A from 2022-07-12T07:00:08

Register your spot for the next Polyvagal 101 Live Webinar Experience! This short episode is Q&A from one of my webinars around fawning and distress tolerance.

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SSIEC: State Sensation Impulse Emotion Cognition Resource from 2022-07-05T07:00:17

Download SSIEC: https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https:/...

Free Will, Accountability&Parenting Consultation from 2022-06-28T07:00:32

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It's Just You&You Are Enough (p4) from 2022-06-21T17:17:56

One more installment in the "It's Just You" series. I'm really glad I did this and I hope it brought a new wrinkle or two to your brain.

Stucknaut series begins with - Listen

It's Just You - Rebuttals (p3) from 2022-06-14T07:00:17

Listen to episode 149 (and 150) before you listen to this one!

IFS Model - https://ifs-insti...

It's Just You - Supportive Responses (p2) from 2022-06-07T07:00

In episode 150 (!), I share some listener responses to last week's episode of the supportive variety. I'd love to hear from you, gimme an email at justinlmft@gmail.com.

SNB 149 - Listen

It's Just You - No Ego, No Shadow, No Parts, No... from 2022-05-31T07:00

I share my thoughts on the idea that there is no ego, no shadow, no parts and more. I also create my own psychological concept!

My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach ...

Active&Passive Cues Compile and Context of Cues from 2022-05-24T07:00:21

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101 

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Is Building Safety Anchors right for you? from 2022-05-21T05:38:57

I recently finished overhauling BSA and it's ready to buy on my site! Link below. Starting June 1, it will double in price from $250 to $500.

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Polyvagal Safety Cues and Swiss Design from 2022-05-17T07:00:18

Safety cues: what they are and what they have to do with my newfound love of Swiss design!

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Polyvagal Theory for Teens - Rehearsal Presentation from 2022-04-19T07:00:41

I recorded a dry run of a presentation I did for some high schoolers. I edited out the exercises I did with them as it wouldn't make sense in an audio only. You can watch the slides on YouTube a...

Shame, Time-Outs, Will Smith, Evolution&More - Open Office Hour from 2022-04-12T07:00:59

A discussion with a few of my BSA students that attend the monthly Open Office Hour. Take one of my courses to join the monthly Q&A and discussion.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - Listen

Why is a Trauma Survivor's Vagal Brake Compromised? from 2022-04-05T07:00:49

An answer to someone's question from my Building Safety Anchors discussion group.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt...

Factors in Why We Get Addicted to One Thing vs Another from 2022-03-29T07:00:52

Why do we get addicted to one thing vs another? An answer to a listener's question.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/p...

Being Pulled in Different Directions from 2022-03-22T07:00:21

Answer to a listener's question.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101

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Acting Out vs Acting In from 2022-03-15T07:00:36

What is the difference between acting out and acting in? An answer to a listener's question.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinl...

3 Years of SNB&My Next Steps from 2022-02-11T08:00:14

A brief summary of this episode

I've Tried Everything&I am Still Numb! from 2022-02-08T08:00:33

This episode is for the person that has "tried everything" and is still stuck in a defensive state. This episode specifically goes into the Polyvagal shutdown state and numbness.

Polyvaga...

You're Thinking, Not Feeling from 2022-01-25T08:00:22

Something that is keeping you stuck is thinking and not feeling.

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Doubt is a Normal Part of Change from 2022-01-18T08:00:39

Not only is it normal, but can be used to your advantage...

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Polyvagal 101 Clas...

Polyvagal Safety - Book Review from 2022-01-17T08:00:23

Do I think you should buy the newest book from Dr Porges, the creator of the Polyvagal Theory? It's called "Polyvagal Safety" - yeah and nah.

Amazon link - https://amzn.to/3FbVXbu Polyvag...

High Stress Jobs&the Vagal Brake from 2022-01-11T08:00:30

If you work in a high-stress, high-mobility job, you need to hav your safety pathways active.

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Safety Cue Dependency? from 2022-01-04T08:00:30

Can we get dependent on safety cues? I don't think it works that way...

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Why Therapy Has Ignored the Body from 2021-12-28T08:00:55

Therapy lags when it comes to the body because it means the profession is not as special. Everyone owns and applies the Polyvagal Theory.

Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - Listen

Why You Should Focus on Behavior, Not Toxicity from 2021-12-21T08:00:22

A brief summary of this episode

Intimacy After Childhood Sexual Abuse History from 2021-12-14T08:00:52

An answer to a Stucknaut's question about childhood sexual trauma and its impact on intimacy.

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Isolation Keeps You Stuck from 2021-12-07T08:00:16

Building Safety Anchors -https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa 

Polyvagal 101 Class  - https://www.justin...

Parenting Without Models of Good Enough Parents from 2021-11-30T20:00:29

My thoughts on a fellow Stucknaut's question about parenting without having gotten good enough parenting as a kid.

Building Safety Anchors -https:...

Your Stories Keep You Stuck from 2021-11-29T08:00:46

Changing your thoughts is often the focus of mental health, but it's not the core problem. The problem is the autonomic state that your thoughts are stemming from.

Polyvagal 101 Webinar -...

Bad Therapy -"Get Over It"and Absolutely Awful Advice from 2021-11-23T08:00:42

Heidi Rogers join Justin Sunseri to discuss more Bad Therapy examples. Listen to the prior episode for the entire 2 parter.

Our episode on her podcast - https://www.heidirogers.com.au/blo...

Bad Therapy: "I Really Needed Help!", Client Quote Book & more! from 2021-11-16T08:00:33

Part 1 of 2, talking with Heidi Rogers about some bad therapy!

Our episode on her podcast - https://www.heidiroge...

Bad Therapy:"I Really Needed Help!", Client Quote Book&more! from 2021-11-16T08:00:33

Part 1 of 2, talking with Heidi Rogers about some bad therapy!

Our episode on her podcast - https://www.heidiroge...

A Husband's Defensive State or Autism? from 2021-10-26T19:00:08

I tackle a question from a listener about her husband and his defensive state... or is it autism? Building Safety Anchors  - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa...

Can I Co-Regulate With Someone That Traumatized Me? from 2021-10-19T07:00:55

This is originally an answer to a Patron on my Patreon.

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What It's Like to be a Therapist in Government Jobs from 2021-10-12T16:10:19

It's a unique experience...

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Polyvagal 101 Webinar - Listen

Definition from 2021-10-05T07:00:11

The "Grammer Trilogy" wraps up with an episode on the importance of having accurate definitions and shared vocabulary in the process of getting unstuck.

Polyvagal 101 Webinar - Listen

Behavior vs Biology / Polyvagal Misconceptions 3of3 from 2021-10-01T07:00:41

I have a Polyvagal101 course coming up! Sign up here - https://www.justinlmft.com/webinar 

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Simile from 2021-09-28T07:00:15

The role of similes in getting unstuck, noticing what's happening within you and communicating it to the self or someone else. (I recommend you listen to last week's episode before listening to ...

Co-Regulation is not Just Support / Polyvagal Misconceptions 2of3 from 2021-09-24T07:00:52

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If you like what I'm doing here on the podcast...

Metaphor from 2021-09-21T07:00:38

Metaphors absolutely have a place in therapy, but they can also be a hinderance.

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Freeze&Shutdown are Not the Same Thing / Polyvagal Misconceptions 1of3 from 2021-09-17T07:00:39

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If you like what I'm doing here on the podcast...

Fierce Compassion from Parents from 2021-09-14T06:55:21

My thoughts on a Patron's/listener's question about their adult grandchild living in the home.

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MaleSurvivor.org Webinar from 2021-09-07T06:21:48

https://malesurvivor.org/

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Don't Get Lost in the Biology from 2021-08-31T07:00:05

A segment from a long, long chat I did with Kola Adetu. Don't get lost in the biology! Learning this stuff is fun, but you're a real person with a real present moment experience. You're not just...

the Equipment of a Stucknaut from 2021-08-24T22:58:47

Part 3 of 3 of my Stucknaut series.  Listen to the first two to catch up!

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the Adventures&the Treasure of a Stucknaut from 2021-08-17T07:00:55

Building on last week's episode - what are the adventures and the treasure of a Stucknaut?

"Trauma and Memory" book - https://amzn.to/3jGI64h (link t...

the Beliefs of a Stucknaut from 2021-08-10T07:00:41

Welcome fellow Stucknaut!  Listen to find out what the heck that is and what some core beliefs are of a Stucknaut.

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A Moment That Changed Me as a Therapist from 2021-08-03T07:00:08

Originally from my Patreon exclusive podcast - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

I discuss a time when I learned a valuable lesson about...

Bad Therapy - Vulgar Comment, Diabetes and Mentorship Offering from 2021-07-27T07:00:12

Mercedes Corona joins me to break down three short bad therapy stories.  One dealing with a vulgar piece of advice from a therapist, one dealing with maybe too much focus on diabetes and one dealin...

Unfocused Rambling&Dismissing Trauma - Feedback Friday from 2021-07-23T07:00:02

A handful of entries for this FF.  I'd love to get your feedback on the podcast - what's going well and what needs work? Email justinlmft@gmail.com or ...

"Butter"by BTS / Pop Culture Polyvagal from 2021-07-20T07:00:02

Mercedes joins me in discussing the #1 song on the Billboard top 100 currently - "Butter" by BTS.

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"Trauma Through a Child's Eyes"Book Review from 2021-07-16T07:00:45

Is it worth buying? Absolutely. This is a great reference book to own physically. Lots of large ideas and specific interventions for parents, therapists, school personnel and more.

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Why is Coming Out of Shutdown So Difficult? from 2021-07-13T07:00:30

Justin answers a questions from a Patron about the difficulties in coming out of shutdown, including some pieces that might be helpful.

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Step-Parenting&Parenting - Control, Expectations, Connection from 2021-07-06T07:00:28

Originally from a Patreon video, answering questions from a Patron about step-parenting, but I think this is applicable to any parent.

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Emotion, Feeling and Sensation from 2021-06-29T07:00

I discuss the difference among emotion, feeling and sensation and how they relate to each other.

Building Safety Anchors - Listen

Self-Regulation&Co-Regulation from 2021-06-22T07:00

The final part of the Polyvagal 101 series!  I hope you've benefited from this series and gotten all your Polyvagal curiosities fulfilled.  The only missing piece is self-regulation and co-regul...

Trauma and the Polyvagal Theory from 2021-06-15T07:00

I put together all of the pieces of the Polyvagal Theory so far from the Polyvagal 101 series. How do all of these pieces relate to trauma?

My Polyvagal 101 online course ...

Trust - Open Letter 9 from 2021-06-08T15:57:50

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Stillness from 2021-06-01T14:05

Welcome to part 7 of the Polyvagal 101 series - stillness, the mixed state of shutdown and safety.  I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory.  You ar...

Who My Listeners Are and Might Be - Feedback Friday from 2021-05-28T07:00

I read a handful of messages I got recently from listeners to the podcast.  One of them makes the astute observation that something is off with the host.

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Play from 2021-05-25T07:00

Welcome to part 6 of the Polyvagal 101 series.  I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory.  This one goes into the mixed state of Play.  You are ...

Freeze from 2021-05-18T07:00

Welcome to part 5 of the Polyvagal 101 series.  I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory.  This episode looks at the mixed state of Freeze.  You...

Swearing&Not Knowing My Audience - Feedback Friday from 2021-05-14T07:00

I give my thoughts on a couple pieces of feedback I got recently re: censorship of swearing on the podcast and discussing whether or not I know my audience.

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Shutdown from 2021-05-11T07:00

Welcome to part 4 of the Polyvagal 101 series.  This episode is all about the dorsal vagal conservation state of shutdown.  I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' P...

Flight&Fight from 2021-05-04T07:00

Welcome to part 3 of the Polyvagal 101 series.  I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory.  You are now part of an audio master class in the Polyvagal...

Safety&Social Engagement from 2021-04-27T14:06

Welcome to part 2 of the Polyvagal 101 series.  This episode is all about the ventral vagal state of safety and social engagement.

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Polyvagal 101 - Neuroception, Autonomic Nervous System, Story Follows State (101) from 2021-04-20T07:00

Welcome to part 1 of the Polyvagal 101 series.  I'm covering some foundational elements of Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory.  You are now part of an audio master class in the Polyvagal...

I'm Taking the Week Off! from 2021-04-13T18:13:36

I'm okay!  Just decided to take the week off, something I've done maybe one other time during the past 100 episodes.  Relaxing, finishing the chalkboard closet project and getting ready for Poly...

10 Ways You Can Support the Podcast from 2021-04-09T07:00

This episode is for you if you want to know how you can support the work that I have been putting into the podcast.  I've got 10 ways, 7 of them free free free and extremely helpful. &...

What I Really Want You to Know From the First 100 Episodes (100) from 2021-04-06T07:00

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Boundaries, Support and Co-regulation in Relationships from 2021-03-30T07:00

My thoughts on a listener's question about relationships and supporting someone who is stuck in a severe defensive state.

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Bad Therapy - Mentor Mother Therapist from 2021-03-23T07:00

Mercedes graces our ears once again to discuss another "Bad Therapy" story.  This one goes into role clarification and is a good example of how power can be manipulated.

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Simplifying to Reduce Self-Care Resistance from 2021-03-16T07:00

I answer a listener question about using multitasking as a way to cope with being overwhelmed with wellness demands.

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Unstucking Through Creativity from 2021-03-09T08:00

If you're a creative person, you've got a great opportunity to get unstuck.  And imo, everyone is a creative person.

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Healing in the Traumatizing Environment Listener Question from 2021-03-02T08:00

I answer a listener question - "How to heal as an adult in the same environment and relationship that you became broken in?"  I honestly don't think you can, but it's worth discussing further......

My Self-Regulation Through Anchoring Example from 2021-02-23T08:00

I share a personal example of when I was dysregulated for an entire week and how I was able to re-regulate myself using some safety anchors.  This is a good example of what climbing your polyvag...

5 Things Humans do to Keep Each Other Stuck from 2021-02-16T08:00

Were Your Parents Capable of Doing Better? - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/didtheirbest

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5 Things Humans do to Keep Themselves Stuck from 2021-02-09T08:00

This is a short list of how we keep ourselves stuck.

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Traumatized Without a Traumatizing Event? from 2021-02-02T08:00

Is it possible to be in a traumatic state without there being a traumatizing event? 

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5 Tips for Journaling from 2021-01-26T08:00

1. alternate your speed
2. journal from your feelings
3. alternate among mindful experiences
4. process over outcome
5. don't use a journal

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Process>Result from 2021-01-21T16:29:36

We focus on the end result of what we think life is going to be like once we make the change we want to.  And that's important.  But we miss out on the process of change, which I think is where ...

5 Tips to Improve Your Mindfulness Practice from 2021-01-19T08:00

5 thoughts on how you might be able to improve your mindfulness practice. 

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Pixar's Soul and How We Connect from 2021-01-12T08:00

One of the opening scenes of "Soul" from Pixar has a lot of polyvagal implications to it: self-regulation, co-regulation, energy discharge and using music as an anchor.  Lots of stuff in this on...

Bad Therapy - Summer Friends from 2021-01-05T08:00

This is an in-depth reaction and discussion about a real life Bad Therapy story from two licensed psychotherapists.  Mercedes Corona and Justin Sunseri are both Licensed Marriage and Family Ther...

Pets as Co-Regulators from 2020-12-29T17:36:45

Pets can make fantastic co-regulators.  But before you go and adopt 20 of them, give this episode a listen!

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Why Your Vagal Brake Strength is Important from 2020-12-22T08:00

The vagal brake is a little more difficult of a concept from the Polyvagal Theory.  I describe what it is and why it's important.

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Autonomic Responses vs Behavioral Adaptations from 2020-12-15T08:00

A return to some polyvagal fundamentals in this episode, discussing the difference between autonomic responses and behavioral adaptations.

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Finding Purpose in a Career from 2020-12-08T08:00

Taking on a larger theme of stuckness in this one as well.  Still pertains to the individual, but more on the level of a career and "purpose."  I discuss what purpose is on a much larger level, ...

Echo Chambers and Belief from 2020-12-01T08:00

Something different, delving into a mechanism that keeps us stuck on a more social level - echo chambers.  Specifically, the function of belief within an echo chamber and the impact on the indiv...

"Mood"by 24kGoldn - Polyvagal Pop Culture from 2020-11-24T08:00:58

What polyvagal, mental health and relationship themes are there in "Mood" by 24kGoldn?  Mercedes joins me to discuss!

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Letting Go from 2020-11-17T08:00

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Musical Map with the Dombra from @Kunzyl from 2020-11-10T08:00

Big thank you to @Kunzyl from Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/junzyl

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Why Your Feelings are Gone from 2020-11-05T08:00

When we shift up and down the polyvagal ladder, we lose or gain access to different feelings...

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Anger. from 2020-10-27T07:00

Anger isn't just something we feel.  There's a psychophysiology to it.

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Pop Culture Polyvagal - the Weeknd Blinding Lights from 2020-10-22T07:00

Mercedes joins me to discuss the number 2 song at the time we recorded this episode - "Blinding Lights" by the Weeknd.  We look for some polyvagal and mental health stuff.  

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Substance Use as a Behavioral Adaptation from 2020-10-20T07:00

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Behavior Adaptations from 2020-10-13T07:00

Porges' concept of "behavioral adaptations" and what they have to do with the polyvagal theory

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Mind Body Connection and Trauma Recovery from 2020-10-06T16:37:43

Original blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/the-mind-body-connection-and-trauma

Building Safety Anc...

Treat Yourself Like a New Friend from 2020-09-29T07:00

This week’s Patreon episode - Open Letter 4 - You Are Not Who You Think You Are - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft 

Building Safety Anc...

Single Parenting and Grief Podcast Interview from 2020-09-22T07:00

An interview that Mercedes and I did on a short-lived podcast called "Single Parenting - Staying Sane" from Carla-Jo Geraghty.  She was kind enough to donate this audio to us.

This week's...

Learning is the First Step from 2020-09-17T07:00

Learning is great, but we have to put it into practice also!

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Ne...

Building Safety Anchors lesson 1 from 2020-09-15T07:00

I have a new course called "Building Safety Anchors" and this is the first lesson.  The course is 30 days of learning and practicing about your personal safety anchors - things that keep you anc...

Bad Therapy - Honey from 2020-09-10T07:00

A response to a Bad Therapy story from a listener.  Yeah, this is a bad one.  

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When Parents Are Not Supportive from 2020-09-08T07:00

Natasha asks how to work with kids when their parents are not supportive.  This is a huge question and I contribute my initial thoughts.  I work with kids from pretty extreme situations where "n...

Big T Little T Labels Do Not Matter from 2020-09-01T07:00

A response to an email which is in response to this episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/...

Freeze Improv Game - PMP from Katherine from 2020-08-27T07:00

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Does Therapy Need to Have a Goal? from 2020-08-25T07:00

In blog form - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/do-you-need-to-have-a-goal-in-therapy

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Essence of Everything, Happiness and Pain from 2020-08-18T14:41:19

Way off of our normal path here, but I wanted to try a new direction.  Hope you don't mind something very different for this week's episode.

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Race Stories from 2020-08-11T07:01:40

Podcast friends Karena Heyward and Mercedes Corona return to do an exercise on our stories around race.  And a lot more.  A lot.

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Compassion Message from Bethany from 2020-08-06T07:00

I put out an invitation for messages of compassion to the people that disagree with you.  Bethany took me up on the offer.

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Overwhelmed With Wellness from 2020-08-04T17:26

A response to a listener question about possible mixed messages in the wellness arena of ideas.

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Bad Therapy - Pearls of Wisdom from 2020-07-31T07:00

Not as egregious as the other bad therapy examples, but worth going into.  More Bad Therapy on my Patreon podcast!

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Are We Expecting Too Much re: Listening to Each Other from 2020-07-30T07:00

My response to a listener question, delving deeper into whether or not we can listen to one another.

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Introversion vs Shutdown Revisited from 2020-07-28T07:00

Mercedes and I return to an old topic - introversion vs shutdown. 

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Stuck in Rumination... as a Man from 2020-07-23T07:00

An old IG Livestream where Mercedes and I discuss rumination in general, but also through the lens of being a man.  I keep coming up with Mercedes episodes!  It's like she never left the podcast...

Use Your Eyes - Present Moment Present 1 from 2020-07-21T07:00

My Present Moment Present to you, a guided open-eyed meditation for you to ground yourself in the present moment.  Big thanks to my Patrons for giving me feedback as I worked to refine and impro...

Does Restraining a Child Cause Trauma from 2020-07-14T07:00

A reply to a Listener voice message.  This is my opinion on the question based on my understandings and experience.  I've got a companion episode to this on my Patreon where I discuss a recent d...

Shyla Cash - An Imperfect Discussion on Race from 2020-07-07T07:00

A discussion that was originally constrained to Rage vs Anger and quickly became something else.  We go into many things around race.

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Podcast Name Change - Stuck Not Broken from 2020-06-26T20:38:35

There's nothing you need to do differently.  If you're subscribed to the podcast, it'll update automatically and the next episode should download as seamlessly as before.  If you're not subscrib...

Why Would I Listen When Someone...? from 2020-06-25T17:16:15

2 responses to listener questions.  This episode is challenging.  I highly recommend you be in a state of being able to hold two conflicting viewpoints at the same time.  At the end there is an ...

We Do Not Have Leaders from 2020-06-23T15:51:10

We choose who to give our attention to.  

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Mugs & more fro...

Listening When You Don't Agree from 2020-06-16T19:35

We don't do a very good job of listening to each other.  This episode applies to a wide range of situations, including very divisive issues such as race.

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Our Dividing Line / an Open Letter to You from 2020-06-08T07:00

An Open Letter and an invitation to you.  Please do not hesitate to share your thoughts with me.  I would like to share the thoughts of my listeners anonymously in a future episode.  You can ema...

Eating Disorders p2 / Rachel Lewis-Marlow and Dr Laura Oyer from 2020-05-28T07:00

I'm joined by Dr Laura Oyer and Rachel Lewis-Marlow to discuss eating disorders and the PVT plus a lot of somatic stuff around ED.  Must listen.

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Eating Disorders p1 / Rachel Lewis-Marlow and Dr Laura Oyer from 2020-05-26T07:00

I'm joined by Dr Laura Oyer and Rachel Lewis-Marlow to discuss eating disorders and the PVT plus a lot of somatic stuff around ED.  Must listen.

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What Makes a Good Therapy Client? from 2020-05-19T07:00

Listen to "What Makes a Good Therapist?" on Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft 

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Why Do We Try To Change Other People? from 2020-05-14T15:32:04

Another episode I found with Mercedes!  I swear I'm running out of these, though there's a lot more of her and I on Patreon.  She and I look into why we try to change other people instead of our...

PVT in Online Psych Class and Therapy / Karena Heyward from 2020-05-05T06:39:53

Karena Heyward is a therapist and teacher, both using online platforms and integrating the Polyvagal Theory.

Karena Heyward, PhD., LPC, ACS, NCC

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Is Telling the Trauma Story Necessary for Treatment / TCE1 from 2020-04-30T07:00

Read the original blog entry here, with links to sources cited - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/traumanarrative

Links to al...

How to Feel Your Feelings from 2020-04-28T07:00

I asked my followers what they're stuck on and this is one of the responses - "How do I feel my feelings?"

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Deb Dana - Book 2 and COVID-19 from 2020-04-20T07:00

(some links will take you to Amazon where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you)

The Polyvagal Wonder Woman (see interview 1) comes back to the Polyvagal Podcast to discuss ...

Were Your Parents Capable of Doing Better? from 2020-04-16T07:00

Content/trigger warning - this is a heavy episode.  Do not listen if you don't want this question answered.  I appreciate you being a listener and want to give you the opportunity to not listen....

First Anniversary Reflections from 2020-04-14T07:00

Mercedes comes back for episode 53!  She was such a big part of the podcast for so long, it just wouldn't be an anniversary episode without her.  She and I get a little more personal for this ep...

Complex PTSD and the Polyvagal Theory from 2020-04-07T07:00

My thoughts on the intersection of PTSD and the Polyvagal Theory.  There's a lot of polyvagal implications with this one.

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Tune Up Fitness Interview for Jill Miller's Epic Vagus Nerve Blog from 2020-04-02T07:00

Honored to have been asked to provide my input into Jill Miller's incredible blog article, written by Suzanne Krowiak.  They allowed me to record and publish the conversation Suzanne and I had; ...

Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the PVT from 2020-03-31T13:43:53

The most requested DSM diagnosis!  Please, when you listen, come from curiosity and learning, not from attempting to diagnose yourself or another.

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Bad Therapy 4 from 2020-03-26T07:00

3 examples of Bad Therapy from listeners/followers.  

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Borderline Personality Disorder and the Polyvagal Theory from 2020-03-24T07:00

Is the mixed Freeze state underlying the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder?  There are polyvagal implications aplenty in this one!

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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and the Polyvagal Theory from 2020-03-17T07:00

I think that OCD has an underlying high flight energy or freeze energy to it.  I go in depth into how the polyvagal theory might apply to the diagnosis of OCD from the DSM-5.

More Polyvag...

Coronavirus, Panic and Grounding Yourself from 2020-03-16T07:55:31

Some polyvagal thoughts about the coronavirus panic that we've all seen probably.  I'm hoping this helps you to ground yourself.  I highly recommend taking a conscious break from the updates and...

Change Sucks and Mercedes'Final Episode from 2020-03-10T07:00

Join Mercedes and I in our final episode together.  Her path of self growth is simply taking her in a different direction.

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Helping a Psychology Student With a Class Assignment About MFTs from 2020-03-05T08:00

I chat with a psychology undergrad from Dixie State University about what got me into being a therapist, the polyvagal theory paradigm shift and more.  

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ADHD and the Polyvagal Theory from 2020-03-03T08:00

Looking at AD/HD in comparison to the Polyvagal Theory. 

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PTSD and the Polyvagal Theory from 2020-02-25T08:00

A solo episode from Justin.  He examines the DSM5 diagnostic criteria for PTSD in comparison to the polyvagal theory.  

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Dreams and the Polyvagal Theory / Wonderings from 2020-02-18T08:00

No definitive statements being made here.  These are things that Justin is wondering about, putting some potential puzzle pieces together.  And some insight into the way he works with clients ar...

Bipolar Disorder and the Polyvagal Theory from 2020-02-12T05:30:23

Compared to the anxiety and depression diagnoses, bipolar disorder was more difficult to break down into polyvagal terms.  Seems like the issue is that there could be a few polyvagal paths to th...

Traumas After the Trauma(s) from 2020-02-04T08:00

Definitely a content warning on this one.  Don't listen if you're not ready.  No specific details of traumatic events, but definitely an emotionally triggering episode.

Often a client wil...

Generalized Anxiety Disorder and the Polyvagal Theory from 2020-01-28T17:32:56

Mercedes and I share our thoughts on GAD, discussing each criteria of the DSM diagnosis.  This episode is not meant to diagnose!  We aren't your therapist and we aren't diagnosing you.  We're co...

Interruptions and Tension Between Mercedes and Justin? from 2020-01-21T08:00

Mercedes and Justin address a topic that has been brought up a few times: Justin's tendency to interrupt and the "tension" between the two.  This is a segment from an Instagram Live.

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Depression as Shutdown of the Polyvagal Theory from 2020-01-14T08:00

A solo episode from Justin looking at the criteria to diagnose Major Depressive Disorder and comparing it to the shutdown autonomic state of the polyvagal theory.  Finally!

Embodied Traum...

That's Not Strength / Open Letter 06 from 2020-01-07T08:00

You can hear and download all 10 Open Letters for $20 when you purchase Stack 1.  You will also receive a downloadable PDF of each letter that you can print out and read whenever you like.  

Big T vs Little t Trauma from 2019-12-31T08:00

Phrasing we use a lot, but what does it mean exactly? This is originally from an Instagram Livestream.

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How to Know if You Have Released a Trauma from 2019-12-20T08:00

It will feel different day to day, including more capacity to handle your typical triggers.  And it might be a noticeable discharge of energy.

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The Pressure on Parents / No Consequences at All? from 2019-12-19T08:00

This topic has me genuinely upset and concerned about my fellow parents.  There is an incredible amount of pressure on parents to basically be perfect co-regulators and never ever use consequenc...

Leaning Into Our Shutdown from 2019-12-18T08:00

A brief summary of this episode

Gratitude vs Praise from 2019-12-17T08:00

Full show notes at https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode42

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Co-Regulating Our Partners from 2019-12-16T08:12:10

We answer a listener question on how to better co-regulate a partner.

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Happy Holidays Week from Justin&Mercedes from 2019-12-16T08:05:57

Our week-long gift as a thank you to you.  You and your fellow #traumanerds have been instrumental in the success of this podcast.  And as a result, in helping thousands of people get unstuck or...

Is That Self Care? from 2019-12-05T08:00

Prompted by a question about parenting from a listener.  Turned into an interesting question about self care - what it is and what it isn't.  Does it have to be alone?  Does it have to be withou...

Safety vs Protection from 2019-12-03T08:00

Protection is something we settle for.  Safety is something we deserve.  And more! 

Open Letters / Stack 1 - https://www.justinlmft.com/o...

Empathy vs Compassion from 2019-11-26T08:00

In episode 15, Dr Porges himself differentiated between empathy and compassion.  We've mentioned this numerous times since then.  We examine the difference between the two in this episode.

Polyvagal Ladder Audio Guide from 2019-11-21T08:00

An audio clip originally from an Instagram Live we did.  Join us every Sunday at 915pm PST on Instagram Live!

Download the Polyvagal Ladder guide here - https://www.justinlmft.com/filesha...

Curiosity vs Evaluation from 2019-11-19T08:00

We've mentioned the difference between curiosity and evaluation a few times on the podcast before.  In this episode, we drill down further than ever in search of a deeper understanding.  Mercede...

Irene Lyon Interview p2 from 2019-11-12T08:16:04

Part 2 of my chat with Irene Lyon!

IRENE

Website - https://irenelyon.com/

Instagram - h...

Irene Lyon Interview p1 from 2019-11-05T08:00

Show notes are available at https://www.justinlmft.com/post/irenelyon

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Are You an Introvert... or in Shutdown? from 2019-10-31T07:00

Another excellent question from a fellow Trauma Nerd - are shutdown and introversion the same thing?  We don't have a crystal clear answer on that, but we've got an interesting discussion on it....

Jealousy vs Insecurity - Same Thing? from 2019-10-29T07:00

We look at jealousy and insecurity - how are they connected?  Are they actually the same thing?  And how do they tie into the Polyvagal Theory?  Our response to a listener question.

If yo...

Stuck in Shutdown - Stop Fighting It! from 2019-10-24T05:40:58

If you're stuck in shutdown, you're definitely not alone.  Getting out of shut down and back up the polyvagal ladder might require less fighting than you think.

More Polyvagal Podcast con...

Workplace Environment, Culture&the Polyvagal Theory from 2019-10-22T07:00

We already know that the environments we spend time in are filled with cues of danger and safety.  The workplace is no different.  But what about how our coworkers, the work culture and work hie...

Take Ownership Over Your State from 2019-10-17T07:00

The work isn't done FOR us or TO us.  It's on us though.

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Jill Miller: Yoga&the Polyvagal Theory part 2 from 2019-10-15T07:00

More in depth show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/jillmiller

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Jill Miller: Yoga&the Polyvagal Theory part 1 from 2019-10-08T07:00

More in depth show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/jillmiller

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Stop Asking"Why?"&What Your Eyebrows Are Saying from 2019-10-01T08:28:40

We talk in depth about why it's not necessarily helpful to ask "why" to someone you're listening to.  We also talk about eyes and eyebrows when it comes to communication and what you may be sign...

Trauma Bonding&the Polyvagal Theory from 2019-09-26T07:00

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9 Ways You ARE Listening from 2019-09-24T07:00

1. You really try to understand me, even if I’m not making much sense.
2. You grasp my point of view, even when it’s against your own sincere convictions.
3. You realize the hour ...
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The 4 Parenting Love Tips Apply to Teens Too from 2019-09-19T07:00

We look back on the 4 ways to express love that your child will experience as love and apply it to teens. Yes, they need your love too!

the 4 Ways to Express Love episode - Listen

7 Ways You Are NOT Listening from 2019-09-17T07:00

7 ways that you are not listening:

1. You say you understand.
2. You say you have an answer before you've heard the problem.
3. You cut someone off before they finish speak...
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"Safe&Social"Song by Miles Irving&Forager, Ltd. from 2019-09-05T07:00

Watch the “Safe & Social” music video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql2TGMRDh7k&feature=youtu.be   Miles Irving We...

Consequence Fundamentals for Parents from 2019-09-03T07:00

All about consequences in this episode:

1. Why they are important
2. When they mean nothing
3. Positive consequences vs gift/reward/bribe
4. Natural consequences
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Deb Dana Interview: Story Follows State, Climbing the Ladder and Diagnosing from 2019-08-27T07:00

Deb Dana - one third of my Polyvagal Trinity.  Deb Dana is called "the Pied Piper of the Polyvagal Theory," and honestly someone I want to be like when I grow up.  She does the stuff I do, but b...

You Are Not Your Diagnosis from 2019-08-22T07:00

You're not you're diagnosis.  It's a label - a shorthand system for professionals to use - to collect "symptoms" that typically occur together.  It makes communication among therapists, psycholo...

4 Ways to Express Love That Your Kids will Experience as Love from 2019-08-20T07:00

We go in depth into each of these four ways to express love.  It's not enough to just love your kiddos, you also need to express it.  And express it in ways they will be able to get.

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Parental Anxiety About Kids'Trauma and Kids'Anxiety About School from 2019-08-15T07:00

We answer two questions from our amazing Listeners.  We originally answered these on our weekly Instagram Live segment, which you can be a part of every Sunday at 915pm PST.

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Applying Parental Co-Regulation from 2019-08-13T07:00

Lots of co-regulation ground covered in this episode:

1. Kids neurocepting danger cues
2. your state vs your empathy
3. your empathy vs your compassion
4. face to fac...
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Avoiding Creating a Trauma in Your Kids&Approaching a Parent who is Stuck from 2019-08-09T07:00

We answer two more questions from our Dear Listeners about parenting - 

1. "How can parents avoid creating a trauma with their kids?"

2."How do you approach a parent who is stuck?"...

Understanding Parental Co-Regulation Before Kids'Self-Regulation from 2019-08-06T07:00

Self-regulation is built upon co-regulation.  Kids aren't born able to self-regulate, but they are born ready to receive a parent's co-regulation.

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Parental and Toddler Polyvagal State Shifts from 2019-08-02T07:00

We answer two questions submitted by two of our amazing listeners:

1. How to best overcome a parental state shift?

2. Do toddlers experience defensive states more often than adults...

We Don't Control Our Kids and How to Strengthen Their Vagal Brake from 2019-07-30T07:00

Two big ideas discussed in this episode: 1. Strengthening the vagal brake as a fundamental purpose of parenting and why. 2. You don't control your kids.  And you can't.  And neither do we.  No one ...

The Role of Narratives in Surviving a Sexual Assault from 2019-07-29T07:00

Taken from an Instagram Live on July 21, 2019.  we discuss the function of "Stories" or "Narratives" that a survivor of sexual assault may be living with.  

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Therapy and the Polyvagal Theory from 2019-07-16T07:00

We apply the polyvagal theory to the process of psychotherapy.

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Bad Therapy 3 from 2019-07-09T08:58

Mercedes and I break down some real life examples of #badtherapy for the final time!  Plus we share our own bad therapy and a couple of good therapy examples too. more detailed show notes on justin...

Bad Therapy 2 from 2019-07-02T07:00

We look at more listener submissions of their #badtherapy experiences.  And believe it or not, there's many more we haven't gotten to. More detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode21 JOIN...

Bad Therapy 1 from 2019-06-25T06:34:40

We continue the Bad Therapy series, this time with real examples submitted to us by listeners and Instagram followers.  We dissect the therapeutic issues at play here, discuss what is and isn't ...

Basic Therapy from 2019-06-18T07:00

Welcome to the first installment of the Bad Therapy series.  We need to first understand some basics of what therapy is and how it works.  Clients are walking into sessions with a combination of...

Top-Down Thoughts to Climb the Polyvagal Ladder from 2019-06-11T07:00

We tackle the issue directly - you're normal, you survived, your body is awesome and is probably working fine.  Plus a whole lot more.  

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Bottom-Up&Outside-In Ways to Change Your Polyvagal State from 2019-06-04T07:00

Mercedes & I discuss how we personally use different bottom-up techniques to climb the polyvagal ladder and reach a more safe & social state - music, dance, play, breathing and more.  We also di...

Climbing the Ladder with Listener Submissions! from 2019-05-28T07:00

Full show notes are available on https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode16

We got some Listener submissions for how they use the polyvagal theory to climb their ladders!  Thanks to Carla-...

Dr Stephen Porges Interview: Mental Disorders, Substance Use, Psychiatry&the Polyvagal Theory from 2019-05-21T07:00

Full show notes are available on justinLMFT.com/post/episode15

I had the distinct pleasure of being able to talk in-depth with Dr Porges about the Polyvagal Theory and how it applies to v...

Teacher Self-Care&Being Ready to Teach from 2019-05-14T12:52

This is part 5 of 5 of the Polyvagal Schools series. Full show notes are on justinlmft.com/blog.   We hear about students being "ready to learn," but what about teachers being "ready to teach"?  Me...

Relationships Over Academics from 2019-05-07T07:00

This is the Polyvagal Schools series,  part 4 of 5 -  A slew of trauma-informed ways for educators to improve relationships with their students.  After the relationship is improved, wit...

Classroom Structure - Consequences, Fidgets&Flexibility from 2019-04-30T07:00

Polyvagal Schools episode part 3 of 5 - The Polyvagal Theory applied to the classroom structure.  We look at suspensions, fidgets, quiet zones in the classroom, suspensions, consequences  and a ...

Classroom Danger Cues&What to Do About Them from 2019-04-23T07:00

Part 2 of 5 of the Polyvagal School series - Danger cues in the classroom: the environment, the teacher and peers!  And we give you some unique ways to problem-solve around these.

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Path of Transition&Cues of Danger in School from 2019-04-16T07:00

Mercedes Corona, LMFT joins me to talk in depth about what the Path of Transition is and how it applies to the school environment.  Part 1 of our Polyvagal School Series!

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