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Episode 260: Arousal Template part two from 2023-11-01T09:00

In this episode, Jackie and Rachel continue discussing the arousal template.  

Episode 259: Red Flags with your therapist from 2023-10-25T11:59

In this episode Jackie and Rachel talk about local and national new stories about Utah therapists who are in trouble for unethical behaviors with clients.  They cover red flags clients need to b...

Episode 258: Reparenting from 2023-10-18T11:32:48

In this episode Jackie talks about the power of reparenting as part of our healing journey.

Episode 257: Arousal Template from 2023-09-13T09:00

In this episode Jackie and Rachel talk about Arousal Templates:  how they develop, what contributes to them and how they play out in both functional and dysfunctional ways. 

Episode 256: Spiritual Abuse and Trauma from 2023-07-12T12:13:43

In this episode Jackie talks about signs of unhealthy religious systems and how they make family dysfunction more complex.

Episode 255: Jackie and Rachel talk Shiny Happy People from 2023-07-07T09:00

In this episode, Jackie and Rachel talk about the docu-series Shiny Happy People.  

Episode 254: Finding Your Inner Adult from 2023-06-14T09:00

Most of us are familiar with the concept of our inner child.  In this episode, Jackie talks about the importance of developing a balance between our inner child and our inner adult in order to f...

Episode 253: Deconstruction continued and with a wider lens from 2023-05-31T06:47:06

In this episode Jackie and Rachel continue talking about spiritual deconstruction and widen the discussion to include deconstruction around many messages we receive. 

Episode 252: Healthy Family Systems from 2023-05-24T08:00

In this episode Jackie talks about traits and characteristics of healthy family systems.

Episode 251: Spiritual Deconstruction from 2023-05-03T09:00

In this episode, Jackie is joined by friend and colleague Rachel Allen to talk about the process of spiritual deconstruction.  We are seeing higher numbers of clients bring their process of deco...

Episode 250: Disengaged Families from 2023-04-12T09:00

In this episode, Jackie talks about disengaged family systems.  Disengaged family systems have a way of powerful shame around emotional needs our need for love and connection.  This family syste...

Episode 249: Enmeshed Families from 2023-03-22T16:08:26

In this episode, Jackie talks about enmeshed family systems. Jackie talks in more detail about what enmeshed families are, what they look like, and what they feel like.  The short-term and long-...

Episode 248: Structural Family Therapy from 2023-03-07T17:02:33

In this episode, Jackie talks about structural family therapy concepts and the types of families identified by Salvador Mnuchin:  healthy/adaptive, disengaged, enmeshed.  This episode is an over...

Episode 247: Attachment Styles and Issues from 2023-02-14T11:40:47

In this podcast episode, Jackie talks about attachment styles, what they are, how they form and how they can impact us in our adult relationships.  This episode is another lens to view ourselves...

Episode 246: Childhood Emotional Neglect from 2023-01-24T08:32:14

In this episode, Jackie talks about the often hidden and unknown condition of childhood emotional neglect.  Our parents may understand the importance of providing for our physical needs as child...

Episode 245: The How Tos on Developing a Solid Sense of Self from 2023-01-04T14:57:51

In this final episode in the series on developing a solid sense of self, Jackie talks about how we develop a solid sense of self.  Jackie looks at what researchers in neuroscience are saying abo...

Episode 244: Self Care from 2022-10-25T09:15:55

In this episode Jackie talks about self-care and how to approach caring for the self in a way that supports building a "self" and reinforcing the value and worth of who we are.  Self-care can be...

Episode 243: May I be I is the only prayer from 2022-10-18T10:31:36

In this episode, Jackie continues talking about developing the self.  The need to find the lapse in our story caused by adversity or trauma and finishing what is left unfinished in us.  Jackie b...

Episode 242: The physical, physiological, neurological, and psychology of self from 2022-10-11T13:46:33

In this episode, Jackie takes a lot of writings from Dr. Gabor Mate to help us understand ourselves from the perspectives we don't typically look at ourselves or our stories from.  

Episode 241: Overcoming Obstacles to Develop A Solid Sense of Self from 2022-09-27T10:48:13

In this episode Jackie continues her series on developing a solid sense of self.  In this episode, Jackie explores some of the reasons we may not have developed a solid sense of self and how we ...

Episode 240: Developing a Functional Sense of Self from 2022-09-13T08:20:30

This is episode 2 in a series on "self".  In this episode, Jackie talks about what goes awry in developing a sense of self, what it can look like when we don't have a functional sense of self an...

Episode 239: When Childhood Trauma Shows Up in our Adult Lives from 2022-09-06T09:43:15

In this episode, Jackie kicks off a series on developing the self, barriers to developing a self, what self-care even means and how to recognize when our childhood trauma story surfaces in our a...

Episode 238: Courtship Dimensions from 2022-08-23T09:17:59

In this episode, Jackie, circles back to episode 228 and talks about the courtship dimensions seven through twelve.  These dimensions were identified by Dr. Patrick Carnes and are part of develo...

Episode 237: The 100 deadliest days of Summer from 2022-08-16T11:50:49

In this episode Jackie talks about the 100 deadliest days of Summer on highways and roads throughout the United States where fatalities from car accidents see a sharp increase.  Why does this happe...

Episode 236: Issues that Impact Women from 2022-08-09T16:05:43

In this episode, Jackie talks about the reversal of Roe and our ability as humans to not see what is right in front of us.  This ability impacts the plight of women in many ways and with the revers...

Episode 235: Shared Moments from 2022-06-21T10:52:21

In this episode, Jackie talks about the vulnerable moments that we share.  Where we show up for people, celebrate with people, grieve with people and let others know they are not alone.  

Episode 234: Public Veridicts &History from 2022-06-16T12:14:33

This episode follows the verdict rendered in the Depp v Heard defamation lawsuit.  While the outcome of this case has been decided by a jury, there is much for us to learn as we look at how publ...

Episode 0233: A Conversation on Domestic Violence from 2022-06-08T11:21:30

This episode was prompted by the ongoing discussion playing out currently through a celebrity defamation lawsuit.  Nobody watching or listening is able to provide accurate diagnostic information...

Episode 232: Grievance Stories and Gun Violence from 2022-06-02T10:09:40

In this episode, Jackie talks about the most recent of a long stream of gun violence and innocent lives lost.  This is a disturbing issue in the United States with seemingly no end in sight.  Ja...

Episode 231: Model for Change&Expected Obstacles from 2022-05-10T08:19:51

In this episode, Jackie talks about a model of change that breaks down the process of change into four steps.  Which can be helpful when undertaking an overwhelming task like change.  In additio...

Episode 230: Trauma-informed vsTrauma work from 2022-05-02T08:00

These are two terms that are often used in therapy and that are often used by the general public.  But what do they actually mean?  What is the difference between being trauma-informed and doing...

Episode 229: Did you Know? from 2022-04-26T08:30:40

In this episode, Jackie talks about a local controversy that arose in SLC related to a description of a college course taught at a liberal arts college located in SLC.  Situations such as this c...

Episode 228: Courtship Dimensions from 2022-04-12T09:36:17

In this episode, Jackie talks about the first six of twelve of the dimensions of courtship as outlined by Dr. Patrick Carnes.  We do not spend enough time talking about how healthy relationships...

Episode 227: Forgiving Ourselves and claiming our healing from 2022-04-05T10:09:40

In this episode, Jackie wraps up discussing the book The Tao of Fully Feeling. This is where the dots are connected and we begin to see the path forward for ourselves.  A path that involves forg...

Episode 226: The Limits of Forgiveness from 2022-04-01T08:10:31

In this episode, Jackie continues to work through the book The Tao of Fully Feeling.  The author has reminded us throughout the book of our society's need to rush forgiveness as a bypass for fee...

Episode 225: Compassionate Reparenting from 2022-03-29T14:21:17

In this episode, Jackie continues her discussion of The Tao of Fully Feeling.  In this episode, we start looking at what we can do.  Once we have become more aware of our dysfunctional childhood an...

Episode 224: Blame and Forgiveness from 2022-03-22T13:14:46

In this continuing discussion about the book The Tao of Fully Feeling by Pete Walker, we talk about blame as part of the grieving process.  And how blame is not the stigmatized emotion that we a...

Episode 223:  Decreasing Defense Mechanisms from 2022-03-09T07:45:48

There are four key ways that children protect themselves from being overwhelmed by the emotional pain of prolonged abuse and neglect.  We call these defense mechanisms, and they typically have a...

Episode 222: Four Essentials to Grieving from 2022-03-08T16:11:23

In this episode, Jackie talks about chapter 5 in The Tao of Fully Feeling.  Often when we think of grieving, we think of being sad, maybe crying.  Or we think of the stages of grief developed by...

Episode 221: A Current Cost of Emotional Repression from 2022-03-01T10:24:20

In this bonus episode, Jackie talks about how the learnings from Pete Walker's book The Tao of Fully Feeling may have messages for the current strife and social fears we are experiencing in our ...

Episode 220: The Gifts of Grieving from 2022-02-22T10:47:43

In this episode Jackie continues her series discussing the book The Tao of Fully Feeling by Pete Walker. In this episode we cover chapter 2 & 3 from the book and talk about the Fundamental Dynam...

Episode 219: Fully Feeling from 2022-02-15T10:48:48

In this episode, Jackie talks about the introduction, and chapters one and two of Pete Walker's book The Tao of Fully Feeling.  This is the first book of our TFS Bookclub.  In this episode, we c...

Episode 218: Why Talk About The Past? from 2022-02-01T09:29:45

In this episode Jackie answers a question from a friend and one that many people have when they start therapy and are in the process of doing their own work.  It is a valid question when there a...

Episode 217: Heartwork from 2022-01-19T07:53:47

In this episode, I am honored to have special guest Mark Nepo talking about Heartwork: being a spirit in the world. Beloved as a poet, teacher, and storyteller, Mark Nepo, the New York Times bes...

Episode216:Therapy meets the Christmas songs from 2021-12-07T11:31:45

In this episode Jackie asked two of her colleagues, Rachel Allen and Amy Smith, both previous guests on the podcast to join her talking about Christmas songs through the therapy lens.  Therapy c...

Episode 215: The Unfinished Business from 2021-11-23T09:28:15

This week Jackie talks about her experience as both a participant and a facilitator in GLI (group leadership intensive).  So many of us live our lives in our own bodies without giving ourselves ...

Episode 214: Choice: is it really that simple? from 2021-10-19T09:59:27

We all make choices every single day—some big, some small. Some are choices related to time and money. Others are related to the life roles we each prioritize. There are a billion things we coul...

Episode 213: Generativity from 2021-09-21T12:00:16

In this episode Jackie wraps up the series on the Twelve Principles by Dr. Patrick Carnes.  Generativity is principle twelve.   Generativity refers to "making your mark" on the world by caring f...

Episode 212: Meaning from 2021-08-17T11:35:59

Life is messy.  It has always been messy.  Life is full of loose ends, uncertainty, confusion, and frustration.  Yet nothing is wasted or random or pointless.  Everything that happens is nourish...

Episode 211: Trust from 2021-08-03T08:56:30

Recovery teaches us, and sometimes forces us to trust.  We learn to trust others. We learn to trust ourselves.  We learn to trust an ongoing process of renewal.  We give ourselves over to uncertain...

Episode 210: Responsiveness from 2021-07-15T09:15:31

Merriam Webster defines responsiveness like this: reacting in a desired or positive way; quick to respond. We all probably think about speed when we think about responsiveness, too, but how many...

Episode 209: Commitment from 2021-06-29T08:12:23

In this episode Jackie talks about how commitment plays a role in our recovery as well as in our relationships.  When we make a commitment, we are saying that we will do all we can to make it ha...

Episode 208: Courage from 2021-06-15T10:57:20

There is no courage without risk. When we act courageously, we put ourselves on the line for a greater good and make ourselves vulnerable to loss.  In recovery, our approach to risk changes comp...

Episode 207: Honesty from 2021-05-25T09:43:40

We all know the importance of telling the truth.  Generally, we have been told how important honesty is from a young age.  It is usually stated in a direct, simple way that makes it seem like be...

Episode206: Burnout from 2021-05-04T13:34:37

In this episode, Jackie assembles her fellow female colleagues at Healing Paths for a book club.  They are talking about the book Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle by Emily and A...

Episode 205: Openness from 2021-04-06T10:12:51

Before we began recovery, many of us had little experience of being part of a healthy family, of fitting into a functional community, or of living in a climate of trust. Often, from a very young...

Episode 204: Responsibility from 2021-03-23T07:10:19

In this episode, Jackie talks about the important role that responsibility plays in recovery and in our personal healing journey.  In recovery, we stop hiding from ourselves.  We understand the ...

Episode 203: Spirituality from 2021-03-09T07:28:44

Across world religions and throughout the history of human experience with the Divine, we find certain universally recognized strategies to nourishing spirituality.  While each person experience...

Episode 202: Awareness from 2021-02-23T08:41:53

Each of us has the capacity to pay attention to our senses, emotions, impulses, thoughts, and actions.  We also have the capacity to observe the world around us: its beauty, its danger, its desi...

Episode201: Acceptance from 2021-02-09T08:27:36

In this episode, Jackie talks about principle one which is acceptance. A common struggle felt by most individuals who enter a recovery program or start a process of personal healing is learning ...

Episode 200: A Year of Growth from 2021-01-26T08:57:02

In this episode Jackie introduces a twelve-part series focused on working The Twelve Principles as introduced by Dr. Patrick Carnes.  The principles are connected to the steps and prompt a quest...

Episode199: Endings and Beginnings from 2021-01-12T08:59:04

In this first episode of 2021, Jackie talks about the liminal space of ending and beginning.  She reads writings from the poet and author David Whyte about nostalgia and being close.  Are we in ...

Episode 198: 2020 ugh! from 2020-12-23T07:24:53

In this episode Jackie takes a minute to reflect on lessons learned from one of the most collectively dark years in our recent history.  2020 was dark and hard in many personal ways as well as b...

Episode 197: Reclaiming the Self from 2020-12-09T12:09:47

In this episode Jackie talks about reclaiming what we have lost from life and from hurt. Can we remember the parts of ourselves that are untarnished?  Who we were before you were being asked to ...

Episode 196: Not this from 2020-12-01T08:54:26

The holidays can be a very difficult time for people. We can try to put on a smile and try to pretend like everything is ok, when really we are only pretending.  For those, going through a diffi...

Episode 195: Haunting&Healing from 2020-11-17T08:52:13

In this episode Jackie talks about healing what haunts us.  Our country is facing a dark and difficult time with so many of us opposed and protesting the other.  Jackie offers a different perspecti...

Episode 194: Healing Betrayal Trauma from 2020-11-10T08:52

In this episode, Jackie interviews Michelle Mays about healing from betrayal trauma.  Michelle founded the Center for Relational Recovery, a counseling and training center focused on providing l...

Episode193: Knowing and Understanding Your Trauma Response from 2020-11-03T09:29:06

In this episode Jackie responds to a listener's questions related to trauma responses.  Knowing and understanding what yours are is an important step in managing them when they get triggered. 

Episode192: All happy families from 2020-10-13T06:42

In this episode Jackie talks about the line from Leo Tolstoy's Anna Karinnana "Happy Families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."  What does this mean?  And how can w...

Episode191: Knowing your trauma response from 2020-10-06T09:14:36

We all have experiences where a situation triggers a trauma response in us.  Something from the past feels as though it is happening again in our present.  Our body responds, our thoughts and fe...

Episode 190: The Pain of Betrayal Trauma from 2020-09-29T10:23:47

In this episode Jackie talks about the pain of betrayal trauma.  Betrayal trauma has a significant impact on both the brain and the nervous system of the betrayed partner and makes it difficult ...

Episode189: Sabbath from 2020-09-15T08:53:49

In this episode, Jackie talks about the practice of Sabbath. Of consecrating a time each week for rest, renewal, and delight.   Sabbath is more than the absence of work; it is not just a day off...

Episode 188: Maslow's theory of motivation and the belief window from 2020-09-08T08:09:57

In this episode Jackie talks about Maslow's hierarchy of human needs that dictate a person's behavior.  Jackie talks about the belief window that figuratively sits in front of our face and also ...

Episode 187: Optimal Recovery from 2020-09-01T08:01:04

In this episode, Jackie talks about moving beyond sobriety into optimal recovery.  Often this is a lifelong process.  A corrective emotional experience is required for previous traumatic or dysf...

Episode186: Getting what I want and being relational from 2020-08-25T08:03:57

In this episode Jackie talks about the continuum of strategies for getting what I want and need and balancing the health of the relationship.  This dynamic comes up in our romantic relationships...

Episode185: Self-expansion&Relationships from 2020-08-18T07:49:19

In this episode Jackie talks about balancing novelty and security in our relationships.  Security fosters a sense of love and belonging while novelty fuels passion, satisfaction and happiness.  ...

Episode 184: Components of Sexual Intimacy from 2020-08-11T08:30:21

In this episode Jackie talks about childhood experiences that shape and inform our sexual relationships as we get older.  Many times, these issues are origin stores behind problematic sexual beh...

Episode 183: EFT: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples from 2020-08-04T09:46:23

In this episode Jackie talks about the EFT as a therapy modality when working with couples.  EFT is all about healing attachment wounds and experiencing relationships in a positive, inviting and...

Episode 182: Partner vs Power from 2020-07-30T10:43:22

In this episode, Jackie talks about power dynamics that affect us in our daily lives and pit us against each other instead of with each other.  Recent events from last week brought the patriarch...

Episode 181:  The Times They Are A Changing from 2020-07-21T09:32:27

In this episode Jackie talks about the social issue that is rising up currently in the US and asking for us to do something.  If we can't begin conversations then we certainly can't fix the racial ...

Episode 180: Why we elect Narcissists and Sociopaths from 2020-07-13T08:22:58

This episode continues our look at politics. Jackie talks with author Bill Eddy about his book Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths and How We Can Stop! Bill talks about the patterns across t...

Episode 179: Politics for the people from 2020-06-29T07:10:30

In this episode Jackie has a guest on to talk about Politics. Not partisan politics that put so many people on opposing sides from those they love, work with and know. Politics as it is designed...

Episode: 178 Living With Intent  from 2020-06-22T08:34:37

In this episode Jackie talks about the importance of living with intent.  We can lay a foundation for ourselves to do this.  She also offers practical steps to practice in moving forward with in...

Episode: 177 Drama Triangle from 2020-06-15T08:56:16

In this episode, Jackie talks about a common communication process that will derail conversations and leave participants frustrated.  This process is referred to as the drama triangle.  Jackie e...

Episode 176: Are you crying? from 2020-06-08T07:40:47

In this episode Jackie talks about the science of crying.  We actually don't know a lot about why we cry and even less about why some people don't cry.  There have been a lot of misconceptions t...

Episode 175: Self-Compassion from 2020-06-01T09:00

In this episode Jackie talks about the importance of self-compassion.  She talks about the 3 components to self-compassion and the common barriers we are faced with in developing compassion for ...

Episode 174: Being Present In Our Relationships from 2020-05-19T10:30:45

In this episode Jackie talks about how mindfulness and being present improve our intimacy and connections in our relationships as well as offer other positive impacts. Fear of Intimacy is a comm...

Episode 173: The Impact of Family Dysfunction from 2020-05-11T10:16:55

In this episode Jackie talks about the impact of family dysfunction.  We like to think that what happened in our past doesn't affect our adult lives.  However, One of the most significant trigge...

Episode: 172 Emotional Regulation from 2020-05-04T13:41:13

In this episode Jackie talks about the importance of being able to feel and express our emotions in a healthy way.  Emotions can be intense.  If we haven't been taught how to regulate our emotio...

Episode 171: Acting On Anger from 2020-04-20T09:57:25

In this series on emotion management, Jackie talks about anger.  Often, the messages we have been taught about anger are part of the problem and don't help to manage anger.  Anger is an emotion ...

Episode 170: What Needs To Continue from 2020-04-13T08:15:23

Often when things happen to us, we get thrown off course.  How things would have unfolded end up being disrupted.  This may also be true when it comes to who we are, or who we were.  In this epi...

Episode 169: Loss&Hope from 2020-04-06T09:05:05

In this episode Jackie talks about the difficulty of change and it's connection to loss.  During this time of physical distancing, there are many emotions people are trying to manage.  How can w...

Episode 168: Improving Decision Making Skills from 2020-03-30T10:11:21

  In this episode Jackie talks about the importance of developing decision making skills.  Life is full of decisions to be made and choices to decide.  Not many of us were taught how to make deci...

Episode 167: Freefall&Uncertainty from 2020-03-23T16:33:15

The current time we are living in is surreal.  We are facing uncertainty about what is to come.  During these times it can be helpful to view it as a freefall and increase our awareness and inte...

Episode 166: What is Therapy?  from 2020-03-16T08:49:40

In this episode Jackie talks about the therapy process.  It's not an uncommon  for clients to ask questions or be confused about what to expect as they start therapy.  Therapy is abstract.  Ofte...

Episode 165: Treating OCD with Success from 2020-03-09T02:00

In this episode Jackie talks with guest John Tsilimiparis, LMFT about OCD.  We talk about what OCD is as well as the treatment modalities that are successful.  For those suffering from OCD, this...

Episode 164: Resolving Complex Trauma with EMDR from 2020-03-02T09:09:02

In this episode Jackie talks about treating trauma with EMDR.  She explains what EMDR therapy looks and feels like and what the goal of EMDR is.  Jackie also talks about hesitancies therapists m...

Episode 163: Developing Your Inner Observer from 2020-02-24T08:44:22

In this episode Jackie talks about the skill of developing an inner observer as a way of increasing personal awareness and slowing down our automatic response process.  Developing an inner obser...

Episode 162: Skills For Intimate Conversations from 2020-02-22T08:43:32

This episode is the final episode in the series on effective communication.  In this episode Jackie talks about skills we can learn and develop to have the meaningful conversations in our relati...

Episode 161: Four Horsemen from 2020-02-10T10:32:37

In this episode Jackie talks about the Four Horsemen that the Gottman's have identified as behaviors that show up in relationships that are destructive and serve as a barrier to effective commun...

Episode 160: The Sound Relationship House from 2020-02-03T10:37:35

In this episode Jackie talks about the Gottman's Sound Relationship House and how to build relationships that can withstand change and challenge and still experience growth and connection.

Episode 159: It really is the little things from 2020-01-27T09:11:53

In this episode, Jackie continues her series on effective communication in relationships. She covers the concepts taught by the Gottman's of turning towards, turning against and turning away.  O...

Episode 158: Communication Mistakes from 2020-01-20T12:21:08

In this episode Jackie talks about mistakes we often make when communicating that get in the way of being understood.  Jackie talks about steps to improve communication so that conversations bri...

Episode 157: New Beginnings  from 2020-01-16T09:40:30

In this episode Jackie talks about the difficulty of starting over and the importance of allowing ourselves to try new things and to step out of our comfort zone.  

Episode 156: Creating safe space for underrepresented communities from 2020-01-06T13:50:24

In this episode Jackie talks with psychologist and activist Regina Stone-Grover about increasing awareness and making safe spaces for those under-privileged communities. We talk about intent vs....

Episode 155: Do You Have A To Don't List? from 2019-12-02T08:06:41

In this last episode of 2019, Jackie talks about having a to-don't list in order to live more intentionally, more productively and with more stability. 

Episode 154: Reflection Aggression from 2019-11-25T11:02:16

In this episode Jackie talks with fellow CSAT Josh Nichols, co-owner of Family Solutions Counseling and host of the Youtube Channel RecoveryTV.  This episode focuses on a common phenomenon that ...

Episode 153: A Woman's Story of Sexual Healing- Part #4 from 2019-11-18T17:42:05

In this episode, Jackie talks to Marie who shares her story from compulsive sexual behavior to sexual anorexia to healing. 

Episode 153: A Woman's Story of Sexual Healing- Part #3 from 2019-11-18T17:27:56

In this episode, Jackie talks to Marie who shares her story from compulsive sexual behavior to sexual anorexia to healing. 

Episode 153: A Woman's Story of Sexual Healing- Part #2 from 2019-11-18T17:27:09

In this episode, Jackie talks to Marie who shares her story from compulsive sexual behavior to sexual anorexia to healing. 

Episode 153: A Woman's Story of Sexual Healing- Part #1 from 2019-11-18T17:23:31

In this episode, Jackie talks to Marie who shares her story from compulsive sexual behavior to sexual anorexia to healing. 

Episode 152: How to Improve Sexual Health from 2019-11-04T08:22:58

In this final episode of our series on Sexual Health, Jackie and Rachel talk more specifically about what sexual health looks like and how one can work on developing sexual health for themselves...

Episode 151: Females and Sexuality from 2019-10-30T11:01:53

In this episode Jackie and Rachel continue their series on healthy sexuality.  This episode focuses on the barriers females face and the role of patriarchal culture in creating and reinforcing t...

Episode 150: Men's sexual health from 2019-10-21T16:54:13

In this episode Jackie and Rachel continue their series on sexual health.  This episode focuses on men's sexual health particularly as it relates to growing up in a patriarchal society. 

Episode 149: Patriarchal History and Sexuality from 2019-10-14T13:19:50

In this episode Jackie continues talking with Rachel about sexual health.

Episode 148: Sexual Health from 2019-10-07T15:07:15

In this episode Jackie introduces you to her colleague and friend Rachel Allen.  Jackie and Rachel talk about sexual health and what clients are working towards in their healing process.  There ...

Episode 147: Adult Friendships from 2019-09-30T09:07:04

Friendships can be hard for adults.  It can be difficult to make new friends and our schedules may make it difficult to connect with old friends.  The research is clear though, adults need meani...

Episode 146: Recognizing Danger Signals from 2019-09-23T10:47:40

In this episode Jackie talks about danger signals outlined by author and security expert Gavin DeBecker.  We all have a tendency to talk ourselves out of our intuition for one reason or another....

Episode 145: The truth about Lying from 2019-09-17T09:18:46

In this episode Jackie talks about the psychology of lying.  How common it is. Why humans are likely to lie just enough but not too much and why we are so bad at spotting lies.  

Episode 144: Healing Journey  from 2019-09-09T14:50:43

In this episode B talks about her journey through healing both as a client and now on the other side as she pursues an MSW. 

Episode 143: Addiction Neuropathways from 2019-08-26T11:08:27

In this episode Jackie discusses the neuropathways involved in addiction.  Understanding these neuropathways can often give addicts a view of the internal landscape driving the addiction and mak...

Episode 142: The Forgiven Being Forgiving from 2019-08-19T11:53:08

In this episode Jackie talks about the connection between forgiveness and grief and the complexities of both.  For those who find themselves stuck somewhere in grief and cringe when poeple talk ...

Episode 141: Sovereignty and Intimacy from 2019-08-12T20:05:58

In this episode Jackie talks about the relationship between sovereignty and intimacy. How we can’t have real intimacy unless we have power over ourselves to develop and grow.

Episode 140: The Process of Unlearning from 2019-08-05T13:02:37

In this episode Jackie covers topics of consent, racial differences and the process of assessing what we learned and what we need to unlearn.

Episode 139: Confirmation Bias from 2019-07-29T11:04:20

In this episode Jackie finishes the series focused on politics focusing on confirmation bias.  We are all impacted by our bias and we all want to be right.  In this episode you'll find some help...

Episode 138 from 2019-07-22T15:35:49

This episode continues our look at politics. Jackie talks with author Bill Eddy about his book Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths and How We Can Stop! Bill talks about the patterns across t...

Episode 137: Cognitive Dissonance from 2019-07-15T19:04:13

In this episode Jackie talks about Cognitive Dissonance.  Life is filled with decisions and decisions typically arouse dissonance.  Continuing to look at our current state of politics in the US,...

Episode 136: Politics for the People from 2019-07-08T09:54:07

In this episode Jackie has a guest on to talk about Politics. Not partisan politics that put so many people on opposing sides from those they love, work with and know. Politics as it is designed...

Episode 135: Johari Window from 2019-07-01T11:19:17

In this episode Jackie talks about the Johari Window as a tool for increasing self-awareness and emotional intelligence.  This is a tool often used in therapy as a way for clients to receive fee...

Episode 134: Harm Reduction from 2019-06-25T07:58:44

In this episode Jackie talks with fellow CSAT and Marriage and Family Therapist Jeremy Mast. Traditional abstinence based programs don’t work for everyone. For those who struggle with the tradit...

Episode 133: The Silence of Male Trauma from 2019-06-19T12:32:17

In this episode Jackie talks with guest Dr. Debra Warner, author, TedEx speaker, and expert on male survivors.

Episode 132: A Brave New Man from 2019-06-03T12:06:30

In this episode Jackie talks with Greg Woodhill about his new podcast  "A Brave New Man" In this episode Jackie and Greg talk about what men and women are getting wrong and what they are getting...

Episode 131: The Boundary Box from 2019-06-03T11:52:19

I get asked all the time about boundaries.  I think they are one of the most important things to have if you want to live as a functional adult. Yet, from so many I hear from boundaries seem to be ...

Episode 130: Preparing for Disclosure from 2019-05-20T20:34:24

In this episode Jackie talks with Dr. Janice Caudill and Dan Drake about their workbook that helps prepares couples for disclosure. Disclosure can be an important part of couples recovering, hea...

Episode 129: Personality Disorders from 2019-05-13T12:31:31

In this episode Jackie talks about three personality disorders: borderline, narcissistic and anti-social.  It can be hard to wrap our head around these disorders when we want to believe the best...

Episode 128: Structured Family Recovery from 2019-05-07T11:29:02

In this episode, Jackie has former guest Carver Brown back to talk about the work he has been doing with families and loved ones of addicts  in order to have greater success in recovery.  As always...

Episode 127:The Narcissistic Parent from 2019-04-29T10:58:14

In this episode Jackie answers some questions from listeners about Narcissism and talks about the narcissistic parents impact on their children.

Episode 126: Finding Balance with Eating Disorders from 2019-04-22T08:01:46

In this episode, Jackie talks with Melissa Smith Phd, MBA, CEDS owner of Balance Health and Healing about the treatment of eating disorders. They discuss the increase of seeing younger kids, mal...

Episode 125: Leaving the Narcissist from 2019-04-15T12:06:18

In this episode Jackie talks with guest Em Capito who specializes in working with women leaving narcissistic relationships. This episode is full of good information you won’t want to miss.

Episode 124: The Continuum of Narcissism from 2019-04-09T10:34:29

In this episode Jackie talks with Sharon O’Hara, CSAT colleague in CA, about the continuum of narcissism, gaslighting and sociopathy.

Episode 123:  Trauma and the Fast Moving River from 2019-04-02T19:43:50

In this episode Jackie talks about how trauma can feel like being swallowed up in a fast moving river where its hard to get our bearings and to get our feet on solid ground.  Jackie talks about how...

Episode 122: Breathing from 2019-03-25T07:32:45

You may think that you are good at breathing, after all you’re alive right? The truth is we can be pretty bad at breathing and keep ourselves alive. Life can throw things at us that takes our br...

Episode 121: In the Zone from 2019-03-18T08:51:17

In this episode Jackie discusses the pitfalls of overusing our strengths or underusing our strengths. How do we find the zone in which our strengths are actually strengths for us?

Episode 120: Values in Action from 2019-03-11T10:27:53

Do you Know what your personal character strengths are? Can you identify how they have shown up in your life during a challenging times and not so challenging times? How can you connect with your s...

Episode 119: Young and in Recovery from 2019-03-04T08:47:36

One of our listeners wrote in and asked us to address the experiences of young people in recovery. Being a good 20 years younger than the people we are in the rooms with can be unsettling. This epi...

Episode 118: What do the data say? from 2019-02-25T09:12:50

Why do things like journaling, charting, and keeping records come up as suggestions for behavior change so much? Because they make us use a different part of our brains- when it comes to change (re...

Episode 117: Little t traumas from 2019-02-18T09:33:13

In this episode, Jackie talks about little t traumas that often get missed or minimized in recovery and trauma work. As children growing up in dysfunctional homes we learn to not feel, not trust...

Episode 116: An Introduction to Socially Acceptable Addictions from 2019-02-11T08:58:36

In this new series, we are taking a look at the addictions that we like to celebrate.  Exercise, work, money, screens, and food restriction- why does it matter to address these when they are out of...

Episode 115: Hidden Trauma Crash Course: Violence in the Workplace from 2019-02-04T11:54:50

While this is a remote possibility for most folks, it is the last thing you want to see happen at work.  Learn some of the predictors of workplace violence and how to stay safe.

Episode 114: Recovery Healing with your Adult Children from 2019-01-28T09:03:19

What do ammends and recovery look like in a family with adult children? There are some big differences in your relationship with your adult children to consider as you continue your work of bringin...

Episode 113: Recovery Healing with your Teens (14-18) from 2019-01-21T09:58:29

The teenage years are feared, by parents and their children. They don't have to be- tune in to learn how your recovery tools gained thus far can help you to be a more effective parent with your chi...

Episode 112: Honor your Season from 2019-01-14T11:06:07

In this episode Jackie talks about the different seasons our planet goes through and how that correlates to our own personal seasons of life. Wherever you are in your own personal season, rememb...

Episode 111: Limits and Changes from 2019-01-07T08:34:02

We've been experiencing some changes in the work we are doing together.  Tune in to hear about those changes as well as the ensuing discussion on recognizing limits, healthy boundary setting in hea...

Episode 110: Recovery Healing with your Children (10-13) from 2018-12-17T07:28:49

Tune back in for more on bringing recovery to the family system while we explore specific parenting tasks with 10 to 13-year-olds.  Be prepared to remember those awkward years all over again!

Episode 109: Wake Up Call with Alex Runolfson: Grief and Trauma from 2018-12-10T12:49:36

We're excited to have Alex Runolfosn on to talk about Grief and Trauma   About Alex:

I started Bloom Recovery after experiencing my own traumas and struggling find a truly helpful and safe envi...

Episode 108: Recovery Healing with your Children (5-10) from 2018-12-03T09:46:35

What happens when your kids get more word savvy, are willing to argue and debate with you, are clearly blossoming into their own person, and the whole family is recovering from the effects of activ...

Episode 107: Recovery and Healing with your Children (0-5) from 2018-11-26T09:52:41

Jackie and Jon continue their series on healing within families.  This episode focus on navigating recovery and parenting in recovery with children 0 to 5 years old.

Episode 106: Getting the Right Level of Care with Tim Kiernon from 2018-11-19T09:38:38

We're talking to Tim Kiernon with Outer Circle Recovery, a Sober living house for people in recovery with sexual problems in Tennessee.  Tim shares his experience with us working with people from t...

Episode 105: Healing the Damage done by addiction with Children from 2018-11-05T11:55:05

This episode is the first in a series where we will be looking at recovery an healing in a family system.  This episode focuses on what has happened in the family due to addiction and the resulting...

Episode 104: Prodependence with Rob Weiss from 2018-10-29T10:50:31

We are excited to have Dr. Rob Weiss back on the podcast!  Rob is talking about his groundbreaking research and new book identifying the problem with the way addiction treatment has traditionally a...

Episode 103: Later-Stage Sex and Love Addiction Recovery for Women with Staci Sprout from 2018-10-15T09:00:42

We're excited to be talking with Staci Sprout- therapist and author of the memoir: Naked in Public.  Staci talks with us about the 4 phases of recovery for women and focuses on the gifts in stage 3...

Episode 102: Effective Apologies from 2018-10-08T08:31:22

Every news cycle highlights something that someone wants an apology for.  The apology rarely happens, and when it does, it is often underwhelming and leaves much to be desired.  Jon and Jackie diss...

Episode 101: Therapeutic Disclosure with Hope Ray from 2018-10-01T10:21

Disclosure is a process that helps bring a culture of honesty to a relationship.  It's also a place where many are tempted to take shortcuts.  Jackie and Jon talk with Hope Ray, a Certified Sex Add...

Episode 100:  Catching Up from 2018-09-24T17:44:52

We're celebrating 100 episodes, two years of Thanks for Sharing!  Jon and Jackie update their life stories with the last two years of change, growth, and challenges.

Episode 99: Power Plays in Relationships with Deb Kaplan from 2018-09-17T10:43:08

We're excited to welcome back Deb Kaplan, LPC, CSAT-S- author of For Love and Money: Exploring sexual and financial betrayal in relationship.  Today, Deb takes us on a deep dive into how power play...

Episode 98: Critical Thinking Skills from 2018-09-10T12:25:39

Jackie and Jon take a look at Critical Thinking through a relationship lens.  How do you engage the intuitive parts of your brain with the parts that are really good at analyzing and dissecting inf...

Episode 97: Addiction, Trauma, and Relationships with Triune Therapy Group from 2018-09-04T12:38:25

  Jackie and Jon welcome Kate Balestrieri, Psy. D, CSAT-S and Lauren Dummit, LMFT, CSAT to talk about the importance of understanding the intersection between addiction, trauma, and relationships. ...

Episode 96: There is no Silver Bullet from 2018-08-27T08:00:32

Jon and Jackie explore the 'Silver Bullet' myth as it relates to healing and recovery.  This might be a bit of a downer if you are putting a lot of time and energy into finding the one right sol...

Episode 95: What Changes in Recovery: Perspectives on Religion and Spirituality. from 2018-08-20T13:20:25

We've talked sex, we've talked politics (somewhat), and so we're taking a deeper dive into the last of the big three taboo topics- religion.  Jon and Jackie look at how recovery impacts religiou...

Episode 94: Picking Good Treatment with Duane Osterlind from 2018-08-13T15:08:39

Episode 89: What Changes in Recovery for Couples? from 2018-07-16T14:08:18

The second part of our "what changes" series examines aspects of heterosexual relationships that get hit by the recovery bus.  For many couples, changes in power structures, emotional expression an...

Episode 88: What Changes in Recovery for Men and Women? from 2018-07-09T10:02:01

Jackie and Jon begin a series on the needed, but often unsettling changes that are byproducts of good recovery.  It would be nice if life just got more peaceful and we got more settled as we get...

Episode 87: One Layer Deeper from 2018-07-02T08:14:34

We're recording this episode on location as we neared wrapping up our Dating in Recovery Intensive.  We wanted to give you a taste of what we're doing and a closer look at this Intensive series.   ...

Episode 86: Bypass with Craig Cashwell from 2018-06-18T16:28:50

We sit down today with Craig Cashwell, PhD. to talk about his research and practical application into the nature of spiritual bypass.  Dr. Cashwell looks at how we either move toward or away fro...

Episode 85: Healthy, Fun, Connecting Sex in Recovery with Alex Katehakis from 2018-06-11T10:02:22

We have the fortune to sit down with Alex Katehakis again (we interviewed her in Episode 64) to talk about her new book Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual H...

Episode 84: Why do new relationships feel so weird (sometimes)? Part 2 from 2018-06-04T09:02:37

  Jackie and Jon get personal and share some of their favorite personal dating fails.  While the stories are awkward and painful (if not a little embarrassing) there is a silver lining- Jon and Jac...

Episode 83: Why do new relationships feel so weird (sometimes)? Part 1 from 2018-05-29T11:16:57

Jon and Jackie take a look at the merging of two separate people and cultures when a new relationship is formed.  In this episode, we explore some of the gifts recovery gives us prior to "feelin...

Episode 82: The Unbroken Brain with Maia Szalavitz from 2018-05-21T14:52:46

We are excited to have Maia Szalavitz on today to talk about her new book The Unbroken Brain.  

Maia Szalavitz is one of the premier American journalists covering addiction and drugs. She is co-...

Episode 81: Stages of Relationships from 2018-04-30T08:55:49

Jackie and Jon examine the often confusing and arbitrary "relationship stages" we all expect to go through in every single one of our romantic relationships.  We will take a look at questions li...

Episode 80: What is Authenticity? from 2018-04-24T07:25:35

Episode 79: Male Partners of Sex Addicts from 2018-04-16T08:24:03

We recently received an email from a listener who is a male partner of a female sex addict.  He rightly observed that there are some special challenges in healing in those circumstances.

Episode 78: Dating in Recovery with Amy Smith from 2018-04-09T14:27:15

We welcome Amy Smith with Worth Recovery on again (You can hear her on Episode 58) to talk about our joint venture One Layer Deeper.  We are excited to announce these weekend intensives focused ...

Episode 77: Talking with Mari Lee from 2018-04-02T09:59:51

We talk with our friend and returning guest Mari Lee about current affairs and why so much emotion is evoked around large issues like #metoo, politics, guns, and the like.

Episode 76: Don't Shame Me!!! from 2018-03-26T08:46:32

In recent years, the world has been done a giant service by getting a deeper view of shame and how it affects us and our relationships.  Awareness on this is becoming more and more mainstream. Listen

Episode 75: Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace (sneak peak of Hidden Trauma Crash Course). from 2018-03-19T09:13:58

Episode 74: 3 Circles and the "Yes List" from 2018-03-12T10:09:25

Most people in recovery struggle to define all of the 'no's'- the things that they need to be aware of, stay away from or give up in order to maintain sanity and strong recovery.  In this episod...

Episode 73: I,Tonya with Kelly McDaniel from 2018-03-05T13:12:01

We have Kelly McDaniel back on to talk about her take on I, Tonya - the recent film starring Margot Robbie and Allison Janney depicting the story of Olympic Figure Skater Tonya Harding.  Kelly t...

Episode 72: Story Time Vol. 2 from 2018-02-26T15:28:01

Jackie and Jon share some stories from their lives and insights with each other in this installment.  You will hear stories like "the Dishwasher," "Take the Shot," "Vomit I,"  "Vomit II," and "Chil...

Episode 71: Cultural Traumas, MeToo, and School Shootings from 2018-02-19T11:09:13

Jackie and Jon continue the series on families and the things that impact how we relate and interact with one another.  Every family is part of a larger cultural context which influences attitud...

Episode 70: "Little t's" in the Family Tree from 2018-02-12T12:08:53

Jon and Jackie add another part to their series on family of origin and how we are shaped by the people we grow up with.  In this episode, we explore how the seemingly small things can add up to...

Episode 69: When What Needed to Happen Didn't from 2018-02-05T12:07:30

Jackie and Jon continue their series on Family of Origin by exploring what didn't happen- or neglect.  Neglect comes in all shapes and sizes, on an extreme end, it is very noticeable.  For many of ...

Episode 68: The Story Started Before You Did. from 2018-01-29T12:47:09

Jackie and Jon start a new series on Family of Origin and its impacts on you.  So much happens immediately and subtly within families that shapes how we feel, who we are, and the relationships we s...

Episode 67: Money, Power, and Sex with Deb Kaplan from 2018-01-15T13:22:47

Episode 66: Sexism: Part 2 from 2018-01-08T13:07:08

Episode 65: Catching up with Carver from 2018-01-04T10:05:50

We are excited to share with you our conversation with Carver Brown.  You will recognize Carver's name as we have referenced him multiple times in different episodes. We finally caught up with Carv...

Episode 64: "Me Too" with Alex Katehakis from 2017-12-18T10:23:24

This topic has started a national conversation for people in all walks of life.  Jackie and Jon sit down with Alex Katehakis, founder of the Center for Healthy Sex in LA ( Listen

Episode 60: Vicki Tidwell Palmer- More Healing for Betrayed Partners from 2017-11-20T15:17:36

Jackie and Jon welcome Vicki Tidwell Palmer, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts.  Vicki, Jon and Jackie explore the nature and role of bounda...

Episode 59: Dan Griffin and the 'Man Rules' from 2017-11-13T03:00

Dan Griffin talked with us recently about his work understanding men and men's issues.  Dan is the host of the fantastic Man Rules Podcast and is known for his unique way of approaching men and ...

Episode 58: Recovery Coaching with Amy Smith from 2017-11-08T10:00:49

Jackie and Jon sit down again with Amy Smith, the founder of Worth Recovery to talk recovery coaching.  What is a Recovery Coach?  How does coaching work with therapy and 12 steps?  Answers to t...

Episode 57: Mother-Enmeshed Men with Ken Adams from 2017-10-31T11:31:40

Jackie and Jon talk to nationally renowned author and treatment provider, Dr. Ken Adams.  Ken is known for his groundbreaking and cutting-edge work with sex addicts and offers specific help to men ...

Episode 56: Sexism from 2017-10-24T11:06:30

Sexism and assault are big topics in the news.  Jon and Jackie discuss why understanding sexism and working on your issues with sexism is part of a well-rounded, relationship-focused recovery.

Episode 55: Out of the Dog House with Rob Weiss from 2017-10-16T11:32:48

*This episode is marked explicit because it does contain references to human sexuality and words that some might find offensive- we find that the material is still relevant to our audience and s...

Episode 54: Shame and Addiction with Doug Sorenson from 2017-10-09T15:41:14

We are very excited to have our friend and nationally recognized expert on shame and sex addiction Doug Sorenson on the show.  In this episode, Doug, Jon, and Jackie share some of their personal...

Episode 53: "We're all One Big Family Here!" from 2017-10-02T20:52:29

This is the second installment of Jon and Jackie's side project- The Hidden Trauma Crash Course.  In this episode, we discuss larger workplace dynamics and how they reflect family dynamics.  Hum...

Episode 52: Trust part 3 from 2017-09-25T17:58:08

  In the last episode in this series, Jon and Jackie talk about what life is like after having trust violated.  Not everything after trauma is bad...

Episode 51: Trust part 2 from 2017-09-18T13:04:59

Jackie and Jon continue their conversation about trust- diving into the "Trust Equation" developed by Rodney Napier and Sarah Engel.   You can get a copy of the trust equation by emailing Listen

Episode 40: Wake Up Call with Dan Doty from 2017-07-03T16:53:31

We're excited to have Dan Doty, one of the founders of Evryman and the host of the podcast by the same name. Dan talks about some of his moments of realization and what he is learning about what...

Episode 39: Wake Up Call with Jered S. from 2017-06-28T11:18:31

Jered S. shares his story of growing up as an Inupiat Tribe Member but never quite fitting in where he was at. Jered brings together faith, family, and finding your calling as he talks about his...

Episode 38: Loving Your Body with Guest Rachel Smith from 2017-06-19T14:13:23

We are excited for our third ever guest- Rachel Smith, Director of Women in Motion out of Ogden, Utah (http://womeninmotion.website/). Rachel talks ab...

Episode 37: Step 7 from 2017-06-12T14:50:50

Continuing our series on the 12 steps and exploring step 7 through the lens of several different fellowships- Jackie and Jon explore how we "Humbly ask God to remove our defects of character." J...

Episode 36: Step 6 from 2017-06-05T13:34:01

The momentum can feel like it really starts to shift in step 6. Jackie and Jon discuss what "defects of character" means- and examine some of the ways those defects manifest in less-than-obvious...

Episode 35: Step 5 from 2017-05-31T10:57:34

In Step 5, "we admitted to God, ourselves, and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs." Jackie and Jon explore what "exact nature" means as well as discuss the benefits of step 5 as ...

Episode 34: Step 4- The Fearless Inventory from 2017-05-22T13:33:01

In this episode, Jon and Jackie discuss the 4th step and the "big inventory" and how to take it in chunks. The fourth step can be where everything changes.

Episode 33: Step 3 from 2017-05-15T15:37:06

What does it mean to 'become willing to surrender...?' Jon and Jackie dive into step 3- looking at willingness and surrender through the lens of the 12 steps.

Episode 32: Step 2 from 2017-05-08T13:29:40

Jackie and Jon continue their series examining the 12 steps through different fellowshps' literature. Step two describes all of the ways that "we came to believe" and the ins and outs of what ex...

Episode 31: Step 1 from 2017-05-01T11:46:29

Jon and Jackie take a look at Step 1- across 8 different 12 step fellowships. Every fellowship has a little bit of a different approach and understanding to working the steps- most people will b...

Episode 30: New Hope Recovery with Jeff Zacharias from 2017-04-24T21:53:08

We were privileged to have Jeff Zacharias, the President of New Hope Recovery in Chicago as a guest. Jeff talked about the intersection of trauma, addiction, and mental health in the LGBTQQI com...

Episode 29: What's Missing? The ability to argue from 2017-04-17T10:43:35

We're back to another installment of "What's Missing?" In this episode we look at the fine art of argument- the ability to state your own feelings, position, wants, and needs, while hearing that...

Episode 28: Closing the backdoors in recovery from 2017-04-10T09:26:23

There are many ways to get around working a rigorously honest recovery program and keeping recovery just on the edge. We explore the concept of forcing a helpful choice as it relates to healing ...

Episode 27: Using the front door in recovery from 2017-04-03T13:57:30

Jackie and Jon explore the concept of "going through the front door" in recovery. This is a follow up to the series on being a functional adult where we further explore exactly what it looks lik...

Episode 26: Things Functional Adults Can Do: Part 5 from 2017-03-27T10:04:40

Balance is ever-elusive for most of us. Functional adults have the ability to come from a centered place rather than the extremes. Jon and Jackie touch on some of the key moments in the growth o...

Episode 25: Things Functional Adults can do: Part 4 from 2017-03-20T13:43:28

The prompt for this episode is packed with many meaningful things to look at and to consciously work on. It has to do with taking responsibility for what you need and want and being able to resp...

Episode 24: 5 Things Funcional Adults can Do: Part 3 from 2017-03-13T11:45:08

Pia Mellody talks about funcional adults being able to own their own reality and to share it politically. In this episode- we dive into what exactly that means and why it is such a critical skil...

Episode 23: 5 Things Functional Adults Can Do: Part 2 from 2017-03-06T20:37:46

Jon and Jackie continue to discuss Pia Melody's concept of the functional adult. In this episode we explore the ability to set boundaries which limit external reality and which protect others fr...

Episode 22: 5 Things Functional Adults Can Do: Part 1 from 2017-02-27T13:06:15

Jon and Jackie draw on ideas originally presented by Pia Mellody (http://www.piamellody.com/) in a lecture she gave about shame. This episode focuses on t...

Episode 21: What's Missing? Boundaries Part 2 from 2017-02-21T21:19:40

Jackie and Jon continue the exploration of boundaries with a focus on emotional boundaries. We also dive into some tips for starting to identify your boundaries.

Episode 20: What's Missing? Boundaries Part 1- from 2017-02-16T15:38:54

Do your boundaries need some brushing up? Jon and Jackie start a two part conversation about boundaries, what they are and why they are so important to recovery and mental health in general. Thi...

Episode 19: What's Missing? Healthy Shame from 2017-02-08T09:03:56

Shame is a complicated and ever-present experience in recovery. Our initial instinct is to shrink away and not experience it. Early addiction and trauma thinkers talked about the concept of heal...

Episode 18: Moving toward Healthy Connected Sex from 2017-01-31T12:39:38

Healthy sexuality in recovery is not as easy as just stopping what is dangerous or disconnecting. Jackie and Jon talk about thoughts sparked by a recent session with a couple in long-term recove...

Episode 17: Why Am I not Getting It? from 2017-01-23T19:50:24

Sometimes recovery can feel harder than it looks like it should be. Jon and Jackie take a look at why it might be that people feel like they get stuck having the same conversations or experience...

Episode 16- Understanding Trauma Treatment with Anastasia Pollock from 2017-01-17T17:30:34

In this Episode, Jon, Jackie and Anastasia continue their conversation and examine some different treatments that are effective in healing from trauma. They also take a deeper look at what traum...

Episode 15- Understanding what Trauma is with Anastasia Pollock from 2017-01-10T08:58:59

With their first ever guest- trauma and PTSD expert Anastasia Pollock, Jon and Jackie explore what trauma is and why it can be so tricky to heal from.

Anastasia is the clinical d...

Episode 14- Getting through the holidays as a functional adult from 2017-01-02T09:48:11

Just in time to clean up after all of the winter holidays' emotional aftermath- Jackie and Jon talk about some of the more nuanced triggers around holidays for people in recovery. Between birthd...

Episode 13 What's Missing?: Empathy from 2016-12-19T08:40:39

Empathy is noticeably impaired in most addicts and their relationships, and for good reason. Jackie and Jon share stories about learning how to empathize and reclaiming the ability to connect ar...

Jackie’s story about helpful reflections from 2016-12-15T08:15:16

In this mini episode Jackie shares a story about being more than our emotions and the help we get from people in our life who can remind us of this.

Episode 12: What is missing?: Accountability from 2016-12-12T11:11:22

Jon and Jackie start to expand on their last series on relationship trauma, addiction formation, and becoming relational through recovery (Episodes 5-11). In this episode we explore accountability ...

Episode 11: Becoming Relational Through Recovery from 2016-12-05T10:46:15

This week, Jon and Jackie finish up the series on attachment wounds, trauma and healing in relationships. They use examples from real recovery to illustrate different elements of learning how to le...

Episode 10: What every Spouse Needs to Know About Addiction from 2016-11-22T10:08:07

Finding out your spouse has been hiding an addiction is incredibly painful. In this episode, Jackie and Jon speak to spouses of addicts about some of the basics they need to know to start navigatin...

Higher Power from 2016-11-14T10:24:48

In this short episode, Jon talks about some concepts for connecting with the Higher Power of your understanding. Here are the links Jon refers to in the show:
www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/silen...

Episode 9: What the addicted spouse needs to know about their partner's healing process. from 2016-11-07T11:46:22

In this episode Jon and Jackie talk about the process the partner goes through in their healing process. This is helpful information for the addicted spouse to understand so they can get a big pict...