Podcasts by Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive

Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive

Jen Lumanlan always thought infancy would be the hardest part of parenting. Now she has a toddler and finds a whole new set of tools are needed, there are hundreds of books to read, and academic research to uncover that would otherwise never see the light of day. Join her on her journey to get a Masters in Psychology focusing on Child Development, as she researches topics of interest to parents of toddlers and preschoolers from all angles, and suggests tools parents can use to help kids thrive - and make their own lives a bit easier in the process. Like Janet Lansbury

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Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
199: Digging Deeper into Parenting Beyond Power with Rachel Disney from 2023-12-10T20:00

Listener Rachel also reached out with some questions, and due to my Listen
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Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
191: Parenting Beyond Power launch celebration from 2023-09-05T00:00

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Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
189: Childhood Unlimited with Virginia Mendez from 2023-08-13T20:00

Do you try to give your children mes...

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Q&A 4: Is it safe to delay math learning? from 2023-07-30T20:00

 
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188: How to learn way beyond ‘doing well in school’ from 2023-07-16T20:00

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187: What to do when my child says: “I’m booored!”? from 2023-07-09T20:00

  Those of us in the Northern Hemisphere are in the middle of summer now, with the whirlwind of cobbled together childcare and kids at home saying: "I'm booored!".   What's happening f...

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Q&A #3: Why do you have to go to work? from 2023-06-25T20:00

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186: How to meet your needs with Mara Glatzel from 2023-06-11T20:00

We talk a lot about meeting needs on the show. And mostly we focus on meeting your child's needs, because when those...

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185: How can we raise resilient children? from 2023-05-28T20:00

A lot of parents (and teachers) are concerned right now about children's resilience. Will they 'bounce back' from the ...

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184: How to get on the same page as your co-parent from 2023-05-07T20:00

Do you sometimes wish your co-parent would join you on the respectful parenting journey you’re on?   Would things be easi...

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183: What I wish I’d known about parenting from 2023-04-30T20:00

Recently, a number of parents in the Parenting Membership have posted in our community about challenges they've faced that they've navigated with grace that would have seemed insurmountable a coupl...

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182: How to get frustrating behavior to stop from 2023-04-23T20:00

All of our children go through phases when they do things we wish they wouldn’t do.    Sometimes those things are relativ...

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181: Why ‘giving choices’ doesn’t work – and what to do instead from 2023-04-09T20:00

‘Giving choices’ is a hot tool in the respectful parenting world.  In the scripts, it usually goes like this:        Chil...

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180: How to get your children to stop fighting from 2023-03-26T09:00

If there’s one topic that never fails to rile parents up, it’s sibling fighting.   Why does it affect us so much?  (There...

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Q&A #2: How do we help children who are ‘falling behind’ without using milestones? from 2023-03-19T20:00

This Q&A episode comes from a special education preschool teacher had listened to the ...

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179: I Never Thought of It That Way with Mónica Guzmán and Lulu from 2023-03-05T20:00

If you're anything like me, navigating conflict comes pretty easily to you. You always know what to say to make your point in a tone that's firm but still inviting, right? You listen for the purpos...

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178: How to heal your inner critic from 2023-02-19T20:00

Do you ever have that voice in your head that tells you things like: "You shouldn't have laid in bed for so long; ...

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177: Three ways to be a good parent, even on bad days from 2023-02-05T20:00

    In this episode I take a lo...

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176: How to begin healing shame with A.J. Bond from 2023-01-29T20:00

Do you ever feel ashamed? Many people find it among their most physical emotions, resulting in a big knot of tension...

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Q&A #1: Should I let my child hit me, or a pillow? from 2023-01-22T20:00

This episode kicks off a series of new episodes that I'm very excited about, which is based on listeners' questions....

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175: I’ll be me; can you be you? from 2023-01-08T20:00

In this most personal episode I've ever created, I'll share with you how my autism self-diagnosis has helped me to understand the experiences I've had in ways that bring a great deal more clarity a...

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174: Support for Neurodivergent Parents with Dr. Rahimeh Andalibian&Sara Goodrich from 2022-12-18T20:00

Most of the resources related to parenting and neurodiversity are geared toward helping neurodivergent children, not neurodivergent parents, so this episode aims to help close that gap. Whether yo...

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173: Why we shouldn’t read the “Your X-Year-Old Child” books any more from 2022-12-04T20:00

Have you ever seen recommendations for the books called Your One Year Old, Your Two Year Old, and so on, by Louise B...

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172: You Are Not A Sh*tty Parent with Carla Naumburg from 2022-11-20T20:00

Are you a shitty parent?   Or do you ever think you might be?   Par...

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171: How Good People Can Create A More Just Future with Dr. Dolly Chugh from 2022-11-06T20:00

Did you read Little House on the Prairie when you were a child? I didn't, but I know it's a common American rite of passage. My guest in this new episode, Dr. Dolly C...

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170: How to stop procrastinating with Dr. Fuschia Sirois from 2022-10-23T20:00

Our culture says that people procrastinate because they're disorganized and lazy. After all, how hard can it really be to do a task you've committed to doing, and one that you even know will benefi...

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169: How to take care of yourself first with Liann Jensen from 2022-10-09T20:00

Liann did not have an easy entry into motherhood.  Her first child’s birth was pretty traumatic; it was followed by a miscarriage and then very quickly by another pre...

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168: Feeling Triggered by Current Events from 2022-10-02T20:00

I know it can be really difficult to navigate all the events happening in the world today.  It seems like things are falling apart, with wars, climate change-caused d...

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167: Healing and Helping with Mutual Aid with Dean Spade from 2022-09-25T20:00

In this conversation with Dean Spade we resolve a long-running challenge in my understanding: when Listen

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166: Learning to trust your child – and yourself from 2022-09-11T20:00

Claire had used respectful parenting methods since her children were babies, so child-led learning seemed like a natural fit for her.  She protected her toddler’s fre...

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165: How grit helps (and how it doesn’t) from 2022-08-26T09:00

At the beginning of our stay at a friend’s house in Oregon six weeks ago, my eight-year-old daughter Carys had biked a flat mile on a mountain biking trail; when we g...

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164: Supporting Neurodivergent Children with Dr. Hanna Bertilsdotter-Rosqvist from 2022-08-21T09:00

Parents have been asking me for episodes on neurodivergence for a while now so I’m hoping this episode will become the start of a mini-series. In this first conversat...

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163: Should children vote? with Dr. John Wall from 2022-08-14T20:00

Every once in a while a blog post about ‘childism’ makes the rounds on social media, which is described as being a “prejudice against young people” that’s on par with...

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162: Supporting children through grief with Katie Lear from 2022-07-31T20:00

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161: New masculinites for older boys with Dr. Michael Kehler&Caroline Brunet from 2022-07-17T20:00

We've covered a number of episodes in the past that feed into this one, including Listen

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160: Wanting What’s Best with Sarah Jaffe from 2022-07-03T20:00

There are lots of books available now on how to talk with children about issues related to race, but Sarah W. Jaffe noticed a gap: there weren't any books geared towa...

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159: Supporting Girls’ Relationships with Dr. Marnina Gonick from 2022-06-19T20:00

I've been wanting to do this episode for a loooong time. We covered episodes a long time ago on Listen

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158: Deconstructing Developmental Psychology with Dr. Erica Burman from 2022-06-05T20:00

I read a lot of textbooks on parenting for my Master’s in Psychology (Child Development), I’ve read tens of thousands of peer-reviewed papers on...

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157: How to find your village from 2022-05-19T19:00

For the first time, in this episode I bow out and and let listeners Jenny and Emma take over, who wanted to share how they’ve been supporting each other over the last few months.   They star...

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156: From desperation to collaboration from 2022-05-15T12:00

Adrianna and Tim had read all the parenting books. (And I mean ALL the books.)   But NOTHING seemed to be working.   They were still feeling frustrated with their kids on a very regul...

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155: How to get your child to listen to you from 2022-05-01T09:00

Recently someone posted a question in one of my communities:   “Is it really so wrong to want m...

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154: Authoritative isn’t the best Parenting “Style” from 2022-04-24T15:00

“On average, authoritative parents spanked just as much as the average of all other parents.  Undoubtedly, some parents can be authoritative without using spanking...

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SYPM 020: Preparing for the afterbirth with Renee Reina from 2022-04-04T09:00

I don’t know about you, but I spent a LOT of time thinking about my birth plan before Carys was born.  I mean, that thing went through multiple iterations as I read new books about the birth proces...

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152: Everything you need to know about sleep training from 2022-03-27T09:00

We've already covered a couple of episodes on sleep, including the cultural issues associated with sleep, then more recently we ...

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151: The Alphabet Rockers with Kaitlin McGaw and Tommy Shepherd from 2022-03-20T09:00

The band The Alphabet Rockers consists of lead members Kaitlin McGaw and Tommy Shepherd, and a multi-racial group of children who are also involved in writing and performing.  They write about...

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150: How to avoid passing on an eating disorder to our child with Dr. Shiri Sadeh-Sharvit from 2022-03-06T18:00

This episode is a continuation of the series on the intersection of children and food.  We've also heard from Dr. Lindo Bacon on bu...

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SYPM 019: Why are you always so angry? from 2022-02-20T15:00

One day Iris took her daughter to the park, with enough snacks with for both of them.  When Iris got hungry, she asked her daughter to share some of the food - but he...

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149: How to set the boundaries you need from 2022-02-13T15:00

We’ve covered the topic of boundaries before, in our conve...

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148: Is spanking a child really so bad? from 2022-02-06T15:00

I’ve been thinking about producing this episode for several years now, and I always wished I wouldn’t need to do it.  Then every few months I’d see a post in an onlin...

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SYPM 018: No Set Bedtime with Gila and Katherine from 2022-01-30T09:00

When I interviewed Dr. Chris Winters last year, I described how we’v...

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SYPM 017: Reparenting ourselves to create empathy in the world with Amy from 2022-01-23T15:00

In this episode we hear from parent Amy, who is a White parent married to a Black man raising four biracial children in Colorado. Amy has been on quite a journey to explore her role as a descendan...

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SYPM 017: Reparenting ourselves to create empathy in the world with Amy from 2022-01-23T15:00

In this episode we hear from parent Amy, who is a White parent married to a Black man raising four biracial children in Colorado.  Amy has been on quite a journey to ...

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147: Sugar Rush with Dr. Karen Throsby from 2022-01-09T09:00

This episode continues our conversation on the topic of children and food.  A few months ago we heard from Dr. Lindo Bacon about ho...

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RE-RELEASE: Why storytelling is so important for our children from 2022-01-02T09:00

“Storytelling? I’m already reading books to my child – isn’t that enough?” Your child DOES get a lot out of reading books (which is why we’ve done a several episodes on that already, including  Listen

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RE-RELEASE: How to read with your child with Dr. Laura Froyen from 2021-12-19T09:00

Way, waaay back in Episode 3, we wondered whether we had mis...

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RE-RELEASE: Parenting beyond pink and blue with Dr. Christia Brown from 2021-12-05T15:00

Today I join forces with Malaika Dower of the How to Get Away with Parenting Listen

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RE-RELEASE: Parenting beyond pink and blue with Dr. Christia Brown from 2021-12-05T15:00

Today I join forces with Malaika Dower of the http://www.htgawp.com/ (How to Get Away with Parenting) podcast to interview Dr. Christia Brown, who is a Professor of Developmental and Social Psychol...

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RE-RELEASE: Why isn’t my child grateful with Dr. Jonathan Tudge from 2021-11-21T15:00

“I spent the whole morning painting and doing origami and felting projects with my daughter – and not only did she not say “thank you,” but she refused to help clean up!” (I actually said this myse...

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RE-RELEASE: Why isn’t my child grateful with Dr. Jonathan Tudge from 2021-11-21T15:00

“I spent the whole morning painting and doing origami and felting projects with my daughter – and not only did she not say “thank you,” but she refused to help clean up!” (I actually said this myse...

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RE-RELEASE: Becoming Brilliant – Interview with Prof. Roberta Golinkoff from 2021-11-07T15:00

In just a few years, today’s children and teens will forge careers that look nothing like those that were available to their parents or grandparents. While the U.S. economy becomes ever more inform...

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RE-RELEASE: Becoming Brilliant – Interview with Prof. Roberta Golinkoff from 2021-11-07T15:00

In just a few years, today’s children and teens will forge careers that look nothing like those that were available to their parents or grandparents. While the U.S. economy becomes ever more inform...

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[Looking back and looking ahead] from 2021-10-31T15:00

In this short episode I reflect on where we’ve been over the past year, my plans to slow down a bit at the end of the year (as well as a super exciting project I’m working on!), and what episodes w...

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SYPM 016: Getting it right from the start with a new baby from 2021-10-24T15:00

In this episode we do something we haven’t done before - talk with podcast listeners who aren’t parents yet!   Kellie and Jon are an amazing couple living in Tennessee.  Kellie is a bit ...

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146: The Rested Child with Dr. Chris Winter from 2021-10-17T15:00

Sleep!  It’s a topic that’s on pretty much every parent’s mind.  We’ve already looked at this from a cultural perspective, where we learned our...

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145: How to Sugarproof your kids with Dr. Michael Goran from 2021-10-03T15:00

  Sugar has a bad name these days - much like fat did back in the 1990s.  "Research shows" that it's addictive...that it shrinks your brain...that it's likely to lead to all kinds of health p...

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SYPM 015: How to support each unique child’s learning journey from 2021-09-19T15:00

I hear from a lot of parents who are worried about their children’s learning.  They tell me things like:   “I want to enc...

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144: Supporting Your Gifted Child from 2021-09-11T15:00

  Is your child gifted?   Do you wonder if they're gifted but aren't quite sure?   Do you want to know how to support your gifted child's learning in a way that doesn't p...

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143: The Extended Mind with Annie Murphy Paul from 2021-09-05T09:00

We don’t just think with our brains. What?! How can that possibly be true? I struggled to understand it if myself for quite a while, until I read the fabulous English philosopher Andy Clark’s de...

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142: Division of Responsibility with Ellyn Satter from 2021-08-15T15:00

Do you worry that your child isn't eating enough...or is eating too much?
Do you wish they would eat a more balanced diet...but don't want to be the Vegetable Police? Listen
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SYPM 014: The power of healing in community from 2021-08-01T15:00

When you’re learning a new skill, information is critical.  Without that, it’s very difficult to make any kind of meaningful change.   But I see a parallel between learning new skills and re...

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141: The Body Keeps The Score with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk from 2021-07-25T15:00

How does trauma affect us?   Yes, we feel it in our brains - we get scared, frustrated, and angry - often for reasons we don’t fully understand.   But even if our brains have managed ...

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SYPM 013: Triggered all the time to emotional safety from 2021-07-17T15:00

When we're having a hard time interacting with our family members, it's pretty common for our first reaction to be: "I need this person (or these people!) to change their behavior" - especially whe...

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140: Mythbusting about fat and BMI with Dr. Lindo Bacon from 2021-07-04T12:00

This episode kicks off a series on the intersection of parenting and food.   We begin today with a conversation with ...

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139: How to keep your child safe from guns (even if you don’t own one) from 2021-06-20T15:00

Many of us haven't been in each other's homes for a while now, but pretty soon we'll be getting together inside again.  And our children will be heading inside, in their friends' houses.   P...

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138: Most of what you know about attachment is probably wrong from 2021-06-06T15:00

New parents often worry about attachment to their baby - will I be able to build it? My baby cries a lot - does that mean that we aren't attached? If I put my baby in daycare, will they get attache...

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137: Psychological Flexibility through ACT with Dr. Diana Hill from 2021-05-23T15:00

"Psychological Flexibility" sounds amazing.  Shouldn't we all want that?  After all, psychological flexibility has been significantly positively associated with wellness during the COVID-19 pandemi...

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136: Mother’s Day Momifesto from 2021-05-08T04:00

We've been in a liminal space for the last 15 months or so, since COVID shutdowns.  (The word 'liminal' comes from the Latin root limen, meaning threshold).   It’s a place where a certain part of o...

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135: 5 reasons respectful parenting is so hard from 2021-05-02T09:00

This episode grew out of a post that long-time friend of the podcast, Dr. Laura Froyen, published in a respectful parenting group that we both work in as admins.  In the post she asked p...

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135: 5 reasons respectful parenting is so hard from 2021-05-02T09:00

This episode grew out of a post that long-time friend of the podcast, Dr. Laura Froyen, published in a respectful parenting group that we both work in as admins. In the post she asked people t...

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SYPM 012: From fear-filled conflict to parenting as a team from 2021-04-25T09:00

"You're doing it wrong!  You're not asking for consent before changing the diaper!"

 
In this Sharing Your Parenting Mojo episode we meet parent Nicole, who ha...

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134: Beyond Sex Education with Dr. Nadine Thornhill from 2021-04-18T09:00

"Do you know what happens to your body when you get older?" "Um...you get hairy in some places?" "Yeah...other things happen too.  We'll get you some books."   That was what I learn...

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What Carys wants you to know about your children’s feelings from 2021-04-11T09:00

After dinner a few days ago, Carys randomly started telling us that if we want to understand some of the things she's feeling, we should cast our minds back to when we were children and remember ho...

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133: How the Things We Learned About Sex Impact Our Children from 2021-04-04T09:00

Today we build on episodes that we've done in the past on talking with children about the basics of sex (so when you listen to this episode we're assuming you've got the basics covered - thing...

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132: How implicit bias affects my child (Part 2) from 2021-03-21T09:00

Do we really know what implicit bias is, and whether we have it? This is the second episode on our two-part series on implicit bias; the first part was an Listen
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131: Implicit Bias with Dr. Mahzarin Banaji from 2021-03-07T09:00

Explicitly, nobody really believes in gender stereotypes anymore, but when we look at the world, and who's where and how much money people make, and so on, it sti...

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130: Introduction to mindfulness and meditation with Diana Winston from 2021-02-21T09:00

"When she was younger, she wasn't that into reading and that was like a huge deal for me.  I thought: "I'm such a reader. My daughter doesn't love to read." She's...

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129: The physical reasons you yell at your kids from 2021-02-07T09:00

Why do we yell at our children - even when we know we shouldn't?

Why ...

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SYPM 011: Untigering with Iris Chen from 2021-01-29T09:00

In this episode we talk with Iris Chen about her new book, Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent. Iris admits to being a parent who engaged in "yelling, spanking, and ...

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128: Should I Redshirt My Child? from 2021-01-24T09:00

Parents - worried about their child's lack of maturity or ability to 'fit in' in a classroom environment - often ask me whether they should hold their child back a year before entering kindergarten...

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Dismantling White Supremacy and Patriarchy on MLK Day from 2021-01-18T09:00

In this short ad hoc episode that was originally recorded as a Facebook Live, I discuss ways that my family is working on dismantling both White supremacy and patriarchy (and having a go at capital...

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Responding to the U.S. Capitol Siege from 2021-01-10T09:00

In this ad hoc episode, I outline a response to the U.S. Capitol siege.  I provide some suggestions for ways to talk with your child about the events, but also ask that you take two more steps: (1)...

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127: Doing Self-Directed Education from 2020-12-17T09:00

When parents first hear about interest-led learning (also known as self-directed education), they may wonder: why on earth would we do that?  And how would my child learn without anyone teaching th...

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SYPM 010: From Anxious Overwhelm to Optimistic Calm from 2020-12-13T09:00

In this Sharing Your Parenting Mojo episode we hear from listener Anne, who has been in my Parenting Membership for a year now.  In our conversation we discussed the anxiety she used to feel a...

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126: Problem Solving with Dr. Ross Greene from 2020-12-06T09:00

Let's talk problem solving!  Many of us have tried it, but it's so common to get stuck...and to think that the method doesn't work, and then return in exasperation to the methods we'd been usi...

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SYPM 009: How to Set Boundaries in Parenting from 2020-11-29T09:00

My guest for this episode is life coach and reparenting expert Xavier Dagba, who is here to discuss the topic of boundaries in parenting. We don't tend to learn much about having boundaries when w...

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125: Should you worry about technoference? from 2020-11-20T09:00

I often hear two related ideas about adults' screen usage around children. Sometimes the parent asking the question guiltily confesses to using screens around their children more than they would li...

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SYPM 008: Fostering Positive Sibling Relationships with Future Focused Parenting from 2020-11-09T09:00

Sibling relationships can be SO HARD!  Sometimes it might seem that we can't leave them alone for even a second before they're at each other's throats, and on top of this we see their struggles and...

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124: The Art of Holding Space from 2020-11-06T09:00

If you’ve been a parent for a while, or maybe even if you haven’t, you probably saw an article on Holding Space making the rounds of online communities a few years ago. ...

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123: Maternal Ambivalence: What it is, and what to do about it from 2020-11-01T09:00

This episode builds on our recent conversations with Dr. Moira Mikolajczak on Parental Burnout and with Dr. Susan Pollak on Listen

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122: Self-Compassion for Parents from 2020-10-18T09:00

In this episode, Dr. Susan Pollak helps us to apply mindfulness skills to our relationships with our children so we can parent in line with our values, rather than just reacting when our children p...

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121: How To Support Your Perfectionist Child from 2020-10-05T09:00

Parents often reach out to me to ask how they can support their perfectionist children, who can't seem to cope with failure. I've been on the lookout for someone to talk with us for a while, but ju...

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120: How to Raise a Child Who Uses Their Uniqueness to Create Happiness (RE-RELEASE) from 2020-09-20T09:00

I've heard from listeners that what they call "The Dark Horse Episode," the interview with Dr. Todd Rose, that this is one of their favorite conversations on the podcast, and for this reason I'm do...

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119: Aligning Your Parenting With Your Values from 2020-09-07T09:00

Ever have a vague sense that your interactions with your child aren't quite aligned with your values...but aren't quite sure what to do about it?   Have you been to a protest and shouted "Bl...

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SYPM 007: Parenting Across Cultural Divides from 2020-08-23T09:00

In this episode we hear from Denise, who claims to have listened to every Your Parenting Mojo episode... Denise is a Filipina living in Madrid, and the intentional, respectful parenting s...

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118: Are You Raising Materialistic Kids? from 2020-08-11T09:00

This episode on the topic of materialism concludes our series on the intersection of parenting and money.  Here we talk with Dr. Susanna Opree of Erasmus University Rotterdam, who studies the effec...

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117: Socialization and Pandemic Pods from 2020-07-26T09:00

One of the questions I see asked most often in parenting forums these days is some variation on: "I’m worried about my child’s socialization now that it looks like daycares, preschools and sch...

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SYPM 006: Mindful Mama from 2020-07-26T09:00

We're delving a little deeper into the topic of mindfulness with none other than the Mindful Mama, Hunter Clarke-Fields!  We discuss Hunter's journey from being triggered just as often as the rest ...

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116: Turn Work-Family Conflict Into Work-Family Balance from 2020-07-16T09:00

Work-family conflict can seem unavoidable - especially in the era of COVID when we're either working from home with children underfoot all day, or we're an essential worker who has to leave the hou...

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115: Reducing the Impact of Advertising to Children from 2020-07-05T09:00

We're almost (but not quite!) at the end of our lengthy series on the intersection of money and parenting.  Most recently, we talked with Dr. Allison Pugh to try to understand the answer to the que...

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114: How to stop ‘Othering’ and instead ‘Build Belonging’ from 2020-06-19T09:00

I had originally approached today's topic of Othering through a financial lens, as part of the series of episodes on the intersection of parenting and money (previous episodes have been on NYT Mone...

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SYPM 005: Getting Confident About the Decision to Homeschool from 2020-06-07T09:00

  School districts are starting to make plans to reopen - some with sneeze guards between desks; some on reduced schedules to accommodate the amount of space needed for social distancing, whi...

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113: No Self, No Problem from 2020-05-24T09:00

If you heard the recent episode on Parental Burnout, you'll know that our identities can become really confusing when we become parents, especially for women.  On one hand, society tells us that we...

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112: How to Set up a Play Room from 2020-05-10T21:00

One of the things people email me wanting to know about most often is "what does the research say about how to set up a play room? What toys should I buy that will have the greatest benefit for my ...

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111: Parental Burn Out from 2020-04-26T21:00

Do you often feel anxious or irritated, especially when you're around your child? Do you often feel like you might snap, perhaps even threatening violence if they don't do what you say? Are you so ...

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110: How to Dismantle Patriarchy Through Parenting from 2020-04-13T00:00

We began this mini-series a few weeks ago as listener Brian Stout and I co-interviewed Dr. Carol Gilligan as a...

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109: Education in a time between worlds from 2020-03-30T00:00

It seems pretty clear that we are in a societal 'liminal space' right now, which is a threshold between what we have known until now and what we will know in the future. We are also in a liminal s...

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108: How to cope with the Coronavirus pandemic from 2020-03-15T09:00

In this episode we discuss how to cope with parents’ and children’s fear and anxiety related to the Coronavirus pandemic, how to keep the children busy so you can get some work done (without resort...

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107: The impact of consumerism on children from 2020-03-08T21:00

A few weeks ago we talked with Dr. Brad Klontz about the 'money scripts' that we pass on to our children - perhaps unint...

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106: Patriarchy is perpetuated through parenting (Part 1) from 2020-02-23T16:20

"Wait, whaaaat?" (I can hear you thinking this now, as you're reading the title for this episode.) When I think of patriarchy, I usually think of a powerful guy in a suit. He's always White. He pr...

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105: How to pass on mental wealth to your child from 2020-02-09T21:00

Think about your parents. Now think about money. What kinds of ideas, images, and feelings come to mind? Do you recall any discussions about money - or were these hidden from you? Was there alw...

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104: How to help a child to overcome anxiety from 2020-01-26T21:00

Listeners have been asking me for an episode on supporting anxious children for a loooooong time, but I was really struggling to find anyone who didn't take a behaviorist-based approach (where beha...

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103: How to raise a child who uses their uniqueness to create happiness from 2020-01-12T21:00

Dr. Rose defines a Dark Horse as someone who uses a variety of unusual strategies like understanding their 'micromotives' and not worrying about their overa...

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[Taking a Break] from 2019-11-10T21:00

I’m taking a hiatus from the show; in this episode I explain why and what you can do to help make sure it comes back strong in 2020!

Here’s the form to complete if you’re interested in lea...

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102: From confusion and conflict to confident parenting from 2019-10-28T06:00

Do you ever feel ‘lost’ in your parenting?  Like you’ve read all the books (and even listened to the podcast episodes!) and you’ve agreed with them in principle, but somehow nothing ever seems to c...

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101: What happens after divorce – and how it impacts children from 2019-10-13T21:00

This is the third episode in our series on parental relationships – and the lack thereof…...

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100! from 2019-09-30T16:57

I can hardly believe we made it to this point: the 100th episode of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast! 

Join me for a special celebration of the show, featuring questions (from you!) an...

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099: How to parent highly sensitive children from 2019-09-15T22:45

Is your child Highly Sensitive?  Does it sometimes feel as though you don’t understand them, and struggle to support them in the ways it seems they need to be supported?  Or does your child experie...

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098: Do school shooter trainings help (or hurt) children? from 2019-09-01T21:00

A few months ago a listener in my own home town reached out because a potentially incendiary device had been found on the elementary school property, and many parents were demanding disaster drill ...

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097: How to support gender-creative children from 2019-08-18T21:00

Recently a listener posted a question in the Your Parenting Mojo Facebook group asking about research related to children who are ass...

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096: How to prevent sexual abuse from 2019-08-06T04:37

This is another of those topics I really wish I didn’t have to do. In this interview with Dr. Jennie Noll of Pennsylvania State University, we discuss the impacts that sexual abuse can have on a ch...

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095: Ask the American Academy of Pediatrics! from 2019-07-21T21:00

A couple of months ago, when I was interviewing listener Rose Hoberman for her Sharing Your Parenting Mojo episode, she casually mentioned ...

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SYPM 004: Conflicting cultures! with Dovilė Šafranauskė from 2019-07-14T21:00

My guest on today’s episode in the Sharing Your Parenting Mojo series is Dovilė Šafranauskė, who joins us from Lithuania. Dovilė has discovered Listen

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094: Using nonviolent communication to parent more peacefully from 2019-07-07T00:01

Today’s episode pulls together a lot of threads from previous shows, and will also give you some really concrete new tools using what’s called Nonviolent Communication to support you in your parent...

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SYPM 003: Responding Mindfully with Seanna Mallon from 2019-07-01T20:10

Today we talk with listener Seanna Mallon about her struggles to be mindful when responding to her two spirited young sons (and I can confirm from direct experience that they are indeed spirited – ...

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093: Parenting children of non-dominant cultures from 2019-06-23T21:00

This episode is part of a series on understanding the intersection of race, privilege, and parenting.  Click here to view all the items in this...

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092: Fathers’ unique role in parenting from 2019-06-09T21:00

This episode began out of a query that I see repeated endlessly in online parenting groups: “My child has a really strong preference for me.  They get on great with the other parent (usually the fa...

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091: Do I have privilege? from 2019-05-26T21:00

This episode is part of a series on understanding the intersection of race, privilege, and parenting.  Click here to view all the items in this...

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090: Sensory processing disorder from 2019-05-12T18:00

This episode comes to us courtesy of my friend Jess, whose daughter has Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) and who is on a mission to make sure that as many parents as possible learn about it. She s...

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SYPM002: Sugar! with Rose Amanda from 2019-05-05T21:00

In this second episode of Sharing Your Parenting Mojo we talk with Rose, who is American but lives in Germany, about discussing math with girls – as well as with managing her daughter’s sugar intak...

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089: Teaching children about issues related to race from 2019-04-29T04:28

This episode is part of a series on understanding the intersection of race, privilege, and parenting.  Click here to view all the items in this...

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SYPM 001: Mindfulness with Jess Barnes from 2019-04-21T21:00

Welcome to the first episode in a new series that I’m calling Sharing Your Parenting Mojo, where I interview listeners about what they’ve learned from the show as well as the parenting challenges t...

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088: Setting loving – and effective! – limits from 2019-04-14T21:00

The way we set limits has such profound implications for our parenting: it’s the difference between parenting in a constant state of anxiety, and being truly calm and confident that you’re making t...

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087: Talking with children about race, with Dr. Beverly Daniel Tatum from 2019-03-31T21:00

This episode is part of a series on understanding the intersection of race, privilege, and parenting.  Click here to view all the items in this...

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086: Playing to Win: How does playing sports impact children? from 2019-03-17T21:00

Individual sports or competitive?  Recreational or organized?  Everyone gets a trophy or just the winners? And why do sports in the first place?  Granted there are some physical benefits, but don’...

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085: White privilege in schools from 2019-03-03T21:00

This episode is part of a series on understanding the intersection of race, privilege, and parenting.  Click here to view all the items in this...

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084: The Science of RIE from 2019-02-17T21:00

“Is RIE backed by scientific research?” It’s a question that comes up every once in a while among parents who use the Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE) approach to raising their children, and t...

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083: White privilege in parenting: What it is&what to do about it from 2019-02-03T21:00

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082: Regulating emotions: What, When,&How from 2019-01-21T05:15

We’ve already covered emotion regulation a few times on the show: there were these older short episodes on Three Reasons Not to Say “You’re OK!”...

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081: How can I decide which daycare/preschool is right for my child? from 2019-01-07T01:58

I regularly receive questions from listeners asking me whether they should put their child in daycare or preschool and my response has typically been that there isn’t a lot of research on the benef...

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080: Self-Reg: Can it help our children? from 2018-12-23T21:00

Emotion regulation: It’s one of the biggest challenges of childhood (and parenthood!).  We all want our children to be able to do it, but they struggle with it so much, and this is the root of many...

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079: What is RIE? from 2018-12-09T21:00

What is – WHAT? Resources for Infant Educarers, or RIE (pronounced like Rye bread) is the parenting approach that we use with our daughter Carys which is grounded in respect for the child.  I’ve w...

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078: You have parenting goals; do you know what they are? from 2018-11-26T00:04:03

We all have goals for our children, even if these are things that we’ve never formally articulated and are ideas we’ve inherited from half-remembered bits of parenting books and blogs (...

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077: Are forest schools any better for children than regular schools? from 2018-11-11T21:00:52

If you’ve been following the show for a while now, you’ll know that my daughter and I LOVE to spend time outside.  I looked at the research on the https://yourparentingmojo.com/outdoor/...

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076: How to rock your parent-teacher conference from 2018-10-28T22:37:32

Parent-Teacher conferences are about to be underway in many places, so I thought it might be helpful to give you some resources to make these as productive for you and your child as possible.In thi...

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075: Should we Go Ahead and Heap Rewards On Our Kid? from 2018-10-14T21:00

A couple of months ago, an article by journalist Melinda Wenner Moyer – whose work I normally greatly respect – started making the rounds on Facebook. Then (knowing my approach to parenting) a...

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074: Attachment: What it is, what it’s not, how to do it, and how to stop stressing about it from 2018-09-30T22:18:50

Is attachment the same as bonding?  Can I have a healthy attachment with my baby if I don’t breastfeed? Do I have to babywear to develop an attachment to my baby?Will being apart from my ba...

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073: What to do when your child refuses to go to school from 2018-09-16T21:00:58

We’re a couple of weeks into the new school year by now and I hope that for most of you the morning drop-offs have gotten a bit easier than they were in the beginning. But some of you may st...

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072: Is the 30 Million Word Gap Real: Part II from 2018-09-03T00:23:57

This episode revisits the concept of the 30 Million Word Gap concept, https://yourparentingmojo.com/wordgap/ (which we first covered in an interview with Dr. Doug Sperry) a few weeks back. After s...

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071: How your child can benefit from intergenerational relationships from 2018-08-19T16:00:17

We recently did an episode on https://yourparentingmojo.com/intergenerationaltrauma/ (the impact of intergenerational trauma), which was about how the ways we were parented, and even the ways our p...

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070: Why isn’t my child grateful? from 2018-08-06T02:44:25

“I spent the whole morning painting and doing origami and felting projects with my daughter– and not only did she not say“thank you,” but she refused to help clean up!”...

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069: Reducing the impact of intergenerational trauma from 2018-07-22T21:00

Ever get red-hot angry at your child for no reason, or out of proportion to the incident that provoked it?  Have you wondered why this happens? The way we were parented has a profound impact on us...

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068: Do I HAVE to pretend play with my child? from 2018-07-08T21:00:35

Pretty regularly I see posts in online parenting groups saying“My child loves to pretend, and they always want me to participate.  I dare not tell anyone else, but I CAN’T STAND PRETEND...

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067: Does the Marshmallow Test tell us anything useful? from 2018-06-25T01:41:38

The Marshmallow Test is one of the most famous experiments in Psychology: Dr. Walter Mischel and his colleagues presented a preschooler with a marshmallow.  The child was told that the researcher h...

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066: Is the 30 Million Word Gap real? from 2018-06-10T23:58:16

You all know that on the show we pretty much steer clear of the clickbait articles that try to convince you that something is wrong with your child, in favor of getting a balanced view of the overa...

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065: Why storytelling is so important for our children from 2018-06-03T21:00

“Storytelling? I’m already reading books to my child – isn’t that enough?” Your child DOES get a lot out of reading books (which is why we’ve done a several episodes on that already, including htt...

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064: Compassion (and how to help your child develop it) from 2018-05-20T22:48:08

“Social and Emotional Learning” is all the rage in school these days, along with claims that it can help children to manage their emotions, make responsible decisions, as well as improv...

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063: How family storytelling can help you to develop closer relationships and overcome struggles from 2018-05-07T03:55

“How much can there really be to learn about storytelling?” I thought when I started on this mini-series. It turns out that there’s actually quite a lot to learn, and that family storytelling can ...

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062: Why we need to let our kids need to take more risks from 2018-04-22T21:00:02

We should protect our children from risks, right?  Isn’t that our job as parents? This episode comes mid-way in an extended series on the importance of play for children.  The https://yourpa...

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061: Can Growth Mindset live up to the hype? from 2018-04-09T16:11:42

Growth mindset is everywhere these days.  Dr. Carol Dweck’s research showing that a growth mindset can help children to overcome academic struggles is being incorporated to curriculum plannin...

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060: What do children learn from reading books? from 2018-03-25T03:03:11

We’ve done a couple of episodes on reading by now; episode 3 (which seems so long ago!) asked https://yourparentingmojo.com/003-your-toddler-isnt-reading-yet-neither-is-mine/ (whether you might hav...

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059: How to Raise a Wild Child from 2018-03-11T21:00:21

So you listened to episode 58 and you’re convinced of the https://yourparentingmojo.com/outdoor/ (benefits of outdoor play). But you’re a grown-up. You don’t play outdoors. And yo...

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058: What are the benefits of outdoor play? from 2018-02-25T21:00:14

This is the second in our extended series of episodes on children’s play.  We kicked off last week with a look at the https://yourparentingmojo.com/play/ (benefits of play) in general for chi...

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057: What is the value of play? from 2018-02-11T21:00:38

Does play really matter? Do children get anything out of it? Or is it just messing around; time that could be better spent preparing our children for success in life? Today we talk with Dr. Stuart...

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056: Beyond “You’re OK!”: Modeling Emotion Regulation from 2018-01-28T22:26

I hear a huge crash. It’s my favorite glass vase.  I hear “I didn’t mean to hurt it, Mommy!  It just fell!” as I run full-pelt from the other end of the house.It was a family heirloom passed down ...

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055: Raising Your Spirited Child from 2018-01-12T21:00:08

Is your child‘spirited’?  Even if they aren’t spirited all the time, do they have spirited moments?  You know exactly what to do in those moments, right? No?Well then we have a t...

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054: Three reasons not to say"You’re OK!" from 2017-12-31T21:00:50

“I hear parents on the playground all the time saying “You’re OK!” after their child falls over. Often it does make the child stop crying…but doesn’t it invalidate the child’s feelings?” It turns ...

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053: Sleep! (And how to get more of it) from 2017-12-17T21:00:26

“HOW DO I GET MY CHILD TO SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT?!” is the thinly-veiled message under the surface of many of the emails that I get about sleep.  And I don’t blame you.  I don...

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052: Grit: The unique factor in your child’s success? from 2017-12-03T21:00:45

In Professor Angela Duckworth’s https://www.ted.com/talks/angela_lee_duckworth_grit_the_power_of_passion_and_perseverance (TED talk), she says of her research: “One characteristic emerged as ...

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051: How to handle social exclusion from 2017-11-19T22:00:26

“I don’t want to play with you.”“You’re not my friend.”“We’re playing families.  If you want to play, you have to be the dog.” Seems like ever...

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050: How to raise emotionally healthy boys from 2017-11-05T22:19:36

“Be a man.” “Boys don’t cry.” “Don’t be a sissy.” Boys hear these things all the time– from parents, from teachers, from friends and peers.  W...

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049: How to raise a girl with a healthy body image from 2017-10-22T21:00:19

Folks, this one is personal for me.  As someone with an ~ahem~ family history of disordered thinking about body image, it is very, very high on my priority list to get this right with my daughter. ...

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048: How to read with your child from 2017-10-09T04:29

Waaaay back in https://yourparentingmojo.com/003-your-toddler-isnt-reading-yet-neither-is-mine/ (Episode 3), we wondered whether we had missed the boat on teaching our babies to read (didn’t you te...

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047: How to raise a bilingual child from 2017-09-10T03:42

Do you have to start teaching a second language from birth?  Does it help to get a nanny who speaks a second language?  Is there any way your child will retain the language you speak even though yo...

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046: How to potty train a child from 2017-08-27T21:00:41

When should I start potty training?  What books should I read?  Can I do it in a day (or a week)?  Do I need stickers (for rewards)?  Does it have to be stressful? I get these kinds of questions p...

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045: How parenting affects child development from 2017-08-13T21:00:28

Isn’t it kind of a“well, duh?” that parenting affects child development?  But do we know how?  We know it’s not good to have really big fights in front of the kids, but do s...

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044: How to introduce your child to music (even if you can’t play or sing) from 2017-07-30T23:33:06

I can’t play any instruments (unless the recorder counts?).  I certainly can’t sing.  But my daughter really enjoys music, and there are a whole host of studies showing how playing musi...

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043: How to talk with children about death from 2017-07-16T21:00:43

The topic of today’s episode comes courtesy of my good friend Sarah, who fortunately hasn’t yet had any reason to use this knowledge, but asked me to do an episode on how to help children cope with...

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042: How to teach a child to use manners from 2017-07-02T21:00:03

I actually hadn’t realized what a can of worms I was opening when I started the research for today’s episode, which is on the topic of manners and politeness. It began innocently enough – as an Eng...

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041: Siblings: Why do they fight, and what can we do about it? from 2017-06-18T21:00:17

Hot on the heels of our last episode on https://yourparentingmojo.com/only/ (whether only children really are as bad as their reputation), this week’s episode is for the 80% of families (in t...

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040: Only children: Are they as bad as advertised? from 2017-06-04T21:00:53

Today’s episode comes to us as a result of a listener named Sylvia who wrote to me saying she and her partner don’t want another child but are worried about the potential impact on thei...

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039: What to do when your toddler says"No, I don’t wanna…!" from 2017-05-21T21:00:58

It’s no secret that I do some episodes of the podcast altruistically for you, dear listeners, because I’m not facing the situation that I’m studying – or at least not yet. (Eyebrows were raised in ...

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038: The Opposite of Spoiled from 2017-05-15T21:00

We’re concluding our mini-mini series today on chores – and on paying children to do chores, which leads us to larger conversations about money. If you missed the first part of this then then you m...

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037: Generation Me from 2017-05-07T21:00:31

This episode is on a topic that I find fascinating – the cultural issues that underlie our parenting. I actually think this issue is so important that I covered it in episode 1 of the podcast, whic...

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036: The impact of divorce on a child’s development (Part 1) from 2017-04-30T15:00:21

This is the second of a short series of episodes on issues related to divorce.  The first was our“All Joy and No Fun” episode, where we talked about how parenting today can be the most ...

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035: Parenting: All joy and no fun? from 2017-04-23T21:00:10

Today’s episode is about a book I read way before I started the podcast, called http://amzn.to/2FPKaCC (All Joy and No Fun) (Affiliate link) by Jennifer Senior. I actually got a question from...

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034: How do I get my child to do chores? from 2017-04-16T18:00:53

We have a pretty cool mini-mini-series launching today. I’ve been seeing a lot of those “chores your child could be doing” articles showing up in my social media feeds lately, and I was thinking ab...

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033: Does your child ever throw tantrums? (Part 2) from 2017-04-08T15:00

Well this took a bit longer than I’d planned…  WAY BACK in episode 11 I did Part 1 of a two-part series on tantrums, and was expecting to release the second episode in short order.  Then I got inun...

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032: Free to learn from 2017-04-01T22:59:55

Professor Peter Gray was primarily interested in the motivations and emotions of animals before his son Scott started struggling in school, at which point Professor Gray’s interests shifted to deve...

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031: Parenting beyond pink and blue from 2017-03-26T21:00:10

Today I join forces with Malaika Dower of the http://www.htgawp.com (How to Get Away with Parenting) podcast to interview Dr. Christia Brown, who is a Professor of Developmental and Social Psycholo...

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030: On Education (And on Betsy DeVos) from 2017-03-19T23:57

I’ve thought about doing this episode for a while but I sat on it for a few weeks because it’s still in motion.  But now Betsy DeVos is confirmed as Secretary of Education I wanted to o...

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029: Why we shouldn’t ban war play from 2017-03-12T23:23:45

This episode comes to us by way of a suggestion from my friend Jess, who told me she had joined an outing with some children in her three-year-old son’s preschool class. She said some of the slight...

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028: How do children form social groups? from 2017-03-06T00:06

This episode is part of a series on understanding the intersection of race, privilege, and parenting.  https://yourparentingmojo.com/race/ (Click here to view all the items in this series...

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027: Is a Reggio Emilia-inspired preschool right for my child? from 2017-02-27T02:03:39

This episode is the final in our mini-series that I hope will help you to think through the options you might have for your child’s preschool. In previous episodes we looked at Waldorf and M...

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026: Is my child lying to me? (Hint: Yes!) from 2017-02-20T06:06:14

Your kids don’t lie, right?  And if they did, you’d be able to tell, right? News flash: they do.  And you probably can’t. Dr. Kang Lee– who is one of the world’s exp...

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025: Is a Waldorf preschool right for my child? from 2017-02-13T06:04:04

This episode is the second in our mini-series on making decisions about preschools, which I know is on the minds of a lot of parents of young children at this time of year.  Today we speak with Bev...

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024: How (and when) does my child understand fairness? from 2017-02-05T22:00:32

https://yourparentingmojo.com/ep-002-why-doesnt-my-toddler-share/ (We talked a while ago about sharing), and how you can understand the developmental processes that your child needs to go through b...

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023: Is a Montessori preschool right for my child? from 2017-01-29T22:00:56

It’s that time of year: daycare and preschool tours start ramping up and parents have to try to figure out which is the right option for their child.  And many parents are overwhelmed by the ...

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022: How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: Author Interview! from 2017-01-19T23:59:41

Have you read the now-classic book How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk?  Ever wished there was a version that would help you with younger children who perhaps aren’t ...

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021: Talk Sex Today! from 2017-01-15T15:00

I was scrolling down my Facebook feed recently when I saw a post in a parenting group saying “My two year-old daughter seems to have a “special relationship” with her rocking horse.  Is she masturb...

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020: How do I get my child to do what I want them to do? from 2017-01-08T21:00:10

Parenting is tough, huh?  Sometimes it feels like we spend a lot of our time asking our daughter to do things…and asking again…and finding a more creative way to ask.  We’re going...

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019: Raising your Child in a Digital World: Interview with Dr. Kristy Goodwin from 2017-01-01T15:00

  Did your child receive a digital device as a gift over the holidays? Have you been able to prise it out of his/her hands yet? Regular listeners might recall that we did an episode recen...

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018: The Spiritual Child: Possibly exaggerated, conclusions uncertain from 2016-12-26T00:59

  Someone in a parenting group on Facebook suggested I do an episode on The Spiritual Child, by Dr. Lisa Miller.  My first thought was that it didn’t really sound like my cup of tea but...

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017: Don’t bother trying to increase your child’s self-esteem from 2016-12-19T00:06:50

  Self-EsteemWhen I first started researching this episode I thought it would be a bit of a slam-dunk.  Self-esteem is a good thing, right? I was really surprised to find that there’s little...

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016: Listening, Growth, and Lifelong Resilience from 2016-12-11T22:00

Have you ever wondered why your child acts up?  Is it because they really want to annoy you or because they’re trying to tell you something? In this conversation Dr. Claudia Gold helps us to unde...

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015: How to support your introverted child from 2016-12-04T21:00:22

Do you think your child may be introverted?  Or are you not sure how to tell?  Around one in three people are introverted so if you have two or three children, chances are one of them is introverte...

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014: Understanding the AAP’s new screen time guidelines from 2016-11-28T04:25

The American Academy of Pediatrics just updated its screen time recommendations – and, for the first time, we can actually see and understand the research on which the recommendations are based.&nb...

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013: Vanessa Merten of the Pregnancy Podcast from 2016-11-20T21:00:34

Are you pregnant?  Thinking about getting pregnant?  Do you love Your Parenting Mojo and wish there was a show that could help you to understand how scientific research can help you make decisions ...

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012: It’s not about the broccoli: Dr. Dina Rose from 2016-11-14T00:35:29

  Does your child eat any food under the sun…as long as it’s cheese?  Do you find yourself worrying that you’ll never get all the nutrients into her that she needs?  Dr. Din...

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011: Does your child ever throw tantrums? (Part 1) from 2016-11-06T21:00

  So, does your child ever throw tantrums?  Yes?  Well, the good news is that you’re not alone.  And this isn’t something us Western parents have brought upon ourselves with our strange paren...

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010: Becoming Brilliant – Interview with Prof. Roberta Golinkoff from 2016-10-31T17:36:06

In just a few years, today’s children and teens will forge careers that look nothing like those that were available to their parents or grandparents. While the U.S. economy becomes ever more inform...

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009: Do you punish your child with rewards? from 2016-10-24T04:40:29

I’ve never said the words “good job” to my toddler. I was lucky – I stumbled on Alfie Kohn’s book http://amzn.to/2FfaULP (Punished by Rewards) early enough that I was able to break the habit before...

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008: The impact of stress and violence on children from 2016-10-17T03:00:50

  I’m afraid this is an episode I wish I didn’t have to record.When I launched the podcast I asked anyone who has a question about parenting or child development that I might be able to answe...

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007: Help! My toddler won’t eat vegetables from 2016-10-10T03:00:57

  (Believe it or not, this is Carys’“I freaking love homemade spinach ravioli with broccoli” face!)  I was sitting in a restaurant recently with half an eye on a toddl...

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006: Wait, is my toddler racist? from 2016-10-03T03:00

This episode is part of a series on understanding the intersection of race, privilege, and parenting.  https://yourparentingmojo.com/race/ (Click here to view all the items in this series...

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005: How to"scaffold"children’s learning to help them succeed from 2016-09-26T03:00:14

When I started talking with people about the idea for this podcast, one theme that came up consistently was the idea of supporting our children’s growth and development. A friend of mine summed it ...

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004: How to encourage creativity and artistic ability in young children – Interview with Dr. Tara Callaghan from 2016-09-18T21:30:53

I’m so excited to welcome my first guest on the Your Parenting Mojo podcast: Professor Tara Callaghan of St. Francis Xavier University in Nova Scotia.   Professor Callaghan has spent a great ...

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003: Did you miss the boat on teaching your toddler how to read? (Me too!) from 2016-09-12T03:00:10

So did you teach your toddler to read yet? And if not, why not? I’m just kidding, of course.I wanted to write this episode on encouraging literacy in middle to older toddlers, but the more I resea...

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002: Why doesn’t my toddler share? from 2016-08-18T18:11:23

Imagine this: you’re with your toddler son or daughter at a playground on a Saturday afternoon so there are a lot of people around.  You’re sitting on a bench while your child plays in the sandpit ...

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001: The influence of culture on parenting from 2016-08-18T17:14:24

Have you ever thought about how common the murder of children has been in societies we now call “Western” in the past, as well as societies all over the world today? In my naivete as a parent I fi...

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000: Philosophy (aka"What’s this Podcast All About?") from 2016-08-15T04:43:05

I always thought the infant phase would be the hardest part of parenting, when all the baby does is eat and sleep and cry.  Now I have a toddler I’m finding it’s harder than having a ba...

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