Podcasts by Zen Parenting Radio
Zen Parenting is a weekly podcast discussion between a spiritual and emotional mom (Cathy Cassani Adams) and a logical and practical dad (Todd Adams). Every episode is a reminder to wake up to our lives; to be ever more mindful, self-aware, and compassionate in how we parent and how we treat ourselves and others.
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Should I Let My Kid Fail? A Conversation with Michelle Icard- Episode 740 from 2023-12-12T11:00:21
Todd and Cathy talk with Michelle Icard, the author of'14 Talks by Age 14'and her new book,'8 Setbacks that Can Make a Child a Success.'They discuss why we try to manage everyone's emotions, the ch...
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Gender Norms- Truth or Fiction?- Episode #739 from 2023-12-05T10:30:48
Todd and Cathy discuss gender norms and explore ways to validate, acknowledge, and challenge them. They also dive into the comedy of Nate Bargatze, highlighting its observational nature that prompt...
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Support Systems for our Kids- Episode #738 from 2023-11-28T11:00:27
Cathy and Todd discuss how to create strong support systems for our kids, allowing them to have new and unique experiences and build relationships that contribute to their self-understanding. Teach...
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Developing a Grateful Mindset- Episode #737 from 2023-11-21T11:00:56
Todd and Cathy dive deep into some quotes about gratitude and explore how to incorporate gratitude into our everyday and ordinary lives. They also answer some listener’s questions and play clips fr...
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Fentanyl- What You Need to Know- A Conversation with Patrice Lenowitz -Episode #736 from 2023-11-14T11:00:53
Cathy and Todd talk with Patrice Lenowitz, Executive Director of The Nurtured Parent, domestic abuse survivor, victims’ rights advocate, activist, and mother of Max, who tragically died of fentanyl...
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Raising Non-Entitled Children-Episode #735 from 2023-11-07T11:00:20
Cathy and Todd discuss entitlement and how to better relate and understand our kids. They talk about the importance of intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation, why it takes kids time to change their beha...
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The One About Anxiety and FRIENDS-Episode #734 from 2023-10-31T10:00:38
Cathy and Todd discuss the loss of Matthew Perry and the significance of Chandler and the TV show"FRIENDS"for our generation. They also share strategies for addressing anxiety with children, focusi...
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Listen Listen Learn Learn-Episode #733 from 2023-10-24T10:00:38
Todd and Cathy discuss empathic listening and how to respond with curiosity and non-judgment when our kids ask difficult questions. Whether it pertains to conflicts abroad or everyday challenges, t...
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Our Favorite Quotes&Mantras- Podcast #732 from 2023-10-17T10:00:35
Cathy and Todd exchange quotes and mantras that remind them to stay in the moment, alleviate their anxiety, and prompt them to center their thoughts on gratitude. They discuss how they use these ph...
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Love Every Day- A Conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #731 from 2023-10-10T10:00:32
In this episode of Zen Parenting Radio, Todd and Cathy have a thoughtful conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a relationship expert and clinical psychologist. They discuss Dr. Solomon's upcomin...
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Revisiting The 7 Habits- Podcast #730 from 2023-10-03T10:00:30
Cathy and Todd revisit Stephen Covey's “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” (1989) and discuss how each habit can help us improve our relationships with ourselves and our loved ones. They also...
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Never Enough- A Conversation About Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace- Podcast #729 from 2023-09-26T10:00:05
Cathy and Todd talk with Jennifer Wallace about her New York Times Bestseller Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – and What We Can Do About It. They discuss the definition of happ...
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ADHD By Gender- Podcast #728 from 2023-09-19T10:00:15
Cathy and Todd discuss the differences between ADHD in men and women and the reasons why so many adult women are getting diagnosed today. They do a follow up about highly sensitive people (HSP), di...
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Growing Up in Public-A Conversation with Dr. Devorah Heitner #727 from 2023-09-12T10:00:18
Todd and Cathy talk with Dr. Devorah Heitner, the author of"Screenwise"and her NEW book"Growing Up in Public."They discuss the downsides and benefits of tracking your kids, whether it's a good idea...
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Tantrums&Perfectionism- Podcast #726 from 2023-09-05T10:00:06
Todd and Cathy discuss the three different types of perfectionism and why trying to perfect actually backfires and leads to fragility. They discuss why our culture has overvalued the idea of being ...
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Highly Sensitive People- Podcast #725 from 2023-08-29T10:00:40
Cathy and Todd discuss the concept of being a highly sensitive person, and they explore how it feels to be a highly sensitive kid. They also address"ASK US ANYTHING"questions from listeners, offeri...
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6 Steps to Reduce Anxiety Podcast #724 from 2023-08-22T10:00:04
Cathy and Todd discuss Jack Kornfield’s advice for reducing anxiety, and how fear, history, and programming can make it more difficult. They process why back-to-school is particularly challenging f...
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Difficult Conversations between Women&Men #723 from 2023-08-15T10:00:55
Todd and Cathy welcome Shaun Emerson and Chris Lozier, hosts of the If You’ve Come This Far podcast. They discuss why it can be difficult to discuss men and women’s issues without getting defensive...
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What is Barbie Really About?- Podcast #722 from 2023-08-08T10:00:40
Cathy and Todd discuss the many layers of Barbie and why it has become such a phenomenon and lightning rod when it comes to discussing gender differences. They share candidly about seeing each othe...
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Raising Good Humans Every Day- A Conversation with Hunter Clarke-Fields- Podcast #721 from 2023-08-01T10:00:42
Todd&Cathy talk with Hunter Clarke-Fields, Author of Raising Good Humans Every Day- 50 Simple Ways to Press Pause, Stay Present, and Connect with Your Kids. They discuss Beginning Anew, find a thr...
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Shifting Life Patterns- Podcast #720 from 2023-07-25T10:00:50
Cathy&Todd discuss how our early experiences dictate our life patterns, and how we can recognize these patterns and decide what helps and what hurts. It's all about honoring the memories and tradit...
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The Champion Teammate- A Conversation with John O’Sullivan- Podcast #719 from 2023-07-18T10:00:07
Todd&Cathy talk with John O’Sullivan, Founder of the Changing the Game Project and host of the Way of Champions Podcast about his new book, The Champion Teammate: Timeless Lessons to Connect, Compe...
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Love is Not Control- Podcast #718 from 2023-07-11T10:00:12
Todd and Cathy discuss how co-opted therapy speak can make “love” more like control. They specifically discuss Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend sharing texts where he says he is enforcing his “boundaries...
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Better, Not Perfect- Podcast #717 from 2023-07-04T10:00:54
Todd and Cathy discuss the difficult, but also transformational quality of change and how it teaches us to grow and trust life’s patterns. They answer a listener question about how to view their da...
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The Outcome is Not the Outcome- Podcast #716 from 2023-06-27T10:30:29
Cathy and Todd discuss how to experience parenting challenges as part of the story rather than the entire story. They discuss how to zoom out and see the big picture, but also how to zoom in and ex...
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Nurturing our Kids Spiritual Growth&Self-Understanding- Podcast #715 from 2023-06-20T10:00:37
Todd and Cathy discuss how we can talk to our kids about spirituality and self-trust, and why role modeling and patience can be the most effective tools. They discuss how to deal with anger, how to...
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Field of Dreams- Podcast#714 from 2023-06-13T10:00:27
Todd and Cathy Adams explore the themes of wonder, father-son relationships, vulnerability in parenting, and the enduring appeal of baseball in their heartfelt analysis of the movie"Field of Dreams...
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Ask Us Anything- Podcast#713 from 2023-06-06T10:00:44
Cathy&Todd answer listener questions (about the practice of self-awareness, highly sensitive kids, and how to talk to our kids about every important thing before they graduate…) and they also discu...
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What Succession Teaches Us About Family Systems- Podcast#712 from 2023-05-30T10:00:08
Cathy and Todd discuss how codependency, enmeshment, narcissism, and lack of boundaries are weaved into Succession and the Logan family, and how we can be more self-aware about what we are role mod...
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Do Your Kids Understand You?–Podcast #711 from 2023-05-23T10:00:01
Cathy and Todd discuss how it’s not our kids’ job to support us, but we can encourage them to understand us. They also discuss the importance of self-compassion when parenting, why our boys need mo...
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Part 2- Porn, Consent, and Sexual Assault- A Conversation with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Center for Respect–Podcast #710 from 2023-05-16T11:55:28
In the Part 2 of our conversation with Mike Domitrz, Founder of the Center for Respect, returns to discuss how to talk to our kids about porn, consent, and sexual assault. He shares how to simplify...
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Part 1-Porn, Consent, and Sexual Assault- A Conversation with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Center for Respect-Podcast #709 from 2023-05-09T10:00:58
Mike Domitrz, Founder of the Center for Respect, returns to discuss how to talk to our kids about porn, consent, and sexual assault. He shares how to simplify difficult topics and how to offer our ...
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How to Talk to Your Kids About Swearing- Podcast #708 from 2023-05-02T09:30:14
Cathy&Todd discuss swearing, its origins, and how to talk to your kids about its usage. They also discuss when and how to offer a heartfelt apology, and how to relate and understand other people’s ...
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The Movies that Matter- Podcast #707 from 2023-04-25T09:00:54
Cathy and Todd discuss the movies that matter most to them, and how they relate to self-awareness, integrity, and even parenting. They discuss how we can use pop culture to communicate and get to k...
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How to Raise Leaders- Podcast #706 from 2023-04-18T10:00:37
Todd&Cathy discuss evidence-based ways to be an effective leader and how to teach and demonstrate leadership to your children. They discuss the importance of early and ongoing social emotional lear...
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What’s Your Parenting Style?- Podcast #705 from 2023-04-11T10:00:52
Cathy and Todd discuss the research behind parenting styles and how it affects our communication and even our politics. They also discuss the “Tennessee Three” and how it relates to the difference ...
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The Addiction Inoculation&SEL with Author Jessica Lahey- Podcast #704 from 2023-04-04T09:30:54
Cathy&Todd talk with author and educator Jessica Lahey about her book The Addiction Inoculation and the importance of Social Emotional Learning (SEL) when it comes to substance-use disorders, self-...
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What To Do When Life Is Messy- Podcast #703 from 2023-03-28T10:00:28
Cathy and Todd answer listeners question about what to do when life gets messy, unpredictable, and uncertain. They discuss movies to bring the family together, how to support our children who are d...
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Birth, Death,&Hygge- A Conversation with Michelle and Lauren from The Sister Project- Podcast #702 from 2023-03-21T09:00:35
Todd&Cathy talk with Michelle Anderson and Lauren Massarella from The Sister Project. They discuss the hygge lifestyle (a Danish word that loosely translates as cozy, comfy, and overall wellness), ...
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What Is Zen Parenting? Part 2- Podcast #701 from 2023-03-14T09:00:10
Cathy&Todd discuss 4 invitations to being a positive parent. They discuss 1) What do we want for our kids? 2) Relationship b/w EQ (Emotional intelligence) IQ (Intelligence Quotient)&BQ (Body Intel...
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What Is Zen Parenting? Part 1- Podcast #700 from 2023-03-07T10:00:07
Cathy&Todd celebrate their 700th episode by discussing the universal principles of Zen Parenting, the importance of civil conversation, and what has remained the same for the last 12 years. Part 1 ...
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Practicing Self-Compassion- Podcast #699 from 2023-02-27T23:00:28
Todd&Cathy discuss the different aspects of self-compassion and take the quiz to see who is more self-compassionate. They also talk about the movie Grease&Mr. Rogers.
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Who Does What? Podcast #698 from 2023-02-21T12:40:52
Todd&Cathy share how their roles have changed over the years and who does what around the house. They discuss the importance of communication around household expectations, and how roles are suppos...
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Dr. Shefali Tsabary&The Parenting Map- Podcast #697 from 2023-02-14T10:20:52
Dr. Shefali returns to ZPR to discuss her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship (available for preorder NOW, released on 2/...
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How to Role Model Emotional Wellness- Podcast #696 from 2023-02-07T10:30:04
Cathy&Todd discuss how our children learn by watching how we live and how we react, and why owning our emotional responses creates connection and opportunity for learning. They discuss the differen...
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How To Listen To Each Other- Podcast #695 from 2023-01-31T10:00:01
Cathy&Todd discuss how we handle trauma, why boys are falling behind in school, and why the emotional intelligence of fathers is essential for cultural change. They also share a personal example of...
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Teenage Boys- Creating Deeper Conversations- Podcast #694 from 2023-01-24T10:00:10
Todd&Cathy discuss ways to engage in deeper conversation with teenage boys, and how every suggestion is helpful to all relationships and conversations. They also discuss Prince Harry’s new book Spa...
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Adult Decision Making- Podcast #693 from 2023-01-17T09:00:05
Cathy and Todd discuss the passing of Cathy’s mom, Cathy’s recent diagnosis and surgery, and how they support each other in a crisis. They discuss their patterns of behavior, what they need from ea...
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Todd&Cathy’s Moms Set the Record Straight- Podcast #692 (Rebroadcast) from 2023-01-10T10:00:11
Instead of posting a new podcast, we are reposting one of our favorites, the one where we interview our moms. Unfortunately, Cathy's mom passed away yesterday, and we wanted to share this to honor ...
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Good, True,&Beautiful- Podcast #691 from 2023-01-03T09:00:04
Todd&Cathy share their experiences of what they find good, true and beautiful, and why finding and discussing these things makes life more meaningful. They talk about the joy of feeding the birds a...
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8 Peaceful Things in 2022- Podcast# 690 from 2022-12-27T09:00:22
Cathy&Todd discuss 8 peaceful things from 2022 and how to incorporate more peace and joy into 2023. They discuss the importance of music, why we need to embrace our creativity, and the TV shows the...
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Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer (1964) Podcast #689 from 2022-12-20T09:00:03
Todd and Cathy replay their Pop Culturing episode on Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer is a 1964 Christmas stop motion animated television special produced by Videoc...
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8 Ways To Make Your Holidays Super Terrific- Podcast #688 from 2022-12-13T10:00:26
Todd and Cathy offer 8 suggestions to make the holiday season more connective and less overwhelming. They discuss how to set boundaries, deal with grief, and find ways to limit social media and say...
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Increase Your Life Force- Podcast #687 from 2022-12-06T11:00:06
Todd and Cathy discuss their experience with the documentary Stutz by Jonah Hill and why developing life force energy is the first step toward any problem. They also discuss the importance of seein...
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10 Reasons We Get Triggered- Podcast #686 from 2022-11-29T11:00:23
Todd and Cathy discuss how and why our kids trigger us, and how to lessen our reactivity and reframe our experiences. They also discuss the importance of gratitude and why we should learn to ride t...
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Dealing with Uncertainty Podcast # 685 from 2022-11-22T10:00:57
Todd and Cathy discuss Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, specifically what it means to manage our “thorns” or inner pain that we react to our do our best to avoid. They discuss the paradoxical ...
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Raising Kids With Intrinsic Motivation- Podcast #684 from 2022-11-15T10:00:46
Cathy and Todd discuss how to help our kids discover intrinsic motivation (internally motivated because it feels good and right) instead of extrinsic motivation (external rewards such as grades, pr...
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Five Essential Parenting Practices- Podcast #683 from 2022-11-08T10:00:36
Todd and Cathy do a deep dive into the five essential parenting practices that Cathy shared in her Zen Parenting Moment Newsletter last Friday. They share how these practices create connection and ...
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Values AND Safety- Podcast #682 from 2022-11-01T09:00:42
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of teaching both values AND safety, and why they work together to create an optimal environment for you kids. They also discuss the top 15 best parenting role ...
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It’s me, HI, I’m the problem it’s me- Podcast #681 from 2022-10-25T09:00:23
Cathy and Todd discuss taking responsibility without blaming ourselves for everything that happens. They discuss how certain self-help books, groups, and cults have the power to convince people tha...
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Codependency- Podcast #680 from 2022-10-18T09:00:31
Cathy and Todd discuss codependency, enmeshment, overidentification, and other issues that can be layered and difficult to define. They share the importance of learning to say no, why boundaries ar...
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Reimagining Love: Dr. Alexandra Solomon Interviews Cathy&Todd–Podcast #679 from 2022-10-11T09:00:54
Todd and Cathy are interviewed by their friend Dr. Alexandra Solomon. She ask them about how they met, their history, and the trials and tribulations of their couple hood.
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Bids For Connection- Podcast #678 from 2022-10-04T09:00:23
Todd and Cathy discuss John&Julie Gottman’s research around “bids for connection”, specifically how couples who acknowledge each other’s bids 86% of the time stay married and connected. They also d...
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Genuine Gratitude- Podcast #667 from 2022-09-27T08:00:48
Todd and Cathy discuss the practice of gratitude (specifically how to notice, savor, and express) and how it helps the brain pay attention to what’s working. They discuss the four noble truths, app...
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Anxiety- Relieving or Healing? Podcast #676 from 2022-09-20T12:25:45
Cathy and Todd discuss the wisdom of anxiety and why it’s a messaging system that reminds us to stay curious about ourselves and our loved ones. They process the difference between relieving and nu...
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A Little Bit Culty–A Conversation with The Vow’s Sarah Edmondson and Anthony “Nippy” Ames–Podcast #675 from 2022-09-13T10:20:48
Cathy and Todd talk with Sarah Edmonson and Anthony “Nippy” Ames from A Little Bit Culty Podcast and HBO’s Documentary The Vow. They discuss how we can recognize cultish influence all around us - i...
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Calling Out, Calling In, Calling On- Podcast #674 from 2022-09-06T09:00:16
Todd and Cathy discuss Loretta Ross’ 2021 TED Talk titled Don’t Call People Out, Call Them In, about how the most effective activism begins with conversation, connection, and curiosity. They discus...
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Listen to this One with your Partner Volume 2- Podcast#673 from 2022-08-30T10:00:07
Cathy and Todd discuss several conversations that were prompted by the We Can Do Hard Things podcast titled “Why are there no pictures of us?!?!”. They share how they communicate through nuanced an...
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Back to School Transitions- Podcast # 672 from 2022-08-23T09:00:12
Todd and Cathy discuss the grief and joy of back to school, and why they are memorable moments in time. Todd helps Cathy process through why this time of year is especially hard, and they discuss a...
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Men- It’s Time to Feel- Podcast # 671 from 2022-08-16T09:00:14
Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s important for dads to practice feeling so their kids come to them with their pain and big emotions. They discuss why dads think moms are just “better” at feeling, an...
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Humans Are Fascinating- Podcast# 670 from 2022-08-09T09:00:41
Cathy and Todd discuss Adam Grant’s research around why humans are fascinating, especially when it comes to parenting and partnership. They also discuss why optimism is essential and the beer-drink...
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Practice Peace- Podcast #669 from 2022-08-02T09:00:37
Cathy and Todd discuss how to “practice” peace through embracing our anger and how gender can play a role in how we experience anger. They also discuss how they differ in their driving choices and ...
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Anxiety, Fear, and Worry with Dr Dan Peters- Podcast #668 from 2022-07-26T09:00:32
Todd and Cathy talked with Dr. Dan Peters, psychologist, author, and host of the Parent Footprint Podcast. They discussed the difference between anxiety, fear, and worry, how to identify “paper” ti...
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The Truth About Suffering- Podcast# 667 from 2022-07-19T09:00:24
Cathy and Todd discuss the truth about suffering (or life is suffering) which is #1 of The Four Noble Truths. They discuss how this truth is so easily misinterpreted and how it actually offers deep...
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Joy, Jeeps, and Jeff Bridges- Podcast#666 from 2022-07-13T19:40:33
Todd and Cathy discuss focusing on the little things to find joy, especially finding a sense of community and paying attention to nature. They discuss how to “do hard better”, how to take care of o...
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Humanity- Podcast #665 from 2022-07-05T10:00:19
Todd and Cathy discuss how to get in touch with our essential humanity to navigate difficult times. They talk about getting up again and again, specifically how to pay attention, make a difference,...
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Violins, Dancing, Outrage,&Love- Podcast #664 from 2022-06-28T09:00:11
Cathy and Todd discuss the impact of the overturn of Roe V Wade, finding joy through the sadness, and how we can show up during difficult times. We also mention this blog by Adam Grant titled How ...
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All Feelings Are Acceptable- Podcast #663 from 2022-06-21T09:00:27
Cathy&Todd discuss how paradoxical emotions are common and normal, and how we can accept rather than avoid our emotional experiences. They discuss why experiencing uncomfortable emotions are not a ...
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Stranger Things, Season 4 (Volume 1)- A Pop Culturing Podcast #662 from 2022-06-16T06:00:35
Todd&Cathy are joined by two of their daughters (Camryn, 17&Skylar, 14) to discuss Season 4, Volume 1 of Stranger Things. They discuss how the season was influenced by horror movies from the 80’s (...
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A Better Man with Actor/Author Michael Ian Black- Podcast #661 from 2022-06-14T06:00:04
Cathy and Todd talk with actor, comedian, and author Michael Ian Black (The State, Wet Hot American Summer, Inside Amy Schumer, The Baxter) about his book A Better Man: A (Mostly Serious) Letter t...
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Don’t Give Up- Podcast #660 from 2022-06-07T06:00:23
Todd and Cathy discuss common sense gun laws that can make a difference, and discuss the work that Moms Demand Action and Founder Shannon Watts have done and are doing. They discuss how optimism is...
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Big Problems, Little Problems with Ben Feller- Podcast #659 from 2022-05-31T06:00:03
Todd and Cathy talk with Ben Feller, former AP White House reporter under George W Bush and Barack Obama, and now author of Big Problems, Little Problems, a story of how a dad teaches his son to so...
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Every Day Is A Good Day- Podcast #658 from 2022-05-24T06:00:20
Cathy and Todd process what “every day is a good day” actually means, and how to recognize the challenges of the world and also take care of ourselves in our day to day lives. They also discuss dis...
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Parent Nation Unlocking Every Child’s Potential, Fulfilling Society’s Promise- Podcast #657 from 2022-05-17T06:00:34
Buy Cathy's Book Zen Parenting Radio Thursday, June 9th @ 7:30 Central MenLiving Tri-faith PanelWatch this podcast on Vimeo here Time Stamp5:50 Defining the problem 16:40 Mental health cr...
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Women’s Stories- Podcast # 656 from 2022-05-10T06:00:15
Cathy and Todd discuss why a wider perspective (instead of a personal narrative) is needed when we talk about the potential overturning of Roe v Wade and reproductive rights. They discuss why havin...
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Struggling to Eat – A Conversation with Author Debi Lewis: Podcast#655 from 2022-05-03T06:00:12
We talk with Debi Lewis, author of Kitchen Medicine: How I Fed My Daughter Out of Failure to Thrive about feeding her child who struggled to eat. Her memoir shares how she learned to love food, nav...
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Parental Nostalgia- Podcast #654 from 2022-04-26T06:00:55
Todd and Cathy discuss the meaning of nostalgia (as discussed in Atlas of the Heart) and share how it effects our parenting, politics, and perspective. They discuss Senator Mallory McMorrow’s speec...
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Bittersweet- Podcast #653 from 2022-04-19T06:00:04
Cathy and Todd discuss Susan Cain’s new book, Bittersweet, and also Brenè Brown’s Atlas of the Heart TV series on HBO Max. They discuss what bittersweet looks and feels like, and why it can offer a...
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Hacks for a Happier Marriage with Kaley&Nate Klemp: Podcast# 652 from 2022-04-12T06:00:05
We talk with Kaley&Nate Klemp, authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship. We discuss invisible labor, fairness, compassion, and what to do if one partner is re...
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Emotional Well-Being is #1- Podcast#651 from 2022-04-05T06:00:53
Todd and Cathy discuss prioritizing mental and emotional well-being above all other things. School, sports, and other issues can still be expectations, but during this time of elevated teen anxiety...
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Helping Our Kids Recognize Patterns of Abuse, Part 2- Podcast#650 from 2022-03-29T06:00:39
Cathy and Todd discuss the cyclical nature of abuse and how to recognize red flags and help our kids recognize them, too. They discuss Evan Rachel Wood’s documentary, Phoenix Rising about her histo...
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Helping Our Kids Recognize Patterns of Abuse, Part 1- Podcast#649 from 2022-03-22T06:00:12
Cathy and Todd discuss the cyclical nature of abuse and how to recognize red flags and help our kids recognize them, too. They discuss Evan Rachel Wood’s documentary, Phoenix Rising about her histo...
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Let’s Regroup- Podcast#648 from 2022-03-15T06:00:23
Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s necessary to regroup (especially when we are hit with bad news most days) and how regrouping is just like the tide going in and out – sometimes we go all in, and the...
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What makes us happy (Replay)- Podcast#647 from 2022-03-08T12:55:40
Todd and Cathy discuss the lessons from the longest study about happiness from the Harvard Study on Adult Development. They discuss Steven Pinker’s data about the world getting better, and what Bil...
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Managing What’s Difficult- Podcast#646 from 2022-03-01T07:00:46
Todd and Cathy discuss managing so many difficult things at one, and how the grief process is a way to understand and manage pain. They discuss Ukraine, Dopesick and Michael Keaton’s acceptance spe...
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Where It All Began- Podcast#645 from 2022-02-22T07:00:23
Cathy and Todd discuss how Zen Parenting Radio started and play a clip or two from their first podcast (11 years ago!). They discuss what they’ve learned, their most humbling experiences, and then ...
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Support Them from the Outside- Podcast #644 from 2022-02-15T07:00:27
Todd and Cathy discuss how to approach our children when they are struggling – do we give them space, keep showing up, or both? They discuss the importance of paying attention to our inner workings...
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Why We Do What We Do- Podcast #643 from 2022-02-08T12:33:28
Todd and Cathy discuss conversational dynamics and how we can pay better attention when talking to our kids or partner. They also share why human behavior is similar to financial markets, and why b...
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Virtual Summit Day 5:“The Right to Speak and Hear Truth”- Podcast #642 from 2022-02-04T07:00:31
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 5"The Right to Speak and Hear Truth"of Cathy's new book : Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and our Children in an Unpredictable world. Topics covered: self expres...
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Virtual Summit Day 4:“The Right to Love and Be Loved”- Podcast #641 from 2022-02-03T07:00:18
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 4"The Right to Love and Be Loved"of Cathy's new book : Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and our Children in an Unpredictable world. Topics covered: Open heartedne...
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Virtual Summit Day 3:“The Right to Act”- Podcast #640 from 2022-02-02T07:00:32
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 3"The Right To Act"of Cathy's new book : Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and our Children in an Unpredictable world. Topics covered: Autonomy and the hero’s jour...
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Virtual Summit Day 2:“The Right to Feel”- Podcast #639 from 2022-02-01T07:00:39
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 2"The Right to Feel"of Cathy's new book: Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and our Children in an Unpredictable world. Topics covered: Pleasure, emotional intellig...
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Virtual Summit Day 1:“The Right to Be”- Podcast #638 from 2022-01-31T07:00:38
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 1"The Right to Be"Topics include: Body foundation, root to rise, physical and emotional safety, survival and connection, and reestablishing our roots.
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You Are Me&I Am You- Podcast #637 from 2022-01-25T07:00:47
Cathy and Todd take a deep dive into Thich Nhat Hanh quotes (the Zen Buddhist monk/teacher who died last week at 95), and also discuss human archetypes and why we show up the way we do. They also d...
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Rethinking and Unlearning- Podcast #636 from 2022-01-18T07:00:05
Todd and Cathy discuss some quotes from Adam Grant, Author of Think Again, and why rethinking our beliefs leads to a wider perspective and a more compassionate viewpoint. They also discuss why allo...
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Teaching Responsibility- Podcast #635 from 2022-01-11T07:00:34
Todd and Cathy discuss how we ask our kids to be responsible for themselves, but we also encourage them to ask for help. They process how to help our kids discern between the two requests, and how ...
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The Case for Optimism- Podcast #634 from 2022-01-04T07:00:24
Cathy and Todd offer the case for optimism (but don’t worry, it’s not toxic positivity…). They share some actual good news and why we are stronger and more resilient than we think.
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Finding Strength (Replay)- Podcast #633 from 2021-12-28T07:00:49
Cathy and Todd discuss the road to wellness and why shame, judgment, anxiety, and hope all play a role. They also discuss why asking for help is so essential, and why asking for help is an act of b...
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Hypervigilance- Podcast #632 from 2021-12-21T07:00:43
Cathy and Todd discuss hypervigilance, or the elevated state of constantly assessing potential threats. They discuss how our uncertain and ever-changing world can create this, or how some of us lea...
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Infidelity; A Conversation with Annmarie Chereso- Podcast #631 from 2021-12-14T07:00:38
Todd+Cathy talk with coach and author Annmarie Chereso about recovering from infidelity, the process of self-awareness, and the importance of forgiveness. They discuss how we can notice our attachm...
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Zen Parenting Summit 2022- Podcast #630 from 2021-12-07T07:00:41
Todd and Cathy discuss being flexible with how we see ourselves, our interactions, and our past experiences. They share how we can be realistic and optimistic, and how we can reframe challenges to ...
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Be Flexible With Your Story- Podcast #629 from 2021-11-30T07:00:43
Todd and Cathy discuss being flexible with how we see ourselves, our interactions, and our past experiences. They share how we can be realistic and optimistic, and how we can reframe challenges to ...
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Are You Dysregulated?- Podcast# 628 from 2021-11-23T07:00:54
Todd and Cathy discuss dysregulation and how it relates to self-awareness, social awareness, and our relationships overall. They discuss how when we yell, storm out, or lash out during a meeting, c...
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Are You Dysregulated?- Podcast# 628 from 2021-11-23T07:00:54
Todd and Cathy discuss dysregulation and how it relates to self-awareness, social awareness, and our relationships overall. They discuss how when we yell, storm out, or lash out during a meeting, c...
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Feelings Live In The Body- Podcast# 627 from 2021-11-16T07:00:59
Cathy and Todd discuss how feelings are physical body-based sensations and how thoughts are mental constructs like beliefs, opinions, and judgements. They discuss the definition of trauma and how t...
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Suffering- Podcast #626 from 2021-11-09T07:00:37
Cathy and Todd discuss the paradox of suffering, how it can be viewed as negative, important, as a path to awareness, and also as a way of staying stuck. They discuss why people run marathons, why ...
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Doing Enough- Podcast #625 from 2021-11-02T06:00:07
Todd and Cathy discuss why we sometimes need to disappoint others so we don’t disappoint ourselves, and how we need to stay curious and open when it comes to connecting with our children. They disc...
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Cognitive Distortions and CBT- Podcast #624 from 2021-10-26T06:00:26
Todd and Cathy discuss cognitive distortions, or habitual ways of thinking that are often inaccurate and negatively biased. They discuss how addressing these distortions are at the heart of cogniti...
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Jargon and Belonging–Podcast #623 from 2021-10-19T11:47:16
Cathy and Todd discuss how “loading the language” and using jargon can be purposeful in building community, but can also veer toward excluding and feeling more “special” than others. They discuss h...
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What To Do When We’re Out Of Rhythm- Podcast #622 from 2021-10-12T17:10:17
Cathy and Todd discuss why order, disorder, reorder is a natural parental rhythm, and why getting out of rhythm is an opportunity for new learning. They also discuss why not knowing what comes next...
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Getting To Zero- An Interview With Jayson Gaddis- Podcast #621 from 2021-10-05T06:00:20
Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis about his new book Getting to Zero, and how to manage conflict in our most important relationships (partnership, parenting, even work!). Todd&Cathy walk throu...
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Difficult Conversations- Podcast #620 from 2021-09-28T06:00:55
Cathy&Todd discuss why difficult conversations are necessary and allow for deeper connection and intimacy. They also answer a listener question about how to talk to our young teens about relationsh...
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Rob Bell Is Back- Podcast#619 from 2021-09-21T06:00:49
Todd and Cathy talk to Rob Bell about his new Everything is Spiritual Tour and how our creative impulses and willingness to speak up keep us true and connected.
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(Bonus Episode) Zen Parenting, The Book- Podcast #618 from 2021-09-15T06:00:58
Cathy and Todd discuss Cathy’s book (now available for preorder, available everywhere 2/1/22) and the process of condensing 10 years of podcasts, 20 years of clinical practice, and 50 years of livi...
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Different Types of Empathy- Podcast #617 from 2021-09-14T06:00:26
Todd and Cathy discuss an episode of We Can Do Hard Things and the difference between feeling deeply and feeling cognitively. They discuss how each style has its benefits, and why the blend of both...
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Women’s Rights are Human Rights- Podcast #616 from 2021-09-07T06:00:25
Cathy and Todd discuss the new Texas law that strips women of their privacy, their dignity, and their physical and mental health.
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Decluttering Our Parenting Mind- Podcast #615 from 2021-08-31T06:00:47
Cathy and Todd discuss how to declutter our parenting minds so we can really be with the child who is in front of us. They discuss how parenting is rollercoaster, how life is a toggle between fear ...
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Anxiety, Experienced Podcast # 614 from 2021-08-24T06:00:41
Todd&Cathy discuss the difference between saying “I have anxiety” and “I feel anxiety” and the difference between anxiety and fear. They also discuss three different stress responses in kids and ho...
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What Do I Need?- Podcast # 613 from 2021-08-17T06:00:14
Cathy&Todd discuss self-betrayal, taking breaks, and how to share our opinion while respecting the inherent dignity of others. They discuss how to keep going when we feel stuck and the pillars we c...
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School Transitions Podcast #612 from 2021-08-10T06:00
Todd and Cathy discuss shifting from summer into school year, and why it can feel anxiety provoking. They also discuss how we can better understand our worry, and how we can help our children find ...
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Anxiety to Excitement- Podcast #611 from 2021-08-03T06:00:47
Cathy and Todd discuss how similar anxiety and excitement feel, and how we can channel the negative arousal of anxiety into a motivating experience of excitement. They also discuss Simone Biles’ de...
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Why Tweens And Teens Are Lonely- Podcast #610 from 2021-07-27T06:00:43
Cathy + Todd discuss Dr. John Duffy’s recent CNN article, Your tweens and teens are lonely – and they want your help. They share why our kids may be pretending to be okay when they are not, and how...
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Practicing Difficult Emotions- Podcast #609 from 2021-07-20T06:00:40
Todd and Cathy discuss how to allow for difficult emotions while releasing judgment, shame, or fear about how we are feeling. They also discuss why labeling ourselves can be counterproductive and w...
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Highly Sensitive People and the Power of Subtlety- Podcast #608 from 2021-07-13T06:00:29
Todd and Cathy discuss the strengths of Highly Sensitive People and how these traits can be understood and utilized to navigate parenting and partnership. They also discuss why the brain can rememb...
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Honest Feedback Podcast # 607 from 2021-07-06T06:00:48
Cathy&Todd discuss offering and receiving feedback from our children and why it’s important to stay curious rather than defensive. They discuss how parents say that “their kids can tell them anythi...
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Questioning our negative thoughts- Podcast #606 from 2021-06-29T06:00:13
Cathy and Todd discuss Chatter: The Voice in our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Cross and how our capacity for introspection can morph into a cycle of negative thinking. They ...
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Life of Meaning- Podcast #605 from 2021-06-22T10:00:39
Todd and Cathy discuss a Freakanomics interview with Angela Duckworth about self-esteem, and what it takes to raise children who feel empowered. They also discuss how we can find meaning in our exp...
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Practicing What you Know- Podcast #604 from 2021-06-15T10:00:50
Todd and Cathy discuss Najwa Zebian’s book, Welcome Home, and how we can find a home inside ourselves instead of searching for home in other people. They also discuss the concept of “praxis” which ...
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Permission To Be Creative- Podcast #603 from 2021-06-08T09:00:58
Todd and Cathy discuss Ethan Hawke’s TED talk about creativity and why what we love is our offering to the world. They discuss why creativity matters and how offering and receiving sustains us. The...
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Languishing or Upgrading?- Podcast #602 from 2021-06-01T10:00:17
Cathy and Todd discuss Adam Grant’s article about languishing (the middle place between thriving and depression) and Rob Bell’s podcast about discomfort and “upgrading”. The process how word usage ...
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A Light from the Bench- Podcast #601 from 2021-05-25T10:00:14
Cathy and Todd discuss graduation season and why it's both beautiful and difficult. They discuss the importance of recognizing Mental Health Awareness Month and what Oprah&Prince Harry's show, The ...
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What Have We Learned? Podcast #600 from 2021-05-18T10:00:54
Todd and Cathy discuss what they’ve learned over 10 years and 600 episodes of Zen Parenting Radio, and they describe what Zen Parenting means to them (Cathy’s book titled Zen Parenting comes out in...
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Essentialism- Podcast #599 from 2021-05-11T10:00:53
Cathy and Todd revisit Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism and why now is an important time to reconsider priorities and focus energy on what really matters. They discuss why deciding what’s essential...
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We Are Rocks- Podcast #598 from 2021-05-04T10:00:47
Todd and Cathy discuss how like rocks in water, we were flooded with information, challenge, and uncertainty in 2020. 2021 is about focusing on our mental wellness and recognizing how like rocks in...
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5 Small Interventions for Psychological Well-Being- Podcast #597 from 2021-04-27T10:00:06
Cathy and Todd discuss Esther Perel’s 5 interventions and how they can help us cope with uncertainty and grief. They also discuss why the only way out is through, and how looking for the bright sid...
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Invisible Situations Podcast #596 from 2021-04-20T10:00:40
Cathy and Todd discuss “invisible” situations (such as being neurodivergent, anxious, have migraines or an autoimmune disorder) and why we are sometimes not “believed” when we try to explain our ch...
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Mercedes Samudio, Shame Proof Parenting,&EMDR- Podcast #595 from 2021-04-13T10:00:59
Todd and Cathy discuss fear, The Golden Girls, and we interview Mercedes Samudio of Shame Proof Parenting where she discusses EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
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Life Is So“Lifey”- Podcast #594 from 2021-04-06T10:00:45
Todd and Cathy discuss this transitional time and why we need to be compassionate with ourselves as we gently and slowly return to a more pre-covid way of living. They discuss why transitions are d...
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Life Waves- Podcast #593 from 2021-03-30T10:00:13
Cathy and Todd discuss the natural waves of life, and how we have to appreciate the good moments and also move through the hard times. They discuss the importance of asking for help and setting bou...
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Rage Becomes Her- The Power of Women’s Anger- Podcast #593 from 2021-03-23T11:00:38
Cathy and Todd talk with Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger and Executive Director of The Representation Project. They discuss the importance of emotional compet...
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Rage Becomes Her- The Power of Women’s Anger- Podcast #592 from 2021-03-23T10:00:38
Cathy and Todd talk with Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger and Executive Director of The Representation Project. They discuss the importance of emotional compet...
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(Replay) Listen To This One With Your Partner- Podcast #591 from 2021-03-16T10:00:18
This podcast dates back to May of 2017, but is one of our favorites. Todd and Cathy discuss why “figuring out” our partner will cause frustration, but why staying present with every new experience...
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Women&Boundaries- Podcast #590 from 2021-03-09T11:00:34
Cathy and Todd discuss Oprah’s interview with Meghan and Harry and how it relates to boundaries, freedom, and our unconscious internalized beliefs about women. They also discuss International Women...
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Boundaries&Enmeshment- Podcast #589 from 2021-03-02T11:00:31
Cathy and Todd kick-off boundaries month by discussing internal boundaries and the clinical understanding of family enmeshment. They discuss how we take on other people’s emotions, why it’s hard fo...
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Gen Z perspective on sexual orientation: A discussion with Jacey, Edgar, and Grace Podcast #588 from 2021-02-23T11:00:55
We talk with our daughter Jacey who identifies as gay, her friend Grace who identifies as bi-sexual, and her friend Edgar who identifies as gay. They share their coming out stories, family reaction...
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Creativity&Balance Podcast #587 from 2021-02-16T11:00:24
Todd and Cathy discuss Creativity and Balance, Part 3 of Empathy Volume Month. They discuss ideas and tools to take care of ourselves during uncertain times, and how to bring balance to our self-ca...
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Empathy Burnout Podcast #586 from 2021-02-09T11:00:12
Todd and Cathy continue their discussion about empathy volume and focus on how to turn down empathy to avoid burnout. They discuss the 3 types of empathy and how we can remain empathetic without ex...
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What Do We Care About?- Podcast #585 from 2021-02-02T11:00:05
Todd+Cathy discuss mindful caring as a kick off to their “Empathy Volume” month (how to turn it up and stay connected, how to turn it down to avoid burnout). They share three ways to make empathy a...
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Messages&Arrows- Podcast #584 from 2021-01-26T11:00:11
Cathy and Todd discuss the “messages and arrows” of our emotions, specifically that they give us the information we need to understand ourselves and teach our kids. Every feeling has an underlying ...
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Accountability. Forgiveness. #583 from 2021-01-19T11:00:58
Cathy and Todd discuss how accountability leads to unity, and how impunity or justifying something deeply harmful leads to more divisiveness, not healing. They discuss how this is true with our gov...
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Our Many Colors Podcast #582 from 2021-01-12T11:00:17
Todd and Cathy continue their discussion about how and why we grow and share specific colors that represent our stages of development (often referred to as spiral dynamics). They discuss how this e...
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How Do I Get My Partner To…(Replay)- Podcast #581 from 2021-01-05T11:00:33
Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” – they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wan...
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Why We Grow- Podcast #580 from 2020-12-29T11:00:40
Cathy and Todd focus on Me, We, and Everybody, a teaching of moral development (or Spiral Dynamics) taken from The Robcast. They share why this personal growth model (similar to understanding the c...
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Rudolph The Red Nosed Reindeer- Podcast #579 from 2020-12-22T11:00:30
Todd and Cathy discuss 1964’s Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer and why the adults dropped the ball in helping Hermy and Rudolph understand their specialness – BUT, it’s still a great holiday rewatch ...
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Raising Whole Sons- Podcast #578 from 2020-12-15T11:00:22
Cathy and Todd reference a recent post by Dr. Alexandra Solomon about how we are doing a better job raising our girls to be leaders than raising our sons to be caregivers. They discuss how to raise...
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Handling Negative Emotions- Podcast #577 from 2020-12-08T11:00:50
Todd and Cathy discuss the difference between a “bottler” or “brooder” when it comes to negative feelings, and why being curious about feelings allows us to be less reactive and more compassionate....
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Healthy Human Beings- Podcast #576 from 2020-12-01T11:00:38
Cathy and Todd discuss Susan David’s book and TED Talk about emotional agility and why the ability to be agile leads to healthy human beings. They discuss why we need the skills to deal with the wo...
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Do No Harm- Podcast #575 from 2020-11-24T14:10:58
Todd and Cathy discuss the double bind of “do no harm”, in that all decisions, even educated and well-thought out choices, may impact some negatively. They discuss the positive impact of empathy an...
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Men Living- Podcast #574 from 2020-11-17T11:00:37
Cathy interviews Todd, Frank Naugo,&Shaun Emerson discussing the relaunch from the Tribe Men's Group over to Men Living. They discuss the resources available that will help men step up to make a m...
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Standing On Solid Ground- Podcast #573 from 2020-11-10T11:00:46
Cathy and Todd discuss how the election has provided a more sturdy foundation to rebuild trust, beauty, and a sense of self and community. They discuss how we can continue to do small acts of kindn...
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Getting Through- Podcast #572 from 2020-11-03T11:00:53
Todd and Cathy discuss getting through difficult and vulnerable moments (like election day) and how self-compassion and mindfulness are key. They discuss coping mechanisms versus escapism, how to e...
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Hierarchy of Needs- Podcast #571 from 2020-10-27T10:00:39
Cathy and Todd discuss Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and how Ezra Klein’s article in Vox used Maslow’s work to explain the importance of next week’s election. They discuss the importance of the elect...
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Being Well In Anxious Times Podcast #570 from 2020-10-20T10:00:09
Cathy and Todd discuss Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book Burnout, and how we can better process and release the stress we experience. They discuss their interview on the Unlocking Us podcast with Bre...
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Point To The Moon- Podcast #569 from 2020-10-13T10:00:33
Cathy+Todd discuss Cathy’s recent Zen Parenting Moment about how to guide our children with humility, and why spiritual narcissism can lead us to believe we have all of the answers. They discuss th...
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Dominance Is Not Strength- A Conversation With Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #568 from 2020-10-06T10:00:56
Relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon join Cathy and Todd to discuss why dominance isn’t strength when it comes to politics, partnership, and parenting, and why last week’s debate was so diffic...
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The Distance Learning Playbook With Rosalind Wiseman- Podcast #567 from 2020-09-29T10:00:57
Cathy and Todd talk with Rosalind Wiseman (Founder of Cultures of Dignity and author of Queen Bees and Wannabees) about her new book The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents and her “Tiny Guides”...
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Be Like Ruth- Podcast #566 from 2020-09-22T10:00:05
Cathy and Todd discuss losing RBG and why we have to practice what she taught us rather than decide all is lost. They discuss how we can grieve and also be strong, be afraid but also find joy. They...
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Pain Is Human- Podcast #565 from 2020-09-15T10:00:08
Todd and Cathy discuss NFL player Dak Prescott’s willingness to discuss depression and why there was backlash. They process the yin and yang of emotions and why challenge makes us stronger, not wea...
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Our Kids Talk School- Podcast #564 from 2020-09-08T10:00:24
Jacey, Camryn, and Skylar join Cathy and Todd to discuss the 2020 school year. They discuss the pros and cons of remote and hybrid learning, and why our educational goals from 2019 should not be ou...
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Finding Alignment- Podcast #563 from 2020-09-01T10:00:11
Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to find personal alignment rather than what our society calls “success”. They reference the 4 Noble Truths, Mel Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, the 8-fold path, To Kill...
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Reframing The School Year Podcast #562 from 2020-08-25T10:00:28
Cathy and Todd discuss how to see this school year differently and how to accept and reframe our experiences. They discuss how figuring out something new will take time and patience (and self-care)...
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How To Motivate Your Kids- Podcast #561 from 2020-08-18T10:00:33
Todd and Cathy discuss intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation for kids, and discuss the harm of unachievable success in the documentary The Weight of Gold (about Olympic athletes) and The Go Go’s docume...
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2020 School Year- Podcast #560 from 2020-08-11T10:00:04
Cathy and Todd discuss why understanding ambiguous loss, the dignity of others, and the humanity of teachers is essential as we navigate a back to school plan. This uncertain time necessitates refl...
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Managing Screen Time Part 2- Podcast #559 from 2020-08-04T10:00:08
Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and e...
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Managing Screen Time Part 1- Podcast #558 from 2020-07-28T10:00:42
Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and e...
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Why Are Conspiracy Theories Believable- Podcast #557 from 2020-07-21T10:00:23
Cathy and Todd discuss John Oliver's Last Week Tonight episode about conspiracy theories, and share the psychology behind why people believe tend to believe them. We also discuss how to have produc...
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Build A Solid Foundation- Podcast #556 from 2020-07-14T10:00:33
Cathy and Todd discuss why building a strong foundation can get us through difficultly and uncertainty, and help us recognize what’s most important in crisis and calmer times. They share what a “st...
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How To Connect To Your Kid- Podcast #555 from 2020-07-07T10:00:31
Todd and Cathy discuss why connection necessitates letting go of needing and focusing more on understanding. They share a story of connecting with their daughter and why knowing her well was the ke...
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Inhabit Your Life- Podcast #554 from 2020-06-30T10:00:12
Cathy and Todd discuss the Zen parable about the monkey in the river and why it teaches us to find the aliveness of every moment, even if we are afraid or uncertain. They offer examples and analogi...
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What Self-Care Really Is- Podcast #553 from 2020-06-23T10:00:37
Cathy and Todd discuss how self-care is about building a life that you don’t need to escape from – by speaking up, asking for what you need, resting, and interacting with integrity. They discuss ho...
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Truth Is Hard, But It’s So Much Easier Podcast #552 from 2020-06-16T10:00:27
Cathy and Todd discuss how self-awareness, vulnerability, and a willingness to listen upfront lead to authentic and connected conversations later. They discuss how this applies to race discussions,...
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Spiritual Bypassing&Race- Podcast #551 from 2020-06-09T10:00:49
Cathy and Todd discuss how spiritual bypassing (the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings) can run counter to being a listener and learner when it comes ...
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Talk About Race- Podcast #550 from 2020-05-31T18:46:23
Todd and Cathy discuss the protests and why self-awareness and being a student are essential when talking about race. They share who they learn from, why we need to speak up, and why dismantling ra...
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Questions To Love Podcast #549 from 2020-05-27T01:13:56
Todd and Cathy discuss some of the questions from this New York Times article titled The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
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What’s Your 1 Thing? -Podcast #548 from 2020-05-19T10:58:46
Todd and Cathy discuss the highlights of a Freakonomics podcast titled Reasons to Be Cheerful as well as The Goop Podcast titled The Culture of Busyness. Some of the topics discussed were the nega...
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Content Vs Context- An Interview With Jim Dethmer Podcast #547 from 2020-05-12T10:00:03
Todd and Cathy interview Jim Dethmer from the Conscious Leadership Group. They discuss the difference between the content (what is happening) of our lives and the context (from what energy are we ...
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What Does Messy Look Like? Podcast #546 from 2020-05-05T10:00:13
Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to experience messy and how messy, but necessary, conversations can cause discomfort and uncertainty. They discuss why others are not always bad or wrong, and h...
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Hitting A Wall- Podcast #545 from 2020-04-28T10:00:59
Cathy and Todd discuss why hitting a wall is to be expected, and why it’s not a failure, it’s a recalibration. They discuss what walls can teach us and why adaptation and pivoting are important now...
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This Is What You Shall Do- Podcast #543 from 2020-04-27T21:31:29
Cathy+Todd discuss Walt Whitman’s poem This is what you shall do and discuss how his wisdom is relevant today. The discuss what it means to “dismiss whatever insults your soul”, and why this relate...
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Feelings About Feelings- Podcast #544 from 2020-04-21T10:00:57
Cathy and Todd discuss how we judge our own feelings and then instead of self-regulating, we get lost in a cycle of emotions. They discuss Mark Brackett’s book Permission to Feel, and his interview...
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The Light At The End Of The Tunnel- Podcast #542 from 2020-04-07T10:00:28
Cathy and Todd discuss vivid dreaming and why you might be feeling old griefs during this pandemic. They discuss why talking about your feelings and appreciating humor and joy are stabilizing. They...
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Alone Together- Podcast # 541 from 2020-03-31T10:00:49
Cathy and Todd discuss creating new habits during the pandemic – for some this can add structure, and for others this can feel too overwhelming. They share the difference between people who are enj...
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Grief Is What You Are Feeling- Podcast # 540 from 2020-03-25T19:55:08
Cathy and Todd discuss an article in the Harvard Law Review titled The Discomfort You Are Feeling is Grief. Grief expert David Kessler explains how we are all feeling anticipatory grief during this...
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Tools To Cope- Podcast #539 from 2020-03-20T20:01:49
Todd and Cathy discuss a few ways to cope with uncertainty and why self-care and emotional well-being is the most important thing right now.
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Grounding Forces During Uncertain times- Podcast #538 from 2020-03-16T21:34:41
Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk to kids about the uncertainty of these times, and why it’s important to focus on the whole rather than the individual. They discuss why it’s ok to let kids sleep ...
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Stay Connected- Podcast #537 from 2020-03-15T22:32:14
Todd and Cathy discuss the impact of the corona virus, emotional labor,&Kramer's attitude towards the gas gauge.
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It’s OK To Feel Tired- Podcast #536 from 2020-03-10T10:00:04
Todd and Cathy discuss how negative news cycles and uncertainty can leave us feeling tired and overwhelmed. They discuss how to take care of ourselves (it’s a practice!), and how to talk to our kid...
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There’s More To The Story- Podcast #535 from 2020-03-03T11:00:51
Cathy&Todd discuss the highlights and takeaways to the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference.
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Compassionate Partnership- Podcast #534 from 2020-02-25T11:00:55
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What love says when we are alone and afraid- Podcast #533 from 2020-02-18T11:00:46
Todd and Cathy discuss Elizabeth Gilbert’s Valentine’s Day post titled TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY). They discuss each...
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Ms. Americana&Powerful Women- Podcast #531 from 2020-02-13T22:27:39
Cathy&Todd talk about the new Taylor Swift Documentary, Shakira's and J-Lo's Superbowl half time show, and other powerful women.
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On Purpose With Heidi Stevens&John Duffy- Podcast #532 from 2020-02-11T11:00:46
Cathy+Todd talk with Heidi Stevens from the Chicago Tribune, and Dr. John Duffy, author of Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety. They discuss having a moral compass, the current political c...
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Humility&Procrastination Podcast #530 (Replay) from 2020-01-28T11:00:21
Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, wh...
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Every Trigger is an Opening- Podcast #529 from 2020-01-21T11:00:41
Cathy and Todd continue their discussion about wounds and triggers, and why parts of ourselves need to be acknowledged and validated. They discuss awareness and forgiveness, and why every trigger i...
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Wounds&Triggers- Podcast #528 from 2020-01-14T11:00:02
Cathy and Todd discuss childhood wounding and why it leads to triggers in adulthood. They discuss how healthy parts of the self can soothe the wounded parts, and why being triggered is like a repla...
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Relationship Resolutions- Podcast #527 from 2020-01-07T11:00:58
Todd and Cathy discuss “relationship resolutions” for 2020, and why practice and self-compassion are essential when starting a new year.
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Dr. Dan Siegel- The Power of Showing UP- Podcast #526 from 2019-12-31T11:00:23
Cathy and Todd interview Dr. Siegel's newest book- The Power of Showing Up- How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become&How Their Brains Get Wired.
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Dandelions and Orchids: Podcast #525 from 2019-12-24T14:37:36
Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Thomas Boyce’s book, The Orchid and the Dandelion and how all children can thrive if given the right environment. They also discuss neurodiversity, This is Us, some of th...
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Tony Porter from A Call To Men&Author Hunter Clarke-Fields Podcast #524 from 2019-12-17T05:00:33
It's a double feature as Cathy and Todd interview the CEO of A Call To Men Tony Porter&Author of Raising Good Humans Hunter Clarke-Fields.
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What is Marriage? Podcast #523 from 2019-12-10T05:00:41
Cathy and Todd discuss why women are expected to take a man’s last name, and why this can be an important discussion and decision for couples. They discuss the meaning of Miss, Ms, and Mrs., why Qu...
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Setting An Intention: Podcast #522 from 2019-12-03T05:00:49
Cathy and Todd discuss poetry, Frozen 2, The ZPR Holiday Calendar and setting an intention.
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It’s A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood- Podcast #521 from 2019-11-26T05:00:28
Cathy and Todd discuss the new film"It's A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood"about Mister Rogers as well as a quick take on women's menstruation.
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Getting The Love You Want: Podcast #520 from 2019-11-19T05:00:44
Cathy and Todd discuss Imago Dialogue as introduced by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt's book titled Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and why it could help your relationships.
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Denying Reality: Podcast #519 from 2019-11-12T05:00:27
Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to “feel felt” and how to attune to your partner and children. They also explain why it’s important to understand your child’s experience and not deny their rea...
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Effortless Perfection (Or Not): Podcast #518 from 2019-11-05T05:00:27
Cathy and Todd discuss Anna Quindlin’s quote, “The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself”, and how we can help our...
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Rosalind Wiseman-Building A Culture of Dignity: Podcast #517 from 2019-10-29T05:00:13
We had two special guests on the podcast today - Rosalind Wiseman and our daughter Jacey - you don’t want to miss this discussion about dignity, respect, Euphoria, sex ed, boy group chats and of co...
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Self-esteem Vs. Self-compassion Podcast #516 from 2019-10-22T05:00:37
Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem and why only one is healthy for the individual and family. They share the three components of self-compassion shared by...
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Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s)- Podcast #515 from 2019-10-15T05:00:34
Cathy and Todd discuss the Adverse Childhood Experiences test, and why California Surgeon General Nadine Burke Harris plans to incorporate it into early-childhood wellness screenings. They discuss ...
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Teaching Money- Podcast #514 from 2019-10-08T05:00:32
Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk about money and responsibility with your older kids. They discuss Rupture and Repair and how to recognize your own baggage so you can communicate effectively (rat...
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Rob Bell Interview- Podcast #513 from 2019-10-01T05:00:07
Todd and Cathy interview author/podcaster and all-around amazing guy- Rob Bell
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Emotional Neglect: What Your Feelings Are Saying- Podcast #512 from 2019-09-24T05:00:35
Todd and Cathy discuss the different types Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) and why it’s important to recognize our own experiences and blindspots. They discuss Malcolm Gladwell’s new book, Talkin...
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Part II Parenting The New Teen With Dr. John Duffy- Podcast #511 from 2019-09-17T05:00:37
In the second half of this two part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with friend Dr. John Duffy about his new book Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child's Stres...
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Parenting The New Teen With Dr. John Duffy- Podcast #510 from 2019-09-10T05:00:35
Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and the people in our lives called the Enneagram - it’s a system of nine personality types that combines traditional wisdom with m...
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More To The Story: Zen Parenting Conference 2020- Podcast #509 from 2019-09-03T05:00:33
Cathy+Todd introduce the speakers for the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference, February 28+29, 2020. They share why there’s more to love, more to learn, and MORE TO THE STORY. The 2020 conference i...
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The Enneagram- Podcast #508 from 2019-08-27T05:00:57
Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and the people in our lives called the Enneagram - it’s a system of nine personality types that combines traditional wisdom with m...
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What is Gaslighting? Podcast #507 from 2019-08-20T05:00:13
Cathy and Todd breakdown the manipulation tactic known as gaslighting, where the goal is to abuse or control through lying, manipulating, and destabilizing. They discuss how it can be used by partn...
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Say Anything- Podcast #506 from 2019-08-13T05:00:28
We couldn’t tape a show this week because Todd was sick ☹, so this is our Pop Culturing Podcast where we talk about the movie Say Anything… (1989) – we share why Lloyd and Diane’s love and friendsh...
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Mental Health and Empathy Podcast #505 from 2019-08-06T05:00:54
Cathy and Todd discuss the benefit of mental health days after a law passed in Oregon allowing them to be excused. They also discuss the light and dark side of empathy, and how pain and challenge i...
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Being Apart To Come Together Podcast #504 from 2019-07-30T05:00:29
Cathy and Todd discuss why alone time or time away from your partner can be healthy and connective. They share the benefits and discuss the balance of togetherness and individuation. They share why...
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Stranger Things- The Hurt Is Good Podcast #503 from 2019-07-23T05:00:06
Cathy and Todd discuss Stranger Things Season 3 and how it deals with grief, trauma, and growing up. They also discuss the “believe women” theme and all of the obvious and less obvious 80’s referen...
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How To Be Yourself- Podcast #502 from 2019-07-16T05:00:05
Cathy and Todd discuss how we all have different approaches to challenging situations, and why there isn’t one way to speak up or solve a problem. They discuss how we can help children build a “sel...
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Raising An Upstander- Podcast #501 from 2019-07-09T05:00:37
Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer’s book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Moment (ZPR and The Tribe Men’s Group are hosting a free screeni...
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Meet Our Kids- Podcast #500 from 2019-07-02T05:00:18
To celebrate their 500th episode and 8 years of podcasting, Todd and Cathy talk with their daughters Jacey (16), Camryn (14), and Skylar (11) about their experiences with “zen” parenting, and discu...
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What Your Therapist Thinks- Podcast #499 from 2019-06-25T05:00:19
Cathy and Todd discuss some questions that Lori Gottlieb addresses in her book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and share their own experiences with being the practitioner and the patient.
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Redefining Fatherhood- Podcast #498 from 2019-06-18T05:00:52
Cathy and Todd discuss how fatherhood is being redefined and expanded as we learn more about ourselves and gender, Team Zen, Taylor Swift and much more...
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The Wisdom Of Anxiety- Podcast #497 from 2019-06-11T05:00:44
Cathy and Todd discuss Sheryl Paul’s book The Wisdom of Anxiety, and why anxiety is an opportunity to be curious rather than afraid. They discuss how compassion, stillness, and gratitude play a rol...
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Finding The Genuine Podcast #496 from 2019-06-04T05:00:45
Todd and Cathy discuss Sister Joan Chittister and her new book The Time is Now: A Call to Uncommon Courage. They discuss civil discourse, why we get our loves out of order, and why we yearn for the...
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Women Aren’t Nags, We’re Fed Up- Podcast #495 from 2019-05-28T05:00:57
Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma ...
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Women’s Autonomy Podcast #494 from 2019-05-21T07:10
Cathy and Todd discuss why the new laws in Alabama and other states strip women of their reproductive and human rights. They discuss how we have to take a wider view and not assume everyone has acc...
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Girls&Anxiety Podcast #493 from 2019-05-14T05:00:11
Cathy and Todd discuss girls and stress and play clips from Rich Roll’s interview with Under Pressure author Lisa Damour. They also discuss the conflict between James Charles and Tati Westbrook, an...
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Be A Happier Parent- Podcast #492 from 2019-05-07T05:00:47
Cathy and Todd talk with Former New York Times reporter KJ Dell’Antonio about her book How to be a Happier Parent. They discuss some common issues that challenge parents, and explore how to decreas...
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Cobra Kai- Podcast #491 from 2019-04-30T05:00:53
Todd and Cathy discuss how people and organizations are both light and dark, and why it’s important to recognize this in ourselves. They discuss the You Tube Original Show Cobra Kai, specifically t...
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Failure, Consent,&Kobe- Podcast #490 from 2019-04-23T05:00:34
Cathy and Todd discuss a sports psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais interview on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard. They discuss the difference between being the best and being your best.
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Permission Slips- Podcast #489 from 2019-04-16T05:00:10
Cathy and Todd discuss how to give ourselves permission to change or try something new. They share some wisdom from Oprah’s new book The Path Made Clear, and discuss why trusting and honoring ourse...
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Essentialism- Podcast # 488 from 2019-04-09T05:00:39
Todd and Cathy discuss Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism about how we can do less, but better. They discuss how to figure out what’s essential, how to let go of what we no longer need, and how essen...
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The Space Between- Podcast # 487 from 2019-04-02T05:00:06
Cathy and Todd discuss how parenting experts can appear to contradict each other (even when their information is valid), and why we need to know our family and trust our instincts when making paren...
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What makes us happy–Podcast #486 from 2019-03-26T11:38:16
Todd and Cathy discuss the lessons from the longest study about happiness from the Harvard Study on Adult Development. They discuss Steven Pinker’s data about the world getting better, and what Bil...
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Public Shaming- Podcast #485 from 2019-03-19T05:00:48
Cathy and Todd discuss public shaming and why responsibility, humility, and reflection need to be a part of the process. They discuss John Oliver’s interview with Monica Lewinsky and the college ad...
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Greatest Hits from the 2019 ZPR Conference Podcast #484 from 2019-03-12T05:00:41
Cathy and Todd speak about the most impactful moments of this year's conference.
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Connection Is Everything Podcast # 483 from 2019-03-05T05:00:59
Todd and Cathy discuss Dax Shepard’s interview with Dr. John Gottman, and discuss his research around marriage, parenting, sex, and the key to longevity.
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School Decisions- Podcast #481 from 2019-02-26T05:00:33
Todd and Cathy discuss why parental self-awareness is essential when our kids are making their life decisions. They discuss how our history plays a role in what we think is best for our kids, and w...
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Punitive vs Restorative- Podcast #480 from 2019-02-19T05:00:35
Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between a punitive (inflicting punishment) and restorative perspective (seeking to understand and address what happened to all involved), and why it’s importan...
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Simplicity&Equifinality- Podcast #479 from 2019-02-12T05:00
Todd and Cathy discuss why focusing on simple allows other things to flow more easily, and why aligning with what feels right allows determination, grit, and curiosity to show up naturally. They di...
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Words Matter- Podcast #478 from 2019-02-05T05:00:08
Cathy and Todd discuss the Superbowl and the most impactful commercials, specifically The Washington Post commercial titled Democracy Dies in Darkness. They discuss how the Justice Department minim...
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What Parts Do You Repress?- Podcast #477 from 2019-01-29T11:34:39
Todd and Cathy discuss the shadow parts of themselves that they pretend aren’t there, and Todd shares an activity where he had to act out the parts he tries hardest to repress. They share why the p...
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What Is Traditional Masculinity?- Podcast #476 from 2019-01-22T05:00:55
Todd and Cathy discuss the new American Psychological Association (APA) guidelines for men and boys, and why a Gillette ad about healthy masculinity has drawn so much criticism.
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Truth&Lies- Podcast #475 from 2019-01-15T05:00:33
Todd and Cathy discuss why instead of looking for truth, we can begin to notice the lies that we consistently tell ourselves. They discuss failure, and why Cody Parkey’s kick during the Bears game ...
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Take Turns- Podcast #474 from 2019-01-08T05:00:21
Cathy shares an essay by Mark Nepo about partners who are willing to take turns exploring the outer and the inner. They discuss why equality is like an unwinding onion with limitless new things to ...
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Team Zen Podcast #473 from 2019-01-01T05:00:01
Todd and Cathy share different questions asked by Team Zen members during Zen Talks. Team Zen was created based on feedback from listeners – they wished they could ask Cathy+Todd a question, get re...
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Dark and Light Podcast #472 from 2018-12-25T05:00:25
Cathy and Todd discuss why light and dark are part of the holidays, and why every season has a purpose. They discuss Barbara Brown Taylor’s book, Learning to Walk in the Dark, and why embracing dar...
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There’s No Right Answer Podcast #471 from 2018-12-18T05:32:12
Todd and Cathy discuss Jonathan Haidt’s book The Coddling of the American Mind, specifically focusing on the interview with Sam Harris on the Waking Up podcast. They discuss why universities strugg...
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Love Is Help- Podcast #470# from 2018-12-11T11:33:33
Cathy and Todd introduce four more speakers and four special organizations who will be at the 2019 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss a podcast featuring Tony Robbins and the author of The Unte...
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The Joke- Podcast #469 from 2018-12-04T05:00:40
Cathy and Todd discuss Brandi Carlisle’s song The Joke, and why it was written for people who feel “under-represented, unloved or illegal”. They talk about the newest sexual assault allegations, an...
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The Sequel- Why Do We Have 2 Kidneys? So We Can Give 1 Away- Podcast #468 from 2018-11-30T05:00:35
Our friend Josh St. Pierre returns to the show to give us an update on his recent kidney transplant (click here to listen to Josh’s first podcast where he shares his story). He shares what it felt ...
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Narrate Your Own Story- Podcast #467 from 2018-11-27T05:00:20
Todd and Cathy discuss how we tell our story, and how we can frame it in a way that serves us rather than depletes us. They discuss why mindfulness and sharing our story are essential when dealing ...
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Becoming- Podcast #466 (Fixed) from 2018-11-20T15:50:43
Cathy and Todd discuss Michelle Obama’s new book Becoming, focusing in on some of the best pieces of advice for parents and kids. They discuss why we are always evolving, why growth never ends, and...
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More Words For Anger- Podcast #465 from 2018-11-13T05:00:07
Cathy and Todd discuss anger and how it can be productive, but also be destructive if not monitored. They discuss Pete Davidson’s apology and Lt. Com. Dan Crenshaw’s willingness to accept it on SNL...
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Fear Is A Pair Of Glasses- Podcast #464 from 2018-11-06T05:00:20
Cathy and Todd discuss how fear can be helpful if we are willing to listen and look at what’s it’s trying to say, but destructive if we live from constant state of fear by blaming and dehumanizing....
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Blame&Superiority- Podcast #463 from 2018-10-30T05:00:48
Cathy and Todd discuss why blame and the belief that we are superior to another causes pain in our family, community and country. They discuss how dehumanization is a weapon to oppress and harm, an...
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Wisdom from Glennon&Abby- Podcast #462 from 2018-10-23T05:00:57
Cathy and Todd discuss some great quotes and wisdom gained from Cathy’s weekend with Glennon and Abby at Omega Institute. They discuss why being a “cool girl” is no longer necessary or healthy, why...
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Daring To Lead- Podcast #461 from 2018-10-16T05:00:19
Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book, Daring to Lead, and apply her well-researched leadership principles to the family structure. They discuss why fear is inevitable, how courage can be p...
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A Measured Approach to Power- Podcast #460 from 2018-10-09T05:00:44
Cathy and Todd discuss power dynamics within relationships – specifically who has it, how to share it, and how to talk about it. They discuss why taking a measured approach to power – with our kids...
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The History Of Not Believing- Podcast #459 from 2018-10-02T05:00:01
Todd and Cathy discuss the history of not believing women, and why recognizing what we’ve missed and creating change can be messy and difficult. They share clips from a Hidden Brain podcast about h...
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Tell Me About Your Experience- Podcast #458 from 2018-09-25T05:00:15
Cathy and Todd discuss #WhyIDidntReport and why it’s important to listen, rather than assume we already understand, other people’s stories. They discuss the importance of hearing – women who talk a...
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Are You Trying To Force Your Kid?- Podcast #457 from 2018-09-18T05:00:52
Todd and Cathy discuss how Todd wants to make his daughters watch the documentary"RBG"and how it's not working. They also talk about a dad who wants to force his daughter to attend"optional"soccer...
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Not Her Daughter: A discussion with author Rea Frey- Podcast #456 from 2018-09-14T05:00:56
Cathy and Todd talk with Rea Frey about her new domestic suspense novel, Not Her Daughter. She shares the story behind the book, the conversation it has created, and why it makes the reader questio...
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Self Care For Kids- Podcast #455 from 2018-09-11T05:00:42
Todd and Cathy discuss how kids can practice self-care and why a mental health day may reduce their anxiety and possibly decrease the odds of physical illness. They also discuss how couples can dis...
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Fortnite, Boundaries&Compassion Podcast #454 from 2018-09-04T05:45:23
Boundaries and Compassion Todd and Cathy discuss boundaries and compassion, and how they are threads that run through so many questions posed by parents, especially during Team Zen conversations. T...
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Movies&Screens Podcast #453 from 2018-08-28T05:00:39
Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise and 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speaker, about supporting/guiding a child through their first-phone experience. They also discus...
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Ritual&Power Podcast #452 from 2018-08-21T05:00:37
Todd and Cathy discuss the rituals and habits the set the tone for our days and nights, and why recognizing and understanding our power is the great success determiner.
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Get Your Brave On- Podcast #451 from 2018-08-14T05:00:29
Cathy and Todd announce their 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speakers. They share why you MUST get to know these amazing women, read their books, and get your early-bird tickets to the conference. T...
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Listen, Allow, Support, Repeat #450 (Replay) from 2018-08-07T05:00:44
Cathy and Todd share a letter from a listener whose son discovers himself through dance, and how this discovery leads to self-aware parenting. It’s an inspirational and emotional story about how to...
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A Call To Men Podcast #449 from 2018-07-31T05:00:10
Cathy and Todd discuss Episode 4 of the series We Are Man Enough that discusses the #metoo movement.
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Who Are Your Faith Keepers? Podcast #448 from 2018-07-24T05:00:14
Todd and Cathy discuss Brady Bunch, Serena Williams Wimbeldon interview, how to deal with conflict, empathy, and finding out who you ca count on for honest, yet compassionate feedback.
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Whose Team Are You On? Podcast #447 from 2018-07-17T05:00:35
Todd and Cathy discuss one of Toby’s quotes from This is Us, and explain why his wisdom could strengthen any relationship. They discuss how to love our inner child without letting it take control, ...
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Threads Worldwide- An Interview with Co-Founder Kara Valentine- Podcast #446 from 2018-07-13T05:00:18
Todd and Cathy speak with Co-Founder of Threads Worldwide. An organization that creates life-changing work with women around the world through the fair trade of artisan jewelry. In 2011 they foun...
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The Growing Edge Podcast #445 from 2018-07-10T05:00:49
Cathy and Todd discuss a productive definition of hope based on insight from Parker Palmer and Howard Thurman. They discuss Hannah Gadsby’s Netflix Comedy Special and share why her bravery and will...
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Connection Is Food- An Interview with Relationship Experts Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder- Podcast #444 from 2018-07-03T18:53:35
Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis&Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School. Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast, and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice...
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Raising Global Citizens- An Interview With Patty Monahan Podcast #443 from 2018-06-29T05:00:12
Todd and Cathy talk with Patty Monahan, founder of Our Whole Village, a company that specializes in family vacations and adventures. They discuss why travel is so important at every age, why we sho...
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Differently Wired: A Conversation With Debbie Reber- Podcast #442 from 2018-06-26T05:00:07
Cathy and Todd talk with Debbie Reber, author of Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. They discuss why this book is rally cry for all parents raising exceptional...
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Why Do We Have 2 Kidneys? So We Can Give 1 Away- Podcast #441 from 2018-06-19T05:00:22
Todd and Cathy talk with Josh St. Pierre, a 42 year old full-time soccer coach who is need of a kidney. Josh explains why live liver and kidney donation is essential and how to figure out if you ar...
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Real-Time Emotional Labor- Podcast #440 from 2018-06-12T05:00:40
Todd and Cathy discuss a recent emotional labor issue and why it created an important discussion about invisible work. They also discuss the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, and discuss w...
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Negative Sticks, But Does It Have To?–Podcast #439 from 2018-06-05T05:00:09
Cathy and Todd discuss Abby Wambach’s graduation speech at Barnard and why it made such an impact. They share wisdom from Franciscan friar Richard Rohr about why it’s so easy to remember the negati...
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Why Are Women So Tired? A Talk with Karen Brody, Author of Daring To Rest- Podcast #438 from 2018-06-01T05:00:47
Cathy and Todd talk with Karen Brody, author of Daring to Rest: Reclaim Your Power with Yoga Nidra Rest Meditation. They discuss why women feel so much pressure to be productive, and why we need to...
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Reparent Yourself- Podcast #437 from 2018-05-29T05:00:44
Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Robin Berman’s book, Permission to Parent, and also her interview on the goop podcast. They discuss how our brain grows on love, why group-think starts in childhood, and ...
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True Crime And Pop Culture- An Interview With International Best Selling Author Charlie Donlea- Podcast #436 from 2018-05-25T05:00:56
Cathy and Todd talk with International Best-Selling Author Charlie Donlea. They talk about each of his three books including his latest and greatest"Don't Believe It" They also talk pop culture, ...
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Intersectionality- Podcast #435 from 2018-05-22T05:00:27
Cathy and Todd discuss intersectionality, a way of describing how multiple threats of discrimination exist when an individual’s identities overlap with several minority classes — such as race, gend...
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Moms Demand Action (Part 1): A Path To Common Sense Podcast #433 from 2018-05-18T05:00:04
In part 1 of this 2 part interview- Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, and Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action C...
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Moms Demand Action (Part 2): A Path To Common Sense Podcast #434 from 2018-05-18T05:00:04
In this two-part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence,&Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in El...
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How To Raise An Adult (Part 2)- Podcast #432 from 2018-05-15T05:00:21
Todd and Cathy continue discussing Julie Lythcott-Haims’ book, How to Raise an Adult, specifically focusing on what our kids should know before they venture out on their own. They share a clip from...
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How To Raise An Adult (Part 1)- Podcast #431 from 2018-05-08T05:00:08
Todd and Cathy discuss a practical checklist of what kids need before they go to college written by Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult. The checklist offers intention and clarity...
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I Feel Pretty- Podcast #430 from 2018-05-01T05:00:41
Cathy and Todd discuss the Super Soul Podcast conversation between Amy Schumer and Oprah about her new movie, I Feel Pretty. They talk about trusting your intention, why emotional labor is vital to...
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The Profound Loneliness of American Men- Podcast #429 from 2018-04-24T05:00:59
Todd and Cathy discuss the emotional challenges of American men and why this impacts every part of our society. Their guests, Frank Naugo and Shaun Emerson, discuss why men struggle with intimacy, ...
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How To Value Each Other- Podcast #428 from 2018-04-17T05:00:50
Todd and Cathy discuss “moral outrage” and how to use it to create positive change. They explain how society tends to value a clean and concise way of thinking, but how thinking out of the box or s...
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“Better”Zen Parenting #427 from 2018-04-10T05:00:24
Todd and Cathy welcome their friends John and Julie Duffy, hosts of the Better Podcast (formerly titled Undue Anxiety). They talk about Tony Robbins, the #MeToo movement, and why listening and resp...
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Less Show, More Soul #426 from 2018-04-03T05:00:08
Cathy and Todd discuss how to recognize when we are showing up authentically rather than performing. They also discuss how to deal with a child who seems consistently disappointed, and why taking r...
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The 4 Types of Fear Podcast #425 from 2018-03-27T05:30:13
Todd&Cathy Discuss the 4 different types of fears as described by Iyanla Vanzandt, Dierk's Bentley, Bruce Willis'wine cooler commercial, Eddie Murphy's single"Party All The Time", and how we've all...
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Focus Your Energy- Podcast# 424 from 2018-03-20T05:30:26
Todd shares a story of a softball coach who proclaims"boys are stronger than girls"and what happened after that statement was made. They also discuss why focusing on too many things makes us feel o...
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How Do I Get My Partner To….- Podcast# 423 from 2018-03-13T05:30:48
Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” - they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wan...
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3 Forces For Good- Podcast# 422 from 2018-03-06T05:30
Todd and Cathy discuss Cheryl Strayed, MILCK, Mike Domitrz and all the goodness from the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss the most frequently asked question ZPR question, the Oscars, and...
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Manifesto To End Busyness- Podcast #421 from 2018-02-27T05:30:10
Todd and Cathy discuss The Gentle Warrior’s Manifesto to Reduce Busyness from Courtney Carver’s book, Soulful Simplicity, and they discuss a Freakonomic’s podcast titled After the Glass Ceiling, A ...
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Teenage Wisdom Podcast #420 from 2018-02-20T05:30:42
Todd and Cathy discuss the Parkland tragedy, and talk about why it’s time to take action to keep our kids safe at school. They explain how we can take on all pieces of the puzzle – common sense law...
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Humility&Procrastination Podcast #419 from 2018-02-13T05:30:09
Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, wh...
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Fault&Responsibility- Podcast #418 from 2018-02-06T05:30:22
Todd and Cathy share some of the touching and funny Superbowl commercials, and they discuss a video of Will Smith explaining why fault and responsibility are two different things. Cathy shares some...
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Finding Strength- Podcast #417 from 2018-01-30T06:40:46
Cathy and Todd discuss the road to wellness and why shame, judgment, anxiety, and hope all play a role. They also discuss why asking for help is so essential, and why asking for help is an act of b...
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Honesty&Healing- Podcast #416 from 2018-01-23T05:30:31
Cathy and Todd discuss the challenges of healing and why honesty and support are essential. They talk about how each of us are challenged to do hard things, and how not doing our own work leads to ...
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Cathy’s Recovery&Sarah Silverman Podcast #415 from 2018-01-16T05:30:30
Todd+Cathy discuss Cathy's recovery of the flu as well as an inspirational exchange between Sarah Silverman and one of her followers.
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Cathy Has The Flu Podcast #414-1/2 from 2018-01-11T05:02:42
Yup- Cathy has the flu :( We're gonna shoot for another one at the end of the week. if not, next Tuesday for sure. Sorry for the inconvenience. Keep truckin'Todd
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The Art of Fulfillment- Podcast #414 from 2018-01-02T00:00
Todd+Cathy discuss how to “let go” and “bring in” for the new year, and how to wake up to our lives in 2018. They discuss how Steve Bartman and Bill Buckner became the scapegoats for their perspect...
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These Are a Few Of Our Favorite Things- Podcast #413 from 2017-12-26T00:00
Cathy and Todd discuss their favorite things from 2017, and share why faith played a big role this year. They answer some questions posed in the Tim Ferriss book, Tribe of Mentors, reflect on growi...
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Meaning Creates Joy- Podcast #412 from 2017-12-19T00:00
Todd and Cathy talk about how meaning relates to happiness and joy, and how this knowledge can make our holidays less stressful and our parenting more conscious. They also discuss the benefits of F...
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#Metoo. So What Now? An Interview with Mike Domitrz- Podcast #411 from 2017-12-15T00:00
Todd and Cathy talk with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Date Safe Project and 2018 Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker. They discuss they #metoo movement and what comes next – how does this chan...
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Less Perfect, More Peace- Podcast #410 from 2017-12-12T00:00
Cathy and Todd share how we can take care of ourselves and say no during the holidays without feeling guilt. They discuss Shauna Niequist’s book Present Over Perfect and why our decision to be good...
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9 Statements For Women Podcast #409 from 2017-12-05T00:00
Todd and Cathy discuss how inequality can lead to challenging and often unconscious communication, and they share some civil statements that women can use to feel heard. They discuss common unconsc...
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We Are Differently The Same- Podcast #408 from 2017-11-28T05:30:07
Todd and Cathy discuss how they experience the world differently, and why understanding and respecting these differences lead to better communication. They talk about why connection is like nourish...
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The Gift Of Failure- Podcast #407 from 2017-11-21T05:30:56
Todd and Cathy discuss Jessica Lahey’s The Gift of Failure, and discuss why allowing our kids to make mistakes will help them succeed. They also discuss the difference between intrinsic and extrins...
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The Five Invitations- Podcast #406 from 2017-11-14T05:30:30
Cathy and Todd discuss The Five Invitations, a book that shows us how to wake up fully to our lives. As a compassionate teacher and cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, author Frank Ostaseski supp...
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Emotional Labor is an Unpaid Job- Podcast #405 from 2017-11-07T05:30:57
Todd and Cathy discuss an article in Harpers Bazaar titled “Women aren’t nags, we’re just fed up” about emotional labor and the sensitivity surrounding this topic. They discuss how to have a produc...
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It’s OK To Let Go–Podcast #404 from 2017-10-31T05:30:56
Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s OK for kids to change their minds and try new things, and why it’s important for adults to do this, too. They discuss how self-awareness is essential, and how self-f...
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From Refugee Camp To An Engineer- Podcast #403 from 2017-10-27T05:30:34
Cathy and Todd talk with Roksanna Taghizadeh, an immigrant who grew up in Iran, became a refugee in Germany, and eventually made it to the United States where she became an structural engineer. She...
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Cell Phones&Getting Uncomfortable- Podcast #402 from 2017-10-24T05:30:11
Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s OK to be uncomfortable, and why focusing on what works and what we are grateful creates the foundation to deal with discomfort. They reference the Good Newspaper, an...
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#MeToo Podcast #401 from 2017-10-17T05:30:47
Cathy and Todd discuss the power of #metoo (a hashtag for anyone who has been sexually harassed or assaulted) and why sharing stories and listening to each other paves the way for change. They also...
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Equality Connects Us- Podcast #400 from 2017-10-10T05:30:45
On their 400th episode, Cathy and Todd discuss why they started Zen Parenting, how it’s changed, and why equality, compassion, and connection motivate them to keep going. They share their favorite ...
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Brain Trusts, Civility,&Compassion- Podcast #399 from 2017-10-03T05:30:49
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of civility when we have different opinions or viewpoints, and offer some definitions and research from Brenè Browns book, Braving the Wilderness. They also di...
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Peer Health Exchange: Improving the mental and physical lives of young people- Podcast #398 from 2017-09-29T05:30:11
Cathy and Todd talk with Danya Rosen, Executive Director of the Chicago Peer Health Exchange, an organization that empowers young people with the knowledge, skills, and resources to make healthy de...
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The Wilderness&The Keeper- Podcast #397 from 2017-09-26T05:30:54
Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s book, Braving the Wilderness, specifically the difference between “fitting in” and “true belonging”, and why listening and civility are our ways back to each ot...
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Success And Momentum- Podcast #396 from 2017-09-19T05:30:05
Todd and Cathy discuss Simon Sinek’s definition of success and why momentum is the key. They talk about the best predictor of whether or not we will view our lives as successful (and it has nothing...
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Safe Spaces, Triggers, and Civility- Podcast #395 from 2017-09-12T05:30:15
Cathy and Todd discuss The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech by Jean M. Twenge about the millennial generation (otherwise known as iGen) and why they are different. They discuss how they were ...
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A Checklist For Self-Compassion- Podcast #394 from 2017-09-05T05:30:49
Cathy and Todd offer ways to practice and recognize self-compassion, and explain why our ego tends to argue against too much self-love (but why we don’t have to listen…). They discuss lovingkindnes...
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Angst: Let’s Talk About Anxiety- Podcast #393 from 2017-08-29T05:30:13
Cathy and Todd discuss anxiety, how and why it shows up, and why it’s important topic of conversation in every home. They discuss their documentary screening of Angst: Normalizing the Conversation ...
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Be a Force For Good- Podcast #392 from 2017-08-22T16:06:43
Todd and Cathy reveal their three speakers for the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference, and explain why each of them is a force for good. They discuss candor, wisdom, kindness, and responsibility, and of...
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There’s Room For All Of Us- Podcast #391 from 2017-08-15T10:30:33
Cathy and Todd discuss fear-based thinking, what happened in Charlottesville, and how an abundance mindset can shift the way we relate to each other. They answer listener questions about a husband ...
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Good Grit, Bad Grit- Podcast #390 from 2017-08-08T10:30:45
Cathy and Todd discuss Caroline Adams Miller’s book Getting Grit, about what grit really means, and why we need to be thoughtful about the kind of grit we are using and promoting. They share some c...
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Say Yes&Say No- Podcast #389 from 2017-08-01T10:30:12
Cathy and Todd discuss what a hell yes feels like, and why saying no is so important. They share an interview with Oprah on the Dear Sugar podcast where she explains how she learned to say no, and ...
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Humans Are Like Porcupines- Podcast #387 from 2017-07-25T10:30:16
Todd and Cathy discuss why humans are like porcupines, and why it’s important to stay open and use “relational ethics”, when communicating with our loved ones. They discuss Andy Murray’s subtle equ...
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Truth&Healing- Podcast #386 from 2017-07-18T10:30:59
Todd and Cathy discuss how to have honest communication with friends and why it can be helpful to be “called out” by the people we love. They also discuss why our understanding of healing is oversi...
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How To See Pain Differently- Podcast #385 from 2017-07-11T10:30:43
Cathy and Todd discuss how to embrace a challenging past by accepting it as a given rather than viewing it as a “gift” (which can sometimes feel inauthentic). This concept is taken from Sharon Salz...
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Think Differently About Fear Podcast #384 from 2017-07-04T10:30:23
Cathy and Todd share a quote from Gutsy Girl author Caroline Paul about how we can use “micro-bravery” to handle our fear. They discuss why bravery can mean different things to men and women, and w...
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Discussing Equality Is Difficult….And Necessary- Podcast #383 from 2017-06-27T10:30:19
Todd and Cathy discuss gender inequality and why Todd gets frustrated talking to men about this issue. They discuss why it’s difficult to understand inequality, how we can be better listeners, and ...
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Simple Ways to Have a More Joyful Home- Podcast #382 from 2017-06-20T10:30:26
Cathy and Todd discuss Mary Oliver’s poem Wild Geese, specifically this line – you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. They discuss that the things we love may not be ...
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Money&Happiness- Podcast #381 from 2017-06-13T10:30:54
Todd and Cathy discuss how money contributes to happiness and how our relationship with money affects our feelings of success. They reference an episode of The Good Life Project called The Truth Ab...
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Lessons From My Dad- Podcast #380 from 2017-06-06T05:25:16
Cathy’s dad recently passed away so Cathy and Todd share how he lived and what he taught them. Most importantly why culture literacy leads to a bigger heart and mind, why willingness is the key to ...
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Who’s Busier? Podcast #379 from 2017-05-30T05:30:16
Cathy and Todd discuss how to approach who’s busier in a partnership, and how to talk to a friend who thinks she’s busier than you. They discuss why “turning toward” is the key to a long-lasting ma...
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Listen To This One With Your Partner- Podcast #378 from 2017-05-23T05:25:30
Todd and Cathy discuss why “figuring out” our partner will cause frustration, but why staying present with every new experience will create intimacy. They use a post from fellow coach Jayson Gaddis...
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Free Your Mind- Podcast #377 from 2017-05-16T05:30:29
Cathy and Todd discuss why freeing ourselves from needing to be right can shift the dynamics of a conversation, and ultimately, a relationship. They share a clip of Glenn Beck from the On Being Pod...
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Portraying Girls Beyond Stereotypes- A Discussion With Jodi Bondi Norgaard- Podcast #376 from 2017-05-12T05:30:32
Cathy and Todd talk with Jodi Bondi Norgaard, founder of Dream Big Toy Company and the creator of the award-winning Go! Go! Sports Girls line of dolls and books for girls encouraging healthy and ac...
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Decrease Anxiety By Creating A Button Podcast #375 from 2017-05-09T06:58:10
Todd and Cathy discuss why teens and adults need buttons (or release valves) to manage their anxiety. They may rarely (if ever) use supports that are offered, but just knowing they are there decrea...
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Be Wise, Live The Paradox- Podcast #373 (Rebroadcast) from 2017-05-08T23:22:08
Todd and Cathy talk about how we can “comfortably hold our paradoxes”, and use examples from Danielle LaPorte to explain why this acceptance leads to wisdom. They discuss how to share information a...
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Veganism And The Environment- A Discussion With Charlie Rogers Podcast #374 from 2017-05-05T05:30:28
Todd and Cathy talk with Charlie Rogers, 17, about what it means to be a vegan and a steward of the environment. They talk climate change, carbon footprints, minimalism, education, and why it’s imp...
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Loving Bravely: A discussion with Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #372 from 2017-04-28T10:30:51
Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. They discuss why the past shows up in love relationships, t...
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Show Up, Speak Up- Podcast #371 from 2017-04-25T10:30:15
Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s important to speak up in a relationship instead of “kick the can down the road”. They discuss why intimacy is created when a couple is willing to communicate about w...
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Peace Comes From Within- Podcast #370 from 2017-04-18T10:30:04
Cathy and Todd discuss internal vs external peace, and why internal peace is the key to contentment. They talk about “good enough parenting” and share why Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intell...
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Ride The Waves Podcast #369 from 2017-04-11T10:30:51
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of zen, why acceptance keeps us from suffering, and how to let go when things don’t seem to be going our way. They explain what it means to be “sex positive” a...
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Acceptance, Zen,&Regret- Podcast #368 from 2017-04-04T10:30:15
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of zen, why acceptance keeps us from suffering, and how to let go when things don’t seem to be going our way. They explain what it means to be “sex positive” a...
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Be Your Own Guru- Podcast #367 from 2017-03-28T10:30:41
Todd and Cathy discuss the importance of balancing studentship and maintaining your own perspective. Teachers are necessary and helpful in guiding us through life, but it’s also important to ground...
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Buck up Or Console? Finding The Middle Ground- Podcast #366 from 2017-03-21T10:30:27
Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between telling your kid to buck up and offering them consolation, and why it’s not one or the other, it’s both. They also explain why it’s importance to answe...
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How To Have A Conversation When We Disagree- Podcast #365 from 2017-03-14T10:30:35
Cathy and Todd discuss Megan Phelps Roper’s TED talk titled,"I grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church, here’s why I left”. She explains how rational and considerate conversation allowed her to see ...
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10,000 Joys, 10,000 Sorrows- Podcast #364 from 2017-03-07T11:30:10
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of 10,000 Joys and 10,000 Sorrows, and explain why acceptance of both leads to a more balanced and calm life. They discuss Mark Nepo’s interpretation of what i...
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We Are Here- Podcast #363 from 2017-02-28T11:30:47
Cathy and Todd share the highlights from their conference, including the messages of their speakers, Rob Bell, Rosalind Wiseman, and Ali Smith. They process their Friday night talk, specifically fo...
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Live Without Regrets Podcast #362 from 2017-02-21T11:30:48
Todd and Cathy discuss the top ten things that adults usually regret – why they regret them, and how to view these things differently. They answer two listener questions – one about lying to the sc...
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Walk In Someone Else’s Shoes- Podcast #361 from 2017-02-14T12:00:48
Todd and Cathy discuss Valentine’s Day and how we can find ways to love ourselves and others every day. They also discuss the importance of understanding another’s perspective, and how we can incor...
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Tell The Truth 5 Different Ways- Podcast #360 from 2017-02-07T12:00:12
Cathy and Todd discuss five truths, as explained by Neale Donald Walsh in his book Conversations with God, Vol 2. They also discuss the variability of feelings, how to determine what you are feelin...
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How To Deal- Podcast #359 from 2017-01-31T12:00:09
Cathy and Todd share tens ways we can deal with the challenges our world is facing. Specifically focusing on how we can support ourselves and the ones we love, and how we can help and give back to ...
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I Can’t Keep Quiet- Podcast #358 from 2017-01-24T12:00:34
Cathy and Todd talk about the Chicago Women’s March – why it happened, who was there, and what comes next. They also discuss self-awareness and the “4 ways of being in the world” as described by th...
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The Five Essential Questions in Life- Podcast #357 from 2017-01-17T12:00:38
Cathy and Todd discuss The Five Essential Questions in Life, proposed by Dean James Ryan during a Harvard Graduate School of Education commencement speech. They also discuss the power of words and ...
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Mindfulness&Connection- A Talk With Annmarie Chereso: Podcast #356 from 2017-01-13T12:00:18
Cathy and Todd talk with Annmarie Chereso, founder of Bring It! Home, an organization that offers programs to increase wellbeing and conscious leadership in the home and school. They talk mindfulne...
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Take Turns Being Cloudy&Clear Podcast #355 from 2017-01-10T12:00:15
Cathy and Todd discuss how experiences can “rearrange” us, causing us to open our heart wider, or close ourselves tighter. They process how relationships are a back and forth, and how in the words ...
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Foster Care&Adoption: Children are Waiting- Podcast #354 from 2017-01-06T12:00:13
Cathy and Todd talk with Susan McConnell from Let It Be Us about foster care in Illinois and throughout the country. They also talk with Kyle Osterhues and his mom Carolyne about his experience in ...
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Be curious, not judgmental- Podcast # 353- (fixed) from 2017-01-03T17:24:45
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of listening to others and being open to differing perspectives. They share quotes such as Polish your mind with the minds of others and Be an expert who is in...
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Feeling Good- Podcast #352 from 2016-12-27T12:00:51
Todd and Cathy share wisdom from Wayne Dyer and Tony Robbins about feeling good and why it increases our ability to parent well. They also discuss Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls and why this bo...
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Find Meaning- Podcast #351 from 2016-12-20T12:00:09
Cathy and Todd process why paradox allows us to become more self-aware and open-minded. They also discuss why it’s important to be an “emotional leader” and find meaning in our decisions. They shar...
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Kindness As Empowerment- Podcast #350 from 2016-12-13T12:00:05
Cathy and Todd discuss why kindness is empowering and why practicing kindness makes you healthier and much less stressed. They also discuss why self-awareness is essential in monitoring our own rea...
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Connecting In The Land Of Dementia Podcast- #349 from 2016-12-09T12:00:14
Taking care of our parents: A discussion with Deborah Shouse, author of Connecting in the Land of Dementia Todd and Cathy talk with Deborah Shouse and her brother Dan about what it means to be a “...
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Truth&Reality- Podcast #348 from 2016-12-06T12:00:01
Todd and Cathy discuss fake news and where to find trustworthy information (as explained on Planet Money). They also discuss lessons from former NBA player Chris Herren, and why this coach thinks s...
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Building a culture of consent and respect: A discussion with Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project Podcast #347 from 2016-12-02T06:00:13
There are so many questions about relationships, sexual intimacy, consent, bystander intervention and supporting survivors, it can be feel overwhelming. Confusion is widespread in schools, college ...
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Ten Hints for Using Here and Now–Podcast #346 from 2016-11-29T12:00:01
[powerpress] Cathy reads ten hints from her grandmother’s notebook, a “here and now” list (what we would call mindfulness) that her grandmother transcribed in the 70’s. Cathy and Todd discuss the ...
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Undue Anxiety with Dr. John Duffy- Podcast #345 from 2016-11-25T12:00:06
Todd and Cathy welcome back Dr. John Duffy and his wife Julie to discuss why so many people are dealing with undue anxiety. They process why it’s difficult to discuss, where it’s coming from, and w...
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Show Up And Accept What Is Podcast #344 from 2016-11-22T12:00:22
Cathy and Todd discuss why “some things in life cannot be fixed, they can only be carried”, a quote taken from Megan Devine, therapist and grief teacher. She shares that most of what passes for gri...
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Let’s talk about Mental Wellness – An interview with Alexa James, NAMI Chicago’s Executive Director Podcast #343 from 2016-11-18T12:00:52
We talk with Alexa James, Executive Director of the National Alliance of Mental Illness (NAMI), Chicago. She explains the importance of sharing our stories to de-stigmatize mental health, and how l...
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Create Beautiful Things Podcast- #342 (Fixed) from 2016-11-15T18:06:02
Cathy and Todd explore how art, creativity, and imagination have the power to create change (highlighting Cathy’s blog about The Beatles bringing the country together). They also discuss the differ...
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The Grass Grows Through- Podcast #341 from 2016-11-10T23:42:14
Cathy and Todd process why the election felt shocking and how we can take care of ourselves. They discuss how nature always find a way, how we can organize in our homes and in our communities to cr...
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Live in the Grey- Podcast #340 from 2016-11-08T12:00:43
Cathy and Todd talk about how living in the black and white keeps us from listening to each other, but if we live in the grey, we remain open, curious, and empathetic. They talk politics, parenting...
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A Long Swim Part 2- An Interview With Doug&Susan McConnell Podcast #339 from 2016-11-01T11:00:16
The following is the second half of a 2 part interview we did with our friends Doug and Susan McConnell. Doug is a marathon swimmer. If you haven’t heard it yet, I recommend you go back and liste...
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A Long Swim Part 1- An Interview With Doug&Susan McConnell Podcast #337 from 2016-10-28T11:00:41
There are 7 billion people walking the earth right now. There have been 5,000 people who have successfully summited Mount Everest. Just over 1600 human beings have swam the English channel- Today...
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Be Kind To It, And Let It Be Kind To You Podcast #336 from 2016-10-25T11:00:26
Cathy and Todd discuss the book On Living by Hospice Chaplain Kerry Egan, and focus in on the three things we can do with pain: accept it, be kind to it, and let it be kind to you. They also share ...
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Recognizing Our Unconscious Bias and Triggers- Podcast #335 from 2016-10-18T11:00:12
Cathy and Todd discuss unconscious bias and how our “brain shortcuts” can cause us to deviate from our true values. They also discuss why people get triggered and how we can differentiate between p...
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Curiosity, Decency, and Motivation Podcast #334 from 2016-10-11T11:00:50
Cathy and Todd discuss sexual assault, how it’s an act of power and control, and why so many women are using the #notokay hashtag. They share research from Daniel Pink, author of Drive, about how t...
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Misery Loves Company–Or Does It? Podcast #333 from 2016-10-04T11:00:36
Cathy and Todd discuss why misery loves company and how we can better support each other through failures and success. They also process why pain isn’t a competition, and how what we focus on creat...
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Use Your Energies Wisely- Podcast #332 from 2016-09-27T11:00:22
Cathy and Todd discuss that we all have energy to share, but we have to be conscious of how we use it so it doesn’t get misdirected or used to harm. Todd shares his metaphorical paddle boarding exp...
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What If? Podcast #331 from 2016-09-20T11:00:18
What if we questioned how we looked at things, said things, believed things? Cathy and Todd discuss Heidi Stevens article from the Chicago Tribune about how using “what if” in front of our kids sta...
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Raising Digital Natives: A discussion with Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise Podcast #330 from 2016-09-16T11:00:56
Cathy and Todd talk with author Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise about appreciating the benefits of technology in the home while monitoring overuse and inappropriate content. They also discuss...
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Dealing With Pain Podcast #329 from 2016-09-13T11:00:26
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance and transformational experience of pain using the wisdom of Louis CK, Glennon Doyle Melton, Brene Brown, and Pema Chodron. They process how and why we are hard...
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What Is Men’s Work? Podcast #328 from 2016-09-09T06:00:05
We interview Erik Treese and Bryan Thomas from The Mankind Project. The Mankind Project is a global brotherhood that conducts challenging and highly rewarding programs for men at every stage of li...
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Grow (in the familiarity of your interiors) Podcast #327 from 2016-09-06T11:00:10
Cathy and Todd discuss what “the familiarity of your interiors” means, and why it’s vital for personal growth and healthy relationships. They talk about the Little League World Series, specifically...
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Rituals And Change Podcast #326 from 2016-08-30T11:00:48
Cathy and Todd discuss why change is a type of loss and how rituals can acknowledge meaning, slow down time, and connect us. They offer many examples of rituals, explain why ritual is different tha...
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Three People You Need To Know- Podcast #325 from 2016-08-23T11:00:56
Todd and Cathy announce and discuss the speakers for their 2017 Zen Parenting Let’s Get Real Conference. New York Times Best-Selling Author and Oprah favorite Rob Bell, parenting educator and autho...
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A Very Brady Podcast #324 from 2016-08-16T11:00:05
Cathy and Todd discuss how The Brady Bunch is a great learning tool and why it’s still relevant today. They answer a listener’s question about how to help her son with friendships, and why caring a...
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Give Up Control- Podcast #323 from 2016-08-09T11:00:58
Todd and Cathy discuss how when we give up control, we recognize that we never had control in the first place. They process what it means to have humility, be patient with the “not knowing”, and be...
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Words&Images Matter- Podcast #322 from 2016-08-02T11:00:28
Todd and Cathy discuss the book Words Can Change Your Brain and process why “compassionate communication” supports healthy relationships and the brain development of our children. They also discuss...
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Keep Peace Inside To Keep Peace Outside- Podcast #321 from 2016-07-26T11:00:45
Cathy and Todd discuss how we can shift the dynamics of any situation by “flipping the script” (as explained in this Invisibilia podcast). They also discuss why we have to keep peace inside so we c...
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It Was The Best Of Times…Podcast #320 from 2016-07-19T11:00:06
Cathy and Todd discuss how to process the continuous bad news and stay in a place of compassion. They talk about the importance of mercy and grace, and how we can all contribute to a ripple effect ...
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Privilege and Compassion- Podcast #319 from 2016-07-12T11:00:10
Cathy and Todd discuss privilege and why self-awareness is essential when we are talking about societal racism. They also discuss why recognizing injustice is not synonymous with taking sides, how ...
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Why Won’t My Kids Try Anything New?- Podcast #318 from 2016-07-05T11:00:42
Cathy and Todd discuss why we “force” our children to try new things, and why this is usually about our fear rather than theirs.
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Coming out at 60–One woman’s journey #317 from 2016-07-01T11:00:13
Todd and Cathy talk with Georgia DeClark, preschool teacher and parent coach who’s life took a dramatic turn when she decided to come out at 60.
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Be Content In This Moment- Podcast #316 from 2016-06-28T13:00:08
…so you can be content when you achieve your goals. Cathy and Todd talk about why striving and goal-setting can keep us from contentment, and why money doesn’t equal happiness. They discuss why act...
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Jill Salzman from Founding Moms: Support for Female Entrepreneurs- Podcast #315 from 2016-06-24T11:00:32
Todd and Cathy talk with entrepreneur Jill Salzman about Founding Moms, a collective of offline meetups and online resources (based all over the world) where mom entrepreneurs can exchange, connect...
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We Can Work It Out- Podcast #314 from 2016-06-21T11:00:58
Cathy and Todd discuss Orlando, gun legislation, and how we can better communicate about our differences. Todd shares why not hearing “Happy Father’s Day” led to a two-hour conversation about the e...
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Healthy Masculinity, Healthy Femininity Podcast #313 from 2016-06-14T11:00:33
Cathy and Todd discuss the Stanford rape case, the presidential campaign, and why embracing healthy masculinity and femininity is the key to meaningful change. They also discuss how anger can be pa...
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Talking To Kids About Fear Podcast #312 from 2016-06-07T11:00:37
Cathy and Todd discuss talking to kids about fear - how to notice it, normalize, and get creative with it. They process why parents need to acknowledge their own fear so they can authentically talk...
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Sleep, Sex,&Work- Podcast #311 from 2016-05-31T11:00:07
Cathy and Todd discuss some listener questions about toddler sleep issues, a 6-year-old who wants to know more about sex, and why work jargon can be so annoying. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd boo...
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National Runaway Safeline- Help For A Silent Crisis- Podcast #310 from 2016-05-27T11:00:11
Todd and Cathy talk with Maureen Blaha, Executive Director of the National Runaway Safeline, a support and intervention system for youth and parents. Maureen shares why teens runaway and how famili...
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Why We Do What We Do- Podcast #309 from 2016-05-24T11:00:43
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the need for validation, why it’s important to become aware of our needs, and sometimes put them aside, to connect with our kids, and how we can better support e...
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The 7-Year-Old In You–Podcast #308 from 2016-05-17T11:00:56
Cathy and Todd discuss their difficult conversation and how they went “in and out of child” – is your present-time self talking or is it your 7-year-old? Your inner 7-year-old has a right to be the...
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Choose Your Own Story- Podcast #307 from 2016-05-10T11:00:08
Have you seen the movie or stage production of Once? The movie starred musician Glen Hansard, and his interview on Sam Jone’s Off Camera podcast led to a deep discussion about education, parenting,...
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Life’s Too Short To Feel Like Crap Podcast #306 from 2016-05-03T11:00:30
Cathy and Todd talk about suffering and why we either transform it, or we transmit it (quote taken from Richard Rohr). They also discuss why it’s important to celebrate young women, why talking abo...
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Your Questions Answered Podcast # 305 from 2016-04-29T11:00:36
We've been inundated with listener questions so we decided to dedicate an entire show to answering them. Below are the topics as well as the time stamps for each question: 3:15 Chakras and toddle...
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Spring Clean Your Mind Podcast #304 from 2016-04-26T11:00:56
Cathy and Todd discuss an article from the Chicago Tribune about getting rid of emotional and mental clutter. They process the devastation around Prince’s death, but Todd thinks he has alexithemia ...
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Do you have an intuitive or sensitive child? An interview with Dr. Therese Rowley (Part Two) #303 from 2016-04-22T11:00:37
In the second part of our interview with Dr. Therese Rowley, Therese says Cathy has"clairsentience", she challenges me to remove love some of the walls i have built up, and gives parents of hyper-a...
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15 Seconds To Joy Podcast #302 from 2016-04-19T11:00:45
Cathy and Todd explain how negative experiences stick immediately, but it takes 15 seconds of savoring a positive experience for it to imprint on the brain. They also discuss why judging or fightin...
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Do you have an intuitive or sensitive child? An interview with Dr. Therese Rowley (Part 1) #301 from 2016-04-15T11:00:14
Does your child seem intuitive, gifted, or sensitive? Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Therese Rowley, author, consultant, skilled intuitive and innovative educator who challenges us to see sensitive c...
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Emotional Hygiene Podcast #300 from 2016-04-12T11:00:35
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of “emotional hygiene” (as explained by the Dalai Lama) and why boundaries lead to more compassion (as explained by Brenè Brown). They also discuss how we can ...
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Forget Punishment, How About Kindness? Podcast #299 from 2016-04-05T11:00:32
Cathy and Todd discuss the 60 Minutes report about the prison system in Germany and how they put rehabilitation above retribution. They also discuss the article in The Atlantic about punish-free pa...
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Kindness&EQ- Podcast #298 from 2016-03-28T11:00:56
Cathy and Todd discuss how emotional intelligence and “cognitive control” lead to our ability to be kind. They also discuss the relationship between EQ, grit, and resilience, and why paying attenti...
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The Key To Self Understanding Podcast #297 from 2016-03-22T11:00:52
Cathy and Todd discuss self regulation and self organization and why it’s essential for self understanding and relationship building. They discuss the definition of the mind, how the brain processe...
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Teaching Your Kids About Money Podcast#296 An Interview With Bill Dwight From Famzoo.com from 2016-03-18T11:00:32
We interview Bill Dwight, the Founder of Famzoo.com. Famzoo is an online family banking designed for kids, teens, and parents. With this amazing resource, it makes it easier for families earn, sav...
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Be Curious About Your Fear- Podcast #295 from 2016-03-15T11:00:18
Cathy and Todd discuss their experience at the Zen Parenting Conference, they process why it’s important to be curious about your fear, and they answer a listener’s question about feeling continuou...
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Diplomatic Parenting Podcast #294 from 2016-03-08T12:00:09
Cathy and Todd discuss the definition of diplomacy and why it’s important in parenting as well as in government (micro and macro level). They also discuss the true and false self (as explained by D...
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Part 2- Divisive Issues: How Do We Talk, How Do We Listen? Podcast #293 from 2016-03-04T12:00:27
This is Part 2 of this discussion, Part 1 aired on March 1st and can be found @ http://zenparentingradio.com/292 Cathy and Todd discuss the many issues raised at the Academy Awards (race, sexual a...
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Part 1- Divisive Issues: How Do We Talk, How Do We Listen? Podcast #292 from 2016-03-01T12:00:21
Cathy and Todd discuss the many issues raised at the Academy Awards (race, sexual assault, sexual abuse, the environment), why they are necessary to discuss, and what each of us can do to be more e...
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Grow Or Die Podcast 291 from 2016-02-26T12:00:16
Todd and Cathy discuss the literal and spiritual definition of grow or die, and share why this universal wisdom keeps us in alignment with ourselves and others. They also discuss the brain of an in...
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Staying Connected And A Changing School System Podcast #290 from 2016-02-23T11:37:36
Staying connected and a changing school system Cathy and Todd discuss why our relationship with our children needs to change and evolve as they age, and why it’s important to be creative in mainta...
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A Discussion With Dr. Shefali Tsabary (Replay) Podcast #289 from 2016-02-19T17:38:08
This podcast is a replay of an interview we did with Dr. Shefali Tsabary who is our keynote speaker @ the Zen Gets Real Conference on March 11th and 12th. We hope to see you there!!!! We intervie...
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