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5 Good Things Narcissists PROMISE...but NEVER DELIVER!!! from 2023-12-12T05:37:17
Narcissistic Hijackals know what you want. Yet, they withhold giving it to you. They know what you need. Yet, they refuse to fulfill it. They know how to make you happy, but prefer disappointing...
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NEVER TRUST A NARCISSIST from 2023-12-05T05:09:36
You want to be able to trust a person, right? It's natural. It's healthy. Yet, you cannot trust narcissists or any variation of Hijackal. And, I know you want to.
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10 Ways You Can Get Used to Being Emotionally Abused from 2023-11-28T04:45:28
Little by little, nasty, bitter, unfair things start becoming part of the day-to-day with a narcissist. Those Hijackals are relentless in wearing you down and getting their way, right?
27 Sneaky, Nasty Ways Narcissists Try to Rule the Roost from 2023-11-21T04:52:49
Some Hijackals are subtle, some are sneaky. All are to keep your relationship in chaos, preferably with you giving in to their whims, demands, and expectations. Most of all, they want to be in c...
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Don't Let A Hijackal Harden Your Heart. Harden Your Attitude Towards Them. from 2023-11-14T04:53:20
When you're on guard every minute, hypervigilant about the next accusation, you might think I'm suggesting something impossible...maybe even crazy. I'm not.
It's important to recognize...
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Stop Being "Too Nice!" It encourages Hijackals. from 2023-11-07T04:38:03
You may think that it's impossible to be "too nice." It's not. It actually can make things worse...and that's just what it does when you're in a relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal.
How Crazy-Making Hijackals Use PLAUSIBILITY to Suck You In from 2023-10-31T04:11:03
Most people want to believe the stories of others. You want to be able to trust, right? So, you're inclined to be sucked in by plausible stories, excuses, reasons, etc.. Also, you don't want the...
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Top 12 Traits That Scream Hijackal!!! Don't Be in Denial. from 2023-10-24T03:25:31
You're a good person. You want to see the best in folks. You are right ready to help someone excuse their poor behavior, and be understanding. Hijackals count on that! They treat you poorly to s...
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Narcissists ARE Aggressive. Don't Poke a Hijackal on Purpose from 2023-10-17T07:22:52
Narcissists and other Hijackals are infuriating, frustrating, and crazy-making. You reach the end of your tether and you want to tell them everything that's wrong with them and more.
Stop Kidding Yourself. Narcissists Behave Badly&Get Worse!!! from 2023-10-03T03:57:25
You want to believe that love can change people, right? So, you give, give, and give in yet nothing really gets better beyond a half minute. You decide to give more until there is little left of...
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How Having a Narcissistic Mother Messes with You Long-term from 2023-09-26T05:17:57
Male and female children are differently treated--and affected--by having a narcissistic mother. SO many things you may never have thought much about!
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TOXIC SHAME - Why Narcissists NEED You to Feel WORTHLESS from 2023-09-19T03:49:28
Unless they want something badly, narcissists want you to be in emotional chaos. In fact, they want you to feel less than and inadequate. Back-handed and blindsiding, they do their best to keep ...
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Is THIS Narcissistic? Q&A with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2023-09-12T03:21:33
New! Your questions are the focus for this episode. Narcissistic or not so much? What are you wondering about?
Recognizing the patterns, traits and cycles that ARE narcissistic is wise...A...
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Triangulation is Manipulation from 2023-08-29T04:11:04
TRIANGULATION. See It. Say No, Step Away,. Understanding what triangulation really is allows you to see it more clearly and step away more readily. Get the inside scoop on this in your life. Onc...
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Saying "NO" to a Narcissist&Making It STICK! from 2023-08-22T03:32:02
Narcissists HATE to hear "NO!" You don't want to be a pretzel or a doormat, so you NEED to say NO when you mean it.
Overtime, a Hijackal® may wear you down and try to get what they wan...
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How Narcissists Create SITUATIONSHIPS NOT RELATIONSHIPS from 2023-08-15T03:13:05
It's all rosy, dreamy, and forever in the beginning...until it's not! You try and try to recapture interest, regain emotional intimacy, and re-examine every inch of your mental, physical, emotio...
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Have a NARCISSISTIC ADULT CHILD? 21 Things NOT to Do from 2023-08-08T03:03:54
Having a Hijackal adult child is confusing, infuriating, disappointing, and frustrating among many other things. (And, it's worse when your child creates children!) What you DON'T do is as impor...
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Narcissists ARE Revenge-Seekers from 2023-08-01T03:22:48
You may not think about it like that, AND, it's true. Narcissists ARE Revenge-Seekers. Whether the revenge is subtle or obvious, small or huge, it's still revenge. Once you see what I mean, you'...
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Stuck on a Partner's POTENTIAL Instead of Their REALITY? from 2023-07-25T03:28:30
You can get terrible stuck--for a very long time--by buying into a partner's potential. You can see how it could be, so you hope it will be. There's the mistake. See the differences today so you...
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How NOT to Confuse BEING USED with BEING LOVED from 2023-07-18T05:45:04
It's confusing. You see what you think are loving behaviors. Then, you start wondering, but give a narcissist the benefit of the doubt. Then, you're in a pattern where things have gone lop-sided...
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Narcissists Use INSULTS Because They Can't Use LOGIC! from 2023-07-11T03:40:40
Insults are a low, low form of expressing disagreement. Not strange that narcissists stoop that low, is it? Their incessant NEED to win means they will go low in hopes of winning quickly. Sad&am...
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NARCISSISTS = The Ultimate Frenemies from 2023-07-04T04:06:23
You want a best friend and a narcissist won't be one. You want a confidante and a narcissist uses your words against you. At best, Hijackals® are frenemies. You're unsafe around them. You feel t...
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Narcissists are AWKWARD. ANGRY&ARGUMENTATIVE from 2023-06-27T03:48:20
Sure, narcissistic folks can be charming when you meet them. You just don't know what's lurking in the background, right? It can happen quickly that Hijackals® go from charming to manipulative, ...
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Giving TOO MUCH? Empathy&Compassion Can TURN TOXIC! from 2023-06-20T04:19:09
In healthy situations, you would never think that empathy and compassion could have downsides, right? When you're with a Hijackal, a narcissistic, or other endlessly difficult person, you can fi...
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Is a Narcissistic Hijackal Blowing Up Your Phone? from 2023-06-13T04:10:13
A BIG complaint I hear so often is that the partner of a narcissistic person--a Hijackal®--is blowing up their phone...daily. It's such a sign of things going sideways, and it slides into that t...
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How Narcissists EXPLOIT Your Natural Longing for Love&Belonging from 2023-06-06T05:12:21
It is natural to want to be loved and love. We organically want to belong. Absolutely! It's healthy, too. However, narcissistic people and all Hijackals excel at manipulating you and your feelin...
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Narcissists are Masters of Crazy-making WhatAboutism from 2023-05-30T04:58:21
Ever feel your head spin when you're trying to express your feelings, thoughts, wants, or needs to a Hijackal? Of course, you have. That's because they are masters of this phenomena know as What...
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NARCISSISTS! Do They Hurt You on Purpose? from 2023-05-23T04:07:28
People ask so often: Do narcissists and other HIjackals know that they are being mean, difficult, coercive, dismissive, and more? You want to know. In this episode, I'll lay it out and explain i...
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Narcissists: Rigid Thinkers Who Demand to be Right from 2023-05-16T03:38:28
Rigid thinking and what-about-ism are seriously linked. Know someone who is rigid in their thinking? They are RIGHT and that's all there is to it? And, if you don't agree with them, you're wrong...
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Why Emotional Abusers Prefer People-Pleasers Who Fawn from 2023-05-09T03:50:47
Maybe, you're too nice. You fawn. You'll do anything to keep the peace...or, at least, sidestep potential rage if you can. Peace at any price, you may say. Maybe, you find yourself fawning. (He...
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SETTLING for Crumbs Leads to EMOTIONAL MALNUTRITION from 2023-05-02T03:58:46
Narcissistic people starve you in so many ways. Every now and again a narcissist--a Hijackal--is kind, offers a compliment, or shows interest in your feelings. THOSE ARE CRUMBS. You may be ...
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Narcissists PURPOSEFULLY Misunderstand You from 2023-04-25T03:37:38
So infuriating! Endlessly frustrating! Trying to talk with a narcissistic person--or any Hijackal--can be crazy-making. It usually is if you dare to even remotely want to discuss the dynamics of...
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STOP Getting Your Exercise by WALKING ON EGGSHELLS! from 2023-04-18T03:47:07
Are you exhausted by running after pleasing someone who seems dedicated to never being pleased? That's WALKING ON EGGSHELLS. That's the game. You do everything as right as you think they want it...
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Continuous Coping = STUCK in SURVIVAL MODE from 2023-04-11T04:27:52
... and that is unhealthy -- for YOU.
Healthy relationships have equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. Toxic relationships do not. You will be coping tooooo much, and in balance tooooo...
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Why Narcissists Lie, Delay&Deny from 2023-04-05T01:46:52
SO FRUSTRATING! When you are with a narcissist or any kind of a Hijackal, you know that they use these three tactics to avoid taking responsibility for their actions. Hijackals hate accountabili...
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Stop GOING THE EXTRA MILE for a NARCISSIST! from 2023-03-28T05:10:27
It's tempting. You may think you're being "nice." After a while, you're doing all the giving. Then, it's exhausting!
Why does this dynamic happen? Why does it persist? What can you do ...
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Self-Centered vs Narcissistic. Is There a Difference? from 2023-03-21T03:27:10
Yes, narcissistic people are self-centered, but does the reverse hold true? Are self-centered people always narcissistic? Important distinctions here that can help you understand the troubling f...
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Why Narcissists Insist You're NOT GOOD ENOUGH...even though they chose you! from 2023-03-14T03:49:31
Hijackals insist you're not good enough...even though they chose you or gave birth to you. What's up with that!@##%%!? It's crazy-making and it's important to understand why this happens. And, w...
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Resentment Creates Rage&Repression. Not Good! from 2023-03-07T04:55:20
It's SO helpful to recognize the underlying resentments triggered in both a Hijackal AND their partner. Some may surprise you! Recognition leads to understanding which helps you to know your nex...
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Why It's Healthiest to Focus on Yourself, Not on the Narcissist from 2023-02-28T05:13:50
Don't Lose or Abandon Yourself!
Narcissistic people want all the attention as well as all the air in the room, right? You can find yourself giving it to them in hopes of them ...
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Why Being With a Hijackal is Like Juggling Jello from 2023-02-21T05:17:52
No Object Constancy Creates Constant Threats
Object constancy is very much missing in a relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal, and it's an essential ingredient of a health...
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SELF-DOUBT from 2023-02-14T05:02:12
Being with a narcissist or any Hijackal is exhausting! You really want to believe they love you and yet to scramble to find even little shards of evidence. Then, you make the shards sound like a...
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No Empathy = No Intimacy! from 2023-02-07T05:39:59
You look for signs that someone cares. You long for signs they love you, right? So any little glimmer seems hopeful. Yet, you feel alone, demeaned, dismissed, and ignored in so many ways. That's...
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Why You Can't Know, Like&Trust a Narcissistic Hijackal from 2023-01-31T05:14:41
They keep you guessing, don't they? Narcissists--and all Hijackals--like to keep you in uncertainty, chaos, and confusion.
You HOPE you know them, and then they make you question it.
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Do You Have an Emotional Terrorist in Your Life? from 2023-01-24T04:57:47
Partner? Parent? Sibling? Child? Someone holding you as an emotional hostage? SEE THE SIGNS!
You may be making excuses for their behavior, and not seeing their destructive, manipulativ...
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Feel Lonely WITH Your Partner? from 2023-01-17T06:23:15
Recognize These Sure Signs They Are Emotionally Unavailable
...AND, it's not your fault! You can feel VERY lonely in a supposedly close relationship. You do everything you can...
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20 Ways Childhood Trauma Shows Up In Your Adult Life from 2023-01-10T06:28:59
Wonder why you do what you do? Feel like you feel? What shaped you? Listen to this episode and check for these twenty ways you could be feeling and behaving that are result of things ...
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Got Peace? 8 Must-Haves for Emotional Well-Being from 2023-01-03T05:38:09
Are you focused on a Hijackal and not on yourself? That's just what the Hijackal wants you to do. Time for focus on your own internal well-being. In this episode, you'll hear 8 MUST HAVES, and,...
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Why Gaslighting Sadly is the Word of the Year for 2022 from 2022-12-27T06:43
It's a sad turn of events when a way of misleading and manipulating people is the word of the year for Merriam-Webster. It's TOO much. It's emotional abuse. It's TOO frequent. Have you been gasl...
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How&Why Hijackals Reject Equality from 2022-12-20T05:15:14
So frustrating, disappointing, and infuriating! Hijackals will NOT allow you to be equal in all the ways that count in a relationship. They reject it. It helps you to see it when you hear how an...
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Hijackals® = Masters of Bait&Switch from 2022-12-13T04:39:32
Promises! Proclamations! Pronouncements of just what you want to hear. Does it happen as promised? No! See tactics for what they are: ways to get you stay, or get you onside, or get around you. ...
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Handling the Horrors of Hijackal In-Laws from 2022-12-06T05:30:10
Whether they are your in-laws--parents or siblings, or your adult children's in-laws, you can feel frustrated, infuriated, diminished, dismissed, or downright denied by in-laws you need to be ri...
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Any Chance You're Addicted to the Drama? from 2022-11-29T04:56:34
You need to consider whether or not you're addicted to the drama of being with a Hijackal or any other relentlessly difficult person. You may not have ever thought about it that way, BUT it's SO...
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Are You Overcoming Codependence? from 2022-11-22T18:07:26
Good for you! Recognizing codependent self-talk is a super important part of overcoming unhealthy emotional reliance on others...particularly those Hijackal others!!! Reflect on these ten things...
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Why You Might Be Afraid to Leave an Emotional Abuser from 2022-11-15T05:37:24
Leaving an emotional abuser is taxing, difficult, and brave. So many considerations! And, if you have children, so many more.
When you're with a Hijackal, you can be too trauma-bonded ...
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Is All or Nothing Thinking RUINING Your Relationship? from 2022-11-08T04:26:20
Understanding how "all or nothing" or "black and white" thinking divides your relationship and reduces the possibilities for growing towards each other is EYE-OPENING. It's always lurking in a H...
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Hooked On HOPE a Hijackal Will Change? from 2022-11-01T05:39:14
You'll be hoping for a very long time, and is that OK with you? If you're giving yourself excuses to take action, hoping a Hijackal will change is often at the top of that list. Listen to the ep...
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How&Why to STOP ENABLING a Hijackal from 2022-10-25T03:43:44
You are likely anxious, feeling unsafe, angry, and exhausted from life with a relentless difficult Hijackal. Understanding enabling and knowing how to stop--beginning with small ways--is importa...
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Dealing with EMPATHY-DEFICIENT People from 2022-10-18T04:59:03
There's that person who seems incapable--and, also unwilling--to ever put themselves in your shoes, right? Or, that person who doesn't want to hear anything about you and always returns the conv...
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Don't Be Sucked In By Future Faking! from 2022-10-11T03:47:43
"OK, Babe, I promise you the world." But, what about delivery? Learn more about how Hijackals trick you into believing they are GOING TO do something, or WANT the same things you want. It's Futu...
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BEWARE! Why Hijackals Generalize, Globalize&Gloss Over from 2022-10-04T03:46:47
Hijackals will do whatever they think they need to do to "win" in any moment. Generalizing, globalizing and glossing over information is a strategy--a trick--they use to go for that "win." Once ...
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Working Through the GRIEF&RELIEF of Leaving a Hijackal from 2022-09-27T05:31:21
It can be such a rollercoaster! Whether you're thinking about leaving, or have left, you can run between grief and relief. Knowing how to think it through and work it through makes the journey b...
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Going NO CONTACT! from 2022-09-20T03:36
Use my "Get to NO Guilt" Strategies in this episode. You often don't get much support for going no contact with the relentlessly difficult people in your world. Folks project their sense of guil...
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Circular Conversation. Crazy-Making from 2022-08-30T05:39:37
So many parallels to being in a blender!. Those conversations that go round and round and get you right back to focusing on the Hijackal. Crazy-Making indeed. Let's recognize those circular, get...
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Some Parents Can't Love from 2022-08-23T05:41:07
Having a parent who could not love is NO reflection on your lovability! As a child, you couldn't know this. So, it became part of the fabric of who you think you are. It's NOT YOUR FAULT! Listen...
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Know a Histrionic Hijackal? A Demanding Drama King or Queen? from 2022-08-16T04:13:36
What a performance! Do you ever shake your head as you watch? And, they all too often get their way because you don't see what they're about, nor what they're up to. See them clearly so you can ...
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Why Trauma-Bonding is SO Confusing from 2022-08-09T05:26:10
Am I in love or trauma-bonded? Did my parents love me or was I trauma-bonded? Essential to know! Understanding trauma-bonding--what it looks like, sounds like, and feels like--can help you end t...
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Hijackals NEED to Play Victim from 2022-08-02T05:03:59
Oh, the webs Hijackals weave to trap you into their fabric! One of those is playing the victim, and another is the "you don't care enough for me" one. Sounds familiar? Learn more about the subtl...
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Steps to Overcoming the Emotional Fatigue Caused By a Hijackal from 2022-07-26T05:46:03
You know it. You're exhausted. Emotionally exhausted. You may have backed down so far that you feel like you're playing dead. Energy depleted and wondering where to find some.
First unders...
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10 Things You Will NEVER Get From a Hijackal Human from 2022-07-12T05:02:57
Hijackal Humans are different than Healthier Humans. You look to them to think, think& feel the way you do, but they don't. Know these 10 things you hope are going to show up in your relatio...
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10 Shattering Signs Your Partner is Having an Emotional Affair from 2022-06-28T03:31:09
"Oh, we're just friends." You want to believe that, but how do you know if it's true. Here's how to tell if that "friendship" IS emotional infidelity, an emotional affair, and/or just plain chea...
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How Emotional Abuse Creates Fear of Rejection from 2022-06-21T04:51:30
Find yourself afraid you're not good enough? You won't be hired? You won't be wanted? Loved? Accepted? Fear of rejection may be the culprit underlying those thoughts. SO IMPORTANT to recognize s...
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Recognizing How GASLIGHTING is Intentionally Crazy-Making from 2022-06-14T03:51:05
Bit by bit, you start to second-guess yourself, and even question your sanity. Gaslighting will do that! Learn what it is and how to recognize even the most subtle forms. ALSO, gaslighting is em...
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Dealing with Hijackal Lies: Pathological&Natural from 2022-06-07T04:57:44
Lies of any kind undermine trust. Big difference between folks who decide to lie and those who don't.
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How to Safely Read Narcissistic Hijackal Smiles&Smirks from 2022-05-31T04:57:41
Can you trust a smile? How do you read a smirk? What's the difference? What do they mean? When dealing with narcissistic Hijackals, you REALLY need to know! Learn about detecting signs of danger...
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How Hijackals (Narcissists) Keep You Hooked By Mixed Messages from 2022-05-24T05:17:13
Yes? No? Maybe? Someday? Your head can be spinning! What to believe? How to decide? What to pay attention to? MIXED MESSAGES keep you hooked, questioning your sanity, and second-guessing yoursel...
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How You Are Manipulated By a Narcissist's Voice from 2022-05-17T04:24:52
Whether you have a Hijackal parent, partner, sibling, or other of the narcissistic variety, knowing how they manipulate you with their voices is important to recognize. AND, they only do some of...
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6 Nasty Ways Hijackals Perpetrate Post-Separation Abuse from 2022-05-10T05:06
Relief! Yes, you think you'll feel it when you leave an emotionally abusive relationship, and you will...in some ways. Then, in too many ways, the Hijackal is likely to do everything possible to...
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Saying No to "Shoulds"&Toxic Shame from 2022-05-03T03:42:27
Who has told you what to do and how to do it? Who told you who you are and what you're worth? Did it include "shoulds" and shame? So important to recognize because it may be still playing a part...
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Why Hijackals Traffic in Guilt from 2022-04-26T04:55:06
People have learned that making another person feel guilty is a quick way to control that person's emotions...negatively. You may be so used to it and you haven't questioned whether or not you'v...
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Expectations, Agreements&Boundaries from 2022-04-19T06:42:33
When you're dealing with narcissistic Hijackals, you think one thing is in place, and the Hijackal thinks another. You think you have agreement and you sadly learn you don't. And, boundaries! SO...
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Why Hijackals Demand Enmeshment from 2022-04-12T03:58:20
So confusing to be with a demanding person! Worse to be with a demanding Hijackal who feels entitled to take center stage while walking over you to do so. Recognize the signs of enmeshment and h...
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Cognitive Dissonance from 2022-04-05T05:33:25
Crazy-making? Oh, yes. Hijackals and other narcissistic folks can create havoc. You start second-guessing yourself, and even questioning your sanity. You can't tell which end is up or where you ...
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2 Crazy-Making Patterns Hijackals Use to Confuse from 2022-03-29T04:43:21
How do Hijackals make you second-guess yourself and question your sanity? Basic to them doing that is the two patterns in this episode of Save Your Sanity. Recognizing them in all their forms ca...
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8 Ways to Stand Up to Hijackal Disrespect from 2022-03-22T03:45:46
Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people--like to dish out and scatter disrespect whenever they want to demonstrate power and control. NO! That has to stop!
In this episode, I'm ...
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Recognizing the Emotional Abuse of Chronic Criticism from 2022-03-15T04:48:12
Live with someone or raised by someone who was always finding fault? Always against something? Always putting you down? The wear and tear of these kinds of emotional abuse is immense...and conti...
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6 Sad Ways Hijackals Abandon You...while you're with them!!! from 2022-03-08T05:36:59
Wonder why you feel so alone even though you're in a relationship? Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, toxic folks--want to affect you, want to control how you feel. Abandoning you while wi...
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10 Antidotes to Anxiety Caused By Emotional Abuse from 2022-03-01T05:18:24
When you're living in anxiety, you cannot think clearly, right? Hijackals love to cause anxiety. They think it gives them power, and they look for ways to control. In order to make good decision...
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4 Debilitating Responses to Emotional Abuse from 2022-02-22T05:40:28
When you recognize that it is emotional abuse that is driving these four debilitatiing --and, therefore, unhealthy-- responses to how you're being treated (or have been treated, particularly fro...
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BEWARE the (Valentine's Day) LOVE-BOMBING from 2022-02-15T06:53:17
Many Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people--make a big statement on Valentine's Day (and, any other day they want to secure your full commitment.) LOVE-BOMBING, strangely, is yet anothe...
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How to Recognize When Hijackal Drama Turns to Trauma from 2022-02-08T07:09:48
Do you allow yourself to acknowledge that you've been traumatized, or may have been? It's an essential beginning step for understanding why you feel a certain way, or have a particularly negativ...
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Know If You're Caring, Caretaking Or Enabling! from 2022-02-01T06:05:10
You want to be a good person, a nice person. Your parents probably wanted that for you, too. Yet, you find yourself on the receiving end of emotional abuse, and you don't understand what you did...
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Recognize These 11 Traits of Emotional Immaturity from 2022-01-25T06:02:13
You cannot get blood from a stone, and you cannot get emotional intimacy with a Hijackal. Yes, in the beginning of the relationship, they do a good job of imitating a person with whom you could ...
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3 Phases of Healing From Emotional Abuse from 2022-01-18T06:39:45
You can begin healing even while you're in an emotionally abusive situation, small steps and nano-seconds of healing. Understanding my phases of healing from emotional abuse encourages you to be...
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10 Nasty Ways Hijackals Are Predictably Unpredictable from 2022-01-11T05:57:37
Too many times, you hope a Hijackal will be different. They may even promise to be, or seem to understand the need to change. But, it's just for a hot minute, right? These ten ways Hijackals gen...
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12 Ways Fawning Keeps You Stuck in Emotional Abuse from 2022-01-04T06:15:35
The Fawning Response creates a constant imbalance in a relationship. Hijackals love that! You'rehelping them control you, and you sure don't want to do that for a moment longer, right?
18 Reasons Why Emotional Abusers Prefer People-Pleasers from 2021-12-28T06:35:51
When you deeply think about these eighteen reasons, you'll recognize eighteen things you can heal so you won't attract, or keep, an emotional abuser. It's a BIG step to recognize these because y...
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Handing Hijackal Holiday Horrors from 2021-12-21T04:21:55
The holidays bring out the worst in Hijackals. I'm sure you've noticed. Why does this happen? What do you need to be watching for? And, what do you do to? This episode can help you recla...
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Worthy, Wanted&Welcome? from 2021-12-14T06:51:40
Whether it is parents or partners that make you feel worthless, unwanted, and unappreciated, it leads to emotional abuse. It's important to recognize these basic truths about emotional a...
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Living With Emotional Abuse from 2021-12-07T05:10:53
Sometimes, it's hard to see emotional abuse when it's happening. Sometimes, you were young and thought it was normal. What about now? Are you living in it, or suffering from the long-ter...
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10 Root Fears That Hijackals Prey On...Relentlessly from 2021-11-30T05:45:27
We all have things we fear, things we may not even be conscious of. Hijackals exploit your deepest root fears to manipulate and control. They make those fears worse and more real. Recogn...
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Recognizing Relationship Trauma - Past&Present from 2021-11-23T05:46:47
Everyone experiences trauma differently. Frequently, folks don't recognize or acknowledge their trauma, either. This episode will help you understand how you may--or may not--have proces...
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Why You Feel So Frozen, Stuck and Powerless With A Hijackal from 2021-11-09T05:42:49
The energetics of relationships with Hijackals can shut you down emotionally, and even physically. Understanding what happens within yourself and why can help you thaw, move, and take action in ...
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What Healthy Love Is from 2021-11-02T04:15:27
Knowing what healthy love is allows you to examine your own relationship more accurately. Don't settle for crumbs. Wait for the full meal.
Did you see healthy love growing up? Did you ...
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10 Surefire Signs of an Emotional Abuser from 2021-10-26T04:39:20
Emotional abuse. Don't ignore, tolerate, or deny it. See it clearly for what it is, AND how it is affecting you daily.
Do you feel putdown, degraded, or are your feeli...
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How Narcissistic Parents Damage Their Children - Part 1 from 2021-10-19T04:45:22
Learn about the effects the "upside down parenting" of narcissists and other Hijackals can have on your adult life and relationships. Great insights to help you make positive changes, an...
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How Hijackals Succeed at Emotional Blackmail from 2021-10-12T16:27:47
Hijackals are good at emotional blackmail. They are experts at the "Gotcha!" And, they constantly use it to their advantage. Learn more about the components of that blackmail and how to ...
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Reading the Shifting Scary Eyes of Hijackals As They Try to Control You from 2021-10-05T05:11:46
Yes, Hijackal's eyes are not the windows to their souls as much as windows into their fears and desires to control. It's real. You're not imagining it. You can feel safer with the insigh...
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Beware of Introjection&Projection! from 2021-09-28T05:02:24
You may not know these terms but you know the undercutting feeling one produces, and the scramble the other does! Very important to recognize and say no to! Listen in.
HOW TO KEEP A HIJACKAL FROM TEARING YOU DOWN from 2021-09-21T04:04:15
Hijackals--passive-aggressive. narcissistic. anti-social folks--thrive on tearing you down. Sometimes, it's a slow picking at you. Sometimes, it's a constant beratement. Either way, you ...
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HOW HIJACKALS CONFUSE YOU THROUGH COGNITIVE EMPATHY from 2021-09-14T05:08:55
Yet, it feels real, and you SO want it to be real. There's where the manipulation and confusion sets in. In this episode, I let you in on the secret that, much as you want it to be real, it isn'...
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RECOGNIZING THE MANIPULATION OF TRIANGULATION from 2021-09-07T04:08:09
Clearly see how narcissistic people try to control information flow by going through other people, their desired "flying monkeys."
Are there other people in yo...
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HIJACKALS ARE BOUNDARY BULLDOZERS from 2021-08-31T05:38:14
Setting Boundaries. Calibrating Results. Making Decisions. No matter what the Hijackal thinks they are entitled to you need to set, express, and hold boundaries. In this episode, I'll give you e...
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QUELLING THE FEAR OF REJECTION...especially from narcissistic hijackals! from 2021-08-24T05:01:39
No one likes to be rejected. It's uncomfortable, painful, and a blow to the self-confidence and self-esteem.
What can you do about it? How do you think it through...
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Are You Striving to Be Good Enough for a Narcissist? from 2021-08-17T04:54:19
Even perfection won't and can't cut it if you're in relationship with a Hijackal of any stripes. This episode will help you understand this cycle, how it works, why it won't work, and why it nee...
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ANGER&ANXIETY, HIJACKALS&YOU from 2021-08-10T05:00:12
A whole chicken and egg thing! Anger and anxiety are closely related, and it's essential to see how. Hijackals in the mix create a whole other level of mess! Listen in for hel...
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What About Complex-PTSD? from 2021-08-03T05:46:29
When you've suffered trauma, it can have a long term affect. Long-term trauma is different. In this episode, you can learn about the attributes, traits, and causes of C-PTSD to help...
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WHY HIJACKALS CREATE CHAOS&CONFUSION from 2021-07-27T05:30:47
Don't Hijackals love to stir the pot and keep it swirling? They definitely have goals in mind and one is to keep you spinning and the relationship unstable. You want that to stop. Get in...
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ARE YOU SUFFERING FROM ENABLER'S GUILT? from 2021-07-20T05:51:40
You could be suffering from enabler's guilt without knowing what is causing your fear, anxiety, or depression. THE GOOD NEWS: It doesn't have to be that way. Once you recognize what's go...
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ENMESHED, ENTRENCHED OR EMERGING EMPOWERED? from 2021-07-13T05:40:57
Enmeshed, Entrenched, and Emerging Empowered! Know the Differences so YOU can Make a Difference!
You know that being enmeshed or entrenched with another human is unhea...
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THE FAWNING RESPONSE from 2021-07-06T06:05:53
Fawning can be thought of as a step further than people-pleasing. SO, you really need to know about it. Until you become conscious of it, you may be doing it. To get your life back, and to be em...
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ARE YOU ABANDONING YOURSELF BY ENABLING OR CODEPENDENCE? from 2021-06-29T04:44:06
It is essential to recognize when you are abandoning yourself. You may think it's part of being a good person. It's a delicate balance, for sure.
How do you re-establi...
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HOW DO I KNOW IF I'M READY TO DATE AFTER A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP? from 2021-06-22T05:40:29
8 Essential Factors for Recovery After Emotional Abuse. that you need to consider even if you don't want to and just want to go get the love, fun, attention, and validation you've been m...
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RECLAIMING YOUR BODY AFTER AN EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP GUEST: Anna-Thea from 2021-06-18T18:42:19
For many women--and men, too, restoring a feeling of safety to enjoy sexual intimacy seems a long way off. Anna-Thea share invaluable insights for regaining that sense of safety. Listen
4 TYPES&3 DEGREES OF NARCISSISTIC BEHAVIOR from 2021-06-15T05:42:19
You likely give people the benefit of the doubt, or are willing to go the extra mile for them. That's healthy and usually reciprocal. Great!
BUT, when you're with ...
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10 Emotionally Abusive Things Hijackals Say Often from 2021-06-08T04:52:44
You hear the same demeaning, dismissive things from narcissistic Hijackals all the time. It wears you down and they put your down. You need tools and strategies to neutralize the poison ...
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THE DREADED SILENT TREATMENT from 2021-06-01T04:57:21
Ugh! The narcissistic Hijackal falls silent, ignores you, and won't respond. What's up with that? What are they hoping to achieve? What's your internal dialogue? What ways are most effec...
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HIJACKALS&THEIR WARPED SENSE OF FAIR, JUST&EQUAL from 2021-05-25T04:38:43
Hijackals& other narcissistic people have neither thought nor intention of leveling any playing field. No, it's about the all important winning. Why? What can you do or say? Use the ...
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8 Damaging Roles Narcissistic Parents Assign to Their Children from 2021-05-18T05:13:25
You had no choice in the role a narcissistic parent created for you and assigned to you.You were stuck with it--while usually being quite unaware of it. It's just the wa...
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Why Power is the Enemy of Love from 2021-05-14T23:56:16
Power in relationships can be a very difficult and disturbing issue. Of course, if you have a Hijackal parent, partner, sibling, or adult child, you're well aware of that! This episode w...
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How All-Or-Nothing Thinking Creates and Comes From Fear from 2021-05-11T04:12:56
Everything is a potential deal breaker when all-or-nothing thinking prevails!
People who were raised in emotional abusive homes learn to think that way. If you are with one, you may be...
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The Scam, Sham&Spam of Pseudomutuality from 2021-05-04T05:11:02
You know how some people and families both "put on a front: and are "a closed shop?" You can sense that something is off but the story they tell sounds good.They may be SO good ...
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What a Formerly Toxic CEO Learned That Transformed All His Relationships from 2021-04-29T17:26:07
Have you experienced a toxic boss? Were you one? Today's guest, Krister Ungerbock, admits to, at one time, being an aggressive boss. Maybe, even, a toxic one. He changed. Learn why and how it be...
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RECOGNIZING REACTIVE ABUSE from 2021-04-27T03:38:54
Do you ever wonder if you're the problem in a relationship when you know that the other person is forever pushing your buttons, blaming and shaming you? You may be suffering from "Reacti...
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PASTCASTING™? What it is from 2021-04-20T06:14:33
Wonder why you don't seem to create the momentum to address your toxic relationship? PastCasting™ is one way. It's my term for a well-established internal program that immediately causes you to ...
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10 Childhood Traumas You Need to Recognize & Recover From from 2021-04-15T23:46:42
Ever wonder why you give difficult or toxic people too many chances? Ever wonder why you make a plan to leave, execute it, and end up going back? It happens, and it has a reason...or twe...
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Wonder Why People-Pleasers Attract Emotional Abusers? from 2021-04-13T03:51:14
Growing up in an emotionally abusive home, or an overly compassionate home, or even and emotionally neglectful home can set you up to accept emotional abuse. It's not your fault! Listen
Feeling Stuck & Second-Guessing Yourself? from 2021-04-06T05:18:42
Yes, you are wise to be self-reflective, asking yourself "What is my part in the relationship difficulties?" #Hijackals and other toxic people want you to taking responsibility for the whole rel...
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MEN: How to Revive a Dormant Sex Life After You've Killed the Connection from 2021-04-03T20:29:35
Men, would you like to know what to say when your female partner is really angry? The answer--and many more--are in this episode with GS Youngblood, author of The Masculine in Relationship.
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Future Faking from 2021-03-30T05:35:56
All those promises! All those dreams! Was it future faking? That's a very common way that #Hijackals keep you engaged in the relationship. Learn how it works...and, what really doesn't work abou...
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Renowned Thoracic Surgeon Shares How Doctors Can Increase Empathy & Compassion from 2021-03-25T20:54:54
Why is this episode important on a show about toxic relationships? Because your doctor--and other healers--need to be empathetic, aware, interested, listening, and compassionate. Listen
7 Unhealthy Patterns You Learn Growing Up in a Narcissistic Family from 2021-03-23T04:32:58
You may not even know you picked up all this from narcissistic family dynamics in your life. When you hear these things, you may find the key to unlocking relationship difficulties you've had in...
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GASLIGHTING: Sneaky Emotional Abuse from 2021-03-16T05:34:26
Understanding the many faces of gaslighting helps you see it coming. Then, seeing it for what it is, you can discount it, reject and deny it. In this episode, I help you see ten faces of gasligh...
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How Toxic Relationships Can Wear Down Your Body & Ruin Your Health - Guest: Dr. Elizabeth Hughes from 2021-03-12T04:23:43
You may think that you're experiencing the natural wear and tear on your health. But, if you're in a toxic relationship, it is making things so much worse! Learn about the most likely ways your ...
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How to Finally Believe A Hijackal Doesn't Love You from 2021-03-09T05:32:20
You want to believe that a Hijackal--a toxic, difficult, perhaps narcissistic person--love you. You SO want to believe it. They don't have much love to give and here's 16 ways to recognize that ...
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How Hijackals Hook You Into Toxic Relationships from 2021-03-02T04:41:10
Hijackals create toxic relationships, and it's important to see the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors clearly. That's not easy, but it is necessary.
If you've been with a H...
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Can Narcissists Actually Make Lasting Changes to Stop the Abuse? GUEST: Dr. Laura Dabney from 2021-02-26T17:56:51
You hope, hope, hope that a narcissistic person will change. You buy into their promises to change. And, you cross your fingers!
Change occurs for a hot minute...or even a warm week, right...
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How to Handle the Emotional Abuse of Microaggressions Using the PWR Response from 2021-02-23T04:30:50
The small, subtle, often sneaky words, actions, and gestures that are small or brief slights, insults, insinuations, or put downs used to marginalize you are microaggressions. Listen
How Vulnerability and Healing Can Prevent Toxic Masculinity from 2021-02-19T22:09:10
Ever wondered how you could possibly find forgiveness for a seemingly unforgivable act? Like being raped, beaten, and left for dead? Today's guest, Lois Wagner, found it, and she shares that jou...
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EMOTIONAL BRAINWASHING from 2021-02-17T00:17:05
Sneaky stuff this emotional brainwashing! It often starts slowly and seems understandable. But, it continues and tips you over into second-guessing yourself and questioning your sanity, right? A...
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How the Strong Pull of Trauma-Bonding Creates Addiction to a Toxic Relationship from 2021-02-09T05:07:42
Trauma-bonding is circular. The abuser creates the trauma, and then wants you to turn to them when you're hurt and traumatized. You are traumatized by something the abuser does,...
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Recognizing The Impact of Shame in Toxic Relationships from 2021-02-05T22:37:52
Shame is often not spoken of, or acknowledged on both sides of an emotionally abusive relationship with anyone. Today's episode puts the spotlight on this component of emotional abuse, f...
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EMOTIONAL ABUSE: The High Cost of Enabling a Narcissistic Hijackal from 2021-02-02T04:25:56
You think you're doing your best, giving your all, compromising, and cooperating.
In a healthy relationship, that's great.
In a toxic relationship, you'll be expected to over-give an...
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40 Underhanded, Undermining Signs of a Toxic Relationship from 2021-01-26T05:23:27
Every now and again, everyone has an off minute, and says or does something unkind, thoughtless, or just plain hurtful. Toxic people have many traits that happen too consistently...and, too ofte...
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Have ADHD? Why You Might Be An Unwitting Hijackal Magnet from 2021-01-22T17:14:11
Toxic relationships are created when a partner exploits the vulnerabilities of the other. If you have ADHD tendencies, you may easily miss red flags as you pay attention to the charms, a...
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Why Not To Believe The Promise Of Change From A Narcissist - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2021-01-19T05:07:26
People with narcissistic tendencies and traits want to have their way, and want you to do their bidding.
If they really, really, really want something, or, if they are re...
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Got chemistry? Nice But Not Enough! from 2021-01-12T06:11:03
Hijackals use chemistry to manipulate and control you. They exploit it to feel they have power over you. It is a significant part of trauma-bonding. Get clear on what's really happening when you...
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The Endless, Exhausting Competitiveness of Hijackals in Toxic Relationships from 2021-01-05T05:53:40
Constant emotional competition is exhausting.
Most people only do it in one or two small areas of life. When you have a Hijackal parent or partner, it is a ...
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Why Narcissistic People Hijack Holidays & Ruin Celebrations from 2020-12-29T05:22:51
It's common for Hijackals to ruin holidays. Narcissistic folks can be counted on to do it, too.
What's up with that? They'll do it for any celebration.
This ...
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Recognize When It's Become Verbal Abuse! from 2020-12-22T06:54:15
You might give someone the benefit of the doubt too often. You may be on the receiving end of verbal abuse AND it's important to be clear about it.
Verbal abu...
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What's Narcissistic? What's Self-Centered,? What's Healthy? from 2020-12-15T05:15:57
The term "narcissistic" is used too commonly now, in my opinion. When people even talk about themselves a little too much for your liking, you may label it "narcissistic."
Being Successful In Spite Of A Toxic Father GUEST: Corey Poirier from 2020-12-12T19:21:22
Succeeding in spite of having toxic parents and a difficult past! We talk about that journey, and what succeeding really means. It's not about money only, but SO much more.
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The SHAME Of It All: Narcissistic, Over-Nurturing Or Needy? from 2020-12-08T06:12:07
Shame is a painful emotion caused by recognizing guilt, shortcomings or impropriety, and the basis for narcissistic, over-nurturing, and needy behaviors. SO important to recognize these ...
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Tips on Negotiating Child Custody and Visitation GUEST: Andrea Schneider, Attorney from 2020-12-05T23:52:06
Divorce is difficult, especially when you have children. Multiply the difficulties by tens if you're divorcing a #Hijackal, a #narcissistic person, or any other toxic person. Listen
Narcissistic Folks: Unable Or Unwilling To Empathize? from 2020-12-01T06:39:13
Lack of empathy in one partner creates a deficit that the other partner cannot fill...no matter how hard one tries!
Learn more about the differences in functionin...
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Isolation: A Nasty Tactic of Coercive Control from 2020-11-24T06:42:36
When you are first with a #Hijackal, you are flattered that they want you all to themselves. You're delighted that they want to be with you, and "can't get enough of you." That's the nor...
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The Differences Between Well-Formed vs Badly-Formed Love GUEST: Dr. Gary Salyer from 2020-11-21T21:48:58
Are you suffering as a result of what Dr. Gary Salyer calls "badly-formed love?"
You could be. Suffering is part of it, for sure. And, so much more.
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Intimidation and Coercive Control: How and Why It's Holding You Hostage - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2020-11-17T05:48:09
You're worn, torn, and put down. You're exhausting in every way. The #narcissist, the #Hijackal, see that as an accomplishment.
Hijackals are intimidating. They e...
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Self-Centered, Selfish Or Narcissistic? GUEST: Dr. Laura Dabney from 2020-11-14T19:37:26
There can be a razor's edge difference between a self-centered person and a narcissistic one.
Does it really matter if you know when you are dealing with them? Listen
Boomeranging: How To Leave and Stay Gone! from 2020-11-10T06:13:48
It's common for folks to desperately find their way to get away from a toxic relationship. Then, the doubts start, as well as the pleading and promises from a toxic spouse.
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How Differences in Attachment Affect the Wisdom of Staying Together GUEST: Jennifer Lehr from 2020-11-05T19:05:40
Wondering why your relationship always seems a bit off? Why you cannot get the emotional intimacy you crave?
The Attachment Style you adopted as a result of your ...
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Blame Shifting: Counteracting This Crazy-Making Way Narcissists Try To Win from 2020-11-03T06:37:41
Try these strategies and tactics to change the dynamics in your relationship with a #Hijackal when they try to avoid responsibility or accountability, even--and especially--when they fee...
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Successful Consultant Shares Her Story and Steps To Recovery From Toxic Relationships GUEST: Christie Lawler from 2020-10-30T18:52:39
An inspiring story of recovery and success after abuse in a toxic relationship! You'll be motivated by what my guest, Christie Lawler, shares. What she walked through, and went on to cre...
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Am I In A Toxic Relationship With A Hijackal? Beware, Hijackals Are Crafty! from 2020-10-27T05:36:33
Yes, it's important to recognize the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors of the relentlessly difficult people I call #Hijackals®.
In this episode, another importa...
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The Fastest Ways to Counteract Parental Alienation GUEST: Joseph Goldberg from 2020-10-23T03:48:07
When you realized your divorce was going to be difficult, I'll bet you worried about your ex talking badly about you to the children, trying to win them over. Did you?
How To Clear Your Thinking To Co-Parent With A Narcissistic Hijackal. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2020-10-20T04:12:33
You are barely out of a toxic relationship, and are hoping to grab a breath and clear your head. That's the moment co-parenting calamities start, right?
Then, you're free...
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What Highly-Sensitive People Need to Know to Escape the Trap of Emotional Abuse GUEST: Debbie Lynn Grace from 2020-10-16T04:13:13
Do you know if you are actually a highly-sensitive person? That's MUCH more than easily having your feelings hurt.
You will be VERY attractive to a person who wan...
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7 Ways Emotional Abuse Robs You Of Your Peace & Potential from 2020-10-13T03:57:01
Emotional abuse is sneaky. At first, it sometimes seems like a request that's a bit off, but you feel a compromise is in order. After awhile, everything is a bit off, and you're beginnin...
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Divorce Consultant Shares Tips On Using An Attorney vs. Representing Yourself GUEST: Jason Levoy from 2020-10-09T03:25:52
Divorcing a Hijackal? A Narcissist? A relentlessly difficult person? You may be wondering how to find an attorney that you can afford and who will be able to withstand the nastiness of all there...
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Love-Bombing Is Emotional Intoxication: How To Become Immune To It from 2020-10-06T04:43:30
When a #Hijackal love-bombs you, it's what you've waited for, hoped for, and finally think is proving that their love is real. It's a sham. It comes from their fear of being without readily avai...
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How To Get Emotional Toxicity Out Of Your Body. Guest: Dr. Heather Herington from 2020-10-02T04:05:11
Many times, people fail to realize the impact of their emotional health on their physical health. They are more likely to recognize the impact of physical health on emotional health. Tha...
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Oops! Are You Enabling A Narcissist? Steps to Stopping from 2020-09-29T04:28:55
Because you are good, kind, compassionate, or pleasing person, you may not realize the ways in which you are enabling a narcissist to continue behaving badly. You know that you cannot st...
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Embracing Intentional Living By Clearing Mindset Blocks & Limiting Beliefs GUEST: Diane Forster from 2020-09-26T00:55:57
Do you own your own power? If you've been worn down, torn down, or put down in a toxic relationship, that might not be how you feel right now. Make it a goal, and listen in to today to h...
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How Living With Or Being Raised By A Narcissist Actually Traumatizes You from 2020-09-22T06:54:04
Never underestimate the effect of having a narcissistic parent or partner! Resist the urge to downplay the verbal and emotional abuse. You're not supposed to be abused...by anyo...
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Never Good Enough? from 2020-09-15T03:08:21
Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people, have both a need and a want to make you always feel not good enough. Understand why and learn to respond in empowering ways, and t...
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Navigating The Process of Uncoupling With Less Downtime GUEST: Tonya Carter from 2020-09-10T22:44:17
When you've been hurt, it's natural to want to get the hurt out by telling your story. There's a point, though, when that needs to be replaced by your new life story. Tonya Carter has wa...
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How To Love Your Children MORE Than You Hate Your Ex And Save Precious Energy GUEST: Dr. Larry Waldman from 2020-09-04T21:14:08
Divorce is difficult for children, no matter what the reasons or circumstances. When you leave a #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult person, a narcissistic person, a toxic person--you ha...
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Pouting Narcissistic Partners from 2020-09-01T03:34:05
SO annoying! You want to be in relationship with a grown-up and the petulant child keeps showing up instead. Today, I'm diving into what's behind their self-centered world views and warp...
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Overcoming Decision Fatigue To Escape Toxic Relationships GUEST: Robert MacPhee from 2020-08-27T19:35:51
Ever feel too tired to even try to think your way out of a paper bag?
Then, you may see thinking your way out of a toxic relationship as insurmontable on your wors...
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Crazy-Making Ambient Abuse: How to Put Your Finger On It & Call It What It is from 2020-08-25T03:46:05
You never feel safe. You're always wondering when you'll be the victim of something sneaky, nasty, or blatantly wrong. You can't quite put your finger on what it is, but it's impacting y...
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Facial Coding Expert Share Clues For Seeing Red Flags Early & Knowing When To Run Later GUEST: Dr. Dan Hill from 2020-08-20T02:13:48
I loved the TV series, Lie To Me. I watched the whole series three times. Why? Because it is fascinating to see what can be determined from the face with no words required! You likely se...
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How to Recognize Covert Narcissists: The Passive, Sad, Emotionally Neglectful "Victims" from 2020-08-18T03:18:09
It's SO "sticky" to be with a covert narcissist, a #Hijackal! By "sticky" I mean that you think they're doing something but you're not sure. You hate what they're doing but you can't qui...
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Strategies To Help Your Loved One Going Through Addiction GUEST: Jennifer Maneely from 2020-08-12T21:10:45
Heart-wrenching, heart-warming story of how my guest, Jennifer Maneely, found her way back from addiction to success in every way, on every level! Be inspired by her story, and her willingness t...
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Hard-Headed Narcissists: One BIG Must-Know (Little-Known) Reason Why Narcissistic Hijackals Refuse To Change from 2020-08-04T06:41:56
Ever wonder why it feels like you're hitting your head against a titanium wall when you try to make a #narcissist see your point?
Or, wonder why a #narcissistic #...
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Shifting Old Emotional Patterns With Tapping, Emotional Freedom Technique GUEST: Deborah Miller from 2020-07-30T23:28:20
Sometimes, you might not recognize that old patterns are running in current feelings and experiences. That's a great moment of realization because, starting then, life can consciously ch...
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Narcissist Fauxpologies: How To Stop Being Hooked Into Believing Hijackals Will Change from 2020-07-28T04:34:51
Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, or those with any of those tendencies are incapable of sincere apologies. In fact, they are also incapable of apologizing at all!
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Keys to Unlocking Bliss & Wealth From The Blissful Millionaire Guest: Moneeka Sawyer from 2020-07-23T22:18:49
Bliss is a word that sometimes makes people's head spin and eyes roll. But, wouldn't you like to feel that you had things covered and eliminated your worries. That can be bliss! Listen
DON'T BELIEVE EMOTIONAL FACTS: Recognize How Narcissists Use Them To Gaslight and Control You from 2020-07-21T02:51:09
Underhanded and manipulative, so-called "emotional facts" are used freely by #Hijackals--relentlessly difficult, toxic people like narcissists, borderlines, anti-socials--to frustrate, c...
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Formula For Having Those Essential Tough Conversations Guest - David Wood from 2020-07-15T18:06:56
Are you shying away from a tough conversation that you know is important?
Would clearing the air really help but you're avoiding it?
Sometimes ...
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Stop Second-Guessing Yourself! 30 Underhanded, Undermining, Passive-Aggressive Tactics Narcissists Us To Confuse from 2020-07-13T19:22:27
Passive-aggressive much? You wonder if it's your fault, and #Hijackals definitely want you to do just that. So do non-Hijackals who are passive-aggressive!
In today's...
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Calming Approaches to Overcoming the Chronic Stress Toxic Relationships Bring GUEST: Dr. Atousa Mahdavi from 2020-07-09T21:56:28
So excited to bring you a guest who talks about Ayurveda again! I've studied it for years and I know the health benefits, for sure.
I met Dr. Atousa Mahdavi at the New Media Summit, an...
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Overcoming Long-Term Fatal Attraction and Finding Yourself Again Guest: Lana Wolfe from 2020-07-02T17:26:25
Did you slowly recognize that you were on the receiving end of abuse?
In a relationship that you hoped would improve and you thought you might help?
Spotting Liars & The Four Kind Of Nasty Lies They Tell from 2020-06-30T03:51:10
Do you know when you're being lied to? Does your antenna go up?
Or, do you so want to believe the lie that you find a way to justify it?
Liars...
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Does First Class Fatherhood Have To Involve Fear? Guest: Alec Lace from 2020-06-24T18:43:09
What about the state of fatherhood in the U.S. just now? Alec Lace, podcast host of First-Class Fatherhood, has some definite views on what is required. Father of four with a full-time j...
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Feeling Trapped? Two BIG Things You Can Give Up That You May Not Realize You're Doing from 2020-06-22T20:59:54
Feeling trapped? Feeling stuck?
Not sure how to move from feeling things are impossible to a new direction?
You need to deeply consider thes...
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Financial Empowerment For Women Considering Divorce...And After Guest: Victoria Lowell from 2020-06-17T20:10:47
Too many people--especially, unfortunately, women--feel they are at a disadvantage in seeking a divorce because of financial control.
If you're married to a narcis...
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Going For The Gotcha: The Big Damaging Difference Between Verifying and Validating Your Partner from 2020-06-15T19:16:40
Are you wrong every time you turn around? Does your partner--or mother--have to win in every conversation?
Someone who has to be right all the time is verifying, ...
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Your Partner Is NOT Your Project! from 2020-06-08T04:01:18
You'll never have the partnership you want if you continue to see your partner as a project.
You'll never be loved when your partner wants to fix or change you. Listen
Overcoming The Impact Of A Toxic Workplace Relationship Guest: Michele PW from 2020-06-03T19:42:36
You spend many hours a day at work. Whether you go to a business setting or work from home, you will occasionally meet difficult, toxic people who are dedicated to putting you...
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Recognizing Narcissistic Contempt: Nasty Ways Hijackals Demean, Dismiss & Discount You. from 2020-05-31T22:33:02
You know that look, that jerky look of superiority that #Hijackals give you? I call it The Hijackal Smirk. It's that look of disdain, disrespect, and "I'm superior and you are a fool" th...
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Overcoming Emotional Exhaustion & Restoring Your Health Guest: Dr. Sundardas Annamalay from 2020-05-29T21:21:41
Are toxic relationships ruining your health? Is your immune system being depleted by constant anxiety?
Walking on eggshells is a stressful way to get exercise. You...
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STOP HOPING! Why You'll Never Be Able To Create Emotional Intimacy With A Narcissistic Hijackal from 2020-05-26T03:21:15
You long to be known, seen, heard, acknowledged, approved of and accepted. Those are the very things that a person with narcissistic or anti-social tendencies will not give you. That's h...
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How To Feel More Confident In Your Decision-Making Guest: Mary Goulet from 2020-05-21T22:32:59
When you're with a toxic person, you recognize that they love to keep you in uncertainty, on edge, and hyper-vigilant. Recognize that?
Do you find your shoulders creeping up to your ea...
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How Parenting Your Partner Ruins Relationships & The Desire for Intimacy from 2020-05-20T16:04:09
So exasperating! Your partner seems like an extra child. Not what you signed up for, right!
And, no amount of pointing out his/her failures, incompetencies, or lac...
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Women! What To Do When You Feel You're Not Enough Guest: Audrey Hope from 2020-05-15T20:34:04
For women to be in their power does not mean they are seeking power over other humans!
It's an inside job!
Even though women have made
9 Ways to Tell If Your Relationship Is A Healthy Slow Cooker Or A Hijackal Pressure Cooker from 2020-05-11T03:59:44
Who wants to live in a pressure cooker?
No one goes out and says, "I want to live with anxiety, hyper-vigilance, stress, and uncertainty. Give me that relationshi...
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Raising Healthy Kids While Working Without Burning Out - Guest - Kimberly Lou from 2020-05-08T20:07:17
Oh, more pressure! Somehow, the idea is often promoted that you're supposed to be best, most, top, smartest, most effective, most productive, most involved, ever-present parent...in order to be ...
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3 MUST-HAVES For Relationships Between Adults To Be Healthy from 2020-05-06T17:50:53
In a previous episode, I promised to create an episode on my fundamental, absolute MUST-HAVES for a healthy relationship with another adult. Here it is!
Whether that r...
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Why A Famous Filmmaker Focuses On "The Truth About Marriage" Guest: ROGER NYGARD from 2020-04-30T23:27:34
Big leap from Trekkies and Six Days in Roswell to making a film called 'The Truth About Marriage?" I asked Roger Nygard about ...
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How Hijackals Make Their Kids Lives Difficult & How To Help As The Other Parent from 2020-04-28T15:25:34
Being with a #Hijackal is relentlessly difficult, for sure.
Watching how the Hijackal treats your children can be heartbreaking. Today's episode offers insights in...
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Taking Back Your Power After Emotional Abuse Guest: SHERRY ANSHARA from 2020-04-23T05:34:45
Ever feel stuck? Try as you might to get your leg out of the emotional muck, the next leg sinks in again?
Did something happen long ago that still haunts and hara...
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Housebound With A Hijackal? 16 Forms of Emotional Domestic Violence to Recognize NOW! from 2020-04-20T02:25:10
During the self-isolating shutdown, domestic violence has increased greatly. Hopefully, that will draw attention to the many people who need to be safer than they are.
Un...
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Where To Find Your Emotional Resiliency Guest: Susan Dascenzi from 2020-04-16T23:23:30
What do you think the balance is between trust and fear? Is there one? How do you create it?
You'll need that to be emotionally resilient, especially after emotion...
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Housebound With A Hijackal? 4 Life-Saving, Immediate Antidotes To Their Toxicity from 2020-04-15T03:25:07
Still stuck with too much time up close and personal with a #narcissistic #Hijackal? That can be so difficult!
They can be such emotional vampires, sucking energy...
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Be Unapologetically You To Live Your Best Life & Business Guest: LISA CHERNEY from 2020-04-10T17:31:44
Sometimes, we play small. We hide out.
Sometimes, we get into relationships that want to control us, to overshadow us, to keep us small.
AND...
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Housebound With A Hijackal? #2 - 6 Ways to Stay Safer Without Losing Your Cool from 2020-04-06T16:39:05
Still being housebound with a #Hijackal during this difficult time? Even after things go back to somewhat normal and the #Hijackal in your house returns to work, you'll be in better shap...
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Coping With Being Cooped Up To Avoid Coronavirus GUEST: Dr. David Viegerust from 2020-03-28T23:45:38
So much information online and in the media right now about the coronavirus!
How do you know what to believe? How do you know what to do to stay safe and healthy i...
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Housebound With A Hijackal? 10 Truths About Them You Can't Change from 2020-03-23T04:01:01
Housebound with a #Hijackal?
Did the first moment you realized that you might be quarantined with a Hijackal parent or partner send shivers through you?<...
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Complete Communication: What's Needed When You're Sexy, Sassy & Starting Over Guest: Karen Solomon from 2020-03-11T15:00:26
Left a relationship and wondering about re-entering the dating life?
Getting your courage to date again?
Afraid to step out, or cho...
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How Not To Settle For Less In Life And Love - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2020-03-08T18:21:49
If you're with a relentlessly difficult, toxic person (a #Hijackal), or were raised by one, it's likely you'll be feeling somewhat trapped, suffocated, limited, or held back. Let's start...
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Why Narcissists Exploit And Laugh At Your Vulnerabilities Guest: KIM SAEED from 2020-03-05T06:21:05
Hijackals, narcissists, and other toxic difficult people are mean.
In tender moments, they make you feel safe to tell them your innermost secrets, insecuritie...
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Emotional Manipulation: When Hijackals Hide Venom In Chocolate - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2020-03-01T18:11:10
Toxic people--emotional manipulators--have an absolute need to win.
They NEED to have power over you in order to feel safe in their world.
That's ...
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The Power of Self-Validation After Abuse - GUEST: Dr. Audrey Hope from 2020-02-28T19:30:52
Key to recovery after emotional abuse is learning to care deeply about yourself again. Whether you call it self-esteem or self-love, it's essential to self-confidence. In today's episode...
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Why Hijackals Hate and Humiliate - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2020-02-25T19:47:50
Hate and Humiliation often go together. ? #Hijackals--relentlessly difficult, toxic people--hate and humiliate to get the upper hand in relationships...AND to make you feel bad about you...
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Breadcrumb Dating: How It's Related to Insecurity & Toxicity GUEST: Tracy Crossley from 2020-02-19T17:49:16
Dating? Getting back in the dating scene? Does it scare you these days? All this talk--and experience--of breadcrumb dating, ghosting, insecurity, toxicity, safety in relationships? My g...
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The Hijackal Haze: How Hormones Keep You Hooked on Hijackals and Hope from 2020-02-09T19:26:12
Hooked on the rush of falling in love?
Hooked on the feeling of not being able to get enough of another human?
Wonder why you want to go ru...
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10 Signs of a Pathological Liar & How to Respond - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2020-02-03T23:19:07
"I know I'm being lied to, but I want it to be true." I hear that so often from clients. I understand that they are so hooked on hope that the person they fell in love with woul...
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How to Stop Letting Someone Lie To You - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2020-01-27T01:19:10
#Hijackals manipulate. Therefore, Hijackals lie.
Whether that #Hijackal is narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social, it...
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Discarded By A Hijackal? 10 Ways To Resist The Pull To Return - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2020-01-20T20:41:19
You've likely turned yourself into a pretzel to please a toxic person. That's what they want.
You can stand on your head and spit wooden nickels for a decade, and you...
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How to Create Good Relationship Habits Once the Hijackal is Gone from 2020-01-12T04:11:31
You made it! You have ended the relationship with the toxic, difficult person, the #Hijackal!
Good for you! You know what is best for you, and your family.
It <...
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DRAMA: Who needs it?? from 2020-01-04T23:07:01
Drama! It keeps you walking on eggshells, wondering when the next supposedly offence on your part will be jumped on. Or, an event will be blown out of proportion. That event may or not h...
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Finding Clarity in the Midst of Hijackal® Chaos & Confusion Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-12-29T05:11:27
Keeping you in chaos, confusion, and uncertainty is a hallmark of a #Hijackal®.
They do it to keep you on guard and off balance.
That's a ...
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Are the Holidays Duty, Dread or Delight? 3 Empowering Tips - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-12-21T16:08:03
Holidays or any celebration can be stressful. It may be exciting--which is stressful in itself--and it may be distressful.
Give yourself permission to recognize and act on the three empowe...
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Insightful Conversation with Patricia Evans, Author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship from 2019-12-15T06:28:19
What a pleasure and honor to have this deep conversation with Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship. !
Patricia Evans stepped up...
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How Having a Hijackal Parent Can Mess With Your Life & Relationships from 2019-12-09T02:31:52
When you have a #Hijackal® parent, you tend to model their traits, or be set up to be the unwitting "prey" for other predators like them. Having a #Hijackal parent can turn you into "Hij...
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6 Steps to Keep You Safer Around Hijackals & Other Toxic Folks. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-12-02T01:52:26
Difficult, defensive, and destructive behaviors can turn into dangerous ones! These six steps to keep you safer around toxic people, around #Hijackals, are absolutely vital to recognize ...
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10 Mind-Games Narcissists Play to Confuse & Gaslight You. from 2019-11-24T17:56:20
CRAZY-MAKING! That's what these ten mind-games are!
#Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, toxic people in life must always win. You've noticed that, right? Listen
Co-Parenting With a Narcissist Without Losing Your Mind. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-11-17T19:27:33
You've divorced a #narcissist, a #Hijackal®. That was difficult, no doubt.
Now, you're settling in--or trying to settle in--to some kind of reasonable co-parenting...
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Bait-and-Switch! How Hijackals Use Sex As a Weapon from 2019-11-04T05:30:11
BAIT-AND-SWITCH!
That's an illegal activity in the U.S. and many other countries, when it comes to advertising great deals.
It would be SO goo...
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Is Your Parent or Partner Emotionally Impaired? :. from 2019-10-29T21:21:05
Emotionally Impaired? There's no breathalyzer for that! So, how do you know some is?
Every now and then, each one of us may be a little incapacitated by life events. T...
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Who Cares? Not Hijackals! They're Empathy Deficient. from 2019-10-21T05:38:36
Are you with someone who is empathy deficient? Someone who shows almost no interest in your thoughts, feelings, needs, or wants?
That could be a parent, partner, e...
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Caught in the Hijackal® Trap? Narcissistic Victim Syndrome from 2019-10-13T19:08:31
The #Hijackal Trap usually closes slowly. At first, everything seems rosy, wonderful, and just what you've always longer for.
Then, it starts to close. Narcissist...
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Coercive Control: Sneaky, Subtle & Sadistic Patterns of Domination from 2019-10-07T04:16:14
Have you heard the term, coercive control? You may not have as it's just slowly coming to awareness. And, it is SO important that it does!
Coercive control is lif...
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Do Narcissistic Hijackals Hurt You on Purpose? from 2019-09-30T02:43:37
So often, clients and members ask me if the relentless difficult, toxic people in their lives are that way on purpose.
Followed closely by the question: does s/he want to hurt me?
<... Listen
3 Unlikely Ways to Shut Down a Passive-Aggressive Conversation from 2019-09-24T15:48:38
Stop playing these shady, passive-aggressive games! Right? It's not that easy.
In this episode, you'll hear three better ways for you to bring clarity to a convers...
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Staying With a Hijackal Out of Guilt and Duty? Unhealthy Reasons! from 2019-09-15T18:45:53
I know. You don't want to be accused, or accuse yourself, of abandoning a person. You especially don't want to be accused of abandoning a person in need.
#Hija...
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Unattachable? Why You Cannot Change the Nature of a Hijackal. from 2019-09-09T04:38:13
Parents who were emotionally available, perceptive, and responsive to you, to your needs and mental states, are a great gift! They tend to provide you with attachment that is secure. Thi...
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Why Suffering in Silence Needlessly Ruins Relationships from 2019-09-01T18:33:32
Don't kid yourself! Your "silences" speak volumes!
I work with people whose relationships are in crisis for so long, and their hope that not speaking up about things that are bothering...
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8 Tell-Tale Signs You're With an Emotional Terrorist from 2019-08-26T01:27:52
Any chance you've been walking on eggshells around someone in your life?
A parent, partner, sibling, friend, ex?
If so, there a good chance you're going to recog...
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How Sneaky Covert Narcissists Play on Your Empathy from 2019-08-18T19:54:24
Do you have a feeling that what's going on in your relationship is less than honest, and yet, you feel strangely like you're not doing enough?
You may well be with a
Intimate Terrorism. Is It Holding You Hostage? from 2019-08-12T04:26:07
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See the Gaslighting! It's Verbal, Psychological, AND Emotional Abuse. from 2019-08-04T18:22:31
#Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult toxic people--want to define your reality for you. Right?
They try to tell you what you think, what you feel, or what you...
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How to Deal with Difficult People Who Are NOT Full-Blown Narcissists from 2019-07-28T23:59:42
People can be difficult. No lie, right!
Sometimes, they are difficult for a moment. Sometimes, through a rough patch.
Today's episode is help ...
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8 Crystal Clear Signs You're in Love with a TRULY Difficult Person, a Hijackal from 2019-07-21T20:26:52
Are you tired of being wrong? #Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult toxic people in life--cannot be wrong, so everything HAS to be your fault.
That's exhausting...
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Have You Experienced Abuse Without Acknowledging it? Times UP! from 2019-07-01T04:43:44
Being abused is a BIG deal! Not recognizing it is also a BIG deal.
Often, when it happens when you are young, it becomes buried in the fabric of your life and you don'...
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Six Constantly Flying Red Flags That Should Tip You Off to Hijackals - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-06-23T20:08:06
You're been in the relationship for a while. Maybe, it's even your parent! Or, a new partner?
Or, you're waking up to the fact that you simply cannot please your partner because s/he WILL ...
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What is "The Hijackal Trap?" Am I Caught in It? from 2019-06-17T05:24:53
Are you caught in The Hijackal Trap? You really need to know, so you can make clear choices.
The Hijackal® Trap is often very hard to recognize because it is often su...
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Why You Shouldn't Go Back to a Hijackal® & How To Stay Away Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-06-10T04:44:25
You're out! You likely took a long time to make the decision to leave the narcissist, or in my terms, the #Hijackal. You also likely talked yourself out of it more than a few times, righ...
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4 Scary Reasons Why Unconditional Love May be a Dangerous Myth from 2019-06-03T04:36:31
Oh, my! I can imagine that for a few folks the title of today's episode caused them a brief moment of near apoplexy!
No, I didn't choose it for its shock value, nor did I choose it to ...
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5 Ways to Keep Your Courage UP While Leaving a Difficult Person, a Hijackal from 2019-05-27T04:00:49
You've left, or you're close to leaving. It's scary!
Sometimes, you're so sure you need to leave. Too often, you're second-guessing yourself.
...
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5 Co-Parenting Hacks for Raising Healthy, Happy Children with a Difficult Ex from 2019-05-18T20:08:30
Don't make your children feel like pawns, messengers, or casualties of your divorce!
In a perfect world, after divorce, your children would only know that life is mor...
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What Do You Mean I'm Not the Center of Your Universe??? from 2019-05-07T00:44:05
#Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, demanding people--NEED to be the center of the attention, the star of the show, the center of your Universe. And, they have to come first. Listen
Boomerang of Blame: Why Narcissistic People Make It All Your Fault from 2019-04-28T19:12:56
"It's crazy-making! No matter how wrong s/he is, it's always my fault!"
Have you ever said that about a parent, partner, ex, friend, sibling, co-worker? ...
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How to Know If You're Emotionally Safe in Your Relationship from 2019-04-21T18:51:25
Do you bend over backwards to keep people happy?
Do you try to live up to other people's expectations?
If you answered "Yes" to either of thos...
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Stop Lying to Yourself! Some People Will NEVER Change. from 2019-04-15T18:51:15
People can drive you crazy, right? Toxic people are best at it.
And, yet, you might still be telling yourself that you can change them. Is that true...even a litt...
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How to Know If Your Jealousy is Low-Key Killing Your Relationship from 2019-04-06T21:24:07
Jealous? That's a big issue that can easily cause major relationship problems!
Have you already learned that? Are you ready to stop repeating that mistake Listen
Never Go "Nose Blind" to Verbal Abuse. Smell It For What It Is! Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-04-01T04:41:30
Have you heard that TV ad for air freshener that implores you to notice that you may have gone "nose-blind" to the unpleasant smells in your kitchen, garbage, basement, or car? Well, I t...
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Tuning Up Your Self-Confidence After a Hijackal Tramples It - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-03-25T00:18:38
Self-confidence! Sounds good, doesn't it? You want to have, express, and experience it, and that's not always easy after a #Hijackal has trampled it. You can become self-confident, and t...
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7 Ways to Keep Their Passive-Aggression from Driving You Nuts! Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-03-17T18:37:34
You need to learn how to side-step toxic, passive-aggressive behavior, and save your sanity, right? Today's episode gives you 7 ways to do just that.
Other episodes h...
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Why Narcissistic Hijackals Seem to Find You & Why You Like Them - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-03-11T03:11:04
Oh, the joys of being love-bombed, right? Only you had no idea that that was what was happening!
You honestly believed you had fo...
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How to Know the Difference Between a Rough Patch & Straight-Up Abuse from 2019-03-03T18:34:36
How many times have you heard someone--maybe on TV--say, "Oh, we're just going through a rough patch."
Really? Is it? Or, is it abuse? It's SO import...
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What Three Billy Goats & a Troll Have to Do with Covert Narcissists Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2019-02-24T22:02:39
Whatever has the story of the Three Billy Goats Gruff got to do with covert narcissism?
Just who is that troll under the bridge in the story? In your story?
Let...
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How to Recognize Hijackals®. Their Patterns, Traits & Cycles from 2019-02-18T06:37:20
HIJACKALS®! They exist! You've likely met one or two. Most everyone has.
There is no real need for a diagnosis. The Hijackal will no...
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How Childhood Emotional Neglect May be Adversely Affecting Your Relationships from 2019-02-11T02:33:09
UNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON YOUR LIFE IS IMPORTANT.
If it happened to you, it can affect all areas of your life and relationships.
Why Too Few Boundaries Allow Too Much Drama from 2019-02-03T19:16:52
Constant drama in one of your relationships?
Are you frustrated and resentful, but unsure how to change things?
Do you fool yourself by ma...
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Real Grown-Ups Don't Fight Because They Know These Three Things from 2019-01-26T20:39:36
Emotional grown-ups don't fight. Kids and needy adults fight.
You don't want to be one of those, so a few essential tips for you in today's episode. ...
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Are You Being Realistic About the Potential for Violence in Your Family? from 2019-01-21T01:30:16
I know, you don't want to believe that that person who said they loved you--or, that person who gave birth to you--will ever really hurt you...like in go to the hospital, or the morgue h...
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How Passive-Aggressive Behavior is Actually Emotional Abuse from 2019-01-14T02:16:16
Do you have a person in your life that is crazy-making? S/he promises to do something, and then somehow forgets?
Or, a person who procrastinates regularly, then wa...
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Steps to Stopping Verbal Violence in Your Work Life from 2019-01-06T23:50:31
Verbal Violators in any work situation make working together next to impossible.
At a minimum, they make you cringe, avoid, and prefer to tak...
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How to Spot a Hijackal. Crazy-Making Things Narcissists Do from 2018-12-30T18:51:59
Is your relationship one-sided?
Are you wondering if it's you?
Does your partner have to "win" always?
Is everythi...
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What to Say When a Hijackal Says You're Being Overly Sensitive from 2018-12-23T18:57:21
Oh, that's crazy-making, right?
You try to talk about your feelings and you get shut down?
In today's episode, I give you insights into this who...
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6 Better Ways to Communicate Than the Dreaded Silent Treatment from 2018-12-15T22:02:02
Has your partner every just stopped talking to you when things weren't going his or her way? Or, when you weren't doing exactly as s/he wanted?
And, then, the ...
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How Conscious Self-Care Saves You So Much Stress & Distress - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-12-10T05:40:15
Do you ever try to downplay your need for great self-care? If you're like many folks--too many folks--you likely do!
You may have been raised to believe that you shou...
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How To Stop Walking on Eggshells - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-12-01T22:15:19
Any chance that you're getting your exercise by walking on eggshells?
That's a tense, anxiety-ridden, stressful way to get your exercise. Exercise is supposed to make ...
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What Emotional Abuse Is & Its Impact On Your Life - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-11-24T18:34:21
Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control or dominate another person. Whether that is through fear, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, guilt, blaming...
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3 Assertive Things To Do When Your Partner or Parent Refuses to Take Responsibility with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-11-17T21:51:08
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
3 ASSERTIVE THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU...
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Trauma-Bonding: Why We Create Toxic Bonds & How to Release Them GUEST - Dr. Gary Salyer from 2018-11-03T18:39:02
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
TRAUMA-BONDING: Why You Create To...
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10 Reasons You May Have For Not Walking Away From Your Abuser from 2018-10-28T16:01:10
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
10 REASONS YOU MAY HAVE FOR NOT W...
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Divorcing a Hijackal attorney...and thriving! It Happened to Me from 2018-10-20T18:38:50
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
IT HAPPENED TO ME: Today's guest,...
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Angry with a Hijackal®? Why Payback Won't Work from 2018-10-14T17:32:19
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
ANGRY WITH A HIJACKAL? WHY PAYBAC...
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Hijackal Blaming? It's Not Your Fault! from 2018-10-06T19:25:53
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
HIJACKAL® BLAMING? IT'S NOT YOUR ...
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7 Red Flags That Person You're Dating is Toxic. Run! from 2018-09-30T19:04:44
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
7 RED FLAGS THAT PERSON YOU'RE DA...
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Ever Feel Like a Pretzel or a Doormat Trying to Please Someone? Do this! from 2018-09-22T17:20:42
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
EVER FEEL LIKE A PRETZEL OR DOORM...
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How Will I Feel When I'm Leaving a Hijackal®? from 2018-09-02T03:46:42
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
HOW WILL I FEEL WHEN I'M LEAVING ...
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Is It Possible That You're Enabling a Toxic Partner? Time to Stop! from 2018-08-26T02:29:03
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
IS IT POSSIBLE YOU'RE ENABLING A ...
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3 Big Reasons Hijackals® Never Stop and Why You MUST from 2018-08-18T18:14:11
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
3 BIG REASONS WHY HIJACKALS® NEVE...
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Is It Actually Competition That's Ruining Your Relationship? from 2018-08-11T17:14:38
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
IS IT ACTUALLY COMPETITION THAT'S...
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What If You Were Affected by Inherited Family Trauma? GUEST: Johanna Lynn from 2018-08-05T02:54:01
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
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12 Damaging Ways Your Narcissistic Mother Lied to You About Who You Are from 2018-07-29T17:17:52
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
12 DAMAGING WAYS YOUR NARCISSISTI...
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4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Not Miss Emotional Red Flags from 2018-07-23T01:08:28
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
4 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO NO...
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3 Empowering Responses to Bullies, Backstabbers, Rhinos & Hijackals® from 2018-07-14T21:17:24
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
3 Empowering Responses to Backsta...
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14 Questions To Ask To Know If It's Abuse from 2018-07-07T18:19:28
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
14 Questions To Ask To Know If It...
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Is Your Hijackal® Partner Difficult, or Actually Dangerous? from 2018-07-01T01:16:35
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
Is Your Hijackal® Partner Difficu...
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5 Telling Things People Say That Show Their Passive-Aggressive Sides from 2018-06-26T03:39:16
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
5 Telling Things People Say That ...
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8 Strong Steps To Handle Bullies at Work from 2018-06-16T17:49:04
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
8 STRONG STEPS TO HANDLE BULLIES ...
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7 Warning Signs and Wake-Up Calls That Your Partner is MORE Than Selfish from 2018-06-10T16:30:44
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
7 WARNING SIGNS AND WAKE-UP CALLS...
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4 Sneaky Signs That Mean Long-Term Relationship Trouble from 2018-06-02T18:34:34
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
4 SNEAKY SIGNS THAT MEAN LONG-TER...
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12 Things Passive-Aggressive People ALWAYS Do, But Don't Often Realize from 2018-05-27T18:15:12
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
12 THINGS PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE PEOP...
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12 Signs You Are in a Love/Hate Relationship And Need Help from 2018-05-19T18:36:12
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
There is something wrong, someth...
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6 Subtle Signs You're Being Manipulated and How To Stop It from 2018-05-13T04:46:08
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
Don't you just hate it when you ...
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BONUS: Dating Red Flags to Watch For from 2018-03-30T15:04:22
Sometimes they are hard to see... they don't really look red, or they're not very big... But don't ignore them. This quick episode will identify major red flags you NEED to pay attention to.
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Raised by a Hijackal, a Toxic, Difficult, Even Narcissistic Parent? from 2018-03-27T13:00
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
Today. I talk about what happens if you'r...
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Tips for Divorcing a Hijackal® When Children are Involved - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-03-23T16:58:03
When you considering divorcing a toxic person, or when you ARE divorcing a #Hijackal, and you have children, there are many considerations that might be important in other divorces.
#H...
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Kids & Hijackal® Co-Parents: How to Cope from 2018-03-23T16:47:12
What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex!
A #Hijackal parent is not benign: s/he affects the way your children see the...
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BONUS Q & A Should I take my Hijackal partner back again? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-03-21T01:00
You parted ways with a toxic partner, a #Hijackal, maybe a narcissist.
And, now s/he has come back, promising to be different and professing undying love?
Or, you were discarded ...
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BONUS: What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior, Really? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-03-14T01:00
Passive-aggressive behavior will drive you slowly round the bend!
Foot-dragging, procrastinating, truth-evading behaviors! Crazy-making!
Passive-aggressive people are often fearf...
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BONUS Q&A: How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-03-14T01:00
#Hijackals, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people, want you to feel unsure of yourself.
Keeping you on guard and off balance gives them a sense of power and ...
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BONUS: How Can I Learn to Trust ? Part 2 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-03-07T02:00
Trust often seems impossible, but trust is absolutely necessary for a relationship to be successful.
It's important to be able to calibrate your l...
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BONUS Q&A How to reduce the conflict and craziness in a relationship Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-02-28T02:00
Is conflict something to be avoided?
Are you uncomfortable around conflict?
How do you know when to confront?
Will you
BONUS: How Can I Learn to Trust? - Part 1 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2018-02-27T14:00
How do you learn to trust?
How did you learn when you were young?
Were you able to trust when young?
Who did you tru...
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BONUS: Q&A I've ended my relationship, now what? from 2018-02-21T02:00
It's often a relief to be away from a toxic person, a #Hijackal.
And, it's often totally terrifying to think of dating after you've left.
In t...
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BONUS: Why am I afraid of my husband's anger? I'm walking on eggshells. still from 2018-02-07T02:00
Ever feel that you are walking on eggshells, waiting for the other show to drop, or becoming hypervigilant?
Those things happen when you're raised by, or around o...
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Who's Endearing or Endangering When You're Up Close and Personal? from 2018-02-06T18:41:06
Propinquity? Are you familiar with that word?
It means "the state of being close to someone or something."
You can be in someone's orbit, or i...
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When work becomes a place you want to avoid from 2018-01-31T02:00
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new client...
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How To Handle Bullies At Work from 2018-01-31T02:00
Do you recognize a bully at work? Do you make excuses for their behavior, justify it?
How long have you been doing that?
What can you do a...
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5 Ways to Recognize Passive-Aggressive Behavior from 2018-01-17T02:15
Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®
from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor
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Alienation: The Pain of Being Blamed & Shunned by an Adult Hijackal Child from 2018-01-16T08:36
ALIENATION is way too common when you have to deal with the whims, power, and control a relentlessly difficult, toxic person.
In today's episode, the segment "It Happe...
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BONUS: Q&A My partner is always blaming me. How can I change this? from 2018-01-14T21:41:12
Walking on eggshells comes to mind when you're concerned about always being blamed? Is that how it feels to you?
Healthy relationships don't have you ...
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Is Your Relationship Comfortably Uncomfortable? from 2018-01-10T02:15
Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®
from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor
Is your relationship bringing you...
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BONUS: Q&A One day is good. The next is a nightmare. from 2018-01-10T02:00
Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®
from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor
When you are in a
BONUS: "It Happened To Me" - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's story from 2018-01-03T02:15
Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®
from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor
"It Happened To Me" is a ...
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Unresolved Conflict is Organizational Bloodletting from 2018-01-03T02:00
Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®
from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor
Have you ever wanted to
BONUS: Boundaries. Got any? from 2017-12-31T02:39:34
Boundaries are what keep us feeling safe, secure, protected, in control of our own lives.
When you give up your boundaries because you are in relationship with a pers...
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Recognize Verbal Abuse Now from 2017-12-27T02:45
Sometimes, you get so used to being talked at, and talked to, in disrespectful, dismissive ways that you don't actually think of it as verbal abuse.
Then, you tend to...
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BONUS: Q&A My mother is always finding fault. from 2017-12-27T02:30
A member asked about what to do because her mother was constantly finding fault with her.
#Hijackal parents constantly either find fault or turn a blind eye to fault. One or the other,...
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12 Signs You Are In A Love-Hate Relationship from 2017-12-27T02:00
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new client...
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Spirituality, Hijackals & You Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2017-12-27T02:00
I'm asked so many times, "Am I going against spiritual principles to keep myself safe from my abusive spouse?"
So, I wanted to answer that in an episode for you, to s...
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Love-Bombing - Not As Desirable As It Sounds! from 2017-12-27T02:00
LOVE-BOMBING!
When a #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult, toxic person--wants to impress you and win you over, s/he will use love-bombing.
That means s/he will be everything you ...
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BONUS: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2017-12-21T01:14:10
Big question. Knowing the answer takes a whole lot of thinking…unless, of course, there is physical or sexual abuse.
Then, there is only one answer: GO. Go to the police. Go to the cou...
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What's up with Harvey W? from 2017-12-20T00:40:28
Host, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, discusses boundaries, narcissism, entitlement and sexual predators with Christine Baumgartner, owner of ThePerfectCatch.com
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BONUS: Q&A - How do I know what to trust? from 2017-12-18T03:31:18
Questions relating to: Filed for divorce - now what? My Hijackal partner is now, magically, doing everything right, everything that I'd begged for for year. Can I trust these changes??
BONUS: Are You Looking for a Fight? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2016-12-23T21:26:48
Sometimes you're speaking up about something you believe in.
Other times, you want to fight and use a topic to make it happen. Can you tell the difference?
Don't be "that pe...
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BONUS: Recognize a high-conflict person in a relationship. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2016-12-10T21:07:15
High-conflict people - there's always drama but you can't pin it down.
I talk about my term, #Hijackals, for these relentlessly difficult people, the...
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BONUS: Why Do I Get So Angry? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2016-11-09T13:01:41
Anger is a challenging feeling AND something you can manage. In ANY relationship, it's super-important to be capable of recognizing and managing your anger while still acknowledging your feeling...
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BONUS: How To Stop Blaming. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2016-10-21T12:18:20
Blame can be destructive to your relationships.
If you find yourself blaming your partner, listen to this podcast episode with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler.
Want to work with...
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BONUS: Q&A Listener questions answered by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD from 2016-10-20T12:00
Listeners can submit questions. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD answers many common questions in these videos.
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BONUS: Is Name-Calling Ever Okay? from 2016-10-18T17:14:12
SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®
with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
IS NAME-CALLING EVER OK? EVEN IN ...
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BONUS: Stop Anger And Aggression From Ending Your Relationship from 2016-10-07T20:43:46
Anger can impact your relationships in negative ways.
Every now and again, everyone experiences anger, but it's what you do with it that matters.
You can
BONUS: Trapped By A Hijackal? Robert Imbriale intervews Dr. Rhoberta Shaler from 2016-08-31T21:32:05
My friend and colleague, Robert Imbriale, interviewed me recently about what it means to be trapped by a #Hijackal.
We had a great talk as Robert had ...
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BONUS: Are You Headed For A Breakup? from 2016-08-22T22:37:11
Feel like something is lurking in the subtext of your communication with your partner?
Is a breakup on the horizon?
Is it appropriate?
Is it your choice?
Or, is a #Hi...
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Q&A: My Partner Is Constantly Blaming Me For Everything from 2016-08-09T00:54:33
Did you do something that you were blamed for?
Did someone else do something you were blamed for?
Are you just blamed for everything going wrong in a #Hijackal's un...
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