Podcasts by Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

I don’t know who needs to hear this but... from 2020-11-19T02:00

This is inspired by the "No Country for Old Men" film and novel, which I believe confronts the audience with their narcissism.

We will go through all the narcissism DSM traits, along with...

What CAUSES Narcissistic Personality Disorder - Golden Child and Black Sheep EXPLAINED from 2020-11-18T02:00

Narcissistic parent is prone to treat their child in either of two ways.

Overpraising (Golden Child) or shunning and scapegoating (Black Sheep).

What is the reason behind that kind...

Sam Vaknin - Toxicity of Social Media (3) Recommendations and Bananas from 2020-11-17T03:00

Could Social Media be more healthy?

These platforms could be completely redesigned, and even serve us better.

Check out the suggestions how it could be done, alongside with an expl...

You are NOT "sick"... from 2020-11-16T02:00

Isn't it dangerous to crush people's optimism with a medical sounding condition?

Depending on which filters/models you use to approach the symptoms, you will get different results.

2020 - protect your mindset from 2020-11-15T01:00

How to get through 2020?

How do we deal with what's coming next?

This year poses many challenges.

How to keep going AND come out stronger on the other side?

Here is m...

THE SAM VAKNIN INTERVIEWS - IS NARCISSISM A POST TRAUMATIC STRESS RESPONSE & CAN IT BE TREATED from 2020-11-14T03:00

Narcissism expert Sam Vaknin talks about a necessary and crucial modality change if NPD is to be treated.

(00:14) Narcissistic Abuse Is A Plea For Help

(04:00) Narcissi...

Social Hierarchy, Depression and the Neurobiology of Emotion (post emotional abuse) from 2020-11-13T02:00

Can your social status give you depression?

You might have heard about a connection between depression and serotonin.

And a connection between serotonin and your position in a soci...

Rambling About CPTSD During A Google Hangout from 2020-11-12T03:00

All about recovery from emotional abuse and CPTSD in this Q&A session, also including two live chats.

(00:00) What does setting boundaries with ourselves exactly mean?

The CURE for Narcissism My (Possible) Method; 5 Points (Healing A Narcissist) from 2020-11-11T04:00

I've said for the past 6 years that I do not believe there could ever be a cure for narcissism. That position is something I've maintained because of the NPD impulse to dismantle the therapeutic...

"Non Serviam" - a Pharse That Will Help Your Boundaries from 2020-11-10T01:00

This is a quick mnemonic that will make you remember to check, whether, and where, you've given your consent, so you're able to maintain your boundaries.

(00:23) You Are the F...

Overachiever Syndrome & A Narcissistic Parent from 2020-11-09T01:00

This is a one, long response to a lady's email, giving a counselling on her problems.

As our patterns are often similar, you may find some of these descriptions accurate to your situation...

"Leave a Review" - A Tool That Will Protect You From Abusive Relationships and Situations from 2020-11-08T02:00

Remember how you were graded, and your performance reviewed over years and years by school and institutions?

What could happen if we reverse that?

How would it be like to actually ...

The rise of the public intellectual - confounding celebrity with expertise w/ Sam Vaknin from 2020-11-07T00:00

We often listen to the people in high positions, that aren't necessarily qualified to discuss the topics that they do.

In this conversation with Sam Vaknin, we explore the phenomena of th...

What does it take to heal from emotional abuse? (a conversation w/ Terry and Steve) from 2020-11-06T02:00

Healing can be a long journey.

It takes time, yet it brings delightful fruits on the way.

Check out this discussion with two, very experienced coaches, Terry McCoy and Steve Henegh...

The Myths of "Hypnosis" (And Why It Actually Works So Very Well) from 2020-11-05T01:00

If you only heard about hypnosis from the mainstream, it's probably wrong.

Why, and how it is mythologized?

What can it REALLY do to people?

Here's everything you need to kn...

Q and A (various topics) from 2020-11-04T02:00

Differentiating emotional flashback from normal reaction, dating covert narcissist, sense of humor, dealing with people, and more in this Q&A session.

(00:13) Talking Abou...

The one thing we need to do now to save humanity from 2020-11-03T01:00

If there is one thing that can save every human right now, I believe it's this.

The cure to the world's insanity.

A medicine for your mind.

A relief for your soul.

Th...

Q and A from 2020-11-02T01:00

Eckhart Tolle, meditation, MKUltra, social media and more covered in this Q&A Session from February 2019.

(00:01) Hello

(01:37) “How can we encourage others to get ...

What is the Dark Triad/Dark Tetrad (Introduction to a Predatory Personality Disorder) from 2020-11-01T02:00

What is the Dark Tetrad described by psychiatry?

What are the predatory personalities tactics of manipulation?

Find this out in this short excerpt from a seminar.

Q and A (social media, dating, BPD) from 2020-10-31T02:00

Live Q&A Session recording from March 2019, covered topic include social media, BPD, mental health and more.

(00:07) Stating Today’s Topic

(02:20) Ending Up With A ...

Still Obsessing Over Ex Relationship from 2020-10-30T12:13:32

This is a short excerpt from a seminar, explaining that persistent annoying emotions might be unconscious alarms.

(00:01) Can You Be at Peace With Yourself About Ex Narcissist...

Zen is NOT for Westerners! (Ego Detachment Resulting in Diminished Self Esteem) from 2020-10-29T10:43:33

Whenever you've heard of "having no ego", "letting go of your ego", "killing your ego" etc.

Remember that it's mostly watered-down, consumer-friendly western versions of very, very old ea...

The Upside of Being in a Long Term Relationship from 2020-10-28T02:00

In a long-term relationship, nothing is more important than its foundations.

The real reasons why you're together.

Just imagine: if you travel far away and it will take a lot of ti...

We need men to feel OK about not feeling OK from 2020-10-27T01:00

The cultural standards of masculinity can really badly impact men mental health.

Every human need the connection and the ability to just be OK with what he feels.

How great would i...

So you are not a "codependent", but... from 2020-10-26T12:41:43

Ok, I get that: it's not that useful to overlabel or overmedicalize things.

Yet, in SOME situations, with certain people you find yourself abondoning what's good for you.

In certai...

Spiritual Maps of Meaning will help you with moving forward (and How to Get Get Your Sun Going) from 2020-10-18T00:00

We operate in the world thanks to our internal maps.

Have you found yourself always ending up in the same place?

What could happen if you change these maps then?

Check it ou...

What is "Healthy Narcissism"? from 2020-10-17T01:00

"Do they have broken self worth....one half perceiving they are wonderful the other half thinking they are dreadful?"

They have no self worth.

Now, wait for this because it's a min...

Rapid Recovery (graphic historical violence, 1984, Stalinism, propaganda, coughing) from 2020-10-16T00:00

How to rapidly recover through contacting our emotions, a technique for that, 1984 propaganda, and more, including Q&A session.

(01:33) What Happens When Someone is Trauma...

How To Do Affirmations When You Have CPTSD (with Q&A) from 2020-10-15T02:00

Affirmations are bit tricky when it comes people with CPTSD.

The risk of triggering is much higher. Why? And why would an affirmation trigger anyone?

Despite the risk, used properl...

No boundaries? Zero protection and drug addiction follow from 2020-10-14T00:00

How to understand what boundaries are (both external and internal), why they are a MUST HAVE, what happens when we're lacking them and how it connects with drug use and relationships.

Listen

Accelerate Therapeutic Process Using Intent and Humility from 2020-10-13T01:00

My hypothesis is that if we deliberately put humility back into the system, we do two things. One, we take away the natural conflicting element of the therapeutic process, the natural elements o...

How to use the "Reality Tunnels" Concept (Robert Anton Wilson and Timothy Leary) from 2020-10-12T02:00

Have you ever felt stuck in a problematic situation?

Have you felt limited in your options, like there are no other ways to see things?

That was your Reality Tunnel for the time. Listen

What Are Your "Core Values" from 2020-10-11T00:00

Here is a simple exercise, that can make you realize a lot of new things about you and your life.

Our values play a huge role in our lives, it's useful to decide on a handful, most import...

Law of Attraction vs. Critical Thinking vs. Authentic Spiritual Experience from 2020-10-10T01:00

Law of Attraction has become kind of a big thing over the last years.

It's very empowering and attractive concept.

Yet, should we believe EVERYTHING it promises?

In this epi...

Counter Parenting With a Narcissist - Reducing Trauma to the Child (Interview with Jaqui Sansom) from 2020-10-09T01:00

Jaqui Sansom works with parents to create a secure family to live in.

Jaqui has been a family and child protection lawyer for 20 years.

For more information on her work please visi...

Questions on Codependency (Q&A) from 2020-10-08T00:00

An extensive Q&A Live Session focused on the issue of codependency.

-> The Summoning the Self course is out now https://spartanlifecoach-com.mykajabi.com/offers/6LTjhmz...

Codependency - a way out from 2020-10-07T02:00

A seminar focusing on the topic of codependency, both in relationships and our entire life.

Many interesting areas have been covered, that also include Q&A.

-> T...

The negative effects of social media may actually be WORSE than we previously thought. from 2020-10-06T01:00

It is a known fact that social media have been deliberately crafted in a certain, not-so-good for our mental wellbeing, way.

Empower yourself with more awareness about this problem now. Listen

The Force of Human Will from 2020-10-05T00:00

Human will has always been with us.

It cannot perish, yet it has been suppressed over the years.

What is this force that can lead you to your highest potential?

If you want ...

"Why is my friend depressed?" from 2020-10-04T01:00

It's worth exhausting all the methods before you try the pharmaceutical solution for depression.

In this episode I present my short take on the problem of depression.

Hopefully som...

"Spiritual" Competition in Western Buddhist Psychotherapy and The Kallisti Myth from 2020-10-03T00:00

There is so much posturing in some of the "spiritual" circles.

It goes even into the Buddhist and academic circles.

Why all that? There's no need to overcomplicate things which wer...

How to use NLP Visualisations to Heal (with Q&A) from 2020-10-02T02:00

Can you heal yourself with visualisation?

Maybe that'd be too much to promise.

But isn't the fact that the imagined experience and a real experience is seen as the same by the brai...

Park Bench Zen (simple, quick technique to create mental calm) from 2020-10-01T01:00

Meditation is not the only way to achieve mindfulness and mental calm!

Sometimes your brain might need to take a slow walk in nature.

And sometimes just sit on a bench and observe....

No Story, Just THIS (Authenticity and Present Momentness) from 2020-09-30T02:00

When you pull out of the virtual, created world,

you wake up to the now. The present moment.

The present is simply what is.

How precious is that?

(00:20) ...

How to Stay Present in Difficult Times? from 2020-09-29T00:00

The world is crumbling all around you?

Everything seems to be falling apart?

Can we achieve meditative states in all of that?

And, without meditation frustrations?

Listen

Meditation from 2020-09-28T02:00

Don't let meditation make you go bonkers.

This episode will demystify it for you

and make you feel calm and confident about it

(00:33) Guiding Awareness vs. Rece...

The 3 Main Mind Games Played By Narcissists (Psychological Torture Tactics) from 2020-09-27T01:00

Narcissists operate in the same ways, whether it's in the microcosmos or macrocosmos.

They will do everything to turn the truth upside down and gain as much control over you as they can.<...

Monogamy, Sexuality - WHY we may not be getting this right and HOW to fix it from 2020-09-26T01:00

Many believe in monogamy, others vote for polygamy, but what is it really all about?

Our thinking about sexuality can be a lot better than it is now.

If you're reading this you pro...

Is Madness the Key to Success? Yes (Because we are evolved to SURVIVE not take selfies) from 2020-09-25T01:00

Why being MAD will make you successful?

How being a taboo breaker is good for your growth?

If you've been perpetually finding yourself spinning your wheels, what I am explaining he...

Joint Custody With A Narcissist from 2020-09-25T01:00

A joint custody with a narcissist is a horrible place to be in.

It can be a messy situation, but hopefully with this one tip I can give you as a psychologist, you will come out of it safe...

Is there Hope for Narcissists to be Healed from 2020-09-24T01:00

Narcissistic disorder is a spectrum.

That means, someone may exhibit some narcissistic traits, or have their entire personality taken over by it.

Should we strive for healing the N...

Narcissists - Battle Them or Walk Away? (The Samurai Strategy of Musashi) from 2020-09-23T01:00

You may think that the narcissist is smart.

But you can be smarter.

By having your eyes and ears open you know when and what he's about to do.

This is when you act knowing e...

Is Hypnosis Real? The Truth! from 2020-09-22T01:00

Hypnosis has been totally misrepresented in the pop culture.

There are so many weird stereotypes and misunderstandings around it.

That's unfavorable considering how it can help peo...

"I'm being scapegoated at work, please help!" - stop being so nice from 2020-09-21T02:00

This is a short and powerful excerpt from UCLA seminar about preventing the scapegoating.

(00:01) You're Too Nice

(01:49) You Don't Need to Be Super Aggressive Confront...

How does NLP differ from CBT? from 2020-09-20T01:00

In my experience working in Probation Service I came upon the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

I was also well-trained in NLP, so here are some differences I saw between these two.

In...

Warning - the new course is going to be triggering for some! from 2020-09-19T09:44:53

It's time to come to the truth that subjugating to others is no longer morally good.

In reality, hiding your authentic self does no good to anybody.

Standing up for yourself can be...

Sam Vaknin Seminar - "To Be Seen" from 2020-09-18T02:00

What if all Cluster B personality disorders and codependency have this one root reason?

How narcissism is an epidemic in our today's world?

Most of what academics think about perso...

How does NPD/BPD develop in kids from 2020-09-17T02:00

This is a follow up and complement of UCLA seminar on the development of personality disorders in kids.

The video of a seminar mentioned at the beginning: https://www.instagra...

HEALING Narcissistic Abuse In 2 Steps (How To RECOVER From Narcissistic ABUSE) from 2020-09-16T00:00

There's not a lot of things so powerful for recovery, like this.

This goes deep into your being, and is about the core of who you are.

Take a closer look at the concepts of integri...

How To OVERCOME FEAR In Uncertain Times (Use These 3 Words) from 2020-09-15T01:00

In those uncertain times it's easy to lose your head sometimes.

You get anxious, uncertain of the future, fear creeps in and start to block you.

It CAN be overcome, and for a long ...

How Your Genes Bully You To Get Back With Your Ex from 2020-09-14T02:00

If you can't get over your ex partner, there might be strong, evolutionary reasons for that.

We are human-animal creatures carrying genes that want to be carried on.

What if this d...

Ill effects of adolescent social media usage on mental health from 2020-09-13T00:00

Social media use has a huge effect on our mental state, and can even influence the mental health.

This is especially true for adolescents, as their stage of development poses special chal...

Redflags of Emotional Abuse from 2020-09-12T01:00

When emotional abuse is on a horizon, you want to have clear and precise discernment.

Check out these quick 5 redflags of emotional abuse.

(00:00) Introduction

(...

Live Chat (Q&A) from 2020-09-11T01:00

A Q&A Live Chat session with questions covering topics of workplace abuse, parenting, CPTSD, narcissism and other disorders connections, and more.

-> The Summoning the ...

Tips to STRENGTHEN your mindset from 2020-09-10T09:16:46

A strong mind will get you far in life.

What does it mean to have a strong mindset?

Why does it come down to standards we chose to have and values we chose to cherish?

If yo...

How to Overcome Fear and Anxiety (My Top 3 Tips) from 2020-09-05T02:00

Here are 3 tips you don't hear very often about overcoming anxiety.

Fear takes our life away from us, there's no reason to let it waste our time.

These tips will make you feel more...

How to work through Self Sabotage from 2020-09-04T01:00

Do you know how it's like when just before getting THAT THING, suddenly it just blows up?

Suddenly you lose the drive, or shit hits the fan any other way.

Why would we self sabotag...

How to Deal With Psychosomatic Illness from 2020-09-03T00:00

Ever experienced worsened headache/back pain/bowels symptoms due to STRESS?

Maybe you suffer from a chronic problem with a specific body part?

Psychosomatic illness is an illness w...

How to Help a Friend With Childhood Abuse? from 2020-09-02T01:00

Wonder how you could help your friend?

We don't need a psychology degree - it's enough we are human.

Because as a human you have the ability to BE present, to compassionately hold ...

How to Make GOOD DECISIONS When Dealing With TOXIC PARENTS & FAMILY (Narcissistic Parents) from 2020-09-01T00:00

Toxic parents and family is often one of the biggest hindrance to our growth.

The sad truth is, often they DON'T want to see us thrive and shine as an emotionally mature adult.

But...

"HELP! Im having a meltdown!" 6 steps to Eradicate Flashbacks in PTSD/CPTSD from 2020-08-31T01:00

A meltdown is almost always an EMOTIONAL FLASHBACK.

What does it mean? Why do we experience a flashback and what can be done about it?

When you understand what is going on, it's ea...

Misplaced Anger, Politics and The Effects of the Absent Father (with Q&A) from 2020-08-30T01:00

A hangout from 2016 discussing political and cultural topics (including intimacy, porn and sex) including a Q&A section.

-> The Summoning the Self course is out now htt...

Hannibal Lecter - Narcissist or Psychopath? from 2020-08-29T02:00

Silence of the Lambs has been one of my favorite books.

And the movie adaptation is, in my opinion, the best book to movie adaptation ever.

It's a fascinating story seen from the p...

5 Tips for Overcoming Habitual People Pleasing from 2020-08-28T11:01:22

From all the nasty habits one can have, people pleasing is the one that is often overlooked, yet VERY impactful.

It manifests everywhere, where we interact with other people.

And t...

"GIVE ME MOTIVATION!" Goal Setting Exercise (Why Values & Directions Trump Goals) from 2020-08-28T01:00

Motivation doesn't come from nowhere!

It's a natural force pushing you forward to what's important to YOU.

Either it's presence, or lack of it, is a valuable signal.

In this...

How to Make Anything Happen (Ferocity of Intent) from 2020-08-25T02:00

If there's one thing without which no technique is effective, it's this.

With the sheer will you can do anything.

Ancient people knew that well.

Now is the time to put that ...

Does Social Media Use Make Millennials More Narcissistic? from 2020-08-24T18:00

Social media influence our lives in a large way.

How do they influence our character and behaviour?

What does the research say?

Find out all about it in this episode.

How Does the Narcissistic Immigrant Family Unit Form? from 2020-08-24T06:00

Why would some immigrants families display narcissistic tendencies?

What are the psychological dynamics taking place?

(00:00) Stating Today's Topic

(04:57) Where...

(Live Q&A) Fascistic Fandango Fallaciously Fulfilling Feeble Fears - Forgo Falsehood! Fortify Freedom! from 2020-08-23T05:00

Questions and Answers session from April 2020 - covering both psychology, and current events comments and questions.

(00:07) How do you recognize the difference between CPTSD ...

How to Handle Smear Campaigns (Spartan Style) from 2020-08-22T18:00

There are a few things to remember when dealing with smear campaigns.

Actually, they may be an opportunity to strengthen our sovereignty.

Check out how to go Spartan Style on it.

Does psychology teach us to be pushovers? from 2020-08-22T05:00

Psychology today has one big problem.

Because of it, it is missing a very important aspect of humanness.

What has been lost and how we get it back?

Listen to this.

Listen

How to Get Comfortable Living Outside of Your Comfort Zone from 2020-08-21T17:00

It's a no-brainer that it's safe in the comfort zone.

And yes, we do need a degree of it to stay healthy.

But what if you could feel confident living outside of it?

Wouldn't...

How to Psychotherapy (Empathic Psychotherapy) from 2020-08-21T06:00

There is one, special component that makes a good psychotherapist.

It's not an easy art.

True therapist is able to deal with raw, human vulnerability.

If you're looking for ...

Getting into New Relationships Post Narcissistic Abuse (with Terry McCoy and Steve Heneghan) from 2020-08-20T18:00

A discussion with Terry McCoy and Steve Heneghan - The Spartan Life Coaches - regarding post-breakup hurt and getting into new relationships, including a lot of experience drawn from coaching se...

Getting GROUNDED & Moving Forward (with Q&A) from 2020-08-20T05:00

You've probably heard about grounding.

Why is it important requirement for recovery?

What does it mean to be grounded?

If you're interested in this topic, you'll enjoy this ...

"Did I Mess Things Up With This Girl?" from 2020-08-19T17:00

How much honesty should you exert in a relationship?

50%? 100%? Always? Sometimes?

Check out WHY it is such an important question.

(00:50) Honesty All the Way, V...

Dealing with Suicidal Thoughts from 2020-08-19T06:00

When I looked up on the official psychological advice on what to do when people say they're suicidal, it was all pretty bland.

I though that I shouldn't just repeat stuff that's bland.&nb...

Does marriage disadvantage some women? from 2020-08-18T17:00

We have this idea of marriage in our society.

It is so deeply ingrained, it's rarely questioned.

Is marriage always a good thing?

(02:18) I'm Provoking You to Th...

Infantile Defense” is Not “weak” - the Opposite is True from 2020-08-18T04:00

Therapy, as well as intimacy in general, can sometimes trigger infantile responses in people.

What is an infantile response? Why is it used as a defense strategy?

And why it is not...

Forgiveness? Forget it. Do THIS instead! from 2020-08-17T18:00

Forgiveness is though, let's face it.

Everyone's saying how important it is in the healing process.

But maybe a person doesn't even deserve to be forgiven?

It's good that we...

How can Eckhart Tolle help us to resolve trauma? from 2020-08-17T05:00

"Being in the now" has become more and more popular lately.

It's a bit tricky when it relates to trauma.

Have you come upon, or practiced mindfulness teachings?

This is what...

Do Codependents Poison Relationships Just as Much as Narcissists? w/ Richard Grannon from 2020-08-16T17:00

Narcissist needs a stage to shine on.

He needs a fertile ground to do his thing.

That ground is created by codependent's toxic passivity.

A codependent has learned to take o...

"Coping with Divorcing a Narcissist" - Interview with Divorce Coaching Specialist Sara Davison from 2020-08-16T04:00

Divorce can be a tough deal.

Divorce with a narcissist is like a double-tough deal.

This is where divorce specialist Sara Davison comes in.

(00:01) Getting Start...

Healing CPTSD in less than 30 days? from 2020-08-15T01:00

Can you make your symptoms get better in less than 30 days?

Well, everyone's situation is different, but this is what I've done to achieve that.

**Find the ...

How is Anorexia Increased by Social Media? from 2020-08-14T17:00

How is anorexia connected to social media usage?

Why does it enhance body dysmorphia in adolescents?

And most importantly - what can be done, and how you can help a person struggli...

How we develop attachment trauma relationships with our PHONES from 2020-08-14T12:35:03

Why people can get EXTREMELY upset and angry when they got their instagram account shut down?

The answer is a very primal, psychological mechanism, that may also explain, why people are a...

Why is healing super ego important post narcissistic abuse from 2020-08-14T08:23:06

This is not an easy topic, but I did my best to make it digestible.

The super ego is a part of our psyche that has been with us for a long time.

It has played a tremendous role in ...

Heartbreak, childhood trauma and developing the skill of moving on (Q&A) from 2020-08-14T06:00

How to become an adult, attention addiction, inner child and more, covered in this Q&A session.

(00:00) Getting Started

(00:29) Richard Summing Up and Revising His ...

How to Rescue Ourselves From Political Extremism Using the Socratic Method (Deckchairs at Dawn) from 2020-08-13T17:00

There is not much of Socratic method in political debates.

So much that it's hard to really call it a debate.

When you actually see that, it can be a strong motivation to learn the...

Advice on Drugs and Addiction from 2020-08-13T06:00

There's a way in which addiction is seen, that is outdated.

Simply - it all comes down to changing one's feelings.

Understanding that is key to "healing" the addiction.

Thes...

Cure CPTSD Minicourse Part 2 "Heal The Super Ego" from 2020-08-13T00:00

Part 2 focuses more deeply onto practical solutions for dealing with the core issue behind our unpleasant state.

(00:00) Talking About the End Goal

(04:44) Certain Key ...

Cure CPTSD Minicourse Part 3 "Repattern The Inner Parent" from 2020-08-13T00:00

Now, this is the bread and butter of HEALING. 

You want to start thinking and feeling in new ways, right?

This last, third part of the minicourse will teach you how to make th...

Cure CPTSD Minicourse Part 1 "A new model for healing CPTSD symptoms" from 2020-08-13T00:00

In this unit we're going to explore the reasons behind our low self-esteem, anxiety and depression problems, and take a dive into the revolutionary Complex PTSD model.

(00:00)...

Authenticity - Relationship Advice for Codependents from 2020-08-12T17:00

Authenticity is more and more rare in our society.

Yet it is crucial if we want natural, human to human connection.

Why is it so hard for codependents to be authentic?

What ...

Integrating a healthy superego from 2020-08-12T09:19:25

At some point of our recovery, we have to integrate a healthy superego into our psyche.

You want the opposite of internal criticism.

You want an inner support and encouragement. Listen

12 Steps to Dealing with Narcissists (Emotional Self Protection and Boundary Setting) from 2020-08-12T05:00

When it comes to handling the narcissists, these 12 rules are absolute necessity.

Make sure you got everything in check!

(00:20) #1 Admit and Identify

(00:27) #2...

Codependent as mirror image of narcissist from 2020-08-11T17:00

You can’t flip out of NPD obviously but when you have two narcissists together it seems to me they take turns to be “prey” (vulnerable) and “predator” (grandiose).

In this vid...

Narcissists Don't Have an Ego from 2020-08-11T05:00

Have you felt unseen and disrespected by a narcissist?

The ego helps us to make distinctions and boundaries in the world.

That is partly why narcissists are so abusive and dismissi...

BPD & the Psychotic Component - Sam Vaknin and Richard Grannon from 2020-08-10T17:00

What are psychotic disorders, how do they form and how to heal them, about love, marriage, sex and more. Sam Vaknin and Richard Grannon discussion.

(00:00) History of the Term...

Bulimia and Mindfulness from 2020-08-10T06:00

Eating disorders are often the case with the victims of emotional abuse.

They can have BAD implications and you don't want to allow it to happen.

How can you better treat this prob...

Can healing and therapy cause you to lose motivation? from 2020-08-09T17:00

Why I don't feel like doing the things I used to do anymore?

I thought I was getting better?

Listen to this episode if you want to know what is, and why it might have been a "funct...

Chat with Melany Oliver - Spiritual Things - from 2020-08-09T04:00

How do we overcome the blocks to healing, and what does healing actually mean, where does spirituality fits with psychology, narcissism in cultural context, and more - in this conversation with ...

5 Things You Can Do To Deal With CPTSD Now! from 2020-08-08T17:00

Do you find yourself struggling with CPTSD?

Does it feel like it's taking your life away from you?

Check out these things that will help you to get better!

// Si...

1 Month Off Social Media Experiment (Unexpected Results) from 2020-08-08T05:00

Are you spending too much time on social media?

How would it be like to take a break?

What if you could REFRESH your use of social media?

Experiments always gives us new per...

Being Spartan - opposing the mainstream ideals of mental health (with Q&A) from 2020-08-07T16:00

Let's face it - mainstream psychology get mixed results.

It has a lot not-quite-effective methods and ideas.

This is one of the reason for creating the Spartan Life Coach project.<...

Creating lasting change in the brain is essential to healing CPTSD from 2020-08-07T05:00

This is an short excerpt from a seminar about overcoming CPTSD and recovering from narcissistic abuse with a few, quick and strong ideas.

Anima/Animus Posession from 2020-08-06T17:00

Anima and Animus are Jungian concepts describing an archetype in each one of us.

They represent the feminine/masculine part of psyche.

What happens when it gets out of control?

Richard Bandler vs Eckhart Tolle (passivity vs activity) from 2020-08-06T09:22:02

Should you let go and allow the reality, or go out there and make it change?

Eckhart Tolle has become popular with his teachings on pure awareness and letting things be as they are.

2 tips 2 heal from 2020-08-05T17:00

There are two key tips I always give people who want to accelerate their healing.

If you don't want to be stuck with your mental health problems, here's something to think about.

<...

A Narcissist's Love Letter from 2020-08-05T01:00

This is something very interesting shared by a client - a letter from narcissist.

https://thoughtcatalog.com/john-w-howell/2013/05/a-narcissists-love-letter/

Why You Are STUCK in the Narcissistic Relationship? from 2020-08-04T16:00

There is something BIG holding the relationship in place.

Maybe the narcissist didn't came by accident and needs your help?

Some say it's a moral obligation to be the narcissist's ...

The Blind Maze and the Double Bind of the Narcissistically Abusive System from 2020-08-04T02:00

This is why victims of narcissistic abuse go crazy and lose their sense of reality.

The good thing is, it's induced - and whatever's induced, is temporary and can be resolved.

If y...

How to Tell Histrionic Personality Disorder? from 2020-08-03T16:00

What is Histrionic Personality Disorder?

Is it distinct to NPD?

If you were ever curious how to tell is someone has a histrionic personality disorder, listen to this episode.

What is the Difference Between Arrogance and Actual Narcissism? Simple Answer (3 keys) from 2020-08-03T01:00

How do you know if arrogant person is a narcissist?

(00:31) Narcissistic Arrogance is Not Normal Arrogance

(01:49) Is It Permanent, Pervasive and Personal?

(05:0...

Why Do Women Get Back With Abusive Men? (Trauma Bonding) from 2020-08-02T17:00

This is a problem that is often not very well understood. (Even by psychologists).

Unfortunately our brain works in a way that allows TRAUMA to create a strong, emotional bonds that can w...

How to Stop Being a Slave ("Fake Morality" and Nietzsche) from 2020-08-02T00:00

Is humility good? How is that connected to people struggling to make money?

Nietzsche has some interesting insights into how we act in relationships.

Codependents have a tendency t...

How to repattern the inner parent, heal the superego virus from 2020-08-01T17:00

Until we deal with our toxic superego, our healing process will not move further.

How to repattern this inner part of ours? How to be a good, loving parent to yourself?

This, and m...

The Narcissistic Personality as Split/Multiple Personality - Notes - Sam Vaknin Liverpool Seminar from 2020-08-01T01:00

The narcissist will play any role just to get his supply.

That is why it can be tricky to interact with them.

We're going to dive deeper into that in this episode.

What Happens With Unprocessed Emotions from 2020-07-31T18:00

Emotions are energy and they need an outlet.

Where do they go when we don't have a way of directing them?

(00:02) Technology and Social Media Are Created to Distract Us...

Psychological Barriers to Success/Creative Expression - (Getting Out of Trauma, Depression, CPTSD) from 2020-07-31T16:00

What is holding us back? Why can't we freely express our creativity?

HOW to break these barriers?

(00:04) Getting Started

(01:12) Stating the Topic

(02:37...

Robin Williams was a victim of unresolved CPTSD from 2020-07-31T00:00

Robin Williams, just like others, wasn't free of Adverse Childhood Environment.

(00:00) Getting Started

(02:14) Some Comedians Are Miserable

(06:28) Analyzing th...

How to Stop Perfectionism, Procrastinating and Get Shit Done! from 2020-07-30T23:00

You cannot REALLY overcome procrastination.

That's because it's not what they say it is.

The issue might be somewhere else, because our unconscious have a greater impact on our beh...

Say 'NO' Now! (There Wont Be Time Later) from 2020-07-30T17:00

What happens when you hesitate to demand what you want?

If narcissists are so ruthless, so you should be.

It's important that you set you boundaries immediately without a second-th...

Secondary and Tertiary Gaslighting from 2020-07-30T01:00

You might have heard that you can be gaslighted by the narcissist, but... unfortunately it may not end there.

THE ONLINE NARCISSISM SUB CULTURE - Interview with Sam Vaknin from 2020-07-29T17:00

Narcissistic abuse victims forums are a big thing right now.

Is the narcissism discussed there a good representation of what it actually is?

What if they have fallen a victim to ov...

The "Oprah Reality Tunnel" (Idealised Self and ego-wanking "Beautiful Soul") from 2020-07-29T05:00

Reality is the way it is, and the "Beautiful Soul" is failing to see it.

(00:05) Playing the Beautiful Soul a.k.a. Oprah Winfrey Reality Tunnel

(03:13) The Problems Tha...

Why Can't I Succeed? Internal Blocks to Success Installed by Emotionally Abusive Family Unit from 2020-07-28T17:00

Is it difficult to get traction in your life?

You always seem to self-sabotage right before achieving your goal?

That can be emotionally and soul-wrecking problem. One can feel stu...

Shamans, Black Sheep, Seers, Outliers, Weirdos, Outcasts, Sensitives, Psychics and Healers from 2020-07-27T23:00

Where do they all come from?

What do they all have in common?

(00:05) How the Topic Came About

(02:11) Being a Narcissist vs. Narcissistic & The Need for Par...

How to Process Emotions? from 2020-07-26T17:00

Without proper access to your emotions you're kind of blind.

You can't discern the situations properly, you over-react or under-react.

You live your life as a roller coaster, seeki...

Guilt in victims of narcissistic abuse? from 2020-07-26T00:00

Is it common for victims of narcissistic abuse to feel guilty?

It seems irrational - why it would be the case?

(00:03) Starting the Topic & The 3 Main Reasons

Can you get infected with NPD? from 2020-07-25T16:00

Can victims of narcissistic abuse develop narcissistic traits?

(00:00) Is It Possible to Develop Narcissistic Personality Disorder by Contagion? Part 1

(03:45) Is It Po...

Am I Vulnerable To Abuse? (The Invisible Wounds) from 2020-07-25T04:00

How narcissists exploit their victims weaknesses?

(00:57) Consider This One Thing

(02:20) Invisible Wounds

(03:26) Being Prone to Abusive People

(04:24) C...

Trauma as Initiation (plus Neuroplasticity) from 2020-07-24T23:00

We know trauma changes a person. Can it change you for the better? How it affects our neural pathways, and why neuroplasticity is important in recovery? This, and more in this episode including ...

How do I defend against narcissists and overcome the "wounded healer" archetype? from 2020-07-24T17:00

Do you feel like you're an outcast? A "wounded healer"/shaman?

Are you fed up with being abused by narcissists?

You may feel isolated and alone with your problem, maybe hopeless in...

How to Stop Yourself Getting Into Shitty Relationships from 2020-07-24T16:00

Do you find yourself in the same, broken relationships over and over again?

We have to understand we make our choices emotionally, not rationally.

When you better UNDERSTAND your e...

Narcissistic Abuse Survival Kit from 2020-07-24T02:00

Here are 8 things that will help you after narcissistic abuse.

(00:51) #1 Call Abuse - Abuse

(01:53) #2 Diminishing Contact

(03:11) #3 Do a Sanity Check

(...

How We Traded REAL Love for Shallow NARCISSISM (And What That is Doing to Us) from 2020-07-23T23:00

Many people feel lonely in today's world.

We want to be seen, heard and felt.

Yet, are we ready TO see, hear and feel?

It's not necessarily your fault to have unrealistic vi...

How do I split up with my narcissistic ex? from 2020-07-23T17:00

Leaving the narcissist behind may be challenging.

They are expert manipulators AND you're emotionally disregulated.

It's good to have a game plan and a solid strategy.

Here ...

Law of Attraction - My Unpopular View on It from 2020-07-23T00:00

The Law of Attraction has become a popular movement.

There is a reason for that, which is not often discussed.

If you want to know my take on it, here it is.

(00...

'Lies Bind, Truth Frees' - Narcissistic Abuse Deconstructed from 2020-07-22T17:00

You can only move forward when you admit to the reality of where you are. The truth of where you are and how you got here.

It's not always easy and you can postpone doing that, yes.

Narcissistic partner has NO power over you if you are not flashbacking! from 2020-07-21T23:00

This is the ultimate protection against narcissists.

Flashbacks disregulate you and make you an easy target.

You knowing what you really feel is what narcissist fear the most.

Can we work towards a total cure for Complex-PTSD? (notes) from 2020-07-21T23:00

Is the total cure for CPTSD possible? Can we work toward it together, and how?

Many therapists are helpless in cases of personality disorders or CPTSD.

That is because the MODEL th...

2 Mistakes that Every Guy Makes When Approaching Girls from 2020-07-21T17:00

It can apply to women too!

What are the most important mistakes when approaching attractive person?

You don't need to be cool and amazing to meet them.

Being yourself is wel...

"Just Say No!" to the ADDICTION of co-dependent and people pleasing behaviour from 2020-07-21T01:00

People pleasing is an addiction.

That means you can be aware of it and stop it.

Narcissist Test - My Results for DARK CORE Personality Test Revealed (plus Moral Disengagement) from 2020-07-20T16:00

Please only do the test here https://qst.darkfactor.org/ and please offer permission for the researchers to use your results - the more data from the largest sample size, the better!

...

On The Borderline from 2020-07-20T01:00

Borderline Personality Disorder is often misdiagnosed CPTSD, or a result of it.

We're going to discuss it's main symptoms and characteristics.

If you want to understand borderline ...

Why Am I Attracted to Narcissists? from 2020-07-19T17:00

What is it about them that makes them so attractive?

Why are you attracted to them?

There are certain psychological processes that might be at play.

This episode will make i...

One Weird Tip To Totally Change Your Life Now from 2020-07-19T02:00

I'm going to give you one weirdly simple tip, that will help you get your life in order immediately.

This is one weird old school coaching tip no matter what you face in your life right n...

How to Respond to Bullying? (And Deal With Threat of Criminal Psychopaths) from 2020-07-18T23:00

No one has a right to bully you into doing something.

You are an adult who make his own choices.

Find out how a bully operates and how to respond with courage.

(...

Is Your Narcissist Also A Borderline? Probably... from 2020-07-18T18:00

Most narcissist are comorbid with borderline - what does it mean?

I'm pro Love but I prefer to be single - why? from 2020-07-18T16:00

3 Tips on How to Deal With PTSD Now from 2020-07-18T03:00

PTSD can be a real drag. It's no way to live.

The faster you recover, the more of your life is back.

There's no time to waste, so let's jump right into it.

(00:0...

Dysregulation of the HPA Axis - Biological Impact of Complex PTSD from 2020-07-18T00:00

CPTSD does affect our body and our neurochemistry.

When we realize it's all connected it might be easier to accept how we feel.

That understanding may also lead to acceleration of ...

Effects of Narcissistic Abuse from 2020-07-17T17:00

Narcissistic abuse is often invisible, and that is a problem.

Reaching for help among relatives, they can make you feel crazy when they're not the ones experiencing it.

These effec...

How To Induce Borderline Personality Disorder? from 2020-07-17T00:00

Living with a borderline personality is a hell of a ride.

Can it affect you? And how?

(02:22) How Relationship With Narcissist Changes You

(03:53) How Borderline...

What I LEARNED Living With A NARCISSIST (Covert Narcissist) from 2020-07-16T16:00

I was living with a narcissist comorbid with a borderline for few years and after time, successfully recovered.

Here is what I learned about covert abuse and abuser behavior.

<...

Post Breakup Over Analysis Syndrome (How to Stop It) from 2020-07-16T10:00

This is a straightforward explanation of how to break free from overanalyzing past relationship.

I'm going to show you why does it happen and the techniques to stop it that are working. Listen

The one place you don't want to go in your mind, is the place you must go to heal... (Q&A) from 2020-07-16T01:00

Many people try EVERYTHING and still don't get better.

There is really just one way to heal.

That is feeling through your emotions and facing the pain.

It's not nice, it's n...

How to Make People Feel Good? from 2020-07-15T13:00

Every word we use has a meaning and great impact on other's person mood.

When you know that, you will be able to make people feel good and at ease.

I will show you how to be a bett...

The Final Trump of The Narcopalypse (with Q&A) from 2020-07-15T02:00

On narcissism as a new social value, morality in our society, how narcissism and power go together, psychology of Donald Trump and more.

(00:00) We Have No Reasons To Believe ...

Procrastination and Lack of Motivation in CPTSD from 2020-07-14T22:00

There are really only 3 reasons for lack of motivation.

You may think you're just lazy or lacking self-discipline when that is almost never the case.

We're going to discuss these r...

Actionable Tips for Positive Change (live Q&A) from 2020-07-14T21:00

"What we focus on grows stronger" is the main theme of this live Hangout including Q&A.

Many interesting topics have been covered, revolving around the things one can do to make a pos...

Why We Can't Let Go of the Past? (A Walk Through Angkor Wat) from 2020-07-14T10:00

The past can be really painful.

Not being able to let it go hurts.

But what if it was never the case?

Maybe it's not about erasing our past?

If you want to deal with ...

How to Get Back Into a Healthy Relationship After Narcissistic Abuse? from 2020-07-13T12:00

Starting a new relationship after emotional abuse can be really hard.

Here are the most important points you need to know if you want that relationship to be healthy.

Sticking to t...

Do these 3 THINGS every morning to accelerate your healing NOW from 2020-07-13T00:00

This is one of the most powerful and yet most underestimated techniques.

People tend to think something is too simple to work. But then are astonished when they actually try it.

It...

The One Belief Change You Need To Blast Through ALL Procrastination from 2020-07-12T22:00

This is a quick one.

Do you find yourself slacking off?

You procrastinate and the longer you do it the worse it gets?

Listen on how to get back on track.

...

How to say “NO” to a Narcissist from 2020-07-12T15:00

How do you know if the relationship is abusive?

Say the magic word "no" and watch the reaction.

You have been conditioned to not be able to say no.

But remember it is your r...

Cycle of Narcissism - Black Sheep Become Empaths Who Attract Narcs (and so on...) from 2020-07-12T01:00

Can narcissism cycle and breed over generations? What are the parental errors and how you can avoid them?

(00:21) Brutal Reality of Family Unit

(02:30) Empaths Creating...

How Physical Appearance Affects Self Assertiveness from 2020-07-11T20:00

Do you care about your appearance? Are you worried how others see you?

You may think that you have to be beautiful, and if you don't, you'll have a hard time with people.

Turns out...

How to get yourself in order from 2020-07-11T03:00

Lot of people just passively drag through life nowadays.

Our culture fosters toxic passivity and that is a problem.

If you are here, you probably want something better.

If s...

FOCUS on what you DO want (NLP Applied Psychology Tips) from 2020-07-10T23:00

Do you feel stuck? You experience negativity over and over again?

Solution is simple, yet often overlooked.

You can direct your attention and I'll tell you how.

...

Does Emotions Hinder or Help Us? from 2020-07-10T15:00

This reframe can change your life and how you achieve your goals.

Emotions can often annoy us and hinder our progress.

Does it always have to be like that?

If you want your ...

Is my ex girlfriend a narcissist or a borderline? How do I get rid of her? from 2020-07-10T08:00

Ever wondered how to "get rid of" your ex?

Often times they stick around and try their tactics to get to us.

You can also be unsure what to expect from their condition or how to ac...

Narcissism in Hindu Perspective (Materialism leading to NPD) from 2020-07-10T00:00

We live in an age of human devolution (according to Hinduism).

It makes sense when you look around.

What good can the world obsessed with materialism do?

In this episode we ...

Borderline and CPTSD? CPTSD or Borderline? from 2020-07-09T17:00

This is straight up explanation of commonalities and differences between CPTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder.

We're going to discuss the nature and origin of both disorders, includi...

IS NARCISSISM A SURVIVAL STRATEGY FOR THE 21st CENTURY - The Sam Vaknin Interview from 2020-07-09T10:00

This is an interview with Sam Vaknin about narcissism in modern day culture and how it fits in its socio-economic systems.

(00:01) To Survive In Today's World You Need To Be N...

How Can Culture Give Us CPTSD? from 2020-07-09T01:00

Ever wondered if you've been covertly abused by someone else than your parents or partner?

In this episode we're looking at how culture and society can covertly abuse people by pushing th...

The Truth About Drug Use from 2020-07-08T20:00

Are drugs good or bad?

Whether they're pharmaceutical or illegal, socially approved or taboo, 

everybody uses some type of drug.

(02:02) Richard's Backgroun...

It's NOT a "Biological Disease" (Cracking Depression) from 2020-07-08T14:00

Have you been feeling depressed? Did you wonder what is the reason for depression?

There is a narrative about depression in the mainstream. 

Let's be honest.

It's a com...

Don't Run From Pain from 2020-07-08T08:01:49

This is some hard truths you need to hear.

Yet we cannot heal without facing the reality.

It's not easy, but hopefully this will make you braver. 

It's well worth it.

Emotional Literacy Can Heal CPTSD? from 2020-07-07T17:00

This is something that 10X your recovery speed.

Everybody's tells us about the importance of processing our emotions, but rarely tells us how. We get stuck and frustrated repressing our f...

How to Manage Contact With a Narcissist from 2020-07-07T14:06:02

Sometimes we have to stay in contact with a narcissist for whatever reason.

This can be upsetting and difficult situation. We might feel re-triggered every time we contact them, or just g...

How PTSD Affects the Brain? (Biology Behind CPTSD/PTSD) from 2020-07-06T19:00

Can self-compassion physically change your brain? Exploring PTSD cures  - calm the monkey, still the lizard and free the human.

(01:34) Biological Background of PTSD and ...

Counter Dependency and Love-Phobia from 2020-07-06T07:00

Borderline Personality Disorder, Codependency, Counter Dependency, Narcissism

(0:00) Codependency And Counter Dependency

(4:33) Cluster B Personality Disorders Are Actu...

Is THIS Love Bombing (or are they just genuinely interested in you) 5 Tips to Tell from 2020-07-06T01:00

How do you know if its "love bombing" or not?

Really this question comes down to an issue of boundaries and of perception.

***timestamps below***

It seems to be ...

How to Use Meditation for CPTSD? from 2020-07-05T20:00

Meditation is used to strengthen your mind, awareness and quality of thoughts - attributes which are crucial to healing. Although for many CPTSD cases it can be triggering - here we will talk ab...

Conquer toxic passivity - develop a philosophy of competition! from 2020-07-05T08:00

An excerpt from a seminar touching on: having a right to be, growing up and letting go, taking ownership and responsibility, facing competition...

CPTSD? 5 Things You Can Do To Feel Better Now from 2020-07-04T23:00

Your body is a biological machine that have needs and need maintenance. Do these things to make sure you will start to feel better.

(State management, physical emotional and somatic sensa...

How to Self Discipline? (For People Pleasers/Learned Helplessness) from 2020-07-04T21:00

What self-discipline really is and how to become more self-disciplined? How relevant it is in healing and overcoming narcissistic abuse and CPTSD?

Sign-up for the mentioned fr...

How to Emotionally Re Regulate Someone? from 2020-07-04T16:00

(00:10) Your State Transmits

(01:02) Regulation and Zen Buddhism

(02:52) Meditation for Self-awareness

(04:58) State Management, Objective of Communication, Boundaries

Grey Rock Technique For Handling Narcissists (Quick Explanation) from 2020-07-04T10:00

Grey Rock is used to bore a narcissist to avoid the drama that is their narcissistic supply

CRAZYMAKING COMMUNICATION Covert Narcissists Use To ABUSE YOU (Narcissists Secret Weapon) from 2020-07-04T01:00

In this podcast, we talk about how narcissists use crazy communication tactics to abuse you and what you NEED to be aware of to prevent them from using their secret weapons. 

Listen

Codependency, Heartbreak and a Discipline of Optimism (with Q&A) from 2020-07-03T18:00

In this podcast we are going to take a look at issue of codependency and heartbreak, and explore optimism as a solution

(00:01) Hello

(00:13) Codependents Are Usually F...

Can Codependency Be Context Specific? (Q&A) from 2020-07-03T07:00

Can codependency be context specific, modern cults, getting past anger after past relationship, emotionally detaching from a parent, and more - in this live Q&A session including live calls....

Narcissistic Abuse and CPTSD Recovery - Live Q&A with Richard Grannon from 2020-07-03T01:00

Extensive live Q&A session covering over 43 questions around the topic of narcissistic abuse and CPTSD recovery.

(00:01) Hello

(01:51) "Could a flashback be caused ...

Compassion for Narcissists (yes or no?) from 2020-07-02T22:00

About empathy, compassion and how we understand and use these words.

(00:00) Talking About Empathy

(05:08) Empathy Is Delusion

(10:12) The Issue Of Compassion Listen

Coping with Demonic Attack, Magick, Where does Spirituality Fit In? from 2020-07-02T19:00

Are you an atheist, do you believe in demons and magick, what is the truth and more.

(00:07) Getting Started

(01:26) Being Cautious of Polarization and Black & Whit...

Fake Nice Guys - The False Economy of Dating "Nice" Guys from 2020-07-02T15:00

A discussion covering topics like: male - female relationship dynamics, the myth of alpha male and women preferences and importance of instincts in judging people.

(00:13) Wom...

Clockwork Orange Penguins, Narcissistic Abuse and CPTSD (Q&A) from 2020-07-01T23:00

Cultural conditioning, how society react to feelings and healing, dealing with narcissists, recovery, sovereignty and more.

||Q&A pt. 1||

(00:18) "How do narcissist...

Whats in Room 101? (+Q&A) from 2020-07-01T22:00

Self-love affected by abuse, what is going on in the abusive parent's child's head and how that shapes the idea of love?

(00:02) Getting Started

(00:16) What's In Room ...

Answering the Sex Question (Q&A) from 2020-07-01T17:00

Q&A Session around the topic of sexuality of Cluster B personality types

(00:18) Reading The Sex Question From The Forum Part 1

(03:13) Reading The Sex Question Fro...

Dana Morningstar (Thrive After Abuse) - Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse (a chat +Q&A) from 2020-07-01T11:00

A great talk with Dana Morningstar of Thrive After Abuse on the topic of narcissistic abuse recovery, including Q&A. Dana has her own YouTube channel and a website Thrive After Abuse.

Can A Narcissist Be Healed? from 2020-07-01T10:00

Can narcissist be healed? Are they aware of what they're doing? Is it a deep-seated character issue, or just bad pattern of behaviour?

(00:14) Full-blown NPD Vs. Display of Na...

Get Over Ex Using This Modelling Technique (Break Trauma Bond) from 2020-07-01T01:00

Break Trauma Bond - Modelling Technique To Recondition Mr Lizard

(00:01) Emotional Loading And The One Solution For It Part 1

(04:52) Emotional Loading And The One Solu...

How to Break The Cycle of Bad Relationships? from 2020-06-30T19:00

No Contact, Repetition Compulsion, being stuck in same old patters of relationships, including examples both from Richard's life, and Pete Walker clients.

(00:36) Abusive Rela...

How to Use Mindfulness to Heal (properly) from 2020-06-30T13:00

Mindfulness can be a real, effective tool in recovery. This is how to use it in overcoming CPTSD and negative self-talk.

(With assistance of Pete Walker and his book "Complex PTSD: From S...

Are narcissists actually sadists? (Sam Vaknin's perspective) from 2020-06-30T10:00

Is the narcissistic person in my life a sadist?

(01:03) Reading Sam Vaknin on the Topic

(02:24) It's About What Narcissist Get, Not Necessarily How

(04:24) Richa...

Addicted to the narcissist, empty in his absence, craving a spike from 2020-06-30T04:00

This is an extensive, in-depth answer to a long question, covering the topic of a difficult, toxic relationship

(00:11) Cluster B Personality Types Will Only Let You Feel What...

Are you taking the chocolate? from 2020-06-30T01:00

Is it worth giving up our boundaries in order to receive what we want? What is the alternative?

(00:10) Introduction - Hannibal Lecter Reference

(03:43) The Devil's Pac...

Healing Narcissistic Abuse Using NLP and Hypnosis? from 2020-06-29T21:00

There are many misconceptions and stigma around both NLP and hypnosis, mostly due to its exploitation by the wrong people. But still, it can be effective tool in your recovery.

Bateson's "double bind theory of schizophrenia", 1984 psychology of torture, narcisstic abuse from 2020-06-29T12:10:24

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. What is the Double Bind and how abusive personality types brainwash their victims.

(00:05) Introduction

(01:36) 4 Components of a...

Bumping into the Narcissistic Mother, NLP Evil, inner child, misandry around abuse, and more (in-depth Q&A) from 2020-06-28T10:00

This is a fruitful Q&A session covering topics of relationships with narcissists, requirements for healing from trauma, abuse and CPTSD, etc.

(00:16) How do I deal with if...

5 Lies The Narcissist Wants You To Believe from 2020-06-28T02:00

(00:10) #1 Omnipotency

(04:15) #2 Timelessness

(06:18) #3 Invoking Powerlessness

(08:02) #4 Facade of specialness and uniqueness

(09:00) #5 Kindness and "strategic he...

Do These 3 Things Instead of Trying to Make Yourself Happy from 2020-06-27T21:00

Do these 3 things instead of trying to make yourself happy

(00:01) Pursuing happiness is a trap

(00:52) #1 Why productivity can make you happy?

(04:02) #2 Escape...

The Zombie Witchdoctors of Narcissistic Abuse from 2020-06-27T14:00

The Zombie Witchdoctor is a name given to the worst of the worst narcissistic personality types that are co-morbid with borderline and antisocial type personality disorder.

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How to Treat Toxic Shame (2 ways) from 2020-06-27T07:00

Toxic Shame is a result of trauma and one of main symptoms of CPTSD, and it can be cured over time.

(00:09) Introduction

(02:02) Healing Toxic Shame - Compassionate dia...

Critical Thinking To Cut Through The BS from 2020-06-27T00:00

(00:01) What is Critical Thinking? Part 1

(02:20) Having the Value of Disciplined and Clear Thinking

(06:52) Sane Vs Insane

(08:49) Being Good at Arguing

(12:00) The ...

What Are PTSD/CPTSD Flashbacks and How They Can Mess Up the Therapy from 2020-06-26T16:00

What is PTSD and what are the differences with CPTSD? What are flashbacks and how do they work? Why the client tries to be disliked by a therapist and what to do about it?

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How Do I Overcome People Pleaser Syndrome? from 2020-06-26T07:35:26

(00:16) Become Very Aware of You Displaying the Traits

(00:45) The Spartan Life Coaching Way & the Ineffectiveness of Traditional Therapy

(02:56) Dangers of Negative Hypnosis &...

Teaching Girls How to Get Guys (How to Meet New People) from 2020-06-25T23:00

You can learn to be more extroverted and get rid of shyness, here's how.

(00:01) Introduction

(01:25) Dismantling the Problem of Shyness

(02:26) Training Your Ex...

This Will Make You Use Affirmations Correctly While Having CPTSD (with Q&A) from 2020-06-25T20:00

For people with CPTSD using affirmations is a bit different - use these tricks and techniques to effectively change how you feel just by talking to yourself. It's as easy as that.

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Passive-aggressive Fake Concern to Insult You (Concern Trolls) [Q&A] w/ Amazing Polly from 2020-06-25T08:17:59

(00:16) Amazing Polly's bit on "Concern Trolls"

(03:00) That's sounds so polite, but what are they really saying?

(08:36) Q&A Section

(10:47) Can you mistake...

Psychotherapy horror stories w/ Richard Grannon from 2020-06-24T18:00

(00:16) Psychotherapy is an Art

(06:06) Story of a Bad Example of Trauma Processing

(09:00) Referencing Century of Self, Dangers of Trauma-bonding in Therapy

(14:00) MBTI Pe...

Confronting Narcissists Directly Has Explosive Results from 2020-06-24T09:03:46

How narcissists see themselves as a character in a movie (which is one of the reason why you should not directly confront their issues), examples of their behaviour, and reasons behind that.

How I Overcame Narcissistic Abuse from 2020-06-09T02:00

(01:01) That Problem is Complicated Because You Are a Part of It (The Modern Slavery)

(06:34) The "Red Pill Reality" and Blue-pilling Yourself

(08:58) Impact of Stories, Metaphors ...

How To Interpret Narcissistic Behaviour from 2020-06-08T23:00

Inside the mind of a narcissist - how to understand their logic and their behaviour?

(00:06) Introduction

(02:06) How Do Narcissists Operate (Acting, Agenda, Power Obse...

How to Overcome People Pleaser Syndrome and Self-assert Yourself from 2020-06-08T17:00

These are the key principles to become a more boundaried person

(00:02) Topic Introduction

(02:09) These Traits Are the Root Cause of Being Targeted by Abusers

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These 15 Traits May Indicate You Have a People Pleaser Syndrome from 2020-06-08T10:00

(00:02) Introduction & disclaimer

(01:35) #1 Emotophobia

(02:51) #2 Neurotic Naivety

(04:24) #3 Desire to be liked

(05:06) #4 External locus of control

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How Covert Narcissists Use Word Salad as a Tactic from 2020-06-08T05:00

How narcissists confuse and derail a conversation, the differences between overt and covert narcissism

(0:00) The Difference Between Overt And Covert Narcissism Part 1

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Do THIS if You Want to Heal Faster and Let Go from 2020-06-07T23:00

How to let go of bad baggage and heal?

(01:06) Resistance to Feelings Stemming From Social Conditioning

(07:43) Results of Repressed Emotions

(11:04) Coming Back...

Recover from CPTSD and break the zombie witch doctor's spell over you (with Q&A) from 2020-06-07T16:00

Dealing with flashbacks and healing from CPTSD

(0:00) Getting Started

(1:20) Acknowledging That You Are In An Emotional Flashback

(05:23) Reading And Commenting ...

3 Mind Games Narcissists Love to Play To Torture Their Targets from 2020-06-07T09:00

(00:24) Propagandization & Changing the Perception

(02:08) Note on Reaction-seeking Social Media Use

(03:43) No Sincere Communication, Reaction Seeking & Reverse of Truth Listen

How to deal with a narcissist trying to come back into our life? from 2020-06-07T03:00

Narcissists re-idealization of old sources of supply based on Sam Vaknin video

(00:04) Introducing the Topic

(01:43) Narcissist's Re-idealizaton

(05:01) A Strate...

Narcissism? Or Asperger Syndrome? from 2020-06-06T23:00

What are the similarities and differences between Asperger Syndrome and Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

(00:19) Short Explanation of Asperger Syndrome

(02:17) Asperg...

The One Question You Need To Determine If A Narcissist Is A Narcissist from 2020-06-06T18:00

This question is based on the premise that narcissists believe they are fundamentally perfect. Using it is an easy way to test them. Checking their reaction to certain emotional films can also b...

What Is Sexual Narcissism (Narcissism And Sexuality) [with Q&A] from 2020-06-06T12:00

Are narcissists hypersexual or hyposexual and why, do they feel sexual attraction, how they manipulate and abuse their sexual partner, how to recover and more

(00:01) Starting...

Knowing These 10 Red Flags Will Make You Safe Against Narcissist from 2020-06-06T05:00

Know if you are vulnerable and prone to abusive relationships and don't get fooled again

(00:22) Questions You Need to Ask Yourself

(00:56) Check the People Pleaser Tra...

How to Take Revenge On A Narcissist from 2020-06-06T01:00

(01:25) Actively Engage in Reframe, Become a Predator

(04:06) What is Your Objective? (Spectrum of Force)

(08:11) Sending a Narcissist Into a Meltdown by Denying His Idealized Self...

7 Signs You've Suffered Narcissistic ABUSE (Suffering Narcissistic Abuse) from 2020-06-05T22:00

(00:06) #1 Get some objectivity

(01:35) #2 Use 3rd person perspective

(03:24) #3 "What is the purpose of this communication?"

(05:07) Be careful not to overuse "The Narcissi...

How Do I Overcome a Desire to Be Parented in a Relationship? from 2020-06-05T18:00

This is inspired by a question "How do I overcome a desire to be parented (protected, claimed and loved) in a relationship?"

Why relationships are not and don't have to be whi...

The Fastest, Easiest Test for Narcissism Up to Date (The Smiling No Test) from 2020-06-05T12:00

This will make you confident in your ability to detect narcissists

(0:00) Exploitativeness And Entitlement As The More Dangerous Traits Of A Narcissist

(3:34) There Mus...

How Covert Narcissists Brain Wash Their Victims from 2020-06-05T09:29:14

How covert narcissistic abusers disguise their wrongdoing?

(00:35) The Problem That Covert Operations Create

(02:24) Brainwashing Creating Confusion

(04:52) Cove...

Why Your Family Hates You (8 Steps to Coping with Scape/Goating/Mobbing/Narcissism/Projection) from 2020-06-05T09:21:52

(00:30) The Ugly Truth

(01:14) Your Family Doesn't Want What's Best for You

(02:27) Most Families Are Sick and That's Normal

(03:20) Family as a System & Scapegoating Listen

Guidance into Meditative states for people who find meditation tricky from 2020-06-05T08:00

Some people don't like meditating and find it hard, stressful or frustrating.

This method works well and you dont need to be all serious and weird about it. 

Anyone can do it ...

Narcissistic Mothers - "the golden child and the black sheep" from 2020-06-05T00:00

(00:24) Splitting Between the Golden Child and the Black Sheep

(03:17) Can Narcissism Be Helpful? Narcissistic Traits vs. The Narcissist

(07:25) Reframing Used by Narcissists

How to REALLY self-care from 2020-06-04T16:00

Yin and Yang of self-care, importance of consistent action over time, how self-discipline can be both compassionate and assertive.

(With background music)

3 facts everyone is getting WRONG about Codependency! from 2020-06-04T10:00

Codependency is NOT what some people say it is

(0:11) #1 False Dichotomy

(1:44) #2 False Virtuousness

(4:09) #3 No Codependency Without CPTSD

(6:04) Recap...

How to Start Getting Better Instantly (fix CPTSD) from 2020-06-04T06:00

Do you want to heal from CPTSD? Do you?

A wake up call in healing CPTSD, quick inspiration and a reminder of importance of the intention

(0:02) Don't Be Riddled With CP...

One Key Element to Healing From Pain/Grief/Loss from 2020-06-04T00:00

How to heal from pain and grief, embrace emotions, experience your feelings, therapeutic journaling, need for connection, self-compassion

(00:04) What is It About?

(04:...

How to prepare for intimate relationshp from 2020-06-03T20:00

What happens when you fall in love? Why is it challenging? How relationships help us grow?

(00:39) "I Want to Be in Love"

(05:08) Relationship Needs Maintenance

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How to Break The Trauma Bond (Get Over Your Relationship With a Narcissist) from 2020-06-03T12:00

There is a lot to breaking the trauma bond but if you understand the key principles and work on some key attributes you will be well on your way! 

(00:01) Stating Today's...

Enlightenment and Overcoming Codependency from 2020-06-03T06:00

Reflections about enlightenment and it's connection to codependency

(00:01) Stating Tonight’s Topic

(02:58) Richard Shared His Thoughts on Enlightenment and Awakening Listen

Parental Love/Disdain and its impact on CPTSD (with Q&A) by Richard Grannon from 2020-06-03T01:00

Richard Grannon on how parenting impacted our subconscious and shaped our personality + what can be done about it

(00:01) Hello

(04:07) Be the Child Again to Think Abou...

Street self-defence psychology, “Supra State” and 4f trauma response from 2020-06-02T20:00

Richard shares his experiences and wisdom from teaching self-defense and how it relates to human psychology.

"Sad Baby" as an Abused Archetype follow-up: https://open.spotify.com/episode/...

How To FORGIVE Someone & LET GO Of Your Past (Letting Go Of Anger, Rage & Hatred) from 2020-06-02T15:00

Why we need to forgive in order to heal, how forgiveness is acceptance, how the abuse we suffered can make us better humans, how to deal with rage, hatred and violence plus Q&A relevant to t...

My Ayahuasca experience (charlatans, twats and narcissists) from 2020-06-02T12:07:16

Why Ayahuasca ceremonies can be dangerous, who attends them and who provides them, what can Ayahuasca do for you and what were some Richard's personal visions and insights

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How to make a complaint PROPERLY from 2020-06-02T10:00

For a codependent, making complaints can sometimes be difficult, but there are a few things you can do now to make it easier

(0:01) Disclaimer for the Audience

(0:18) B...

DIVORCING THE NARCISSIST - Full Seminar (Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison, Richard Grannon) from 2020-06-02T07:00

This is a recording of a full seminar dedicated to the topic of divorcing a narcissistic partner, held by three experts - Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison and Richard Grannon.

(00:01)...

How to Keep Your Mental Health in Uncertain Times of Pandemic and Changes from 2020-06-02T04:00

 How to care for yourself, how to prepare for harder moments, acceptance, philosophical approach to suffering in life

(0:42) "Mental Health" Simplified

How to Resolve Your CPTSD in 2020 from 2020-06-02T01:00

Trauma healing and CPTSD Recovery.

How trauma conditions you, and steps to resolve that.

(00:00) Intro

(03:21) The Resolution of Trauma

(07:28) Nasty Inne...

Without This You're Not Going to Heal from 2020-06-01T20:00

Understanding Unconscious Rules and Healing CPTSD, unconscious blockages, different approaches to healing and therapeutic process

(00:05) Hello

(03:01) Problems With th...

Toxic is Toxic - dont wring your hands over the diagnosis, just leave! from 2020-06-01T13:36:09

Examing your relationship and when to leave it

(00:08) Why So Late (1 a.m. now)

(01:23) If You Feel Horrible: Leave

(05:19) Why Do You Feel This

(08:47) M...

Suffering and Alchemy - converting trauma to higher consciousness from 2020-06-01T08:47:19

What Alchemy REALLY is and how it can help us transform our suffering into higher consciousness

(00:00) Brief Excursion

(04:53) Alchemy (What It is)

(07:07) East...

How to Break Free From Codependency Into Self Interested Action (with Richard Grannon) from 2020-05-30T09:00

Richard Grannon talking all about CODEPENDENCY and getting rid of it + Q&A session

(00:00) Intro to Codependency

(03:15) Dealing With Emotional Flashbacks With the ...

Action from Presence (with Q&A) from 2020-05-30T09:00

Why do we need to be more present? How is that going to help you heal? Why is it important that we have boundried, conscious interactions?

(00:00) Stating Today’s Topic

CPTSD, NPD, Asperger, Grieving, Bullying, Fight Response, Training, Reiki, Systema, Music etc. w/ Richard Grannon from 2020-05-29T23:00

Richard Grannon doing a spontaneous Q&A session with questions including topics such as bullying, relationships, NPD, CPTSD etc.

(00:05) "Is it usual for counter dependent...

Advice for Teenagers with Narcissistic Parents from 2020-05-29T18:00

If you're living with narcissistic, abusive parents there are a few things you can keep in mind that will help you thrive in that situation. There are strategies and things you can start thinkin...

How to Thrive in your Relationships & Love with Intent (with Q&A) from 2020-05-29T14:00

Is there a war on love? Has our capacity to be intimate been sabotaged? Why are people anxious about their sexuality?

A talk about reality of love, intimacy and vulnerability in our emoti...

This One Concept Will Make You a More Resilient Person from 2020-05-29T00:00

How healing is similar to strength training and why consistent daily action will make you stronger.

Doing necessary things daily is a key.

(00:22) Hello

(05:32) ...

Do narcissists think they are normal? from 2020-05-28T20:00

Are narcissists and psychopaths walking around thinking their bizarre, abusive behaviour is normal?

(00:35) No, Narcissists Don’t Think They’re Normal

(02:20) Narcissis...

How to Find a Good Coach and How to Heal from 2020-05-28T13:00

Everything about finding the best therapist for you who will be qualified and competent in trauma recovery

(00:00) Stating Today’s Topic

(01:57) 5 Features to Look in a...

They want you to be a soft little cupcake (live Q&A after the 5 Tips) from 2020-05-28T07:00

A follow-up live from 5 Unusual Life Tips: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7Ig06KyxLUge8Al6gWeQZW

The topic mainly revolves around personal freedom, sovereignty and agency.

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Reduce Your Emotional Flashbacks in 2020 from 2020-05-28T00:00

Why reducing emotional flashbacks should be priority and how to go about it, recommending the free course, how the flashbacks disrupt people's functioning

(00:00) Hello

How can I learn to trust again (with Q&A) from 2020-05-27T19:00

How to get to a place where you are able to fully trust yourself with your decisions?

(00:01) Today's Question

(02:03) What Do Good Decisions Look Like?

(02:54) ...

How to let shit go and get on with your life? w/ Richard Grannon from 2020-05-27T11:00

Richard Grannon on acknowledgment and acceptance, telling the truth, feeling safe, change and self-interested action - how these will help you to let go?

(0:01) Hello

(...

"Sad Baby" as an Abused Archetype (Supra State) of Stacked Emotional Flashbacks from 2020-05-27T06:00

(00:10) Getting Started

(01:06) Introduction: Supra States, D.I.D and CPTSD

(05:54) How Emotional Flashbacks Can Be Layered and Lead to Personality Splits

(08:14) How Feelin...

5 Tips to Find a Coach for Narcissistic Abuse and CPTSD from 2020-05-26T09:28:14

If you need support in your recovery from narcissistic abuse and looking for a professional help, you might consider these tips when looking for it.

(0:14) #1 Phone the person...

How to Know If a Relationship Is Abusive (Signs of Toxic Relationship) from 2020-05-26T09:21:50

3 clues your relationships are toxic, why there is trauma in the world and what do we do about it, plus a bit of Q&A

(00:16) State Of Confusion

(01:49) You Start In...

5 signs you slipped into Lie Land from 2020-05-26T06:20:08

Lie Land is a place of distorted truth, full of cognitive dissonance. Recognize whether you're in it, and reclaim your responsibility.

(0:01) Lie Land

(05:51) How to De...

Fear of Super Ego stopping your healing process (Inner Critic) from 2020-05-26T05:35:25

Fear that the (toxic) Super Ego will halt all progress; the best way to deal with this is by being non- perfectionistic (good enough is good enough), robust and kind.

Whatever happens you...

5 Unusual Tips To Get Your Life In Order from 2020-05-26T05:33:39

Frustrated with silly Life Coaching world? Sugar-coated psychology is there to make you softer. Here are 5 pieces of advice that go against the grain.

Follow-up Q&A: https://open.spot...

Why can’t I get over my borderline ex girlfriend from 2020-05-26T05:31:54

Why can't we stop thinking about ex partner? Explaining the Trauma Bond and split, Borderline Personalty Disorder, and more.

(00:11) Post traumatic embitterment syndrome

State management to deal with CPTSD and Emotional Flashbacks, free course (Richard Grannon) from 2020-05-25T14:32:42

Richard Grannon explains, how does CPTSD differ from PTSD? What are flashbacks? And most importantly what we can do to feel better.

Fortress Mental Health Protection System - ...

How do I find hope when I've given up (advice) from 2020-05-25T10:05:44

Belief that change is possible is the key.

How to reignite a sense of hope?

(0:03) Stating Today’s Topic

(1:45) What Does “Given Up” Mean to You?

(5:00) I...

Relationships - 3 Tips to Quickly Improve Their Quality from 2020-05-22T06:33:25

Today our relationships lack consciousness, but by remembering this 3 key points with their keywords you can easily solve that.

(0:13) Offer the Gift of Presence

(1:00)...

20 Signs You Are With A Covert Narcissist from 2020-05-22T06:29:31

This is a thorough analysis of a covert (also called vulnerable or fragile) narcissistic personality disorder, along with clear signs that might tell us we are dealing with such case.

The #1 Thing Narcissists FEAR The Most (Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse) from 2020-05-20T16:32:02

What is that narcissists truly fear the most and how can you use that for your advantage?

(0:42) Distress a Narcissist by Healing Yourself

(3:04) You Escaping Causes Ma...